FabSwingers.com forum: Guilt

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all

Having just recently discovered the forums I have enjoyed reading them and wondered if any of you have dealt with

Guilt.

I joined FAB when I was separated from my hubs and had a great time, we got back together and he is totally opposed to this! I have not met anyone since, and have just logged on occasionally to have a peep etc.

I would like to play again, but I'm not sure if the guilt will build up!! Because my own view is its cheating!! And I don't consider myself a heartless bitch conscious. Have you guys ever had this issue??

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you view it as cheating then its not a good idea and you probably will feel extremely guilty!

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Try to bring around to the idea,my wife wasn't to sure to start with ,so we started slowly ,first by camming ,then soft swap eventually she got into it and enjoys our meets we even do solo every now and again,I am sure if you persuaded him he will get into it too .even if you take him to a club and not play .if he,s a red hot blooded male like most on here ,you will get your way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suspect for a woman who likes plenty of sex, and through Fab got it, it must be like drug withdrawal to go back to a monogamous relationship.

The real question is, if you lust after the swinging lifestyle, and your partner does not, how long are you going to survive before you fall back into it? You only have one life and you should enjoy it.

If your ex, now present, man does not share you point of view then perhaps the compatibility has died?

I wish you luck and good judgement in making your decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never experienced it myself not having been in your situation.

But Having read your original post - I think you've answered your own question as to whether you should consider it or not.

There's no reason why you can't enjoy the forums and even just socialising/chatting on site - there's no rule you have to actually meet! Might be worth just doing that for a while and seeing how things go with the OH.

Whatever you decide - good luck!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sure that guilt is an issue for many of the users in Fabs. The "single" married guys who are playing away must have it. Just as much as the ones who say their wives have "gone off sex" since the kids etc...

I feel it too when I have a good meet and hubby doesn't know... specially if he is being sweet, kind and loving as he usually tends to be...

Yes, guilt comes with the territory!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't suffer from guilt at all. It is only sex and supposed to be fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont do it as its cheating.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

I would consider how you would feel if the situation was reversed and you found out he was on here meeting people behind your back. Try and feel that pain for a moment and then decide if you want to be responsible for hurting him that way ..hope things work out for you guys though whatever you decide to do

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I forst joined Fab when I seperated from my wife. After a few months I met a lovely lady and had a relationship with her for 15 months or so.

During that time I hid my profile and didn't log on. I only kept it as I was enough of a cynic to not delete it outright.

Coming on here to just chat isn't cheating as such, but it's not far off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys for your thoughts!!!!

It's hard when you want to play but don't want to hurt the person in your life!!! I think look buy don't touch is the best option!! I don't lead anyone one, I tell people I'm not meeting anyway!!!

Grrrrrr but there are some very fine sexy people on here!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi we only play together and think it's cheating to play behind a partners back. The question is how would you feel if he was having sex with others behind your back and sending naughty messages to other women. He might even be having the same problem as you but has never told you? Perhaps you weren't ready to get back with him. Hope you dint mind the post x

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Absolutely cock on and echoed. Whichever decision you come to hope it works right for you both. What's meant to be ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi we only play together and think it's cheating to play behind a partners back. The question is how would you feel if he was having sex with others behind your back and sending naughty messages to other women. He might even be having the same problem as you but has never told you? Perhaps you weren't ready to get back with him. Hope you dint mind the post x"

Hi, no not at all!!! To be honest its what I think!! We have talked about some if it and he has said its not for him... Which I respect.

I guess if I'm brutally honest... I want my cake and eat it, but that isn't gonna happen!!!

I know what I should do, which is not come on here, but I have some friends that I have made and enjoy chattin with, not all dirty though!! And it's hard to stop!!!!

Thanks guys! You can't put icing on the subject, it is what it is!!!

Xxx

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