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Have you ever "tested" a partner?

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By *hil most chill OP   Man
42 weeks ago

South East & Europe

The title is a little vague so I'll try and explain. On one of my first meets, when I was on another site (nearly 20 years ago now ), we were getting busy in the back of my car, and she tried to get on top and slip me inside her unprotected. When I stopped her and said we should use protection, she said something along the lines of "well done, you passed the test", before we rubbered up and continued.

I never knew if she planned to "test" me like that, or if she just came up with that excuse when I resisted going in raw. Have you ever done anything like that on a meet, or had it done to you?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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42 weeks ago

East Sussex

No I'd never do it

My ex claimed he was 'testing' me to see if he could trust me. He was the one lying

It's usually an excuse to pass blame for bad behaviour on to the person you're behaving badly towards. Or a sign of mistrust

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By *hil most chill OP   Man
42 weeks ago

South East & Europe


"No I'd never do it

My ex claimed he was 'testing' me to see if he could trust me. He was the one lying

It's usually an excuse to pass blame for bad behaviour on to the person you're behaving badly towards. Or a sign of mistrust "

Yeah I've always thought she was probably lying...

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
42 weeks ago

chichester


"The title is a little vague so I'll try and explain. On one of my first meets, when I was on another site (nearly 20 years ago now ), we were getting busy in the back of my car, and she tried to get on top and slip me inside her unprotected. When I stopped her and said we should use protection, she said something along the lines of "well done, you passed the test", before we rubbered up and continued.

I never knew if she planned to "test" me like that, or if she just came up with that excuse when I resisted going in raw. Have you ever done anything like that on a meet, or had it done to you?"

No not something I would do Surely that part would be agreed before sex anyway

If someone was trying to test me. The only thing they would be testing is exiting the door within minutes

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By *iasubTV/TS
42 weeks ago

Ilkeston


"The title is a little vague so I'll try and explain. On one of my first meets, when I was on another site (nearly 20 years ago now ), we were getting busy in the back of my car, and she tried to get on top and slip me inside her unprotected. When I stopped her and said we should use protection, she said something along the lines of "well done, you passed the test", before we rubbered up and continued.

I never knew if she planned to "test" me like that, or if she just came up with that excuse when I resisted going in raw. Have you ever done anything like that on a meet, or had it done to you?

No not something I would do Surely that part would be agreed before sex anyway

If someone was trying to test me. The only thing they would be testing is exiting the door within minutes "

Exactly same for me too

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By *needabrewMan
42 weeks ago

the hills

Does sound a bit like "I dont trust you so I will see if I am right "sort of thing.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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42 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Does sound a bit like "I dont trust you so I will see if I am right "sort of thing."

It's either that or ' you've discovered something I've done wrong so I'm going to make it seem that I needed to test your loyalty to me because otherwise I'll be exposed '

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

I (still) believe in good communication. I do not like to be tested, it tells me someone was not sincere with me, still doesn't trust me, and it makes my guard go up. Not a good prognosticator of a repeat meet.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
42 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

No, I haven't ever wanted or needed to.

I think by the sounds she was embarrassed when you caught her out and tried to make out it was a test op.

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By *hil most chill OP   Man
42 weeks ago

South East & Europe


"No, I haven't ever wanted or needed to.

I think by the sounds she was embarrassed when you caught her out and tried to make out it was a test op. "

I think that's exactly what happened. It would be out of order to lay traps for someone, especially when you had reached the intimate stage.

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By *tlanshiaWoman
42 weeks ago

Chatham

If I have to test a partner in any way shape size or form.

It is an indicator that I don't trust them and it's time to move on.

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