FabSwingers.com forum: does swinging stop cheating?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok, here goes!

Been married twice before and was a bad lad on the affair front, lots of times

But, since Viv and I have been together (over 5 years) it has never crossed my mind.

We talked and talked when we got together and found out we had both been as bad as each other!

Was not long before we tried swinging and really enjoyed it, although we are very occassional swingers.

The question is..... do we not stray because we have found real soul mates and love each other so much, or has the act of swinging and enjoying it helped?

Your thoughts.......

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By *uyuksno1Man
over a year ago

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try not swinging if you dont cheat youve got your answer

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I know a good few swingers who still cheat behind their swinging partners back..

so in some cases yes... in some NO.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Depends why you cheated in other relationships. Mine was because i wanted variety and i thought there was something wrong with me. Now im in a wonderful relationship and dont have to swing behind his back. Some people cheat because they just get a buzz out of shagging behind their partners back, im sure there are many people that are swingers where one of the partners has cheated as well, ie arranging meets behind the other persons back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know a good few swingers who still cheat behind their swinging partners back..

so in some cases yes... in some NO."

I agree

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By * n zCouple
over a year ago

leamington spa

I think if there are unhappy with their relationship they may cheat regardless........not all cheat for sex, some fall in love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The question is..... do we not stray because we have found real soul mates and love each other so much, or has the act of swinging and enjoying it helped?

Only you know the answer to that

Personally I don't believe swinging stops cheating as a lot of people who cheat like the thrill of it and like having their own little secret, swinging does not stop that, I know lots of couple who have split because they have found out their partner has cheated and I get messages weekly from male halfs of couples asking me to meet them alone so over all it don't stop cheating tho it my work for some

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"try not swinging if you dont cheat youve got your answer

Think you have missed the point completeley!

We enjoy swinging together only!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"try not swinging if you dont cheat youve got your answer

Think you have missed the point completeley!

We enjoy swinging together only!

I agree with the OP's sentiment here.

Cheating is a generic term which covers so many mitigations.

I'm married. I came looking here after several years of no sex and feeling like I wasn't desired other than in the usefulness stakes. Take aside your perspectives....I didn't want a messy affair I came looking to see if its possible to meet like minded people who wanted no strings fun.

Sadly I've had a few misconceptions....swinging isn't about simply meeting for a "shag". Its a lifestyle and takes a certain personality. Many dip their toes in but true swingers wouldn't feel the need.

And to contradict.....there's always the exception to the rules, but I believe true swingers won't stray for sex.....emotions may be another issue ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"try not swinging if you dont cheat youve got your answer

Think you have missed the point completeley!

We enjoy swinging together only!

just picked up on this

I think you have answered your own dilemma really ....You both enjoy swinging - so enjoy the lifestyle - but if i understand it correctly - your saying....

You swing with your partner; but you want to/are/or thinking about cheating on her as you did in the past ???

If thats correct then; something is wrong in your relationship that need fixing

Just my opinion ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think the swinging has prevented you from cheating on this partner as you did on others in the past. I think because this relationship is more open and honest that you dont feel the need to cheat in this relationship.

I think it is the communication within this relationship that is the difference and not the swinging.

If I have understood you correctly.

Swinging will not fix a relationship.

Swinging rarely saves a relationship.

Discussion and open honest ones at that do.

All In MY opinion..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont think the swinging has prevented you from cheating on this partner as you did on others in the past. I think because this relationship is more open and honest that you dont feel the need to cheat in this relationship.

I think it is the communication within this relationship that is the difference and not the swinging.

If I have understood you correctly.

Swinging will not fix a relationship.

Swinging rarely saves a relationship.

Discussion and open honest ones at that do.

All In MY opinion.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is the communication within this relationship that is the difference and not the swinging.

If I have understood you correctly.

Swinging will not fix a relationship.

Swinging rarely saves a relationship.

Discussion and open honest ones at that do.

All In MY opinion.."

Very good point.

If you are in a relationship in which you are sexually unfulfilled there is a huge temptation to relieve that frustration elsewhere. It seems to follow that if you are frustrated your relationship with your partner is possibly not open and as a consequence you will "cheat" in private.

One question here is though the word "cheat". Fab is full of people who love their spouse or partner and yet engage in casual sex with others. Surely resisting sex alone (being faithful) is not a measure of love? Would not meeting for a platonic lunch twice a week and holding hands in an emotional way be more destructive than a fuck with someone who you hardly knew?

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