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What’s the consensus on Winking

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By *eepConnection OP   Man
45 weeks ago

Bath

I said Winking! Naff or not?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
45 weeks ago

East Sussex

We don't have a problem with it

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
45 weeks ago

Horsham

I see it as a time saving thing.

It saves me the time of writing a well crafted message, the person the time of not bothering to read it a just delete it.

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By *irtydaddy and joMan
45 weeks ago

corby

If I get a wink, to me its an opening to send a message, saying thanks and go with the conversation from there. Led to some nice meetings

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
45 weeks ago

Maidstone

I prefer those who don't conform... please

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By *oxy jWoman
45 weeks ago

taunton somerset

i just mass delete them i have enough messages to get thru and they've made a effort .... winks are lazy

is just my opinion

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By *weetsmellingtreatsWoman
45 weeks ago

Gloucester

I just mass delete and don’t respond.

Profile also says I don’t respond so it doesn’t encourage engagement for me

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By *agusMan
45 weeks ago

Near by

I appreciate a wink

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By *ust want fun 888Man
45 weeks ago

nearby

There’s also flip to that coin, person puts in a bit of effort to the message only to see it either deleted or not replied to which is why some people wink

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By *aizyWoman
45 weeks ago

west midlands

I like receiving them, and I like sending them.

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By *yeSureMan
45 weeks ago

Glasgow

It is what it is

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By *ambsfunMan
45 weeks ago

Cambridge


"I like receiving them, and I like sending them."

I would imagine you get a lot x

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

So manyp profiles moan about not being original it's hard to send original messages to every profile plus they demand face pics a wink is just quicker and easier, alot less likely to get a response but still a chance lol

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By *wistedsoul35Man
45 weeks ago

cumbria

I like to receive them and send them.... Then hopefully gets followed up by a message

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By *EboroMan
45 weeks ago

Peterborough

Many don’t like it, however I’m very much into the winking system to establish initial interest

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By *rill PhilMan
45 weeks ago

Crediton


"I like receiving them, and I like sending them."

Not that the last one wasn't but, that's a great new profile pic! X

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By *rill PhilMan
45 weeks ago

Crediton

Honestly, I pretty much only wink as an aid to memory!

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By *aizyWoman
45 weeks ago

west midlands


"I like receiving them, and I like sending them.

Not that the last one wasn't but, that's a great new profile pic! X"

Thank you

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By *rReyMan
45 weeks ago

Fleet


"I like receiving them, and I like sending them."

I suppose it's how you do or don't respond to them that counts. I also like a wink. But some get bent out of shape about them.

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By *oxy jWoman
45 weeks ago

taunton somerset


"There’s also flip to that coin, person puts in a bit of effort to the message only to see it either deleted or not replied to which is why some people wink"

yes but thats just the norm after all its a selection / rejection scene ...its not the fault of women that the site is full of men .... so alot of us will not bother with winks if the guy thinks that he dont want to send a message because of lack of replys thats his problem nobody else's .... i can tell you for every 100 messages i get im lucky if one thats not a porn script or sex waffle or hi hows you ..fancy a fuck ..sit on this ill be lucky if one is even swinging related rather than its a sex site innit ... ... its another reason why i block alot to save it being repeated ...

winks will not get anyone a meet im clear on my profile about it and of course that will then just prove that they've not read it anyway or they think they are the bees knees and it dont mean themselves .... ill stick to my process it works for me

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By *andb69Couple
45 weeks ago

leeds

We often wink if we particularly like a profile, the photographs it contains, or the bodies in the photographs. It doesn't necessarily mean we want to meet, or indeed that we expect any more contact. It's just to say we appreciate your profile. Correspondingly we're flattered if we get a wink. Ultimately we see a wink as little more than a Fab, or perhaps a Like on Facebook, Twitter or YouTube.

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

Naff most people either hate it or can't be assed with it

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By *ister_EMan
45 weeks ago

Hayling Island

I like it as a soft option to say hi It's not pushy or intrusive and it's just a nice way of saying I like your profile or am intrigued by you and would be interested in chatting if you feel the same way...

I dont always respond to winks, but I'll always have a quick look and then either send a message or wink back If I want to chat.

Really not sure why some people are so offended by them. But it's probably different when you're a single guy and only get a couple of winks a day...lol

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By *omKsubSMan
45 weeks ago

Newton

Winks are supposed(tm) to signal interest.

if you get a wink back then you message.

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

Happy to receive, nice to know there’s interest

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By *ackonceagain1777Couple
45 weeks ago

West Mids

Nothing wrong with them x

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
45 weeks ago

Bourne lincs

Naff. People wink u message them they fuck off. So why bother in the 1st place. Winks used to mean u ar intrested. But now so many people looking at ur pics or talk about it

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

Saves writing a well thought out message just to be deleted and lower your self esteem just send a wink and hope to get one back then send a message

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
45 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

They are harmless things.

Wink and be happy

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By *iniskirtCouple
45 weeks ago

Paisley

Think they are a good part of the site, gives an initial step that can be followed up if interested, we have sent and received winks x

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By *ewby01327Man
45 weeks ago

Daventry

Bit of harmless fun which can always lead to ice being broken

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
45 weeks ago

Leeds

We've had some good meets that started with a wink so I quite like them, it's a good icebreaker - some don't like them though.

Mrs

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By *needabrewMan
45 weeks ago

the hills

If only i was so lucky. Beats a message of "hey" or "meet now"

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By *reenleavesCouple
45 weeks ago

North Wales

Winks are good! Especially when they're from a profile you've been eyeing up for a while It's also less faff than responding to messages from people you're into into.

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

Too much of it and you'll go blind!

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

I’ll normally wink, to gauge their interest, if I get a wink back I usually send a message. I know a lot of women/couples get bombarded with messages so I try get some indication before I send one

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
45 weeks ago

Lingfield

I normally wink first unless I think I've got a pretty good chance of getting a reply to a message. Little point in writing individual messages for them to be ignored, my time is precious so I'm choosy.

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By *s2walesCouple
45 weeks ago

Gwent...

Winking is our way of saying 'hi' ,we've seen your profile and we're interested...

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By *ittymcgeeCouple
45 weeks ago

Stevenage

We like a cheeky wink. If we wink back it means we’re interested, drop us a message!

Or we wink and get one back we take that as our cue to send a message.

It helps to quickly gauge initial interest

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By *aomilatteCouple
45 weeks ago

Midlands

We'll wink back if interested, then about 20% will follow up with a message. We've taken time to both read their profile, so unsure if it's classed as time-wasting. We have however had a few meets that started with a wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

Waste of time. Site should remove it like Facebook did with the Poke option.

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By *moothdickMan
45 weeks ago

stoke

I quite like em

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago


"I said Winking! Naff or not?"

we like it as a way of showing initial interest

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By *needabrewMan
45 weeks ago

the hills

Wink all you like at me. However sometimes I forget to look at them

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By *atchusplay1000Couple
45 weeks ago

Sutton Coldfield

I don't respond to winks.

I know the wink function is there to express interest, but I find it a bit lazy.

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By *ustyb555Couple
45 weeks ago

leeds

If we like the look of them we send a wink, if they wink back we send a message. It's the way we've always done it and we have met some great people

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By *ragonbaitCouple
45 weeks ago

Reading and Aberdare

I like winking, and I like getting winks - if I like the look of the profile I’ll message to say thanks nd hopefully start a bit of a chat.

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By *arry monk40Man
45 weeks ago

Telford

I like it but no-one acknowledge it

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By *obin444Man
45 weeks ago

Windsor

I like it. Harmless way, of showing initial interest

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

If somebody winks at me I assume that they are interested, I will check the person's profile and wink back if I like what I see.

I wink at people that interest me to see if I get a wink back, if I do then I will send a message....I think that many don't even look at winks though, I look at every one that I receive.

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By *inderellamanMan
45 weeks ago

London

I prefer winks as a guy it saves alot of wasted messages.

So if i was to recieve a wink from someone im interested in then id send a message straight away but otherwise id wink unless im seriously interested in trying meet someone

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By *lark_KentMan
45 weeks ago

Northampton

Probably the same as when this question was asked last week, and the week before..

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By *an_spMan
45 weeks ago

Coventry

Comparing a wink with a message makes little sense to me, as the one doesn’t necessarily substitute the other.

Some people feel uncomfortable with the idea of texting someone to fuck them (because it doesn’t matter how well you sugarcoat your message, you’re basically texting people to have sex with them) out of the blue. So a wink can be a good indication that there’s at least an initial attraction and makes messaging less awkward

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