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Single male first time at a club tips??

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By *yorks4couples OP   Man
44 weeks ago

doncaster

Mainly etiquette as i wouldnt want to look as thick as i really am. X

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By *xydadbodMan
44 weeks ago

Milton keynes


"Mainly etiquette as i wouldnt want to look as thick as i really am. X"

Well, be yourself for a start. Mainly its the same you would be in any settings really.. be polite, friendly.. if someone says no, then it's a no but make sure you enjoy yourself.

Most importantly.. never ever go to club with high hopes expecting play to happen as there may be times when it doesn't happened, but don't let that stop you from enjoying yourself.. the social side of things can be quite amazing at times so don't be afraid to say hi and mingle and who knows

Godd luck though dude

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By *yorks4couples OP   Man
44 weeks ago

doncaster

Always polite ect. Never expect anything anyway but can imagine its eye opening. Thanks btw

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By *xydadbodMan
44 weeks ago

Milton keynes

No worries dude good luck though.. just enjoy the experience

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By *ister_EMan
43 weeks ago

Hayling Island

Don't bother with strip clubs!

Go to a swingers club instead. It's much cheaper, entry and drinks, you'll see far more boobs and pussy. And you can even watch couples shagging. Youre actualy allowed to touch if they want it, and you can get far more than a lap dance.

Seriously strip clubs are overrated. Watching someone do something they love is hot! Watching someone fake it for money is nowhere near as horny...

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By *otwifecplCouple
43 weeks ago

bham

Be polite and pleasant. No expectations. Courage is required. Don't be shy, even if she says no its flattering. It's a swingers club so generally we are all in a similar mindset. At worst you'll find pleasant company for the evening.

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
43 weeks ago

Worcester


"Don't bother with strip clubs!

Go to a swingers club instead. It's much cheaper, entry and drinks, you'll see far more boobs and pussy. And you can even watch couples shagging. Youre actualy allowed to touch if they want it, and you can get far more than a lap dance.

Seriously strip clubs are overrated. Watching someone do something they love is hot! Watching someone fake it for money is nowhere near as horny..."

I don’t think anyone mentioned strip clubs.

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By *hil most chillMan
43 weeks ago

South East & Europe

Don't follow people around, wanking silently. This applies to any kind of club

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By *ustSomeDarkieMan
43 weeks ago

Salford

Just walk up and say hi and start chatting

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By *ornucopiaMan
43 weeks ago

Bexley


"Don't follow people around, wanking silently. This applies to any kind of club"

Including strip clubs? !!!

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By *inkycreamCouple
43 weeks ago

manchester

Don’t stare be naturally friendly, keep your cock in towel, smile have a laugh.

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By *leasureseekers123Couple
43 weeks ago

Heathrow


"Don't follow people around, wanking silently. This applies to any kind of club

Including strip clubs? !!!"

Yes definitely! If you start wanking in a strip club you’ll either be arrested or taken out the back and ejected from the club head first

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By *izzy.Woman
43 weeks ago

Stoke area

Check the dress code. Make an effort to look and smell good.

Don't sit in a corner quietly hoping someone will come and talk to you. When given a tour on arrival ask where people congregate to chat. This might be the bar, a lounge or smoking area. Then head there and introduce yourself.

One tactic is to say something like ...... hi I'm Bob, its my first time here; do you mind if I chat to you for a couple of minutes?

Later in the evening you are more likely to be invited to get involved if you have chatted to a lady or couple earlier ; than if you just walk about following people. I've never yet played with someone that I had not talked to previously.

Don't expect to have sex. Just be friendly, polite, respect boundaries and smile.

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By *octor ProdMan
43 weeks ago

working Overseas

Talk to people in the social area. Imagine you are in a pub, you don't know anyone and set yourself a task to make some friends

You will find you are more likely to be invited to play, and if you don't then you will have made some new friends.

As others have said; don't follow people around and join the wanking dead, but its ok to walk around and see what is going on

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43 weeks ago

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By *ingobingoMan
43 weeks ago

chch


"Don't follow people around, wanking silently. This applies to any kind of club"

Especially a golf club.

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By *alandNitaCouple
43 weeks ago

Scunthorpe


"Mainly etiquette as i wouldnt want to look as thick as i really am. X"

Make sure the staff know it's your first visit, this will get you tour and clarification on club etiquette.

Dress nicely, at least smart casual in my opinion regardless of dress code... if you give the impression you didn't make an effort, it reduces your chances of success. Obviously not applicable in a dress down club

Make sure you smell nice, be friendly and chatty. Enjoy yourself, don't be pushy and you might get chance to do more than watch.

Nita

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By *ornucopiaMan
43 weeks ago

Bexley


"Don't follow people around, wanking silently. This applies to any kind of club

Especially a golf club. "

You'll get a woman showing you how t improve your technique!

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By *andb69Couple
43 weeks ago

leeds

All of the above, plus if you're talking to a couple talk to them both, don't just talk to the woman. They will both have equal say on whether they invite you to join them, even if the guy just watches. If the couple is friendly don't assume you've 'scored', you might not be just what they are looking for (eg not single men), but don't take it as an insult.

Finally, if you get to play accept their boundaries completely, and don't bend your own.

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By *hatsWhatCoupleCouple
43 weeks ago

Northampton

Our new first is - decide what you bring to the lifestyle for others and what you want to get out of it. We meet a lot of singles and couples who are in it for what they can get out of it. If you want to fuck and go with as many women as possible, great, go to the events that cater for that.

Dress nice, smell nice, be squeaky clean everywhere. You’d be surprised how many people, M&F that don’t !

Don’t get pissed! Have a couple of confidence boosters then switch to something else - pineapple juice maybe

Chat to everyone, other single guys included. You never know who they can introduce you too. If we get approached by someone new, we prefer a short first exchange and then move on; as a couple we can then talk about you. Feel free to come back later or we’ll find you.

Be confident (not cocky). We’ve met some attractive guys with no confidence and it’s not good. By contrast we’ve met average looking guys with confidence, that combination is attractive.

Read and fully understand the club rules. Don’t be the guy fully dressed in the play rooms because you didn’t realise.

And have fun! Amazing how many guys and couples we see that look like they’ve had a shit night. Mostly as they’ve sat on their own and not engaged with people

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By *yorks4couples OP   Man
43 weeks ago

doncaster


"Our new first is - decide what you bring to the lifestyle for others and what you want to get out of it. We meet a lot of singles and couples who are in it for what they can get out of it. If you want to fuck and go with as many women as possible, great, go to the events that cater for that.

Dress nice, smell nice, be squeaky clean everywhere. You’d be surprised how many people, M&F that don’t !

Don’t get pissed! Have a couple of confidence boosters then switch to something else - pineapple juice maybe

Chat to everyone, other single guys included. You never know who they can introduce you too. If we get approached by someone new, we prefer a short first exchange and then move on; as a couple we can then talk about you. Feel free to come back later or we’ll find you.

Be confident (not cocky). We’ve met some attractive guys with no confidence and it’s not good. By contrast we’ve met average looking guys with confidence, that combination is attractive.

Read and fully understand the club rules. Don’t be the guy fully dressed in the play rooms because you didn’t realise.

And have fun! Amazing how many guys and couples we see that look like they’ve had a shit night. Mostly as they’ve sat on their own and not engaged with people

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Noted thankyou x

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By *1876Man
43 weeks ago

Dudley

Some good advice on here...hoping to try a club in the near future

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By *1876Man
41 weeks ago

Dudley


"Don't follow people around, wanking silently. This applies to any kind of club"

Even the snooker club? OMG that's why everyone was looking at me funny

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