FabSwingers.com forum: Reinventing the image of the single guy

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We all know that the small % of genuine single guys on here have it tough.

So what I want to ask the women and couples is, "what would it take for your faith in single guys to be restored?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it would be to just read our profile and address us as a couple and not as if the husband doesn't exist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have met quite a few single guys and still friends and talk to most of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Small percentage?? Where did you get your figures from?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet single and mostly younger men, and apart from a very small number i have never had any issues. I have met some great men and still see most of them regular. I'm not one to tar everyone with the same brush and give everyone the same courtesy that they deserve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven't lost faith...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We haven't lost faith-we're just not interested in meeting them-we swing to add the things to our relationship that we can't do for each other...that's couples and bi experience...nothing that a single guy can bring to the table for us...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us it would be to just read our profile and address us as a couple and not as if the husband doesn't exist. "

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

loads of people have faith in single men

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

We only meet single guys at clubs now ,but if your looking for couples always read there profiles ,treat them as couples as often its the husband who is keen to watch his wife with guys,if you contact them include a face picture as all cocks look the same,and never be to pushy not many wife's will meet behind their husband's backs as they don't need to

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

I think most of us will say read our profiles first. Mine may not say a lot but it does have an age range which most do not read. When I point this out, they try to explain they are the exception. If I wanted to meet guys in their early 20,s I would state it in my profile.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

"Haven't lost faith..."

Me neither...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As George Michael used to sing "You gotta have Faith Faith faith" lol

Us single guys just have to grin and bare it and get used to the fact that when it comes to find female/ MF couples its a "buyers" market lol and we are massively outnumbered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a certain image that the single male swinger has overall, but it takes little effort by an individual to break free of it, the HARD part is overcoming the sheer numbers, which can only be done through patience and persistence - oh, and actually finding someone you want to swing with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some lovely lovely men here and ones with hearts of gold ..... and theres some who live in a narsisim world .... love them and them only its there needs there needs only and will do what ever ...... Thats what you get on sites like this a real mix.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd have said the large proportion of single guys are sound and that it's only a small percentage who are knob-ends and fuck-wits.

Read the profile is the best advice to give anyone, male, female or couple.

Make sure you are what they want, don't just assume they don't know till they meet you, that you are what they have been missing in their life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont know anyone who tarnishes all males with the same brush..

if you need to ask what to do to prove ur an alright guy.. then im doubting u r..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant be arsed with arsey couples...or singles...so in fact...maybe its them that should change and not us small % of decent swingles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i dont know anyone who tarnishes all males with the same brush..

if you need to ask what to do to prove ur an alright guy.. then im doubting u r..

I agree wholeheartedly with this. Success or failure in a site such as this comes from within...and not from the behaviour of others.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"We all know that the small % of genuine single guys on here have it tough.

So what I want to ask the women and couples is, "what would it take for your faith in single guys to be restored?"

Discuss..."

it doesn't need restoring...

you make your own luck and your own ways, and the guys on here who do have success find ways to make themselves stand out from other single guys...

the site does give you the ways to make it work, up to you to work that out... no spoonfeeding as that way you don't learn...........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all know that the small % of genuine single guys on here have it tough.

So what I want to ask the women and couples is, "what would it take for your faith in single guys to be restored?"

Discuss..."

Having read your profile, i'm guessing that you seem to think that the 'million other guys' on here are timewasting, unclean, unfit, crap at oral and don't turn up for meets then?

I'm just curious how a non-verified guy knows what percentage of guys (most of whom ARE verified) are timewasters?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all know that the small % of genuine single guys on here have it tough.

So what I want to ask the women and couples is, "what would it take for your faith in single guys to be restored?"

Discuss..."

theres nothing wrong with my faith in single men as it is

Ive never had a proboem

Ive been doing this 12 years now and only had 2 no shows and one was a couple, ive had a few cancel last min but that's life, sometimes things cum up. ive had a few nasty messages from guys ive said no thanks to but again that's life, you get nice and nasty people everywhere, ive had a no show, cancelations and nasty mail from couples too

Ive met loads of great single guys, not fancied and played with everyone I have met but they have still been nice guys

I only meet single guys now and so far ive done ok on here

I think men are just a easy target for people to moan about sometimes and a lot of it is unjustified

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok then, from the responses so far, it seems I have phrased the question badly or not provided enough context.

Essentially, the question was driven by a conversation I had with a couple at Xtasia last Friday night. They were saying how the only way they meet single males was through club meets rather than online, simply due to the volume of messages they receive from single guys on here and the number of times they've been let down by time wasters. I guess the question would be better phrased as "how can the genuine single guys cut through the clutter when they find someone they're interested in". Obviously profile reading is important, I was looking for a bit more insight than that

Thanks guys and gals

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By *ipper DeVineTV/TS
over a year ago

Portsmouth

For me it would be simple, to read my profile first, and stop getting one line messages. (your great I want to fuck you) from so called straight guys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok then, from the responses so far, it seems I have phrased the question badly or not provided enough context.

this site isnt for everyone.. obv it isnt for that couple.. but for those who stick to it they make it work.

so dont worry about those who this site isnt for them

Thanks guys and gals"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok then, from the responses so far, it seems I have phrased the question badly or not provided enough context.

Thanks guys and gals"

Ok so this is based on a conversation with one couple?....might I suggest that it is the couple's issue then and not the single guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its hard to really know people .. just from a profiles and some mail here ... its risky and some love that .. like a lucky dip , lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all know that the small % of genuine single guys on here have it tough.

So what I want to ask the women and couples is, "what would it take for your faith in single guys to be restored?"

Discuss..."

The reason some people 'lose faith' with single guys (or single women and couples, for that matter) is generally nothing to do with the accursed, single male.

It tends to have a LOT more to do with the single women or couple (or single guy) not taking a good long look at THEMSELVES and questioning if the returns they are getting are actually being caused by them.

In this little world, the phrase 'You reap and you sow' is everything...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all know that the small % of genuine single guys on here have it tough.

So what I want to ask the women and couples is, "what would it take for your faith in single guys to be restored?"

Discuss...

The reason some people 'lose faith' with single guys (or single women and couples, for that matter) is generally nothing to do with the accursed, single male.

In this little world, the phrase 'You reap and you sow' is everything... "

Sorry - You reap AS you sow' is everything...

(bloody keyboard!)

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

you will only ever be treated like a piece of hired cock who is expected to jump through hoops for a meet, if YOU ALLOW it.

joined up mutual respect for each other will increase the chances of a great time had by all....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you will only ever be treated like a piece of hired cock who is expected to jump through hoops for a meet, if YOU ALLOW it.

joined up mutual respect for each other will increase the chances of a great time had by all....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok then, from the responses so far, it seems I have phrased the question badly or not provided enough context.

Thanks guys and gals"

If you were in Xtasia having that conversation, then I would say you have found the way to cut through the clutter... and I wish you every success with it! Build your friends network via the club rather than on here. Had no option but that (and parties) in the dim, dark days when I was introduced to all this...

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"Haven't lost faith...

Me neither...

"
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T en es sure?

Il va falloir changer ton " not meeting single men" en quelque chose de plus attraillante. A moins que ce ne soit une facon de limiter un certain nombre d emmerdeurs. Du coup ca punit les bons mecs aussi

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

"Haven't lost faith...

Me neither...

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T en es sure?

Mmmmm a multilinguist with a lovely smile !!

J'ai en effet limite l'acces car je prefere les contacter moi meme. Cela me donne control de ma boite. Cela ne veux pas dire que je ne suis pas d'accord avec la personne

Translation:

I have limited access to keep control of my inbox and also because I like to initiate first contact. It does not mean I cannot agree with the comment made.

Maybe you could check my post in The Lounge 'Gents...I thank you all'. You will find that my faith in single men is intact

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

hummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Frenchy, you speak the truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all know that the small % of genuine single guys on here have it tough.

So what I want to ask the women and couples is, "what would it take for your faith in single guys to be restored?"

Discuss...

it doesn't need restoring...

you make your own luck and your own ways, and the guys on here who do have success find ways to make themselves stand out from other single guys...

the site does give you the ways to make it work, up to you to work that out... no spoonfeeding as that way you don't learn...........

This

Generally if someone asks a question like this or for profile feedback I'll gladly chip in my _iews.

But you are responsible for your own interactions - regardless of the perception others have about a specific demographic on site. If you stand out, are positive, use the tools available and message only those who appear to be (note I didn't say are) looking for people like you - then you stand a far better chance of getting a positive response and outcome.

I find the thing that works for me is to pay no attention to what any other site user is doing and concentrate on me, my choices and my interactions. No one else can influence my actions, how people perceive me or if you want to term it as such - my 'successes'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all know that the small % of genuine single guys on here have it tough.

So what I want to ask the women and couples is, "what would it take for your faith in single guys to be restored?"

Discuss...

The reason some people 'lose faith' with single guys (or single women and couples, for that matter) is generally nothing to do with the accursed, single male.

In this little world, the phrase 'You reap and you sow' is everything...

Sorry - You reap AS you sow' is everything...

(bloody keyboard!)"

i dont think everyone is suited for this site.. it doesnt serve a purpose for everyone.. doesnt make them bad people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all know that the small % of genuine single guys on here have it tough.

So what I want to ask the women and couples is, "what would it take for your faith in single guys to be restored?"

Discuss...

The reason some people 'lose faith' with single guys (or single women and couples, for that matter) is generally nothing to do with the accursed, single male.

In this little world, the phrase 'You reap and you sow' is everything...

Sorry - You reap AS you sow' is everything...

(bloody keyboard!)

i dont think everyone is suited for this site.. it doesnt serve a purpose for everyone.. doesnt make them bad people"

Didn't suggest anyone was 'bad'. But there are many, many people who dip their toes into the Swinging pool, keep having the same recurring problems and never for one moment stop to think the problems might be a lot closer to hone than they thought.

Those who have been at it a while have generally all gone through that little pain barrier and come out the other side all the better for it..

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