FabSwingers.com forum: Who brings the condoms?

By *rMrs84 OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

We’re aware that there’s no one size fits all here but wanted to raise the question.

You’re a couple, meeting for a full swap, or pick up a guy at a club. Who do you expect to provide the condoms? We always carry several but we’ve had a few guys come join us in a play room and act as if they forgot them once they get there. They happily accept and put one on when we offer it but we often wonder were they just hoping for bareback or is it assumed the lady provides?

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I don’t leave the house without one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always have them with me

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By *r MzchiefMan
over a year ago

Vhesterfield, Derbyshire

"We’re aware that there’s no one size fits all here but wanted to raise the question.

I always take condoms to a meet when I play solo and when my wife and I play as a couple. Not sure why guys feel the comfort is more important than safety but I dont take the chance with my health or more importantly my wifes.

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By *andT2023Couple
over a year ago

in the middle

We always have them .

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By *hatsWhatCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

We’d expect them to have some, but our preference is they use ours.

Have your seen some of the screwed up packages stuffed under a wrist watch in a club? No ta . Although to be fair, we’ve probably filtered those out already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always do never do bareback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my favourite brand and size and always have them with me.

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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Guy must provide his own... ridiculous not to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always bring a box of them on an arranged play meet. Just always best to check if she is allergic to latex before hand

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By *rMrs84 OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

"We’d expect them to have some, but our preference is they use ours.

Have your seen some of the screwed up packages stuffed under a wrist watch in a club? No ta . Although to be fair, we’ve probably filtered those out already "

We’re exactly the same. We know where ours have been.

That said there’s an argument for size appropriateness.

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By *wingAway79Couple
over a year ago

Surrey

we always have

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By *hriss920Man
over a year ago

Watford

I always get in my pocket. Be safe play safe

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

If you want it to fit right, the guy

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We always took our own because I'm sensitive to latex. Everyone except one man brought their own too. He was quite new to swinging, just out of a long marriage and maybe just didn't think they'd be needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m allergic to latex so I always have my own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone brings condoms

That way if your meet doesn’t for whatever reason

there are still condoms & the fun can still go on if you still want too

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By *he ass man 666Man
over a year ago

paradise city

Safety first always carry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guy should have them. He knows the size and brand fits best for him.

A women gave me a condom once and was to small.

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We would always have them with us and would expect other men to do the same, especially as size and type is a personal thing. The only time we've not used our own is when we've played with women who have had latex allergies which we weren't aware of beforehand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We would always have them with us and would expect other men to do the same, especially as size and type is a personal thing. The only time we've not used our own is when we've played with women who have had latex allergies which we weren't aware of beforehand. "

Skyn condoms latex free are always good

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
over a year ago

Worcester

The man wearing the condom should always provide condoms that fit him and are comfortable.

If he doesn’t, I assume he doesn’t wish to have sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guy should have them. He knows the size and brand fits best for him.

A women gave me a condom once and was to small. "

I had the same problem, killed the fun as the condom wouldn't fit, her husband was visibly smaller than me. I went to get my own from the bag, she sucked me and we continued to the happy end.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

Always in my wallet

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Both of you should, you can't trust the other party to bring some.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

They were definitely hoping for bareback, in my opinion.

I would expect the guy to have his own condoms (preferably ones that fit him well and that he is used to) but I always have some spare ones, too.

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

WHEREVER I LAY MY HAT

I expect a guy to bring his own but don't rely on him to. Always have a selection of types and sizes to hand in case

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

"Both of you should, you can't trust the other party to bring some."

Totally this.

If there's any chance I'm going to be using my cock then I take some as I have a preferred brand and I'm a little large. But I'd also expect them to be provided.

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By *oxycouple28Couple
over a year ago

bexley

We provide the condoms. Mainly as some can irritate her, and we know ours don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The penis owner should. I wouldn't expect a guy to come out with tampons in case mother nature visited.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I don’t understand how this is even a question. I always bring my own as I know what fits and how they feel.

I get that some ladies have issues with certain materials so I usually bring a couple of different types if she doesn’t like my first choice.

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By *ister_EMan
over a year ago

Hayling Island

I only play safe, so I always carry condoms. Before meeting I also check if they have any brand preferences or allergies etc.

On the one occasion I've forgotten them in the car, the couple I was meeting had their own, so it saved me an embarrassing trip out to my car.

Haven't been to a club or party for years, but I used to carry a couple under an elastic band around my arm.

My thought is, that if you want to use condoms, then you should always have some with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ultimately it's the guys responsibility but I always have some on me just incase. If they haven't got one, they are expecting bare 100%.

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
over a year ago

Bourne lincs

Don't need them all pics lookers and talkers on here. No gen meetings not in the sth lincs area

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Men should bring a size/brand they are comfortable using.

Women should bring a generic, if the guy isn’t happy with the size because he “forgot” his then it’s his problem

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I'd expect both to have them, your sexual health is your own responsibility.

Mrs

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By *ecretsinnersCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I'd expect both to have them, your sexual health is your own responsibility.

Mrs "

Absolutely this.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd expect both to have them, your sexual health is your own responsibility.

Mrs "

This. However, I can't see a reason that a guy wouldn't have his own unless he intended not to use them.

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By *ilva69Man
over a year ago

stockport

Always carry a couple in my wallet

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By *ev_1Couple
over a year ago

Bickliegh

Both parties if they are not prepared jog on ....

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

"Ultimately it's the guys responsibility but I always have some on me just incase. If they haven't got one, they are expecting bare 100%."

Baring means caring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't bring any to socials as I don't want my mind get on possibly getting action after rather just a good time go with flow. I rarely go to meets/clubs cause don't have any usually so mmh. So depends on scenario I suppose. But that's just me

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
over a year ago

Worcester

I think it’s interesting that people are saying that the women should bring them too just in case the guy forgets.

Like, I’m not into encouraging men’s poor behavior. If he thought he was going to get away with potentially putting my health/life at risk and murdering my finances for the rest of my life *without prior negotistion* then honestly he’s not someone I would *want* to have sex with at that point.

Perhaps if more women on the scene put their foot down and said that if the guy doesn’t take a bit of responsibility and actually respect the women he wants to put his willy in then fewer of them would think they could get away with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always bring condoms got to be safe

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By *octor ProdMan
over a year ago

Constantly Travelling With Work

I always take my own condoms and make sure I have latex free.

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By *ungLewisMan
over a year ago

West of Exeter

I'd always bring my own. So I know they fit properly.

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By *_Mia_XTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

Both should. I always have them however if they have a different size or require latex free than thats on them to sort it out

You can tell the ones who “forgot” deliberately and those who genuinely forgot

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By *ovis and GreeneyesCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

"We’re aware that there’s no one size fits all here but wanted to raise the question.

They probably the ones who are playing away

We always carry them, definitely no glove no love

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

Both/all parties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All parties

Mix of sizes/types

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By *aveing funCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Both should

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All parties who want to have a meet should bring some then there is no excuse when asked to use 1

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By *llSexMan
over a year ago

Traveling to Preston

Always bring mine, ready and prepared for fun

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By *uboCouple
over a year ago

East kilbride

We always have them in case more than 1 is required

We expect him to have at least 1.

If not then he knows where the door is.

No excuse not to have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both.... The guy should bring them and also the couple should have some as well ...just in case he 'forgot' them !!

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By *ositiveVibesJBxMan
over a year ago

Birmingham/Wigan

I always have a selection on me including latex free just in case. I always show it to the other person before I open it and like OP if they prefer to use there’s I would check it too

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By *irtyKittenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

Both so the fun can go on longer.

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By *enleywoodsCouple
over a year ago

Stourbridge / Oxford

As an aside, at a dress down club like Chams where do the men keep them? They should put a pocket in the towels.

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
over a year ago

near you...

Condoms are like health and safety in the office. On the one hand, it is everyone's responsibility. On the other, it is very specific people's responsibilities. If you have a penis or want to get with one, carry condoms. It's not difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Condoms are like health and safety in the office. On the one hand, it is everyone's responsibility. On the other, it is very specific people's responsibilities. If you have a penis or want to get with one, carry condoms. It's not difficult."

Bet me to it. Was gonna say the same thought the exact sane whilst having breakfast this morning.

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By *ickinNottsMan
over a year ago

Hucknall

Generally carry, unless I am meeting someone I know and we are both happy not to use them.

Having said that, I have forgotten before now and had to rely on the other party.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol/ Daventry

"I think it’s interesting that people are saying that the women should bring them too just in case the guy forgets.

Exactly this! While I always have an assortment of spares, I’m not willing to play with an unsafe player ever. I always politely decline and wish them all the best.

The same goes for oral, I won’t blow raw. If they won’t rubber up if they want oral, I’m not putting my health at risk. It’s just as likely to spread infections and so many don’t test all orifices so go around thinking they’re “safe”.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the guy who needs them ...its that simple if he turns up and then says ive not brought them then he has 100% wasted his and my time ..

i do keep latex free condoms in just incase guy bring wrong condoms but if he turns up with none then to me that means he simply dont care about his health or others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This.

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By *rill PhilMan
over a year ago

Crediton

Due to my penis, I tend to carry my own but personally... I think you're going out hoping to have sex, man or woman, you should be carrying condoms.

Never EXPECT the other party to have them.

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By *egDaySkipperMan
over a year ago

I provide because I know my size

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It should be the mens responsibility to bring condoms

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
over a year ago

near you...

Best way to get a guy to bring condoms:

"Yeah, we have some here. The thick heavy ones from the clinic. And I'm not on the pill."

I should be sponsored by Durex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep -I’ve had that-it’s hard to work out which ones are for the better equipped guy !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always carry a few with us just incase

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

Essex

We always bring them as we need to use latex free, so this has never been an issue for us x

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By *sacambsMan
over a year ago

Huntingdon

"We’re aware that there’s no one size fits all here but wanted to raise the question.

I always have them with me, club or private meet. I have been asked by couples or women to use Skyn condoms due to allergies though. I think everyone should have them if they are intending to meet and have sex. I think those single guys who turn up without them do intend to have bb, if I have forgotten on the way to a meet, I stop and buy some, simples...

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over a year ago

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By *angOnBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

We expect all parties to be responsible and bring them along. We always have a supply, but also expect play partners to as well. That way we're covered for enough of a supply

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By *att71Man
over a year ago

RWB

I always come prepared and some on me, never ever assume they will be provided for me

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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

should always be the guy, but I know almost all couples carry them too, as a just in case. I've had a couple hand me one as it was easier than finding my jeans and going into the pockets.

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By *ink vixenCouple
over a year ago

Medway

It would be nice if the guys have one occasionally but we always carry some.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"We’re aware that there’s no one size fits all here but wanted to raise the question.

Yes, yes they were. Nobody goes to a club without condoms hoping to fuck others and "forgets" the condoms.

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

It always should be a guy (unless lady has allergies or prefers special). These who “forget” definitely have bb in mind.

As a single guy I always have a few in a pocket because you never know

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
over a year ago

wonderland.

Everyone should have their own. I think its important for a guy to have his own as they should fit well.

We have an assortment of latex free ones always

Cali

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By *otuseater11Man
over a year ago

kilwinning

I always carry one with me

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By *rs spicyCouple
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I never leave the house without a couple in my bag. You never know when you will get lucky!

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By *tickler2000Man
over a year ago

St Agnes

I always bring my own.

I know they fit.

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By *WB85Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

You should always supply your own in my opinion.

I'm not sure how people can forget them lol.

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By *inglepringlebedsukMan
over a year ago

Arlesey

It's best if all people have protection available in case one person accidentally forgets to have them ready etc. the only time I wouldn't use protection is with either a long term partner in regular life or while meeting with a person/couple I had met on multiple occasions previously, built trust between us and all people involved had been fully tested first with evidence provided

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

As a single man I always feel it is my role to supply condoms. Usually everyone has them, which is better than nobody!

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I buy them in bulk off Amazon so always have some on me

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I always have my own with me, which are comfortable for me, so that I enjoy the experience of it goes on to playtime.

I once used the freebie version in a club, which was too tight on me, and gave me a rash! Ironic to say the least….

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

We always have them. But that's because

1. One of us is a penis owner.

2. I (Mrs) have a latex allergy.

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By *urulovesnylonMan
over a year ago

Harrow

I take them with me. Never leave home without

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By *elsbells2011Couple
over a year ago

Dunfermline

We carry a supply of medium large and xl just in case but we would hope that guys bring some too as condoms seem to be a personal choice of which brand and size guys prefer. If we are meeting in hotel and splitting costs we would always offer to pay a bit more to equalise the cost of buying protection

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By *inkyguyUKMan
over a year ago

worcester

They are basically free so everyone? Unless you sure you want to ride without

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By *hoenix_1Man
over a year ago

richmond

I allways take my own

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By *estMidsHotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Malvern

All comes down to the communication, we don't play with condoms but back when we did we always took our own and asked before heading to a room (club) or before they came to our place if they had them x

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By *exyScientistsCouple
over a year ago

Castlebar

We always have at least 1, but if a the guy or girl prefers a certain type then I assume they would have them.

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By *ustAnotherMan
over a year ago

brumish

Always brought my own even if I expect my partner will have their own. You never know. Sign of respect I believe, even in a small way.

Although one time I had a box in my suitcase (just bought) and the girl I had brought back to my room after meeting said she thought I was really presumptuous and stormed off

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Skins should give me shares in the company and a seat on the board of directors

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By *inkyguyUKMan
over a year ago

worcester

I always just ask in first messages "are you on the pill Hun" then decide if bother buying the jonnies. The women love the question, it's like erotic gold to them.

The combo of starting with are you on the pill and Hun gets them wet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have them with me. Just normal ones.

If that person has a specific allergy, then it's up to them to bring there own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always just ask in first messages "are you on the pill Hun" then decide if bother buying the jonnies. The women love the question, it's like erotic gold to them.

The combo of starting with are you on the pill and Hun gets them wet."

Oh I thought it was my GP trying to find new ways to reach out to avoid an appointment. Huh, who knew

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