FabSwingers.com forum: married men

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

why is it a lot of women couples wont meet a married guy if he says married on his profile but if he lies and says hes single does that mean they get more offers????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it means their conscience is clear

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

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because there are so many single fellas to pick from .. why make life complicated when it can be sooo simple

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should be grateful to have someone in your life. If your married and on here without your partners consent then your pretty much a lowlife I think. Men/women should grow a pair and either stay faithful or stay single. Or get the other half involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why is it a lot of women couples wont meet a married guy if he says married on his profile but if he lies and says hes single does that mean they get more offers????"

Some couples and singles will meet those that state they are married. Some won't.

Some 'marrieds' will be honest. Some won't.

It's down to nothing more than preference - on those deciding who to meet - and those deciding to be open or not.

Will being honest result in less or more meets? Who knows!! And will being dishonest provide different results? Again - who knows!

No point worrying about it - what will be, will be!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah course he gets more offers if he lies, the trick is to tell people what they want to hear, but if you do lie youe usually cought out, married gusy usually have a play pattern i can sniff a mile off, so even if a guy does tell me hes single i can 99 times out of a 100 tell if hes lying just but he requests for meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You especially get caught out if you have some pretty obvious face pics on your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You should be grateful to have someone in your life. "

really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im single myself,but i see alot of single women profiles that are married & just looking for alittle something extra.either with or without there partners knowledge.? Im sure they dont have the same problem lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why those of us on here choose to do one thing or another is no concern of anybody else.

It's perfectly reasonable that a couple would not want to play with some who's married. If they do in fact play with someone who is married but hold the belief - based on what he's told them - that he's single, then they can get on with the business at hand with a clear conscience.

I'd say the clear conscience is perhaps the motive in most case - also who wants to be an unnecessary part of another relationship breakdown?

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"why is it a lot of women couples wont meet a married guy if he says married on his profile but if he lies and says hes single does that mean they get more offers????"

Are you telling us that you are married and your wife doesn;t know you are here? hummmmm

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

"Im single myself,but i see alot of single women profiles that are married & just looking for alittle something extra.either with or without there partners knowledge.? Im sure they dont have the same problem lol

They do here. We won't play with anyone that is playing away. This is a fun site not a marriage wrecking site.

Dave

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By *icky55Man
over a year ago

Warm an cosy cave. Brist

Married guys are often regarded as cheating on thier wives, even if they know.

If they lie they soon get found out because they can't meet evening or weekends.

So no, just be honest and have friends who know you for what you are, not what you pretend to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because someone is married doesnt mean there playing away tbf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i meet a guy i want his undivided attention for that meet, i dont want a guys who nipped out for a couple of hours while the wifes at bingo with her mates, or a guy whos clock watching as hes supposed to be at the pub with his mates and has to be home in time for the pubs closing, i dont want a guy whos going to dash off before ive finished because he said he'd be home by 11, i want someone whos got time for a meet, someone whos not go anyone to rush back for, someone who can relax and have a good night without checking the time every hour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cos men and woman think differently maybe?

or cos the men are genuially more desperate as there are much fewer woman on here?

for me cheaters is a no regardless of sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just because someone is married doesnt mean there playing away tbf"

and how small a minority of them are there on here?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i do discriminate between genders playing away without consent... I would treat and give the same answer to a woman doing it the same as i would a man...

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Just because someone is married doesnt mean there playing away tbf"

i think the issue is with consent... if i play with a married lady I ask to speak to hubby first.... simple as..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just because someone is married doesnt mean there playing away tbf

and how small a minority of them are there on here?

No idea.? But if they werent being honest to start with why tell you they were married.???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cos men and woman think differently maybe?

or cos the men are genuially more desperate as there are much fewer woman on here?

for me cheaters is a no regardless of sex"

im pretty sure there are also lots of couples out there that would meet women playing away in their quest for a MFF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just because someone is married doesnt mean there playing away tbf

i think the issue is with consent... if i play with a married lady I ask to speak to hubby first.... simple as.."

Fairplay buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess for me is I would not make an excuse if the mrs found out and anyhow, Im entitled to have a man for the whole night or at the weekend and not always on the hurry up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile states no fb/attached/married playing solo, that has no gender attached to it.

As has been said before, you learn to spot the signs of someone not really single, so can hopefully avoid it.

I play with my conscience as my guide.

Someone may decide to 'play away' Im not going to facilitate it though.

Hundreds of genuine singles out there, no matter how hot or gifted someone is, if I think or know they are attached I wont play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They can't meet evenings or weekends or if they can, not for very long. I enjoy relaxed unhurried meets and to have their undivided attention. I don't enjoy meets where the guy is constantly checking his watch and mobile and ready to bolt for the door at a moments notice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just because someone is married doesnt mean there playing away tbf

and how small a minority of them are there on here?

No idea.? But if they werent being honest to start with why tell you they were married.???"

no alot of people arent honest, but as others say there are signs.

also in life you have to have some trust..

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"why is it a lot of women couples wont meet a married guy if he says married on his profile but if he lies and says hes single does that mean they get more offers????"

i wont meet married guys as dont want the hassles that come with it . certainly no wish to be planted in middle of domestics!

as for the married guys who lie ....they get found out ! not only by ladies meeting em but by their spouse too! if your married then just say so as there are some ppl who will meet .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married, I do however have my wife's permission.

I can meet evenings (when not working) and I can also meet weekends.

If I have a meet then I'm not in any rush to get home. My wife knows where I am.

I would love my wife to be involved but she has chosen not to at this time. She did try by having socials and visiting clubs. I hope one day she will decide to join in again, but its her choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why is it a lot of women couples wont meet a married guy if he says married on his profile but if he lies and says hes single does that mean they get more offers????"

Its not married guys I refuse to meet...just the liars, I can't stand liars...the second someone lies to me i think "this fucker thinks he can tell me a load of shit and thinks that i'm soo desperate that i'm still going to want to shag him?" ....eh...naw!

I don't tell lies and I won't knowingly help some spineless wank decieve the one person that trusts them the most...that's not the type of guy I wanna meet!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"why is it a lot of women couples wont meet a married guy if he says married on his profile but if he lies and says hes single does that mean they get more offers????"

see.... i think the interesting thing is what you have just gone and done...

you said you were married.... now you have taken it out

deception by omission is no better in my eyes... in fact, I think it is worse...

better the devil you know so to speak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You should be grateful to have someone in your life. If your married and on here without your partners consent then your pretty much a lowlife "

agree with that,shouldnt be playing behind your partners back as its cheating. somethin i wont do and never will!

If your on here playing around then you need to sort your relationship out if its going nowhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it means their conscience is clear"

Surely its the conscience of the married man that needs to be exercised not those seeing him? You are meeting for a casual sex session not a lifetime commitment.

I do however suspect that, on occasion, single females and perhaps single gay men are seeking more than sex fun. In that case a married person looks less desirable irrespective of their looks.

Each to their own though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to meet men who are attached playing without their partner present for several reasons.

If she has given permission, how do I know? I don't know her so even a phone call wouldn't appease me and neither would face to face assurance. What if she changes her mind and goes after me or my partner and turns into something which would scare Freddy Kruger?

Playing for me is all about mutual fun and I find myself worrying if I think not everyone is enjoying themselves or getting the same amount of attention. The spouse when not present is not having fun so that would concern me.

I am sure I have played with men and women who claim to be single but are in fact married but in a club environment where they have not been given my number, address, pictures, etc so if a disgruntled partner was to find out where the unfaithful half has been, it's not going to come back and shit on my doorstep.

People are not stupid - if you are married but lie about it, it will be picked up on and you will be called out on it. There are so many giveaway signs which scream married which people have mentioned (never being able to stay over, times/days of meets, etc).

Although I do not approve, at least those that are married who are open about it allow potential play partners to make an informed decision on whether or not to meet. For some, a married play partner is ideal because of the discretion they offer and the assurance that they're really only after NSA sex.

crystal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"when i meet a guy i want his undivided attention for that meet, i dont want a guys who nipped out for a couple of hours while the wifes at bingo with her mates, or a guy whos clock watching as hes supposed to be at the pub with his mates and has to be home in time for the pubs closing, i dont want a guy whos going to dash off before ive finished because he said he'd be home by 11, i want someone whos got time for a meet, someone whos not go anyone to rush back for, someone who can relax and have a good night without checking the time every hour "

couldnt have said it better. well done NN

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i wanted to take something the OP has put on their update...

"people shouldnt assume things by what they read maybe if they ask the right questions then they will know!!!!!"

see... thats a cop up...

so in your mind it should be up to the other person to question the truth out of you.... as opposed to you telling the truth to begin with....

thats weaseley... sorry... but it is...

so there is being honest.. and being honest enough to get your leg over....

maybe thats why couples shy away from marrieds playing without consent...at least they are being honest with the person they profess to love more than any other.... and share it together, as opposed to thinking of their own self interest....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it means their conscience is clear

Surely its the conscience of the married man that needs to be exercised not those seeing him? You are meeting for a casual sex session not a lifetime commitment.

I do however suspect that, on occasion, single females and perhaps single gay men are seeking more than sex fun. In that case a married person looks less desirable irrespective of their looks.

Each to their own though.

exactly just meeting for a session of fun.. not just no lifetime commitment but no comeback from a disgruntled partner either,..

just cos someone is single doesnt mean they are looking for more.. i dont get that.. im single cos i choose to be.. so why would i suddenly change that?

i never get why people say meeting someone married guarentees NSA.. how is there no strings if there is a risk of a comeback.. may not be the comeback of emotions from you or the person you meet, but the high emotions of someone who has been cheated on!

therefore to me a cheater has massive strings that come off them.. out the door and attached to their family.. no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i wanted to take something the OP has put on their update...

"people shouldnt assume things by what they read maybe if they ask the right questions then they will know!!!!!"

see... thats a cop up...

so in your mind it should be up to the other person to question the truth out of you.... as opposed to you telling the truth to begin with....

thats weaseley... sorry... but it is...

so there is being honest.. and being honest enough to get your leg over....

Almost like the profiles which just say ask and I'll tell... should we be asking every potential meet a checklist of questions?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't want to meet men who are attached playing without their partner present for several reasons.

crystal"

i agree with what u say except the NSA part with married people (as per my post above)

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

"You should be grateful to have someone in your life. If your married and on here without your partners consent then your pretty much a lowlife I think. Men/women should grow a pair and either stay faithful or stay single. Or get the other half involved

EVERYONE has their own reason(s) to be on Fabs. Lets not generalise and point the finger...Am I to think you are on here because you can't get laid otherwise? Who's to say you are not married yourself posing as a single? who's to say I am not single posing as a married woman to attrack single lonely single men looking for a MILF?

I do not care why you are here looking for fun...You are!! and that is all I need to know. Respect others choices and you will be respected. Disparaging others is ugly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i wanted to take something the OP has put on their update...

"people shouldnt assume things by what they read maybe if they ask the right questions then they will know!!!!!"

see... thats a cop up...

so in your mind it should be up to the other person to question the truth out of you.... as opposed to you telling the truth to begin with....

thats weaseley... sorry... but it is...

so there is being honest.. and being honest enough to get your leg over....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" i agree with what u say except the NSA part with married people (as per my post above)"

I suppose there's always the divorce option too...

I think some people think that playing with married people guarantees it's NSA as they'll go back to their spouse when the meet is over.

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I/ we will meet married men - I sometimes find them less hassle than some single guys - they don't want a meet at the drop of a hat, nor do they text/ message constantly.

On a side point - as a married woman who usually plays by herself I wouldn't want someone checking with my husband if they could play with me - in a club, it's a bit different, as he might actually be there but if arranging a 1-2-1 outside of a club then he's going to know about it by reading the messages on here. Checking with him in that scenario would make me feel a bit like his 'property'. I'd never meet someone he was unhappy about anyway. I'd like to think that our veris make it clear that we are a- a real couple and b- I can play by myself and he's cool with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" i agree with what u say except the NSA part with married people (as per my post above)

I suppose there's always the divorce option too...

I think some people think that playing with married people guarantees it's NSA as they'll go back to their spouse when the meet is over."

but for me a married person the strings are attached to the family.. cos there is no guarantee for it to be hassle free.. there is always the threat of emotions geting involved from anyone, but added complications.. no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it means their conscience is clear

Surely its the conscience of the married man that needs to be exercised not those seeing him? You are meeting for a casual sex session not a lifetime commitment. "

Surley we're here to meet LIKE minded people, not casual sex...or has this site yet again been mistaken for a sex site rather than a swingers site?

Just because we have no intention of having a long term relationship with a meet does not mean we should accept being lied to...

I will NOT open my legs for a prick that cant even speak the truth...I can wait for an honest person, I'm in no rush!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" i agree with what u say except the NSA part with married people (as per my post above)

I suppose there's always the divorce option too...

I think some people think that playing with married people guarantees it's NSA as they'll go back to their spouse when the meet is over.

I didn't think of it from that perspective - I was just thinking from the other person's point of view that they would be less likely to have someone decide they want more than sex.

And with you on the added complications - we are in this for fun and dealing with drama is not my idea of fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will meet anyone at the end of the day it's up to them if they play away I have been cheated on my self and they had no regard for me . But I would not meet anyone that I know there partner . It turned out he had shagged him down stairs when I was in bed

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"it means their conscience is clear

Surely its the conscience of the married man that needs to be exercised not those seeing him? You are meeting for a casual sex session not a lifetime commitment.

Surley we're here to meet LIKE minded people, not casual sex...or has this site yet again been mistaken for a sex site rather than a swingers site?

Just because we have no intention of having a long term relationship with a meet does not mean we should accept being lied to...

I will NOT open my legs for a prick that cant even speak the truth...I can wait for an honest person, I'm in no rush!

Whilst I'll meet married men I like to know that - ie: if I find they're lying) and saying their single it really annoys me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it means their conscience is clear

Surely its the conscience of the married man that needs to be exercised not those seeing him? You are meeting for a casual sex session not a lifetime commitment.

Surley we're here to meet LIKE minded people, not casual sex...or has this site yet again been mistaken for a sex site rather than a swingers site?

Just because we have no intention of having a long term relationship with a meet does not mean we should accept being lied to...

I will NOT open my legs for a prick that cant even speak the truth...I can wait for an honest person, I'm in no rush!

Whilst I'll meet married men I like to know that - ie: if I find they're lying) and saying their single it really annoys me

I have been single for about 2 years or more but would Jump at the chance to meet a girl to be with but hard meeting someone you want to be with and they want to be with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will meet anyone at the end of the day it's up to them if they play away I have been cheated on my self and they had no regard for me . But I would not meet anyone that I know there partner . It turned out he had shagged him down stairs when I was in bed

its funny how your ok to let a complete stranger feel the same hurt you have, but not someone you know.. because you dont know them does that make them less of a human being??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it means their conscience is clear

Surely its the conscience of the married man that needs to be exercised not those seeing him? You are meeting for a casual sex session not a lifetime commitment.

Surley we're here to meet LIKE minded people, not casual sex...or has this site yet again been mistaken for a sex site rather than a swingers site?

Just because we have no intention of having a long term relationship with a meet does not mean we should accept being lied to...

I will NOT open my legs for a prick that cant even speak the truth...I can wait for an honest person, I'm in no rush!

Whilst I'll meet married men I like to know that - ie: if I find they're lying) and saying their single it really annoys me

as someone pointed out before on a simular thread.. if they can lie to their other halves then how can you trust they are being fully honest about anythign with you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it means their conscience is clear"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cos men and woman think differently maybe?

or cos the men are genuially more desperate as there are much fewer woman on here?

for me cheaters is a no regardless of sex"

Desperate ? ........ If you say so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its funny how your ok to let a complete stranger feel the same hurt you have, but not someone you know.. because you dont know them does that make them less of a human being??"

No it doesn't because no one deserves to be hurt but it's never going to stop me my self have never and would never cheat on anyone it's not me my dad done it to my mum for years and he prob still does it to his wife now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cos men and woman think differently maybe?

or cos the men are genuially more desperate as there are much fewer woman on here?

for me cheaters is a no regardless of sex

Desperate ? ........ If you say so"

i didnt say all men did i..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cos men and woman think differently maybe?

or cos the men are genuially more desperate as there are much fewer woman on here?

for me cheaters is a no regardless of sex

Desperate ? ........ If you say so

i didnt say all men did i.. "

I know some very desperate women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cos men and woman think differently maybe?

or cos the men are genuially more desperate as there are much fewer woman on here?

for me cheaters is a no regardless of sex

Desperate ? ........ If you say so

i didnt say all men did i..

I know some very desperate women "

Have ye tried shaggin them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you might be more likely to meet women if you dont tell them you are married.

not sure why men feel the need to tell people on their profile they are married and some dont mention it.

quite a few men say that they and their wives meet people on their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cos men and woman think differently maybe?

or cos the men are genuially more desperate as there are much fewer woman on here?

for me cheaters is a no regardless of sex

Desperate ? ........ If you say so

i didnt say all men did i..

I know some very desperate women "

im pretty certain the amount of desperate woman on here is in a very small minority compared to the guys..

there is always one guy who takes offence to a bad word being said about men and has to flag up its not just men posts..

there is another thread about being deperate and a guy tried to say couple do it to, then gave an example and yet it was the guy of the coupoe who had given him grief..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those that claim to be single often either put their foot in it when they cancel meets or they blab on forum posts like these

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By *emon DodgerMan
over a year ago

Blackburn

If I was married fcuk playing away. Just go play with wife instead. Why cheat ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was married fcuk playing away. Just go play with wife instead. Why cheat ? "

oh gosh, isnt life simple lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was married fcuk playing away. Just go play with wife instead. Why cheat ? "

some men have attractive wives but they say they are prudish and uptight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was married fcuk playing away. Just go play with wife instead. Why cheat ?

some men have attractive wives but they say they are prudish and uptight."

trophy wives

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

or maybe their wifes are ill, disableled and unable to have sex at the moment, or just had a baby and suffering from PND and lost their lobido

Theres many reasons why someone is playing away

Some have a active sex life at home but just want the thrill of playing away, some are doing it because their wifes dont want sex and some cause their wifes cant have sex

same goes for women playing away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"or maybe their wifes are ill, disableled and unable to have sex at the moment, or just had a baby and suffering from PND and lost their lobido

Theres many reasons why someone is playing away

Some have a active sex life at home but just want the thrill of playing away, some are doing it because their wifes dont want sex and some cause their wifes cant have sex

same goes for women playing away

im still to see a reason that doesnt make a mockery of their vows and isnt for completely selfish reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was married fcuk playing away. Just go play with wife instead. Why cheat ?

some men have attractive wives but they say they are prudish and uptight."

All men are free to end a relationship that no longer works for them...excuses are just that...an excuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is about conscience. I wont play with a married or attached man.

Been in that situation. We didn't go all the way. Just messed around a bit but I regretted it. I hated the way I felt after and realised how heart broken I would be if that happened to me. I would know that I participated in hurting someone.

Appreciate people may have their reasons but I can't see a reason to cheat.

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

"If I was married fcuk playing away. Just go play with wife instead. Why cheat ?

some men have attractive wives but they say they are prudish and uptight.

All men are free to end a relationship that no longer works for them...excuses are just that...an excuse.

ones that get me is they wont end the marriage cos of the kids.. so basically sex is more important than their kids.. nice

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over a year ago

All men are free to end a relationship that no longer works for them...excuses are just that...an excuse.

ones that get me is they wont end the marriage cos of the kids.. so basically sex is more important than their kids.. nice"

I can't judge them for that lol...I've cheated on every man i've been involved with, with the exception of one...the only difference with my bf is that we don't do lies of any sort and I have realised that lies only put off the inevitable conversation that usually starts with...."I'm not happy".

I did stay with my Husband longer than I should have because of the kids, but in the end even my kids would rather I was happy, I only left him about 4yrs ago and have met 2 men since that I love more than I thought possible...

People will always do what is right for themselves, and lies are easy to see if you want to look!

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

All men are free to end a relationship that no longer works for them...excuses are just that...an excuse.

ones that get me is they wont end the marriage cos of the kids.. so basically sex is more important than their kids.. nice

People will always do what is right for themselves, and lies are easy to see if you want to look!

thats exactly it, they do whats right for themselves even tho they are in a relationship and its no longer just about themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I refused a meet a few weeks ago..because I was basically in a committed relationship (nonfab/internet)..the relationship was atest that never took off at all really..on the day I was offered a meetup I refused even though I knew I was 'ending' things that day with the 'partner' lol..I do wish I hadnt, however I know I wouldnt have felt right going to the meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

exactly just meeting for a session of fun.. not just no lifetime commitment but no comeback from a disgruntled partner either,..

just cos someone is single doesnt mean they are looking for more.. i dont get that.. im single cos i choose to be.. so why would i suddenly change that?

therefore to me a cheater has massive strings that come off them.. out the door and attached to their family.. no thanks"

You have put a different slant on it. I do not believe married guarantees anything; and certainly not NSA. Nor does single mean desperate for a mate. The selection process included in some profiles does however read more like a dating site than a sex site. It appears to focus on matters not directly relevant to sex; married being one in question.

People are however welcome to ask for whatever they like so I mean no criticism here of being choosy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thats exactly it, they do whats right for themselves even tho they are in a relationship and its no longer just about themselves"

To be fair...the wee woman sitting at home being cheated on is not innocent either is she?

She also knows there is something not right in the relationship, somethings different, somethings changed...does she confront or stick her head in the sand?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are a cpl and states on profile that we do not play alone..... but still get asked to meet on my own with the line "what he dont know wont hurt"

i will not cheat on my partner so i will not meet alone for a sexual encounter

if a guy is married then as far as we are concerned its their business not ours

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over a year ago

thats exactly it, they do whats right for themselves even tho they are in a relationship and its no longer just about themselves

To be fair...the wee woman sitting at home being cheated on is not innocent either is she?

She also knows there is something not right in the relationship, somethings different, somethings changed...does she confront or stick her head in the sand?

The "wee woman" should not be pitied too much as it depends on circumstances.

My ex-wife used to use sex a tool. "Do this and you can have some". I wonder sometimes if women like that ever comprehend how demeaning it is to play a man like they are training a dog. Cuming with someone who treats you like that is like masturbating in a public place.

I thought "if she does not want it I will find someone who does". And there were many! No regrets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was married fcuk playing away. Just go play with wife instead. Why cheat ?

some men have attractive wives but they say they are prudish and uptight.

All men are free to end a relationship that no longer works for them...excuses are just that...an excuse.

ones that get me is they wont end the marriage cos of the kids.. so basically sex is more important than their kids.. nice"

Utter utter rubbish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cos men and woman think differently maybe?

or cos the men are genuially more desperate as there are much fewer woman on here?

for me cheaters is a no regardless of sex

Desperate ? ........ If you say so

i didnt say all men did i..

I know some very desperate women

Have ye tried shaggin them?

Unfortunately yes and it won't happen again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was married fcuk playing away. Just go play with wife instead. Why cheat ?

some men have attractive wives but they say they are prudish and uptight.

All men are free to end a relationship that no longer works for them...excuses are just that...an excuse.

ones that get me is they wont end the marriage cos of the kids.. so basically sex is more important than their kids.. nice

Utter utter rubbish"

so cheating and causing a botter break up just cos they want sex doesnt mean sex is more important.. right..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather not meet married or attached men but as the OP said they can lie. It's easy enough to wheedle out the married ones if your ok with that then it your choice and that's what fab is about CHOICE

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over a year ago

I thought "if she does not want it I will find someone who does". And there were many! No regrets.

Would it not have been kinder and easier to think "if she does not want it I will leave and end the relationship"?

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By *enny PR9TV/TS
over a year ago

Southport

I blame parents for this, after all they're the ones who start lying to their kids about Farther Christmas and The Tooth fairy.

It's no wonder people turn into lying scumbags when they grow up.

Jenny

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over a year ago

I thought "if she does not want it I will find someone who does". And there were many! No regrets.

Would it not have been kinder and easier to think "if she does not want it I will leave and end the relationship"?

To leave takes a lot of time and money and buggers up the children. Plus it was only one aspect of my life the rest of the relationship was fine.

I now have two wonderful and successful adult offspring. If I had not stayed their life would probably have been shot for the sake of my sex life.

as I said No Regrets.

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over a year ago

"I blame parents for this, after all they're the ones who start lying to their kids about Farther Christmas and The Tooth fairy.

It's no wonder people turn into lying scumbags when they grow up.

Jenny"

As House MD said "Everybody Lies"

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"why is it a lot of women couples wont meet a married guy if he says married on his profile but if he lies and says hes single does that mean they get more offers????"
For me/ us it is about having the choice not to be involved with anything that could backfire when the partner finds out. That's all there is to it really and would not judge you for what you are doing.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

As House MD said "Everybody Lies"

tad simplistic....

that is like saying everyones lies are the same value..... and we know that isn't the case

in the eyes of most i think there is a subtle difference between saying "i had one piece of chocolate" when you had 2..... and in effect going behind the person "who you profess to love more than any others" back......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As House MD said "Everybody Lies"

tad simplistic....

that is like saying everyones lies are the same value..... and we know that isn't the case

In my eyes there's no difference,

Why should the liar get to ASSUME that its ok to lie to me if its for my own good?

If they lie so easily about things that don't matter how can you expect the truth when it really counts?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

sorry... that should read "every lie is of the same value"....

i hate the "well we all lie" arguement, because there is a difference between a fib and a whopper.....

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over a year ago

exactly just meeting for a session of fun.. not just no lifetime commitment but no comeback from a disgruntled partner either,..

just cos someone is single doesnt mean they are looking for more.. i dont get that.. im single cos i choose to be.. so why would i suddenly change that?

therefore to me a cheater has massive strings that come off them.. out the door and attached to their family.. no thanks

People are however welcome to ask for whatever they like so I mean no criticism here of being choosy.

so what your saying is.. because its just sex no one should have choices or preferences and just go with anyone who asks?

i think there is enough reasons wirtten on this thread as to why even on here cheaters are avoided.. and has nothing to do with wanting to find someone who they can marry

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over a year ago

I thought "if she does not want it I will find someone who does". And there were many! No regrets.

Would it not have been kinder and easier to think "if she does not want it I will leave and end the relationship"?

To leave takes a lot of time and money and buggers up the children. Plus it was only one aspect of my life the rest of the relationship was fine.

I now have two wonderful and successful adult offspring. If I had not stayed their life would probably have been shot for the sake of my sex life.

as I said No Regrets.

what would of happened while the kids were young and cheatign ways are found out?

is it worth the risk just for some sex

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over a year ago

I can understand as to why people would not want to have fun with a married person who is cheating.

However, why should it be just as difficult for those men (not women) who have permission from their partners.

My wife is not ill, disabled or just don't want sex. We have a very good sex life, but like others on here, I would like something different occasionally.

We tried this lifestyle together but she decided it wasn't for her at that time. She said, why don't you play on your own. It took a lot of convincing me to actually play on my own and yes I'd prefer her to join me. She is ok with it as long as she knows where I'm going.

It is frustrating when people choose not to meet because I'm married, but I respect their decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

doesnt matter how much you love your kids or even wife, being married and having kids can get very tedious and boring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"doesnt matter how much you love your kids or even wife, being married and having kids can get very tedious and boring.

its the choice you made in life.. time for reflection if you feel this way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"doesnt matter how much you love your kids or even wife, being married and having kids can get very tedious and boring.

its the choice you made in life.. time for reflection if you feel this way"

i guess it might of seemed like a good idea at the time.

nothing stays the same though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if your married you should be honest and the same if your gay its not funny turning up to a meet and finding the single fem is really a guy

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"why is it a lot of women couples wont meet a married guy if he says married on his profile but if he lies and says hes single does that mean they get more offers????"

If he lies, and they do not discover it, then, to them, they are still meeting a single man. THEY are not to blame for that - HE is!

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over a year ago

I think its rather obvious without explaining it or reading it in the above posts.

Its a personal opinion for many and a very valid point. They don't wished to get involved in a potentially volatile situation or something that is lets face it deceitful.

Now before I'm laughed out of here for my hypocrisy....yes I'm married, yes I've met on here but no I'm not indifferent, and no I don't lack guilt, but I don't pester or question others choices about me.

A lot of the accusations made at married men can't really be argued against if were honest, but everyone has reasons, and everyone makes choices and I'd never question someone's choice about who they meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I think its rather obvious without explaining it or reading it in the above posts.

Its a personal opinion for many and a very valid point. They don't wished to get involved in a potentially volatile situation or something that is lets face it deceitful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ere Ere So good to see n ere some folk

still got principles

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over a year ago

"why is it a lot of women couples wont meet a married guy if he says married on his profile but if he lies and says hes single does that mean they get more offers????

If he lies, and they do not discover it, then, to them, they are still meeting a single man. THEY are not to blame for that - HE is!"

If they met him knowing he was cheating on someone then they are just as untrustworthy and devious as he is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I imagine that's another thread, but I'd personally choose to walk in another's shoes before I pass judgement

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By *edonisticMan
over a year ago

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Everyone has the basic right of choice,if you lie, on here and to the wife, you deny them that right. . How would you feel if lied to so wife could play away..

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"why is it a lot of women couples wont meet a married guy if he says married on his profile but if he lies and says hes single does that mean they get more offers????"

Married men are not fun playmates for me at all. Therefore hardly rocket science then why I won't meet them.

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