FabSwingers.com forum: Dating as a swinger

By *leafordian75 OP Man
42 weeks ago

Newark

Got divorced 7 years ago and joined Fab swiftly after. Then dated a woman from work and ceased Fab. Didn't mention to her about my past on here and, after a couple of years, together we split.

Now looking to date again. Would love to date someone who has an interest in the lifestyle but have no idea how to go about it. Are there dating apps specifically for swingers? Or do I put that as an interest on 'normal' dating apps and scare 98% of woman off?

Any help gratefully received.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
42 weeks ago

SW Scotland

I’d be 100% honest on other chats that you enjoy this lifestyle and don’t want to give it up.

Everyone that we talk to about swinging that’s not already doing it are very intrigued.

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By *ellhungvweMan
42 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I am not in the dating market/looking for a relationship ship so my “advice” might be slightly off but if swinging is important to you moving forward then why wouldn’t you want to get rid, as quickly as possible, of the 98% who are not interested? Filter them out by putting it on your profile.

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By *ensual bi mature gentMan
42 weeks ago

London and elsewhere

I agree, be open.

Half the world are repressed swingers but dare not try.

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By *oe n JayCouple
42 weeks ago

Surrey

Be honest! And with time you'll find someone that genuinely shares the same interests as you.

Settle for anything less and you'll find yourself back in your first marriage.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

I'm open to dating and am in the same situation. How to broach the subject with a prospective new bf x

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Many who I mention it to are intrigued and turned on by it and others start to hint at wanting threesomes etc without any prompting from me so I think it's not such a barrier as we imagine xx

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By *umbriaman1962Man
42 weeks ago

outside of penrith

When dating from vanilla site maybe not first date . Talk about things drop hint you had 3 some in past see if shocked or ask questions etc or even better it opens up chance for them to say if done same etc

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By *oxy jWoman
42 weeks ago

taunton somerset

i think if you go looking for it then it will be extremely hard those that have found it normally are not looking for it in the first place meaning it just happens ..

just remember those who will tell you it happens are normally the very lucky ones who are in such relationships .. the 1,-000s who looking will tell you how hard it really is ... the club scene seems where most meet and your face with the fact there are so few single women on this scene of which most dont want relationships that leaves a very small pool of women... its hard for a guy to get a meet let alone a relationship on thiis scene..

it can work the proof is out there to say so but most swinging couples are from already very strong relationships the problem with new ones is thats a big dynamic to add in to a new relationship some with handle it no problem but most wont normal relationships are hard to find let alone ones that add swinging right from the beginning... ...

sorry im so blunt and to the point and hope you find what your looking for

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By *ain and sortedMan
42 weeks ago

Old Harlow Essex

It’s a bit of a gamble telling someone on a date. Some will be shocked and frightened you are going to fuck behind their backs

Others however will be intrigued or maybe already experienced swinging fun or explored it on the internet

When dating I’m upfront about it as I will still wish to go to clubs and parties

A partner to go with would be ideal

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By *izzy.Woman
42 weeks ago

Stoke area

There are many couples on this site who met here as two singles. I'd just meet ladies on here saying you want repeat meets and are open to the idea of a relationship. At least they will have an understanding of the lifestyle from the outset.

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By *sWyldWoman
42 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I think it's possible to find love anywhere and no reason why you couldn't date from here.

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By *tagmeupMan
42 weeks ago

wirral

Good luck, i would like this myself

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By *ojo2joWoman
42 weeks ago

Penclawdd

"There are many couples on this site who met here as two singles. I'd just meet ladies on here saying you want repeat meets and are open to the idea of a relationship. At least they will have an understanding of the lifestyle from the outset. "

This is pretty much what my response was going to be and the approach I will take when looking.

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By *leafordian75 OP Man
42 weeks ago

Newark

Thanks all. I think you've probably all confirmed what I already knew.

Will continue hunting out the fun on here and, in time, search out a relationship where I will be open and honest about my interests from the start. Well, not the very start. I'll let her order her drink first....

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By *oxy jWoman
42 weeks ago

taunton somerset

given how few single women are looking yes its easy for a woman she has the pick of a zillion men who are looking that makes it for men almost impossible

its so easy for those who have found it to say to others yes you can as your alreadin that relationship try telling all those men who want sawinging relationships that yeah your be ok when the truth is they really wont ..there's not a meet for every guy on here simply impossible so how is a relationship seeking going to work ??? even more impossible .... most who have met and got into relationships were not looking and thats the point anyone can fall in love anywhere thats 100% true but on a scene where the men are 99% of the scene /site then for most its a pipedream ...

thats not me trying to be a sourpuss that just a honest look at how things are if your a woman then yep its properly easy ish if you a guy then no not so

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
42 weeks ago

Attend as many fab socials as you can, Don't rule out a long distance relationship or you could try the club scene

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
42 weeks ago

near you...

"Attend as many fab socials as you can, Don't rule out a long distance relationship or you could try the club scene"

Yep, that's what my advice would be. Almost all my girlfriends think swinging is for the fat, the weird or the boring. If only they knew...

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

You never know unless you try, perhaps introduce the idea during sexy intermit talk and judge how it's received?

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By *apiomanMan
42 weeks ago

Shipley

I am in a similar situation. One woman started a conversation with lots of references to ice cream flavours ... looking forward to seeing how that progresses!

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By *imkev76Couple
42 weeks ago

GOSPORT

When I met my now husband I didn’t mention previous experiences in the lifestyle - afraid it wouldn’t go down well - but we both had a high sex drive and I decided to ask his thoughts, he was open to it and we’ve never looked back! We now chat openly and enjoy everything together. I can imagine it’s a tougher subject for a guy to bring up! There should be a swingers dating site. Good luck! After 13 years together I really don’t envy anyone on the dating route these days.

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