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By *marty300 OP   Man
43 weeks ago

Macclesfield

Why it's so hard for a young single male like myself to get a chance to play with someone. No one wants you

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By *host63Man
43 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

Dos you rhonk that by doing this it was going to be easy?...

Ah the delusion of youth.

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By *moothdickMan
43 weeks ago

stoke

Wait til u get to my age

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
43 weeks ago

Bourne lincs

Because this site is full of people looking at ur pics or talk about it

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
43 weeks ago

Next Door

OP, you've had 2 meets since you've been on here in the 3 months. That's good.

Why not attend a local social and get talking to others.

And don't whinge on the forums about how hard it is. It's hard for everyone

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By *marty300 OP   Man
43 weeks ago

Macclesfield

I am telling the truth

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By *marty300 OP   Man
43 weeks ago

Macclesfield

Yes I am trying to do this but believe me it's also hard while doing it

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By *marty300 OP   Man
43 weeks ago

Macclesfield

True

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

I’d say stop generalising to “young single male”s in general and look more specifically at yourself.

Not that I’m saying there’s anything wrong with you at all. It’s just that it seems like you’re saying the reason you haven’t got to meet anyone is because of the demographic you fall into?

It’s unlikely to be that.

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By *marty300 OP   Man
43 weeks ago

Macclesfield

Need some help & tips sick of being ignored and getting a chance to meet or play

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

Have you visited a club again since your last visit? They are often a good way to meet people.

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By *marty300 OP   Man
43 weeks ago

Macclesfield

No dear I didn't visit again after that.

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By *marty300 OP   Man
42 weeks ago

Macclesfield

What I am missing.. need a expert opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago


"Need some help & tips sick of being ignored and getting a chance to meet or play "

This is the thing though… you’re not owed a meet just because this is a swingers site

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By *hrimper36Couple
42 weeks ago

Central France dept 36


"Need some help & tips sick of being ignored and getting a chance to meet or play "

Tip number 1.

Use reply+quote on the forums so people know who you are replying to.

T

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By *marty300 OP   Man
42 weeks ago

Macclesfield


"Need some help & tips sick of being ignored and getting a chance to meet or play

Tip number 1.

Use reply+quote on the forums so people know who you are replying to.

T"

Thank you for yours suggestion

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By *marty300 OP   Man
42 weeks ago

Macclesfield


"Need some help & tips sick of being ignored and getting a chance to meet or play

This is the thing though… you’re not owed a meet just because this is a swingers site"

Yeah I know but I need some tips or suggestions which can improve my chances

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By *oiluvfunMan
42 weeks ago

Penrith


"No dear I didn't visit again after that. "

It looks like you’ve done at least two visits to Cupids, which appeared to work well for you, why don’t you go back again? Stick to what works for you. I found the club scene hard work as a single guy, so I rarely visit them anymore

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By *atter3127Man
42 weeks ago

stoke on trent


"What I am missing.. need a expert opinion "

Expert opinion. Accept sooner rather than later that on this site and in this community women are VASTLY out numbered by men.

They can, as is there’s and everyone else’s right, be choosy.

There has to be something very special about you to stand out and grab a woman’s attention, particularly when most women get 30-200 messages a day from single guys, and couples.

That may all sound very cynical of me but… maybe I’m just tired and had a long day, but it feels very true.

Stick to going to the clubs. At least you can strike up a conversation with people that way!

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By *evergiveupMan
42 weeks ago

derbyshire

Hey - I'm an older guy but still manage to find friends on here.

No secret - but be patient, courteous, accepting and try to be interesting.

If you are really genuine then the people that are interested will find you -- secret then is too be good enough that people want to see you again

Too much hard work for a one-off!

Good luck

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
42 weeks ago

Home

You don't have to be young

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By *marty300 OP   Man
42 weeks ago

Macclesfield


"No dear I didn't visit again after that.

It looks like you’ve done at least two visits to Cupids, which appeared to work well for you, why don’t you go back again? Stick to what works for you. I found the club scene hard work as a single guy, so I rarely visit them anymore "

that's what I think as well.as in these two visits I didn't get a chance to play. So I stop visiting but It's also on my mind to give a try to a different club and see how it goes

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By *marty300 OP   Man
42 weeks ago

Macclesfield


"What I am missing.. need a expert opinion

Expert opinion. Accept sooner rather than later that on this site and in this community women are VASTLY out numbered by men.

They can, as is there’s and everyone else’s right, be choosy.

There has to be something very special about you to stand out and grab a woman’s attention, particularly when most women get 30-200 messages a day from single guys, and couples.

That may all sound very cynical of me but… maybe I’m just tired and had a long day, but it feels very true.

Stick to going to the clubs. At least you can strike up a conversation with people that way! "

Thank you for your kind words I will try my best to stick with that

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By *marty300 OP   Man
42 weeks ago

Macclesfield


"Hey - I'm an older guy but still manage to find friends on here.

No secret - but be patient, courteous, accepting and try to be interesting.

If you are really genuine then the people that are interested will find you -- secret then is too be good enough that people want to see you again

Too much hard work for a one-off!

Good luck "
I got it thank you

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By *marty300 OP   Man
42 weeks ago

Macclesfield


"Need some help & tips sick of being ignored and getting a chance to meet or play

This is the thing though… you’re not owed a meet just because this is a swingers site"

Just tell me how can I improve or be prominent to be in the eyes of everyone

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
42 weeks ago

Kent

Posts like this won’t help. You’re not owed or guaranteed playing or meets whether it’s through here or in a club. We are very particular about who we play with, we would rather not play than do it for the sake of doing it.

C x

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago


"Need some help & tips sick of being ignored and getting a chance to meet or play

This is the thing though… you’re not owed a meet just because this is a swingers site

Just tell me how can I improve or be prominent to be in the eyes of everyone "

You will never please everyone - you’re much better off being yourself and looking for what you actually want

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By *ickD80Man
42 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

If someone gives you tips and advice on how to get meets and then you change your behaviour to suit the tips and advice you received then it means you’re not being yourself. If you behave in a way that someone has told you to behave rather than how you’d normally behave and you get meets because of it then it means you’re manipulating and deceiving someone so that they’ll have sex with you.

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By *aybe79Man
42 weeks ago

Uxbridge

if it was to easy it would be boring

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By *marty300 OP   Man
42 weeks ago

Macclesfield


"Need some help & tips sick of being ignored and getting a chance to meet or play

This is the thing though… you’re not owed a meet just because this is a swingers site

Just tell me how can I improve or be prominent to be in the eyes of everyone

You will never please everyone - you’re much better off being yourself and looking for what you actually want"
that's what I'm doing but didn't get anything

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By *oiluvfunMan
41 weeks ago

Penrith


"No dear I didn't visit again after that.

It looks like you’ve done at least two visits to Cupids, which appeared to work well for you, why don’t you go back again? Stick to what works for you. I found the club scene hard work as a single guy, so I rarely visit them anymore

that's what I think as well.as in these two visits I didn't get a chance to play. So I stop visiting but It's also on my mind to give a try to a different club and see how it goes "

I’ve been to several different clubs mate, and they’re all basically the same; as far as meeting women is concerned, you’re better off in your local Weatherspoons

Give Fab time. Think about what/who you’re really looking to meet in here, and when you message someone, just be yourself. If you get knocked back, just block their profile, and move on. You’re in a far better location for opportunities than I am, and I’ve done ok over the years

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By *marty300 OP   Man
41 weeks ago

Macclesfield


"No dear I didn't visit again after that.

It looks like you’ve done at least two visits to Cupids, which appeared to work well for you, why don’t you go back again? Stick to what works for you. I found the club scene hard work as a single guy, so I rarely visit them anymore

that's what I think as well.as in these two visits I didn't get a chance to play. So I stop visiting but It's also on my mind to give a try to a different club and see how it goes

I’ve been to several different clubs mate, and they’re all basically the same; as far as meeting women is concerned, you’re better off in your local Weatherspoons

Give Fab time. Think about what/who you’re really looking to meet in here, and when you message someone, just be yourself. If you get knocked back, just block their profile, and move on. You’re in a far better location for opportunities than I am, and I’ve done ok over the years "

Thank you mate

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

This is the unfortuate reality of our situation, vastly outnumbered and people can be choosy

I think the thing that is most annoying is those who start a conversation then just disappear or ignore, I get ignoring an initial message but to just disappear after an exchange is frustrating. Social conventions and general decency seem lost these days.


"What I am missing.. need a expert opinion

Expert opinion. Accept sooner rather than later that on this site and in this community women are VASTLY out numbered by men.

They can, as is there’s and everyone else’s right, be choosy.

There has to be something very special about you to stand out and grab a woman’s attention, particularly when most women get 30-200 messages a day from single guys, and couples.

That may all sound very cynical of me but… maybe I’m just tired and had a long day, but it feels very true.

Stick to going to the clubs. At least you can strike up a conversation with people that way! "

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
41 weeks ago

Central


"Need some help & tips sick of being ignored and getting a chance to meet or play "

It's better to be ignored if they don't see that you match them. Wasted effort on people who you are not compatible with is futile

Make realistic expectations and sell yourself. If you don't, somebody else will.

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