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By *ay.81 OP   Man
44 weeks ago

UK

Today a meet was arranged, I drove hour and a half then she blocked me…. I thought she was genuine as she had verifications then when I told her I’m here then she blocked me. My time and money is being wasted a lot of times…. What is the owner of fab doing about this… I have reported scums like this so many times but their profile don’t get deleted or anything…. Stuff like this can make fab a dangerous platforms I’ve heard a lot of stories where that time waster being seen in real life and had to pay a heavy price for this…. U know I believe there’s so many good people out there but can turn into a savage once someone gets on the wrong side of them…. I wish the owner of fab can put themselves in their shoes (that persons time being wasted or being messed around)

All I request from whoever controls this platform to blacklist those that mess people around it will save a lot of headache and can be more of a healthy platform for genuine swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

Try watchdog

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By *ay.81 OP   Man
44 weeks ago

UK

I do understand the owner wants to make money by people paying for subscriptions but they should also at least fine those that mess people around…. Fine them at least few hundred to get their account back for wasting someone’s time…. A wrongun would make someone go far to a location then block them - that’s bang out of order and penalty needs to happen -

Bottom line is, treat people like the way you’d like to be treated and be kind to those that are good to you

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By *ickD80Man
44 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Verifications don’t prove anything, it’s possible to give someone a verification and say that you met them without ever meeting them, so how can they be proof that someone’s real. If the verification system worked as an accurate and reliable method of proving who’s real and who’s fake then every dating site, chat site etc would use it but this is the only site that does, obviously all the other sites realise that a verification system that allows people to give out fake verifications so easily is a waste of time.

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
44 weeks ago

Stoke

And people wonder why we only meet at Swinging Clubs!

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By *ickD80Man
44 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

How long had you been chatting with this person for OP? Had you done any video calls with her? I’m not saying that it was your fault but there are things you can do to help determine whether someone’s real and genuinely interested in meeting. Obviously having a video call proves that they’re who they say they are and taking time to chat with them before meeting, maybe only for 2 or 3 days, is a good way of determining how genuine they are. A time waster won’t put much time and effort into having conversations with you about normal, everyday things….they will either stop replying when you say you won’t meet straight away or only want to talk about sexual topics.

Where were you meant to be meeting her? Was it at a public place?

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By *ay.81 OP   Man
44 weeks ago

UK

Yes for months. Public place…. Had me waiting around like a fool

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By *attooedlad445Couple
44 weeks ago

london

Honeslty Iv not been on here long and managed to arranged a few meets. Which all have lucky gone very well! Never had any issues with an actual meet but OMG there are so right time wasters and idiots on here which tbh Iv found the longer I’m On here the more I find. Especially when trying to organise group meets, I Honeslty thought it would be easy as hell to get a group of guys together for fun but nope! Everyone loves the idea and probably jerks off over the conversation of meeting but post nut clarity is an actual thing. Worst thing that’s happened is me paying for an air bnb and had a no show. Apart from that you get the usual idiots accusing you of not being real and Iv even had people accusing me of taking advantage of my gf because we have couples profile and god forbid you as man have a gf all women must be single on here (sarcasm btw) honestly it’s a shame because there are some right morons on here.

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By *ickD80Man
44 weeks ago

Wolverhampton


"Yes for months. Public place…. Had me waiting around like a fool "

Did you ever video call with her?

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By *ickD80Man
44 weeks ago

Wolverhampton


"Honeslty Iv not been on here long and managed to arranged a few meets. Which all have lucky gone very well! Never had any issues with an actual meet but OMG there are so right time wasters and idiots on here which tbh Iv found the longer I’m On here the more I find. Especially when trying to organise group meets, I Honeslty thought it would be easy as hell to get a group of guys together for fun but nope! Everyone loves the idea and probably jerks off over the conversation of meeting but post nut clarity is an actual thing. Worst thing that’s happened is me paying for an air bnb and had a no show. Apart from that you get the usual idiots accusing you of not being real and Iv even had people accusing me of taking advantage of my gf because we have couples profile and god forbid you as man have a gf all women must be single on here (sarcasm btw) honestly it’s a shame because there are some right morons on here."

You said that all your meets have gone very well but you also said that you booked an Air BnB but your meet didn’t turn up? So that meet didn’t go very well did it?

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

Sorry you got mucked around op, it happens and it's shit when it does.

Your suggestions that people are punished somehow for it are concerning. What if she got there and then decided she wasn't into you? Who would administer the fines for not having sex with you, anyway?

Next time maybe don't spend so much, or travel so far - then you don't have so much to lose when it doesn't pan out.

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By *ickD80Man
44 weeks ago

Wolverhampton


"Sorry you got mucked around op, it happens and it's shit when it does.

Your suggestions that people are punished somehow for it are concerning. What if she got there and then decided she wasn't into you? Who would administer the fines for not having sex with you, anyway?

Next time maybe don't spend so much, or travel so far - then you don't have so much to lose when it doesn't pan out."

Well he lives an hour and a half drive away from her so it’s very unlikely that he’s ever going to bump into her in ‘real life’ and make her pay….ironically the further you have to travel the more time you waste but the less likely you are of ever bumping into them. If you were meeting someone who lives local enough to you that there’s a chance you’ll bump into them sometime the you won’t have to travel far and therefore won’t be very bothered about being stood up.

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By *litterbabeWoman
44 weeks ago

hiding from cock pics.


"Sorry you got mucked around op, it happens and it's shit when it does.

Your suggestions that people are punished somehow for it are concerning. What if she got there and then decided she wasn't into you? Who would administer the fines for not having sex with you, anyway?

Next time maybe don't spend so much, or travel so far - then you don't have so much to lose when it doesn't pan out.

Well he lives an hour and a half drive away from her so it’s very unlikely that he’s ever going to bump into her in ‘real life’ and make her pay….ironically the further you have to travel the more time you waste but the less likely you are of ever bumping into them. If you were meeting someone who lives local enough to you that there’s a chance you’ll bump into them sometime the you won’t have to travel far and therefore won’t be very bothered about being stood up. "

We only know she 'said' she lives an hour and a half from him, she might live literally anywhere in the world and also she might not even be a she.

It's hard to know for sure what goes three people's minds when they waste other people's time, but I wouldn't believe anything they've told you about themselves.

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By *ickD80Man
44 weeks ago

Wolverhampton


"Sorry you got mucked around op, it happens and it's shit when it does.

Your suggestions that people are punished somehow for it are concerning. What if she got there and then decided she wasn't into you? Who would administer the fines for not having sex with you, anyway?

Next time maybe don't spend so much, or travel so far - then you don't have so much to lose when it doesn't pan out.

Well he lives an hour and a half drive away from her so it’s very unlikely that he’s ever going to bump into her in ‘real life’ and make her pay….ironically the further you have to travel the more time you waste but the less likely you are of ever bumping into them. If you were meeting someone who lives local enough to you that there’s a chance you’ll bump into them sometime the you won’t have to travel far and therefore won’t be very bothered about being stood up.

We only know she 'said' she lives an hour and a half from him, she might live literally anywhere in the world and also she might not even be a she.

It's hard to know for sure what goes three people's minds when they waste other people's time, but I wouldn't believe anything they've told you about themselves. "

But she had verifications so she must have been genuine.

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
44 weeks ago

BEDFORDSHIRE areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat

To trusting tbh

Yes 1000s of sad weird strange knob head time wasters on here that get a kik out of

F.....g people over

3 rules I use

No face pic that does not look real/clear

Means NO MEET.

Exchange WhatsApp Nos

Chat.

Will not do again NO MEET.

Never travel more than 20 miles for any meets.

Just advice from my experience and many years on this and similar sites

Hope it helps people.

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By *ickD80Man
44 weeks ago

Wolverhampton


"To trusting tbh

Yes 1000s of sad weird strange knob head time wasters on here that get a kik out of

F.....g people over

3 rules I use

No face pic that does not look real/clear

Means NO MEET.

Exchange WhatsApp Nos

Chat.

Will not do again NO MEET.

Never travel more than 20 miles for any meets.

Just advice from my experience and many years on this and similar sites

Hope it helps people.

"

So someone can take any face picture off the internet and send that to you, buy a SIM card for £2 and use that number to chat with you on WhatsApp so you won’t actually know their real number and tell you that they live somewhere within 20 miles of you (even if they live more than 20 miles from you) and they’ll have passed all your rules and you’ll then be ok to meet them. But you won’t know that they really look like, what their real number is and where they really live.

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
44 weeks ago

BEDFORDSHIRE areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat


"To trusting tbh

Yes 1000s of sad weird strange knob head time wasters on here that get a kik out of

F.....g people over

3 rules I use

No face pic that does not look real/clear

Means NO MEET.

Exchange WhatsApp Nos

Chat.

Will not do again NO MEET.

Never travel more than 20 miles for any meets.

Just advice from my experience and many years on this and similar sites

Hope it helps people.

So someone can take any face picture off the internet and send that to you, buy a SIM card for £2 and use that number to chat with you on WhatsApp so you won’t actually know their real number and tell you that they live somewhere within 20 miles of you (even if they live more than 20 miles from you) and they’ll have passed all your rules and you’ll then be ok to meet them. But you won’t know that they really look like, what their real number is and where they really live. "

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You try and give some good advice and help and there is always someone who wishes to SHOOT you down.

You sound like you have done all those things Your self you wrote that so quickly LOL.

Any date-Meet site is a risk no matter how smart one is because there is always a IDIOT CLOWN around the corner.

Don't want the risk DO NOT JOIN or pay there fees SIMPLE.

There is no site that can ever say you will never be let down FACT.

I'm happy on fab, all I do is try be as careful as possible

Don't

Worry

Be happy

T

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By *ickD80Man
44 weeks ago

Wolverhampton


"To trusting tbh

Yes 1000s of sad weird strange knob head time wasters on here that get a kik out of

F.....g people over

3 rules I use

No face pic that does not look real/clear

Means NO MEET.

Exchange WhatsApp Nos

Chat.

Will not do again NO MEET.

Never travel more than 20 miles for any meets.

Just advice from my experience and many years on this and similar sites

Hope it helps people.

So someone can take any face picture off the internet and send that to you, buy a SIM card for £2 and use that number to chat with you on WhatsApp so you won’t actually know their real number and tell you that they live somewhere within 20 miles of you (even if they live more than 20 miles from you) and they’ll have passed all your rules and you’ll then be ok to meet them. But you won’t know that they really look like, what their real number is and where they really live.

---------

You try and give some good advice and help and there is always someone who wishes to SHOOT you down.

You sound like you have done all those things Your self you wrote that so quickly LOL.

Any date-Meet site is a risk no matter how smart one is because there is always a IDIOT CLOWN around the corner.

Don't want the risk DO NOT JOIN or pay there fees SIMPLE.

There is no site that can ever say you will never be let down FACT.

I'm happy on fab, all I do is try be as careful as possible

Don't

Worry

Be happy

T"

It wasn’t good advice though because it can be easily faked as I described. The only way to tell if someone’s genuine or not is to have video calls with them and spend time chatting and getting to know them properly. If someone’s fake then they’ll soon expose themselves as fakes because they’ll say something that contradicts something they said earlier or they’ll forget one of the lies they told you…when you ask someone a lot of questions about something they’ve said and ask them to explain more about it then a fake will always get angry with you and accuse you of interrogating them and say that they don’t have to explain themselves to you…when you ask someone genuine questions they’ll be happy to answer them and see it as you being interested in learning more about them and getting to know them better. Fakes don’t like you asking them questions because it means they have to think of more lies to tell you and they there’s more chance of them exposing themselves as fakes. If you’re talking to someone who claims to be a woman but you suspect is a man then ask them what bra size they wear, a genuine woman will know and answer straight away but the majority of men will have to google what size matches the pictures he’s sent you.

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By *omKsubSMan
44 weeks ago

Newton

Verifications are a guide, it's up to you to check them out

The site does not have the power to fine anyone.

Blacklisting doesnt work. How would you propose they try it? IP ban? Lol...

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By *ealitybitesMan
44 weeks ago

Belfast

If I was to type a long reply saying that in 8 years I'd never had my time wasted, never exchanged phone numbers with random strangers, never exchanged facepics with anyone I hadn't already agreed to meet, never done a video call and never once been stood up I'd be accused of being a cocky shit or one of the lucky ones.

Now that I think of it that's exactly what I've been told anytime I've said those things.

I don't see it as luck though because none of that has happened by accident and it's all down to how long I chat before meeting, what questions I ask, no sex chat before meeting and various other reasons.

I'm always amazed that so many grown adults get excited about joining an adult site but as soon as things don't pan out as expected they think they are in a crèche and toys are thrown, dummies spat out and demands for their hand to be held.

That applies right across the site to anyone doing the same thing over and over and expecting different outcomes.

It applies to anyone who doesn't do their own due diligence and even with all the existing site guidelines and advice they think it's the fault of the site admin.

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
44 weeks ago

Worcester


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It wasn’t good advice though because it can be easily faked as I described. The only way to tell if someone’s genuine or not is to have video calls with them and spend time chatting and getting to know them properly. If someone’s fake then they’ll soon expose themselves as fakes because they’ll say something that contradicts something they said earlier or they’ll forget one of the lies they told you…when you ask someone a lot of questions about something they’ve said and ask them to explain more about it then a fake will always get angry with you and accuse you of interrogating them and say that they don’t have to explain themselves to you…when you ask someone genuine questions they’ll be happy to answer them and see it as you being interested in learning more about them and getting to know them better. Fakes don’t like you asking them questions because it means they have to think of more lies to tell you and they there’s more chance of them exposing themselves as fakes. If you’re talking to someone who claims to be a woman but you suspect is a man then ask them what bra size they wear, a genuine woman will know and answer straight away but the majority of men will have to google what size matches the pictures he’s sent you. "

FYI I think lots of “genuine women” won’t video all or tell blokes their bra size.

I certainly won’t and it’s never been a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

Woman here who has had meets from this site. Not once have I given my number out before a in person social if it goes well then numbers exchange and play arranged.

Also I won't video call. I have kids and the possibility of them wondering in, over hearing etc means it can be tricky.

I'd suggest socials first and not driving so far on the first attempt. Or meet in the middle.

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago


"And people wonder why we only meet at Swinging Clubs! "

completely agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago


"And people wonder why we only meet at Swinging Clubs! "

You got it

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
44 weeks ago

Norwichish


"And people wonder why we only meet at Swinging Clubs!

You got it "

Clubs and socials seem the safest place to meet. At least if they don’t show you have alternatives, although clubs not so easy for single guys as can get pricey!

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By *MCMan
44 weeks ago

London/EA

Not doing too bad OP you’ve got 9 veris with a minimalistic profile, doing better than the majority of single males on fab.

Unfortunately however hard you try some times a time waster slips though, few good points on here to help avoid.

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By *ee And MikeCouple
44 weeks ago

Cannock

As a cuck couple we got loads of messages from guys that claim they are bulls but when you get down to it are nothing of the sort, we also arranged a meet with a couple off here that wanted to play with a cuck couple but then never turned up, we were away in a hotel anyway so it’s not as if it cost us anything. When we messaged them to see what had happened, they said they changed their mind as they were worried that playing with a cuck couple might be too much for them.

The point I’m trying to make it that people chat on here with all good intentions but a lot of the time just get ‘cold feet’, annoying as that may be, it’s just life at times.

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By *attooedlad445Couple
44 weeks ago

london


"Honeslty Iv not been on here long and managed to arranged a few meets. Which all have lucky gone very well! Never had any issues with an actual meet but OMG there are so right time wasters and idiots on here which tbh Iv found the longer I’m On here the more I find. Especially when trying to organise group meets, I Honeslty thought it would be easy as hell to get a group of guys together for fun but nope! Everyone loves the idea and probably jerks off over the conversation of meeting but post nut clarity is an actual thing. Worst thing that’s happened is me paying for an air bnb and had a no show. Apart from that you get the usual idiots accusing you of not being real and Iv even had people accusing me of taking advantage of my gf because we have couples profile and god forbid you as man have a gf all women must be single on here (sarcasm btw) honestly it’s a shame because there are some right morons on here.

You said that all your meets have gone very well but you also said that you booked an Air BnB but your meet didn’t turn up? So that meet didn’t go very well did it?"

Wasn’t a meet then was it?!

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
44 weeks ago

chichester

You need to do a video call prior to leaving. Anyone that refuse to have a video call I just decline as waste of time.

Cuts out the chaff a lot

Veris mean not alot in reality

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By *enleywoodsCouple
44 weeks ago

Stourbridge / Oxford


"And people wonder why we only meet at Swinging Clubs! "

We suggested meeting at Chams with a couple we met on here. Safe within a crowd, space to chat and get to know each other better, only genuine people are going to pay to get in, rooms if it works out, others available if not.

Cautious about revealing faces or true names on here until we have built some trust.

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By *endalshaggersCouple
44 weeks ago

Kendal

Oh dear. Doesn't sound good.

Very unlucky for you and frustrating at having your time/money/fuel wasted.

I would guess some people prehaps either get cold feet when it's actually happening, or just prefer the thrill of the chase and "reeling in" a target.

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