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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

After much thought I've come to the conclusion I will never get to meet anyone of here guess I'm ugly. But I would like to say to all the nice people I've chatted to it's been a real pleasure chatting and camming with you. I will no longer use this site for anything other than cam rooms. I've tried everything in my powers to meet but it's just not happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had you lived closer to me.......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Had you lived closer to me......."
that's the response I always get lol but many thanks for the comment x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Self pity is such an attractive quality! Youre bound to get meets now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried going to a club?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Self pity is such an attractive quality! Youre bound to get meets now! "
it don't matter what I do I won't get a meet anyway that's just how it is

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you tried going to a club?

"
yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes a person can come across as desperate without knowing that they are. Just be yourself, enjoy your time on the site, and don't make self pity threads..

Good luck in whatever you decide to do!

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By *ssexguy69Man
over a year ago

thurrock Essex

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Have you tried to join in the forums Mick, honestly. People mostly join in with the banter, enter debates on more serious stuff, post on music thread etc etc. Not every poster is a prolific one, some contribute more than others but the ones who join in a cross section of subjects may have more chance of catching someone's eye that could lead to something more...

You have gone down the road of your profile and your pics being the be and end all in getting a meet, in my opinion that has worked against you, as they are repeated too many times. You draw attention to your pics, change them so many times now. People may just switch off.

Now your banter re the pics has been good, you have conducted yourself well when people have taken a pop, you have had attention from females/couples who are sadly a little further away. That tells you that there are people out there who will meet you... Harness that, maybe consider changing your approach and join in more and show your personality... I am sure you will reap the rewards.

Not being rude to you, hope you get the fun you seek and all the best

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"Self pity is such an attractive quality! Youre bound to get meets now! it don't matter what I do I won't get a meet anyway that's just how it is "

Positive things happen to positive people,,,

if you believe it won't happen sure as eggs is eggs it won't,,

Take a break if you need to, hide your profile for a bit,,

Bit of constructive criticism,, your profile isn't the best,, doesn't really sell you or make you stand out,,

Best of luck mister,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Mick

What _iew said above makes sense and all you need to do is keep chatting --contributing in FORUMS might help you and perhapes slightly edit/change some of your picture as the whole "bob the builder" poses does not seemed to have worked - other than that i think your fine...

Happy Fabbing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

People liked the pics I have so don't know what your on about . And I don't want pity I'm 28 not 10 I can take rejection after all I'm used to it haha that was a joke I really am not a negative person

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester


"Have you tried to join in the forums Mick, honestly. People mostly join in with the banter, enter debates on more serious stuff, post on music thread etc etc. Not every poster is a prolific one, some contribute more than others but the ones who join in a cross section of subjects may have more chance of catching someone's eye that could lead to something more...

You have gone down the road of your profile and your pics being the be and end all in getting a meet, in my opinion that has worked against you, as they are repeated too many times. You draw attention to your pics, change them so many times now. People may just switch off.

Now your banter re the pics has been good, you have conducted yourself well when people have taken a pop, you have had attention from females/couples who are sadly a little further away. That tells you that there are people out there who will meet you... Harness that, maybe consider changing your approach and join in more and show your personality... I am sure you will reap the rewards.

Not being rude to you, hope you get the fun you seek and all the best "

+1 good advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People liked the pics I have so don't know what your on about . And I don't want pity I'm 28 not 10 I can take rejection after all I'm used to it haha that was a joke I really am not a negative person "

ops...sorry for speaking lol...happy chatting

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"Have you tried to join in the forums Mick, honestly. People mostly join in with the banter, enter debates on more serious stuff, post on music thread etc etc. Not every poster is a prolific one, some contribute more than others but the ones who join in a cross section of subjects may have more chance of catching someone's eye that could lead to something more...

You have gone down the road of your profile and your pics being the be and end all in getting a meet, in my opinion that has worked against you, as they are repeated too many times. You draw attention to your pics, change them so many times now. People may just switch off.

Now your banter re the pics has been good, you have conducted yourself well when people have taken a pop, you have had attention from females/couples who are sadly a little further away. That tells you that there are people out there who will meet you... Harness that, maybe consider changing your approach and join in more and show your personality... I am sure you will reap the rewards.

Not being rude to you, hope you get the fun you seek and all the best "

Excellent advise. Give it a shot, you might be surprised

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

negativity.... negativity... negativity...

under your old name..... negativity...

under your new name..... negativity...

people were kind enough to offer you lots of advice... and i mean lots and lots...

and all that comes back.... negativity!

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Mick you have always taken my mick taking (lol @ pun) in good spirit and laughed it off.

You already have won several internet points in my eyes.

Just keep laughing at the forums and more importantly at yourself and all good things will come. Maybe you need help with the way you message the chicks? I'm sure forum regulars both male and female would be happy to give advice if you ask.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"negativity.... negativity... negativity...

under your old name..... negativity...

under your new name..... negativity...

people were kind enough to offer you lots of advice... and i mean lots and lots...

and all that comes back.... negativity!"
shut it you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Mick you have always taken my mick taking (lol @ pun) in good spirit and laughed it off.

You already have won several internet points in my eyes.

Just keep laughing at the forums and more importantly at yourself and all good things will come. Maybe you need help with the way you message the chicks? I'm sure forum regulars both male and female would be happy to give advice if you ask."
dont need help women on here are just not attracted to me its fine(NOT BEING NEGATIVE BY THE WAY)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are actually trying to help and give you some advice about NOT being negative, if all you can do is keep producing the negative vibes and ridiculing yourself in the forums, it will cause more harm that the "help i want people to look at my profile" treads

If you say your unattractive enough times people will believe it

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no body likes me either lol

have actually chatted to some nice people though so im happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting post, the reality is that there is between 15 - 30 men to every woman on the site within 10 miles of where ever you live. So it is not easy and it is competitive. Emails are challenging. Use your area chatrooms and get involved in the chats there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

People state the obvious thing do you not think I chat in the forums or go on cam in my area of course I've done both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

are you actually seeing people ur attracted to in ur own area?

ive been here over a year aswell and i just cant find what im looking for

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"People state the obvious thing do you not think I chat in the forums or go on cam in my area of course I've done both "

cool, no worries.

maybe it isn't for you then.

all the best

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People state the obvious thing do you not think I chat in the forums or go on cam in my area of course I've done both

cool, no worries.

maybe it isn't for you then.cock

all the best"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"negativity.... negativity... negativity...

under your old name..... negativity...

under your new name..... negativity...

people were kind enough to offer you lots of advice... and i mean lots and lots...

and all that comes back.... negativity!shut it you"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

keep the faith ....let me inspire you

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

negtivity breeds negativity, i hadnt noticed you in the forums before. I looked at your profile just now and i dont think your ugly, but this kind of thread can and im sure does put people off. Your 28, try being positive. Lots of people have offered you advice on this thread and you have slapped them back down so not really sure what you hoped to gain by this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"negativity.... negativity... negativity...

under your old name..... negativity...

under your new name..... negativity...

people were kind enough to offer you lots of advice... and i mean lots and lots...

and all that comes back.... negativity!shut it you"

Hmmm wonder why the OP isn't getting any meets......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not negative I just state facts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a lot of people have been on here for a long time, many not having too much luck in meeting, but hey deal with it, you do seem very negative and i am sure that is a major turn off. i have not had many meets but thats just the way the mop flops. stop wallowing in self pity and maybe try from another angle.

if at first you don't succeed ..........

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I'm not negative I just state facts "

congratulations on knowing what other people think and how to forsee the future.

Ever heard of self fulfilling prophecy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not negative I just state facts

congratulations on knowing what other people think and how to forsee the future.

Ever heard of self fulfilling prophecy?

"
No

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I'm not negative I just state facts

congratulations on knowing what other people think and how to forsee the future.

Ever heard of self fulfilling prophecy?

No "

Well i think you should google it and kick yourself up the arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"negativity.... negativity... negativity...

under your old name..... negativity...

under your new name..... negativity...

people were kind enough to offer you lots of advice... and i mean lots and lots...

and all that comes back.... negativity!"

Did someone hear someone say "negativity"?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I'm not negative I just state facts "

Mick, you say you chat and post in the forums but up above you've said 'shut it' and 'cock' in response to people who have posted. Potential meets will look at what you've posted. What's your unique selling point? Make yourself stand out.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"cock"

Minus 1 internet point


"shut it you"

Minus 1 internet point

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"I'm not negative I just state facts

Mick, you say you chat and post in the forums but up above you've said 'shut it' and 'cock' in response to people who have posted. Potential meets will look at what you've posted. What's your unique selling point? Make yourself stand out. "
Oh he has already done that i feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mick, we chatted yesterday. I said me and sue would come to yours on saturday night.

You said you werent sure if you were doing something. I love suzie to bits, and think she's hot as fuck, so I am biased, but if I wasn't getting any and she offered to come and get naked with me I would have changed my plans (like I said I am biased)

I tried to engage you in conversation.

You didn't seem interested.

Im not surprised you're not meeting. Theres some great advice in this thread, perhaps, if meeting is your aim, you should take some of it onboard. Unless of course you're just here to wind people up.

good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not negative I just state facts

congratulations on knowing what other people think and how to forsee the future.

Ever heard of self fulfilling prophecy?

No

Well i think you should google it and kick yourself up the arse"

Just spat my tea out with laughter at that!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not negative I just state facts

congratulations on knowing what other people think and how to forsee the future.

Ever heard of self fulfilling prophecy?

No

Well i think you should google it and kick yourself up the arse"
no time to do that will tonight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mick, we chatted yesterday. I said me and sue would come to yours on saturday night.

You said you werent sure if you were doing something. I love suzie to bits, and think she's hot as fuck, so I am biased, but if I wasn't getting any and she offered to come and get naked with me I would have changed my plans (like I said I am biased)

I tried to engage you in conversation.

You didn't seem interested.

Im not surprised you're not meeting. Theres some great advice in this thread, perhaps, if meeting is your aim, you should take some of it onboard. Unless of course you're just here to wind people up.

good luck. "

I wouldn't have turned down an offer like that!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I never turned it down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, you met up then?

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

You can either change tact & keep trying but does anyone have to try ? Surely if attraction is there people would want to have fun with you? Same for everyone surely ?

If we find an enticing profile and by briefly chatting, liking pics etc it moves to next step.

Good luck or goodbye.

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By *aidbackcplMan
over a year ago

blackpool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not negative I just state facts

congratulations on knowing what other people think and how to forsee the future.

Ever heard of self fulfilling prophecy?

No

Well i think you should google it and kick yourself up the arse"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You can either change tact & keep trying but does anyone have to try ? Surely if attraction is there people would want to have fun with you? Same for everyone surely ?

If we find an enticing profile and by briefly chatting, liking pics etc it moves to next step.

Good luck or goodbye."
totally agree with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never spotted you before on here, a year without meeting is nearly impossible!! Especially as you say you are trying so hard, even for the ones hit with the ugly stick they get meets

Sort out your profile first it says nothing, and put it through word first to sort out your spelling etc.

If on here for a year and no meets and webcamming doesn't count!! If i was a couple would stay well clear, goto a social or club and socialise!! people I'm sure would at least verify you or swing with you etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've been posting on here for months now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you changed your username?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Click my account, click delete account, fill in the two boxes. Simples

Problem solved

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you changed your username?"
yes

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Have you changed your username?yes"

so who did you used to be?

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

The biggest problem that people have when they join sites like this??

They expect...........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP im afraid, uve been posting similar things about this for ages now..and avoided any actual decent advice..unless it involves pics or cyber

for that matter I believe u never had any real intent to actually meet someone- I can go through a few responses I myself have given.

good luck in the cyber aspect..some dont mind it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you changed your username?yes

so who did you used to be?"
really don't remember

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The biggest problem that people have when they join sites like this??

They expect..........."
I expect nothing what so ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you changed your username?yes

so who did you used to be? really don't remember "

maybe a 2nd profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

must say the posts and stuff we have seen from you are all negativity and like said before you say your trying but it doesnt seem like your putting any effort in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After much thought I've come to the conclusion I will never get to meet anyone of here guess I'm ugly. But I would like to say to all the nice people I've chatted to it's been a real pleasure chatting and camming with you. I will no longer use this site for anything other than cam rooms. I've tried everything in my powers to meet but it's just not happening. "

If you had been near Leicester and meet smokers.... lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you changed your username?yes

so who did you used to be? really don't remember

maybe a 2nd profile?"
yes cause someone deleted my other1

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"After much thought I've come to the conclusion I will never get to meet anyone of here guess I'm ugly. But I would like to say to all the nice people I've chatted to it's been a real pleasure chatting and camming with you. I will no longer use this site for anything other than cam rooms. I've tried everything in my powers to meet but it's just not happening.

If you had been near Leicester and meet smokers.... lol"
didnt notice it said i dont meet smokers cause i would as my ex used to smoke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you changed your username?yes

so who did you used to be? really don't remember

maybe a 2nd profile?yes cause someone deleted my other1"

Oh no! How come? Did your account get hacked?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been posting on here for months now "

Hi Mick - well i am surprised we have not seen you before - however we look forward to reading/seeing other enlightening posts in future

Happy Fabbing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you changed your username?yes

so who did you used to be? really don't remember

maybe a 2nd profile?yes cause someone deleted my other1

Oh no! How come? Did your account get hacked?"
yeah i dont know how

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you changed your username?yes

so who did you used to be? really don't remember

maybe a 2nd profile?yes cause someone deleted my other1

Oh no! How come? Did your account get hacked?yeah i dont know how"

What was your previous account profile name ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you changed your username?yes

so who did you used to be? really don't remember

maybe a 2nd profile?yes cause someone deleted my other1

Oh no! How come? Did your account get hacked?yeah i dont know how

What was your previous account profile name ? "
ive forgot it was a while ago

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