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By *ovelifelovefuntimes OP   Man
48 weeks ago

Where ever I lay my hat

How easy is it to separate the physical from the emotional? Have emotions ever developed after meets?

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By *lik and PaulCouple
48 weeks ago

cahoots

Really easy for us as swinging is an addition to our lifestyle but we are committed to each other.

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By *ovelifelovefuntimes OP   Man
48 weeks ago

Where ever I lay my hat


"Really easy for us as swinging is an addition to our lifestyle but we are committed to each other."

perfect description

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Never, we often swap partners for the night at clubs. We will stay as a 4 but are free to treat the people we are with as a partner for the night, afterward there is never any jealousy just horny memories.

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By *ovelifelovefuntimes OP   Man
48 weeks ago

Where ever I lay my hat


"Never, we often swap partners for the night at clubs. We will stay as a 4 but are free to treat the people we are with as a partner for the night, afterward there is never any jealousy just horny memories."

sounds perfect

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By *icecouple561Couple
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48 weeks ago

East Sussex

For us it's easy because we discussed all that stuff at the start and realised we both had that mind set. We mostly meet single men and I'd say a good percentage of them have no desire for deeper emotions to enter in to it anyway.

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By *otwife and Him 69Couple
48 weeks ago

Preston


"For us it's easy because we discussed all that stuff at the start and realised we both had that mind set. We mostly meet single men and I'd say a good percentage of them have no desire for deeper emotions to enter in to it anyway. "

Yep agree with this xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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48 weeks ago

East Sussex

I'd add that it's no good being complacent.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
48 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

It’s kind of like a hobby - whilst together we are sharing each other with friends.

Then when it’s over we go about our lives until the next play session is arranged.

So emotions don’t come into it. We kiss, hug, cuddle with our play partners and it’s no big deal.

K

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By *otwife and sexy beastCouple
48 weeks ago

rochester

We find we satisfy each other emotionally, so playmates are our toys, and as such, they are there for us to enjoy. It's all about us and the fact we're being naughty together.

HW

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By *icecouple561Couple
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48 weeks ago

East Sussex


"We find we satisfy each other emotionally, so playmates are our toys, and as such, they are there for us to enjoy. It's all about us and the fact we're being naughty together.

HW"

I'm not sure what to say about that

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By *ovelifelovefuntimes OP   Man
48 weeks ago

Where ever I lay my hat


"We find we satisfy each other emotionally, so playmates are our toys, and as such, they are there for us to enjoy. It's all about us and the fact we're being naughty together.

HW

I'm not sure what to say about that "

I get the meaning

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By *reasyMan
48 weeks ago

Caerphilly


"It’s kind of like a hobby - whilst together we are sharing each other with friends.

Then when it’s over we go about our lives until the next play session is arranged.

So emotions don’t come into it. We kiss, hug, cuddle with our play partners and it’s no big deal.

K"

Absolutely agree and perfect swingers

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By *otwife and sexy beastCouple
48 weeks ago

rochester


"We find we satisfy each other emotionally, so playmates are our toys, and as such, they are there for us to enjoy. It's all about us and the fact we're being naughty together.

HW

I'm not sure what to say about that "

In other words, we aren't looking for an emotional connection with playmates at all, it's purely a sexual thing.

HW

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By *icecouple561Couple
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48 weeks ago

East Sussex


"We find we satisfy each other emotionally, so playmates are our toys, and as such, they are there for us to enjoy. It's all about us and the fact we're being naughty together.

HW

I'm not sure what to say about that

In other words, we aren't looking for an emotional connection with playmates at all, it's purely a sexual thing.

HW"

Ah ok, I understand. Thanks for explaining

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By *ovienightCouple
48 weeks ago

Cardiff

Essentially agree with a lot of what’s been said here. We can have the best times, real intimacy and connections but it never becomes more than that, even with couples we’ve met more than once. It’s a completely different connection and emotion.

We both often fantasise about those experiences but less about the people and I’m sure that’s true of them towards us.

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By *ovelifelovefuntimes OP   Man
48 weeks ago

Where ever I lay my hat


"Essentially agree with a lot of what’s been said here. We can have the best times, real intimacy and connections but it never becomes more than that, even with couples we’ve met more than once. It’s a completely different connection and emotion.

We both often fantasise about those experiences but less about the people and I’m sure that’s true of them towards us."

I often fantasise about meets but like you, less about the people rather than the actual experience.

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By *andPextraCouple
48 weeks ago

North West

For us its simply the cherry on our icing on our cake.

If we go to a club and play with others, great. If we don't, hey ho, we will still have a good time.

Its important we like people, enjoy their company and want to spend time with them, but thats as emotional as it gets.

We compartmentalize those deeper emotions for us, snd always download honestly about what we felt during and how we feel after.

The absolute key to doing this sort of stuff is honesty and communication with each other.

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By *bflirtyCouple
48 weeks ago

Milton Keynes

This isn’t a problem for us. We are emotionally solid and bonded. The people we play with are for playtime only and we don’t really socialise with players outside of swingland so not a lot of opportunity for emotional bonds to form. When we have met people more than once we tend to stop after 3rd time as we’re out for lots of random experiences not the same people over and over.

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By *4FantasyCouple
48 weeks ago

Spalding

It is easy as we are deeply committed to each other but are a pair of naughty people living out out naughtiness together ...also the reclaim sex is amazing.

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
48 weeks ago

Plymouth, South west

Super easy for us, swinging isn't about getting emotionally attached for us, which is why we prefer clubs to private meets x

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Very easy for us. The fun we have with others is lust not love.

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By *ornycouplepzCouple
48 weeks ago

here and there

Really easy for us ,we are only there for fun and nothing else .well apart from the friends we've made along the way x

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By *orl1971Couple
48 weeks ago

Glasgow


"How easy is it to separate the physical from the emotional? Have emotions ever developed after meets?"

Really easy. It’s just sex

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By *ovelifelovefuntimes OP   Man
48 weeks ago

Where ever I lay my hat


"Super easy for us, swinging isn't about getting emotionally attached for us, which is why we prefer clubs to private meets x "

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By *ovelifelovefuntimes OP   Man
48 weeks ago

Where ever I lay my hat


"How easy is it to separate the physical from the emotional? Have emotions ever developed after meets?

Really easy. It’s just sex"

that's very much how I see it. When I play with a couple we are there for the moment and to all have fun.

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By *he couple nextdoorCouple
48 weeks ago

grangemouth

What if one is not sure of something

So mf couple

Male and female no issues with either doing anything with male

But female is unsure of hubby with a female

How to overcome it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
48 weeks ago

East Sussex


"What if one is not sure of something

So mf couple

Male and female no issues with either doing anything with male

But female is unsure of hubby with a female

How to overcome it"

We always say that we do what the person who is unsure wants. What is she unsure about?

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
48 weeks ago

Bristol


"Really easy for us as swinging is an addition to our lifestyle but we are committed to each other."

Exactly this

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By *forfuntimesCouple
48 weeks ago

Sheffield


"Super easy for us, swinging isn't about getting emotionally attached for us, which is why we prefer clubs to private meets x "

Exactly same as us... been doing this for many years.. swinging is really just an addition to our already fantastic connection - it is just fun...

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By *he couple nextdoorCouple
48 weeks ago

grangemouth


"What if one is not sure of something

So mf couple

Male and female no issues with either doing anything with male

But female is unsure of hubby with a female

How to overcome it

We always say that we do what the person who is unsure wants. What is she unsure about?"

Unfortunately if you say to another couple

That the only thing you have not done is hubby and another female

It's a no go

Perhaps meeting up and if you get along start with what everyone is happy with

And build up

But does not seem to be ok

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By *forfuntimesCouple
48 weeks ago

Sheffield


"What if one is not sure of something

So mf couple

Male and female no issues with either doing anything with male

But female is unsure of hubby with a female

How to overcome it"

Then you need to look for just MFM meets as a 3some...need to be comfortable in what you are doing and how you play... this lifestyle should be fun..

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
48 weeks ago

Plymouth, South west


"What if one is not sure of something

So mf couple

Male and female no issues with either doing anything with male

But female is unsure of hubby with a female

How to overcome it"

Only do what you both feel comfortable with, be honest about your feelings and don't force yourself to do anything you're not happy with x

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By *he couple nextdoorCouple
48 weeks ago

grangemouth


"What if one is not sure of something

So mf couple

Male and female no issues with either doing anything with male

But female is unsure of hubby with a female

How to overcome it

Then you need to look for just MFM meets as a 3some...need to be comfortable in what you are doing and how you play... this lifestyle should be fun.. "

That's what we do

But because we don't do my hubby and f straight away

It's a no

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple
48 weeks ago

Rushden

Never been an issue for us. Im the one that meets other people (female), while V stays home.

He loves the thought of sharing me & I just love having sex.

Emotions have never come into it as its just physical for me & plus V is an incredible man anyway, so no-ones going to be able to come between us x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
48 weeks ago

East Sussex


"What if one is not sure of something

So mf couple

Male and female no issues with either doing anything with male

But female is unsure of hubby with a female

How to overcome it

We always say that we do what the person who is unsure wants. What is she unsure about?

Unfortunately if you say to another couple

That the only thing you have not done is hubby and another female

It's a no go

Perhaps meeting up and if you get along start with what everyone is happy with

And build up

But does not seem to be ok

"

I can kind of understand that though, someone will get left out at some point.

Have you considered same room play where you stick to your own partners or trying to meet couples where both guys are happy to watch the women play then have sex with their own partner?

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
48 weeks ago

wonderland.


"Really easy for us as swinging is an addition to our lifestyle but we are committed to each other."
couldn't have explained it better. X we obviously have good friends that we are close to but it's nothing like feelings x

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
48 weeks ago

Kent


"What if one is not sure of something

So mf couple

Male and female no issues with either doing anything with male

But female is unsure of hubby with a female

How to overcome it"

Our rule is what is a no for one, is a no for us both.

C x

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By *he couple nextdoorCouple
48 weeks ago

grangemouth


"What if one is not sure of something

So mf couple

Male and female no issues with either doing anything with male

But female is unsure of hubby with a female

How to overcome it

We always say that we do what the person who is unsure wants. What is she unsure about?

Unfortunately if you say to another couple

That the only thing you have not done is hubby and another female

It's a no go

Perhaps meeting up and if you get along start with what everyone is happy with

And build up

But does not seem to be ok

I can kind of understand that though, someone will get left out at some point.

Have you considered same room play where you stick to your own partners or trying to meet couples where both guys are happy to watch the women play then have sex with their own partner?"

Not really

We met a couple

All same room

FF mm the our own partners

Round 2 we done some extra fun because I felt comfortable

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