FabSwingers.com forum: How many messages are in your inbox?

By *rofmoriarty OP Man
over a year ago

Nearby

I know some people are inundated with messages on here, ladies/couples especially. But let’s put some numbers to it, how many unread messages do you have in your inbox right now?

And some tips for the rest of us, how to get that inbox rocking.

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By *laytime_13Woman
over a year ago

Lincs

23, that was after having my profile live for maybe a couple of hours? I’ve worked out message filters now. Probably more than some but less than most?

An interesting opening message, and a profile with more than ‘fill this in later’ and an inkling of a sense of humour is a good start

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By *ittleshit-SteveMan
over a year ago

Devon

I currently have a grand total of 3

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By *rofmoriarty OP Man
over a year ago

Nearby

"23, that was after having my profile live for maybe a couple of hours? I’ve worked out message filters now. Probably more than some but less than most?

An interesting opening message, and a profile with more than ‘fill this in later’ and an inkling of a sense of humour is a good start"

Good answer. Profiles are important it’s an opportunity to lay out your stall and make it known what you’re all about.

I’ve heard lot’s of guys use copy and pasted opening messages which isn’t popular.

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By *ove2pleaseseukMan
over a year ago

Hastings

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By *rofmoriarty OP Man
over a year ago

Nearby

"I currently have a grand total of 3

Mate, you have 300% more than me haha

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Abingdon

6 marked read and then marked as unread pending response from both of us.

Maybe 15 others all read and replied too.

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By *94meeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Not enough.

Come on cheer me up folks!

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
over a year ago

Worcester

28. They’re mostly messages I’ve read, then marked unread so I can remember to reply to them when I’m less busy this week.

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By *rofmoriarty OP Man
over a year ago

Nearby

"6 marked read and then marked as unread pending response from both of us.

Maybe 15 others all read and replied too. "

From looking at your profile that seems very very low. I’d have expected 100’s

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By *arialoueWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I have 0 messages in my inbox

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By *ommo83Man
over a year ago

Salford

I and most of us who live in reality know the answer. Woman 1000s couples 500s single men 0 or 1 and that's on a good night

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By *rofmoriarty OP Man
over a year ago

Nearby

"28. They’re mostly messages I’ve read, then marked unread so I can remember to reply to them when I’m less busy this week."

This seems to be a popular method of message management.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

0 lol

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Nine, including one unread.

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By *ab50Man
over a year ago

bexhill

Zero..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

44...

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By *rofmoriarty OP Man
over a year ago

Nearby

"Nine, including one unread."

That must be a quiet night for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just mass deleted so zero.

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By *rofmoriarty OP Man
over a year ago

Nearby

"44..."

Repping the single guys hitting the numbers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

72 still going thru them mainly guys

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By *sWyldWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Did a bulk delete earlier of 270 something. Currently 19 unread.

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

"Nine, including one unread.

That must be a quiet night for you"

It's a pretty normal one! After turning 40 the decline in messages I received was very noticeable. To be honest, I prefer it now that it's quieter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Zero..

Zero too

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By *rofmoriarty OP Man
over a year ago

Nearby

"72 still going thru them mainly guys "

The ratio on this site is crazy. I’d love to know what the actual numbers of profiles are, men, women, couples, other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zero

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By *rofmoriarty OP Man
over a year ago

Nearby

"Did a bulk delete earlier of 270 something. Currently 19 unread. "

Sounds like your inbox is Wyld!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A massive 0 for me.

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By *rofmoriarty OP Man
over a year ago

Nearby

"Zero..

Zero too

Very surprising

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"44...

Repping the single guys hitting the numbers!

Nope. Blocked single guys a long time ago.

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By *rofmoriarty OP Man
over a year ago

Nearby

"Nine, including one unread.

That must be a quiet night for you

It's a pretty normal one! After turning 40 the decline in messages I received was very noticeable. To be honest, I prefer it now that it's quieter."

Surprising that it was that apparent. People must operate with strict age filters.

They are missing out if you ask me.

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By *rofmoriarty OP Man
over a year ago

Nearby

"44...

Repping the single guys hitting the numbers!

Nope. Blocked single guys a long time ago."

No, I meant you’re doing well for all us single guys!

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By *hesubtlegentMan
over a year ago

surrey

Zero unread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. I clear it often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

0 my inbox is very easy to manage!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"44...

Repping the single guys hitting the numbers!

Nope. Blocked single guys a long time ago.

No, I meant you’re doing well for all us single guys!"

Doing my best

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

A bit g fat zero

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had 106 msgs till mass delete now 16 unread, just don't have the time to read an reply to every msg. It is what it is..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zero lol

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

I have 2 at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Currently 54

Left the tab open when in a different area this weekend so have an influx of irrelevant hookup requests

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By *r_reusMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Like most guys, zero.

But if I suggest there's something wrong with the female male power dynamics on here and things could be done to improve them, and by extension the scene as a whole, I'm the badguy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

0 messages

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By *ChubsMan
over a year ago

West Midlands

Zero

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

259 unread

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By *uddly GoblinMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Absolutely none

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By *esire in SheffieldMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"259 unread "

Same like my scam inbox

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By *r MzchiefMan
over a year ago

Vhesterfield, Derbyshire

Zero

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

412 currently

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By *rdadjokesMan
over a year ago

Stirling

Zero at the moment but did have a few earlier today

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By *esire in SheffieldMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"412 currently "

Come on darling read a little bit

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By *sabellatina80Couple
over a year ago

London

Quite a few tbh

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By *arriedcouple100Couple
over a year ago

Devon

A big 0

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By *esire in SheffieldMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"A big 0

Check again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A big fat 0 for me to

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

I can't leave them unread. The yellow at the top of my page makes me read them. OCD or ASD, take your pick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None as usual

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By *adbod2godbodMan
over a year ago

Manchester

One active message chain going.

Which is one more than normal......sure I'll fuck it up soon.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Foxtrot abysmal

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By *s Lola Wand - SocketWoman
over a year ago

leicester

"I know some people are inundated with messages on here, ladies/couples especially. But let’s put some numbers to it, how many unread messages do you have in your inbox right now?

And some tips for the rest of us, how to get that inbox rocking. "

18 … I’m trying so hard to tackle it

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Fairly on top of our admin at the moment. 14 conversations, some with friends that are longer ongoing chats, some more recent ones for potential meets.

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By *igerstyle2k2Man
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

It's a zero for me

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By *fter dinner delightCouple
over a year ago

bury st edmunds/london

114

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sweet fuck all, think I must be doing something wrong haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

0 for me

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By *rystalsswingCouple
over a year ago

Up the Road / Galway/ Midlands

We had 5 earlier, gave me sn itch

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

504. Filters are up for the week. I hope there’s at least 1 decent one amongst them.

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By *omKsubSMan
over a year ago

Newton

11, but 4 of them are from ongoing conversations.

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By *N4funCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

None like normal lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just replied to the 2 I had in there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ulu and MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Do like these in

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By *cotsman269Man
over a year ago

Falkirk

None

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By *ulu and MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Lol wrong thread

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By *i-Guy-75Man
over a year ago

travel

Single bi profile 2 tonight

Our joint account 19 unread as looking at their profile they clearly didn’t read ours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None for weeks

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By *ANDA!Man
over a year ago

DUMFRIES

2 unread,that I have no intention of reading.

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By *ylonlickMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Big fat zero I’m afraid ??

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By *helamontsCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

1 for us here ...

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By *ung nine inchMan
over a year ago

leeds

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By *ung nine inchMan
over a year ago

leeds

50 all want my mrs in veil

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

None.

Mrs

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By *ocksareoffMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Zip...

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By *ecker30Man
over a year ago

Northwich

0, why do people send messages on here?

Lol

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By *he Old School RockersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Right now none

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By *quidgeyWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

107

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

329 right now but lots were automatically deleted....I never clear it tbh or get to read them all....one time I had over 1,500 unread

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By *endalshaggersCouple
over a year ago

Lake District

Unread is currently 0 as I've just been through and checked/had a clear out. Logged onto to 8 new emails.

Feel free to say hi if we float your boat

C xoxo

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By *reampie_yourwifeMan
over a year ago

barnsley

14 seems there are some very naughty people here… always welcome the naughty people to chat too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5,… so not enough…..

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By *ourisfunCouple
over a year ago

Central

Currently 78. We put all the filters on a few weeks ago so we could work our way through the inbox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A whopping 0

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By *rgasmicChemistryCouple
over a year ago

east coast

0 lol

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Anyone care to explain how an inbox can be rocking if all the messages are unread?

It's a fab myth that all women and couples get hundreds of messages.

I also have a couples profile and in 2 years we have had less than 40 messages in total.

Proof of unread messages is used as a measuring stick in popularity contests but not really much use to anyone if they aren't all ongoing conversations.

Anyone with hundreds of unread messages either wants them or needs them.

Those with filters don't concern themselves with how full their little yellow box is.

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By *S-cardiffiansCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"329 right now but lots were automatically deleted....I never clear it tbh or get to read them all....one time I had over 1,500 unread

Img

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By *ot to giggleWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

87 from last couple days ... was down to.0 on Friday

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By *ot to giggleWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

And i do answer 98% of them

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By *wnedslut-KittyWoman
over a year ago

Kittys Lane

120 at the moment x

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By *winging_couple300Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

Zero

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

131

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zero as normal lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not enough

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By *isFabMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

None lol .....standard fare

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

1 - we’ve got a random message in our box that I can’t open or see - a glitch in the matrix - so always (at least) 1

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By *ustus696969Couple
over a year ago

Southampton

0 not popular

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
over a year ago

manchester

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

Zip, none, nadda. I had 8 this morning but I’d been off line for a week

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

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By *stoppMan
over a year ago

Durham

Posting a pic usually gets quite a number messages from guys

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
over a year ago

manchester

"1"

It’s was 2 momentarily and now it’s back to, 1 and another added to the blocked list.

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By *dventuresofLandSCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Zero.

Had about 5 messages today all been read and replied too.

We don't actually get inundated with messages. Normally a steady flow and that's it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

0 for us

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"Zero.

Had about 5 messages today all been read and replied too.

We don't actually get inundated with messages. Normally a steady flow and that's it. "

My Dr says a steady flow is just the ticket at my age.

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

Zero

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Three. Two of the usual shitty ones off the backs of threads from people who have taken offence and another I can't be arsed getting to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone care to explain how an inbox can be rocking if all the messages are unread?

It's a fab myth that all women and couples get hundreds of messages.

I also have a couples profile and in 2 years we have had less than 40 messages in total.

Proof of unread messages is used as a measuring stick in popularity contests but not really much use to anyone if they aren't all ongoing conversations.

Anyone with hundreds of unread messages either wants them or needs them.

Those with filters don't concern themselves with how full their little yellow box is. "

"It's a fab myth that all women and couples get hundreds of messages."

^^^^^^^

I wouldn't say All women & couples get 100s of messages either....It can depend on the profiles & content so I agree with you there as you have proven when you say all ye got was less than 40 msgs in 2 years.... Omg is that all

Seriously?

Some women do get 100s though as I'm sure other users here do too of all sexes depending on the profile content.

I set my filters too but for now they're off....The amount of msgs we receive obviously depends how much time we're online here & how often we post new pics or update status....I've toned down my profile now so I do get less than before ....But right now I have 428 unread....

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By *oomerangbobMan
over a year ago

stanhope

One and will probably remain one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

16 but none unread. But I did post a video today

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

About four from chats I've had on here at some stage. And zero unread.

I keep right filters and can't be arsed with a load of messages or answering them, especially as I am not currently meeting anyone new. In saying that even when I was I preferred to message someone first rather than rely on getting messages. I've never wanted to get a load of messages I learnt that straight away when I joined.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
over a year ago

Castlebar

None. All messages read and considered, however briefly

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By *tevi00Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

"I have 0 messages in my inbox"

Inbox twins!

My inbox is currently sitting at 0 messages

Surely someone wants to speak, haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A big fat zero lol

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By *RWoodyCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"None. All messages read and considered, however briefly

Exactly the same position as us.

J x

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