FabSwingers.com forum: What makes someone 'good' at sex?

By (user no longer on site) OP
50 weeks ago

So, if everybody is looking for something slightly different....

What makes somebody 'good in bed' as a general rule.

(Women AND men)

What is ONE thing that somebody should do or be that without it you just couldn't enjoy it?

Does 'experienced' make someone generally better ... Or is it a turn off when a guy says that on their profile?

Interested to know your views

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
50 weeks ago

East Sussex

Quite often it's knowing that foreplay exists and it isn't just oral

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By *rispyDuckMan
50 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Does their own sex stunts

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By (user no longer on site) OP
50 weeks ago

"Does their own sex stunts

Haha I love this reply.

What impressive stunt can you perform?

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By *londebiguyMan
50 weeks ago

Southport

I'm not sure that one certain person is always good but some just click well together.

I've found that the connection is very easy with some people and everything just flows and feels natural.

I find that in these situations, the sex is just really good .

I'm not sure if it's me, them , or a combination of us all being receptive to eachother .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
50 weeks ago

"I'm not sure that one certain person is always good but some just click well together.

I've found that the connection is very easy with some people and everything just flows and feels natural.

I find that in these situations, the sex is just really good .

I'm not sure if it's me, them , or a combination of us all being receptive to eachother ."

This is true. Just some form of effortless compatibility whether you chose it like that or not

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
50 weeks ago

Manchester

They are open minded, adaptable and responsive to what their partner wants/needs/enjoys. Not all women enjoy the same kinds of foreplay or penetration, some people forget that.

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
50 weeks ago

Manchester

Same way not all men do. Just speaking from a female perspective though.

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
50 weeks ago

Manchester

Enthusiasm also definitely counts for a lot!

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By *ellhungvweMan
50 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I don’t think there is just _one_ thing that matters - it is lots of things that add up to making a great night.

It is probably easier to say the thing that stops it from being a good meet - selfishness usually makes for a pretty poor bed partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

Enthusiasm, good at picking up on cues or pays attention to the things that work, energetic, enjoys touching and being touched

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By *sWyldWoman
50 weeks ago

Edinburgh

The right partner. It takes two

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By (user no longer on site) OP
50 weeks ago

"Not all women enjoy the same kinds of foreplay or penetration, some people forget that. "

Yes this!!!

Just because Karen loved being eaten out for 2 hours with you 'gills' doesn't mean I want that haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

"Not all women enjoy the same kinds of foreplay or penetration, some people forget that.

Yes this!!!

Just because Karen loved being eaten out for 2 hours with you 'gills' doesn't mean I want that haha.

Yes!!! So true - sex is not a one size fits all!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
50 weeks ago

" selfishness usually makes for a pretty poor bed partner."

I hear this. But also. Im sure I'm not the only one that quote enjoys having someone take exactly what they want and using me like a dirty whore....

I guess that IS giving me what I want in a way so not being selfish.... By being selfish haha.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
50 weeks ago

wonderland.

For me I'd say being adaptable, confident In their own abilities and willing to adjust what they are doing to the other persons body cues.

Only time I won't adapt is for group play as that's all about me.

. Where as something more intimate is about all involved

Cali

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By *rHotNottsMan
50 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Non verbal communication. Adaptable - Being able to read & respond confidently. Passionate in general

I always find women who kiss really passionately and intimately are great lovers too

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By *ellhungvweMan
50 weeks ago

Cheltenham

" selfishness usually makes for a pretty poor bed partner.

I hear this. But also. Im sure I'm not the only one that quote enjoys having someone take exactly what they want and using me like a dirty whore....

I guess that IS giving me what I want in a way so not being selfish.... By being selfish haha.

I wouldn’t say that was selfish - that is a scenario I can get right into

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By *rispyDuckMan
50 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

"Does their own sex stunts

Haha I love this reply.

What impressive stunt can you perform? "

Let’s just say I was the original ‘sex stuntman when they illustrator composed the Kama sutra’

pulled many muscles that day lol

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By *odgerMooreMan
50 weeks ago

Up Your Frock!

One key thing is listen

You can hear if someone is enjoying what you’re doing- also 1b:- its not porn dont keep switching positions every 30 secs when a woman is starting to enjoy your cock inside her - dont flip her over after 30 secs then again 30 secs later - she’ll just punch you

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By *otyouraverageguyMan
50 weeks ago

n wales & west mids

Listening, looking and feeling what the other party is experiencing and being attentive to their reactions

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By (user no longer on site) OP
50 weeks ago

Let’s just say I was the original ‘sex stuntman when they illustrator composed the Kama sutra’

pulled many muscles that day lol"

Ooof, probably should have stretched first.

Hope they paid you well!

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By *he_ProzacsCouple
50 weeks ago

tamworth

Being big enough to hit both the A and G spot. I prefer the deeper orgasms

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
50 weeks ago

Leeds

Taking the time to learn your body & wanting to please.

Opposed to those that wanna stick it in a hole and cum.

Mrs

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By *unnermac17Man
50 weeks ago

glasgow

For me it is the connection.

If you can get on to a very sensual level with someone, loads of foreplay, devouring each other orally before moving naturally to hot steamy sex.

Oh and don’t forget the eye contact

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By *rispyDuckMan
50 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Let’s just say I was the original ‘sex stuntman when they illustrator composed the Kama sutra’

pulled many muscles that day lol

Ooof, probably should have stretched first.

Hope they paid you well!"

I did it for free for the people, just cause I care

hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

For me it's connection + attraction

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
50 weeks ago

west london

Paying attention to detail

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By *eliWoman
50 weeks ago

If only one thing? Compatibility.

I don't think it's one thing though. But being compatible with the person you're with, how everything can organically flow when it clicks and works effortlessly. That's what makes sex so incredible for me. Better than good.

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By *ukaMan
50 weeks ago

Chester

It changes so much, sometimes good sex is hard and fast, sometimes it's teasing her until she's desperate to cum and not letting her, sometimes it's constant eye contact and gentle strokes. I suppose being good is being able to tell what your partner wants or showing them what you want. Actually it's both wanting the same thing at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
50 weeks ago

Hope they paid you well!

I did it for free for the people, just cause I care

hahaha"

So selfless. You must be the goodest at sexytimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

Have the ability to read a person's body.

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
50 weeks ago

Somewhere near

Communication all the way.

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By *ddfellowMan
50 weeks ago

Newferry, wirral

"Being big enough to hit both the A and G spot. I prefer the deeper orgasms "

I would say thats genetics rather than skill

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By *ink vixenCouple
50 weeks ago

Medway

Communication!

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

Interesting question,

For myself, not being selfish, respecting one’s boundaries, exploring are learning what gives the other party pleasure.

Taking your time, I’ve always found the more you give the more they want to see you again.

Best advice I ever got was, you know they enjoyed it and you were good if they invite you back

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By *reeneggsandsamMan
50 weeks ago

Perpignan and cap

I think that it helps to be physically fit. it's a "body thing" after all.

Communication and a willingness to please and be pleased. Experience helps.

Have I missed anything?

Did I win?

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

Confidence can mask quite a lot of ‘bad sex’ at times, in both men and women. But true confidence can open up communication which is vital.

Emotional intelligence too, being able to interpret accurately your partners wants and needs, accepting that they can change even in the same play/sex session.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

"So, if everybody is looking for something slightly different....

What makes somebody 'good in bed' as a general rule.

(Women AND men)

What is ONE thing that somebody should do or be that without it you just couldn't enjoy it?

Does 'experienced' make someone generally better ... Or is it a turn off when a guy says that on their profile?

Interested to know your views

a) For regular partners: taking the time to learn how their partner's mind and body works and applying that knowledge in practice.

b) For ons partners: staying hard for long and being able to fuck repeatedly, this hopefully being enough of an advertisement for the fun that awaits if the ons turns into something regular

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By *irty-pairCouple
50 weeks ago

Essex

Communication: watch and listen to the other person (or people) and react accordingly. Do more of what they like and less of what they don't. Also don't be selfish!

If we're playing with others, we always try and establish boundaries before we play and seek consent before we move to something new. That prevents any awkwardness.

Oh, and fellas - there's no shame in a tactical wank beforehand. No one wants a one pump fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

"Quite often it's knowing that foreplay exists and it isn't just oral"

This

have had some really bad sex where its been a kiss, a grope of my tit (yes just 1), a bj (no oral on me) then sex (2 mins if that) then leave, its actually not worth the effort of getting ready, so many guys are 2 pump wonders and believe they are the "best"

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
50 weeks ago

Chichester

Have an actual sense of humour

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By *rchitectMan
50 weeks ago

Dorchester

Someone who respects the other individual and wants to please them ahead of themselves. Knowing what a woman enjoys is important as well.

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