FabSwingers.com forum: 1st time inviting a guy to join

By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

We're looking for our first mmf and what to expect, feelings for Mr afterwards

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By *hrowawaydevice1987Man
47 weeks ago

SW London/Surrey

It depends on him. Was it his idea?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

Mostly yes but Mrs is keen too

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47 weeks ago

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By *olfandtazCouple
47 weeks ago

Bristol

Discuss your boundaries for it, what you are happy with happening. Plan it out, both of you being a part of the process. That way you both know what to expect when it happens and most importantly, enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

We have spoke in depth about it, we're just worried it will affect us, after being together so long

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"We have spoke in depth about it, we're just worried it will affect us, after being together so long"

If you're worried then don't rush into it. It's normal to feel nervous but if I thought my husband was feeling worried then I'm not sure I would be comfortable going ahead with it. Talk, talk and then talk some more and make sure it's what you both really want, as once it happens, it can't be undone. Your relationship with each other is more important than sex with a stranger. Good luck.

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By *ellhungvweMan
47 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Why don’t you take it slowly? A first meet doesn’t have to be full on - it could just be a social with someone and a bit of kissing or maybe even some foreplay. Try that and see how you both feel. If you like it then do more. If you don’t, then don’t.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

Great advice thanks you so much

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

That's what we've said Mrs to give oral to start nothing else

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Please ensure that you set your boundaries, and that it is on your terms! Remember that YOU are in control. And ensure that the 2nd guy knows and understands the boundaries.. that way I can guarantee you will have way much more enjoyment from it! Good luck x

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By *oxy jWoman
47 weeks ago

somerset

feelings ? ..dont think your ready if yoiur worried about this ...strong relationships make great swinger weak ones or not sure ones will fail its always the way ..

you need to chat more and find out as things like feelings (wrong ones) and jealousy will kill your relationship seen it happen so many times over the years

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

We have pondered this for along time, spoke about boundaries and have been in messaging groups. We are curious as to the after feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

We did it once never again you need to remember he is not interested in meeting you as a couple

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By *oth0fusCouple
47 weeks ago

London

We know how you feel our story is we have been together 28 years and have never been with anyone else.

We have both the fantasy of a MfM for around 15 years before we decided to give it a try.

We both set our boundaries but was both worried about how we would feel after.

After the guy left we were both buzzing and had the best sex in ages

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By *isterMrsSCouple
47 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Mr here, its definitely weird the first time, it was my idea as well originally but seeing Mrs enjoy another cock was definitely strange, and our first time wasn't brilliant, we'd built it up in our heads that much that Mrs got a bit too d*unk and my dick didn't want to come out and play.

But we enjoyed it enough that we knew we wanted to do it again but also with the same lad to right some wrongs in our mind, the second time I just chilled right out, thought sod it, if my dick doesn't work so what I'll sit back and enjoy the show, Mrs was sober this time and after a couple of minutes of watching her enjoy his cock I was rock hard and got stuck in, ended up having the best night.

Most important it set your boundaries, stick to them, and discuss together after and try to be really close after just you two, but good luck

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
47 weeks ago

Burnley

Wr have had some fun ones but then had some weird stalker type one, kinda put us off inviting back to hotels, we only meet males in clubs now unless we met before

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

Weee hoping for that feeling too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

Yeah very true hope your having fun on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

Thank you so much for being honest and sharing your story we appreciate it

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By *isterMrsSCouple
47 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Regarding feelings after, as long as you stick with the prearranged boundaries and talk after, if something happens that was allowed but one of you didn't like it then that's fine, just talk about so you can alter your boundaries accordingly.

Mr will probably feel a bit of jealousy, as well as arousal but it all just adds to the excitement, find a guy that is super respectful, and there are plenty out there as well that will fully respect you as a couple, just be careful though as there's plenty who'll not care about you as a couple and just want a quick fuck

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By *andPextraCouple
47 weeks ago

North West

Our first time didn’t go so well as we let the extra male control the event. Whilst he was polite, respectful and didn't do anything wrong, in hindsight we wished we had been more in charge.

It felt like us joining him, rather than him joining us.

I am much more vocal and directive now.

The best advice I can give is be clear around boundaries and whatever happens (good or bad) discuss it calmly and clearly afterwards as a couple and move on united from the experience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

We really appreciate you giving us this advice, finding a guy on here we have found to be our hardest challenge. But I'm sure in time it will happen

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By *penJackMan
47 weeks ago

Northampton

"We're looking for our first mmf and what to expect, feelings for Mr afterwards "

Might be worth dialling your toes in first. Maybe a social with a snog at the end. Easier to assess your feelings that way.

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By *ositiveVibesJBxMan
47 weeks ago

Birmingham/Wigan

The aftercare is so important and should be treated just as important. This could be done by the two of just sat holding hands or cuddling each other etc.

I have been with some couples who have asked me to chill out downstairs or leave as they have their bonding moment. The single guy you choose should be asking you both all this. Remember that guy is entering into your relationship so the boundaries all round must be discussed.

Hope you both find what you are looking for. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

Everyone who we speak to gets informed were in charge and calling the shots, as rude it as it sounds we want a respectful guy not someone who just wants an empty bag

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By *ositiveVibesJBxMan
47 weeks ago

Birmingham/Wigan

"Everyone who we speak to gets informed were in charge and calling the shots, as rude it as it sounds we want a respectful guy not someone who just wants an empty bag "

Trust me it’s the best way to be and they have to respect that as well as you both. I have on occasions had a social before hand and one with the husband so I can reassure etc and establish what they wish to get from it all.

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By *isterMrsSCouple
47 weeks ago

Staffordshire

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By *isterMrsSCouple
47 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Have you been to any clubs? Definitely try that if you haven’t.. it’s a less pressured environment xx

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By *ellhungvweMan
47 weeks ago

Cheltenham

"Everyone who we speak to gets informed were in charge and calling the shots, as rude it as it sounds we want a respectful guy not someone who just wants an empty bag "

I would slightly caution against the idea you are “in charge” or “calling the shots” - no one should be in charge of anyone. Everyone (the couple and the single guy) has to agree on what they want and don’t want. In my experience it is about respect all round.

Don’t get too hung up on “control” because that won’t work for anyone - let everyone have their say and if you are all agreed then go and enjoy yourself.

The one thing I would add is that make sure your first meet is not with a fellow newbie. Meet with someone who has veris you like and who is happy with things stopping if either of you are not happy.

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By *enatton2Couple
47 weeks ago

West Midlands

Ben enjoyed it more than meeting a couple. Now we meet more guys than couples

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By *en ukMan
47 weeks ago

harrow London

I was invited as a single man to a younger couple at their home to serve a coffee and talk, I went to their home, we started to talk, to get to know each other better, after which she started to touch me and kiss me, after which I spent a beautiful MMF night with this couple and a lot of sex until the morning. At first it was just to see each other and get to know each other. It all depends on you what you want and what you would like to happen

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I should have probably read all the other comments first before I probably repeat but ah well

First meet doesn’t have to be all action and orgasms …

Have you invited a guy over just for a social? The thought of that can be exciting to start with?

Knowing you’re all there with thoughts in your head but not necessarily going to act them out..yet.

I am sure as long as all have talked about boundaries…. And the fact there’s a need to take it slow… it doesn’t all have to happen on night one.

Build up to it…. If things feel comfortable for all…. Then progress … no pressure on yourselves

Have fun….. and if it all just happens to be a fun evening of chatting & laughing …then who doesn’t love laughs

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By *aked2sumCouple
47 weeks ago

Coast

Guess we’re all different but remember my first time I watched the wife my stomach was turning like a washing machine with the excitement and after years of talking about it it was amazing to actually see it happening. That was over 20 years ago now but still every time we do it it’s feels just as good as the first . I’d say it’s like a drug it gets your heart pounding and adrenaline pumping and it’s very addictive

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By *ercedes_SLKMan
47 weeks ago

nottingham

Why start with any sexual activity at all

Arrange a social at a neutral location

Build up a picture of the lucky guy and decide between you if he’s the right guy

The engagement should be with you both as a couple, but it’s natural the guys attention will gravitate to the lady - see how Mr feels about that afterwards

Build slowly - maybe even have somebody to just watch you both

Small steps and communication between all is the key

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

We haven't and wondered about that and what to expect, if people drank at the bar and dressed in clothes or if people walk around nude loo

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By *ansduoCouple
47 weeks ago

Glasgow

We find many guys don't have a true sense of the magnitude and simply want to race into the wife's pants. No building of trust and any understanding.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

That's our view already to, guys on here are useless as a rule the messages we receive are laughable

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By *aked2sumCouple
47 weeks ago

Coast

"We find many guys don't have a true sense of the magnitude and simply want to race into the wife's pants. No building of trust and any understanding. "

Yea if they don’t have time for a social first we would never bother with em

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

Most don't get change to get that far, just read a message now, ( where are you my cocks hard and I'm horny ) and they wonder my they spend their evenings without fun

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By *io--Man
47 weeks ago

Near Blackpool

"We're looking for our first mmf and what to expect, feelings for Mr afterwards "

I would be quite certain going into it but even then u wont know 100% until it happens. My first threesome was with a couple who had never played with others and it was an awkward and disappointing experience for all. Had another since then with a couple off here and it was great, aim for a casual vibe and clear rules and still be into the idea aside from when you two are horny and will hopefully go well

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By *ansduoCouple
47 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Most don't get change to get that far, just read a message now, ( where are you my cocks hard and I'm horny ) and they wonder my they spend their evenings without fun "
very true.

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By *isterMrsSCouple
47 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"We haven't and wondered about that and what to expect, if people drank at the bar and dressed in clothes or if people walk around nude loo"

Some clubs you dress down straight away and walk round in lingerie/boxers and in some clubs you can wear normal clothes then dress down after a certain time… I definitely recommend it, get a feel for it, they are a lot of fun and we’ve had some really good mfms and soft swap with other couples.. it’s a relaxed, sexy and fun atmosphere xx

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By *he Silver FuxMan
47 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

For Mr - don’t cum whilst watching or taking part on your first experience especially- post nut clarity can hit hard. Remain horny, unfulfilled and excited, wait until the 2nd guy leaves and then have the best sex ever…

Also, pick the right guy. If it’s a Stag Vixen vibe you want then an experienced guy who knows the deal and knows when to leave, equivalent to you in looks, stature etc - nothing that’s going to make you anxious, cause self doubt, performance anxiety or promotes jealousy.

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By *hitehotguyMan
47 weeks ago

Manchester

I’ve really enjoyed my 3some meets.

Best advice I can give is largely the same as what’s been said. Have a chat between yourselves as to what you’re open to. Chat to a guy or guys for a bit and find one with the right vibe for you. Someone’s outlook and attitude will come through and you’ll know they’re the right match up.

Then no problems with going slow. A social or oral are good options.

Relax, make it fun and you’ll have a good time.

All the best.

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By *AYENCouple
47 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Picking the right guy is the key to a great experience, and it can take a long time to find him (years) - as you've already worked out - just don't settle for anything less than ideal.

Meet socially first, and check that he engages with you both equally and is a good communicator and good fun.

If it gets to the action stage he's going to be new and exciting to your wife, so she'll likely focus more on him, if the guy is good he'll make sure you'll get equal attention.

It can really add a new dimension to your relationship, but can also have a negative effect, so proceed with caution, good luck, K.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

What clubs do you recommend for newbies

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

Brilliant advice we appreciate it

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Chameleons is great and very friendly

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By *isterMrsSCouple
47 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"Chameleons is great and very friendly "

We second this, love chams, so many different ages, shapes and sizes, everyone's really friendly, no pressure to play with anyone else, it's our favourite club

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

We will check it out, possibly see you there sometime

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
47 weeks ago

Bristol

Picking the right guy is key. Use the verifications to get an idea of whether they have experience and seem to fit your vibe.

Make sure you and them are looking for the same dynamic.

Make sure you have some chat beforehand and are comfortable with them in a non sexual setting as this will ease everything at the start.

I'd probably avoid a newbie as they will be as nervous as you, you want someone who will be calm in the moment.

Social chat first, don't rush, no promise of play all helped take the edge away.

But....

As the fella, even after all the preparation in the world, you can't be sure how you will react when it's happening. Nothing prepares you fully, so you've got to take a little bit of a leap of faith and trust you are emotionally mature enough to cope.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

Tha k you we will have a look and maybe make our way there and break our club virginity

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"Tha k you we will have a look and maybe make our way there and break our club virginity "
you will love it we only went for our first time last week it’s such an amazing place

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

Perfect advice we thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

Just looking at it now maybe this is our entry into the world of swinging

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By *ikey warringtonMan
47 weeks ago

Warrington

Just enjoy the moment

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

We are looking forward to it

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By *educeusforfunCouple
47 weeks ago

London

Hub here - first time we were both really nervous and I never thought she would do it but when she kissed him and pulled him onto bed next to her it was amazing

Spent ages choosing right guy - let wife lead on that but when he first entered her wow , just wow

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By *andaloriansCouple
47 weeks ago

Malvern

"We have spoke in depth about it, we're just worried it will affect us, after being together so long

This!

Communication is paramount! That means with potential playmates too. If they think there may be an issue, they will feel uncomfy and possibly bug out or stay but itd be awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

We will be soon too, we have talked alot, thinking of all scenarios and weather it happens again or not depending on both our feelings

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By *omRachCouple
47 weeks ago

Wirral

"We have spoke in depth about it, we're just worried it will affect us, after being together so long"

Can only explain from our angle, we had been together for about 5 years or so at the time we first had another man in out bed. It was me who brought up the idea and it was instantly dismissed out of hand by Rach.

What it did do though was plant a seed in Rach that every now and again that came out to be watered (in the form of asking questions - why/who/when etc) and over a period of time her thoughts on the matter began to change.

It reached the end when she asked WHO I would like to see her with and I told her the name of a particular friend who I knew had a pretty decent cock on him. As soon as I mentioned his name a smile came across her face - no words said.

To cut to the final chapter The next time that particular friend came to stay he ended up in our bed with her for the 1st time. The threesome angle developed a few visits later.

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
47 weeks ago

Burnley

We'd like to do this more but after a bad experience it has put us off, good luck tho x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
46 weeks ago

Sorry to hear you had a bad experience

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By *ittle. BeaverWoman
46 weeks ago

Launceston

I agree about going to a club. Especially if you're finding single guys messages disappointing.

You have a win win situation at a club, you get to watch couples having sex as a warm up, you have no pressure to play. You can just play with eachother, or if a single guy is the right vibe and you're in the moment you can let him join in! Or you can just use the club as a social and maybe make future connections!

If the worst happens and either of you realise the reality isn't matching the fantasy, you can walk away with no hassles or disappointing anyone!

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By *afkaMan
46 weeks ago

Nottingham (ish)

What she said is spot on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
46 weeks ago

Thank you for your advice seems club's maybe what we should try first, has anyone been to hu9 as that's the nearest one to us x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
46 weeks ago

Heard charms is hood but with Hull being local. Ig it was relaxed and no pushy may be hood to have our 1st meet fairly local

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By *isterMrsSCouple
46 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Chams is really good, we have only been doing this about 18months so still new to it all and its a really chilled and a very friendly atmosphere, we’ve been quite a few times now xx

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By *usthetwoofusCouple
46 weeks ago

Birmingham

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By *wistedTooCouple
46 weeks ago

Frimley

"We did it once never again you need to remember he is not interested in meeting you as a couple "

You did one MFM meet and you came to that conclusion? That means you had one bad experience but you’re forgetting that many single guys here are experienced with couples and understand the dynamic set in place with the right communication beforehand.

We have met many guys for MFM and almost all experiences have been excellent with tons of respect on the guy’s part, with them being respectful of my (Dave) role in the couple. Ensuring they ask permission from us both to do certain things, communication up front about boundaries, constantly being aware that he’s playing with my wife, and not a single girl.

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By *evonrobMan
46 weeks ago

Kingsbridge

"Mr here, its definitely weird the first time, it was my idea as well originally but seeing Mrs enjoy another cock was definitely strange, and our first time wasn't brilliant, we'd built it up in our heads that much that Mrs got a bit too d*unk and my dick didn't want to come out and play.

Most important it set your boundaries, stick to them, and discuss together after and try to be really close after just you two, but good luck

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By *evonrobMan
46 weeks ago

Kingsbridge

But we enjoyed it enough that we knew we wanted to do it again but also with the same lad to right some wrongs in our mind, the second time I just chilled

right out, thought sod it, if my dick doesn't work so what I'll sit back and enjoy the show, Mrs was sober this time and after a couple of minutes of watching her enjoy his cock I was rock hard and got stuck in, ended up having the best night.

Most important it set your boundaries, stick to them, and discuss together after and try to be really close after just you two, but good luck

Great post, sounds like you did it for exactly the right reasons. Speaking as the third I’d much prefer the couple to take charge but equally I know I’m there to accentuate their pleasure so that’s my aim, with either one or both of them!

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By *rispyDuckMan
46 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

But we enjoyed it enough that we knew we wanted to do it again but also with the same lad to right some wrongs in our mind, the second time I just chilled

Most important it set your boundaries, stick to them, and discuss together after and try to be really close after just you two, but good luck

Well said by guys

With experience I’ve learnt to read body languages of all participants & try to get everyone comfortable with my presence and involved. If I sense tension or someone not comfortable I suggest we just keep it a social that time

I love pussy

but I don’t wanna break up relationships

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By *andb13Couple
46 weeks ago

Bradford

It's very much an individual.thing as to how someone will feel afterwards.

If you want to drop.us a message we can have a chat x

"We're looking for our first mmf and what to expect, feelings for Mr afterwards "

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By *andb69Couple
46 weeks ago

leeds

Our advice is to try a club. You'll have chance to see and talk to the guys before committing to play. There's no pressure, you're safe and you can take it at your own pace.

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By *otuseater11Man
46 weeks ago

IRVINE

Don't think you are quite ready yet for a mmf.just take your time no need to rush in try a club first and see how you feel afterwards

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By *imandher123456Couple
46 weeks ago

gosport

Mr is bi ,so our first meet was with a bi guy , so effectively there was something going on for all of us , no one felt left out , we had discussed it loads before and also afterwards , the whole experience was really positive and both of us felt closer and stronger afterwards , communication is key here

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By *ysonfuryMan
46 weeks ago

Stockport

I'm approaching this as a single guy. I love couples meets. I try to tend to go with the flow with a couple and get involved with what they enjoy. A social is always a good idea to see if there is a spark. You both have to be happy with who you meet. If one or the other isn't then it probably won't make for a great experience. There is never and expectation on my part to play. Go at your own pace and dint feel pressured. If it's a social with a potential to play I always make an excuse for a few minutes so the couple can have a chat. Good luck, happy fabbing and enjoy the adventure

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By *ellinever70Woman
46 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Let her find the guy

And be realistic with your expectations

It's still sex, but just with an extra person there

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
46 weeks ago

Coventry

For us the main thing is does Mrs fancy him and just as important do I (Mr) gel with him? Because a MFM is team work and I'm not going to be happy with us taking back any guy I don't like or trust (although naturally chances are if I don't think he's a good fit, she'll also be thinking the same). So respect and good vibes for both of us is key. Although she tends to find the guys we both have to agree. Not really any boundaries as such for a MFM (bar protection), just love it when it feels natural and it just flows. Just want everyone to feel completely at ease with each other, communicates well and ultimately be fulfilled. And of course someone who shares our goal of seeing Mrs Misfit completely and utterly ravished and adored. Unfortunately we really strughle to find wht we're looking for in a guy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
46 weeks ago

Thank you for your reply, we have struggled for that elusive guy too, seems most talk through their cock and not with the respect, that they are being par of a couple, we don't want a guy who is only interested in sex and not the connection

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By *ewcomers2021Couple
46 weeks ago

Leeds

Never done the single guy meeting yet but we have talked about it. We’ve actually talked about it a lot and pretty much know our boundaries already, but even if we did meet another guy I’m sure we’d go over all boundaries again. She would pick the guy on seeing his pictures beforehand and if he looks like this in the flesh then it would be up to her if she takes it further. At any point there is something that isn’t right then any party has the right to simply say ‘stop’ even if it’s at the initial looking stage or during the act, there should be no drama at anytime.

Meet up and if seeing your wife being simply touched by the single guy makes you feel uncomfortable then end it there and then. Me personally, I love seeing my wife touch and play with others and visa versa.

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By *eyeYCouple
46 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

Honestly a club.. Perhaps HWC at Libs, a selection of attractive and very respectful guy's in our experience.

The private meets scenario often feels too pressured for us and in the case of you not finding them attractive or getting that connection it's an awkward feeling after you have got that far in proceedings. But just our thoughts. Good luck either way x

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By *heekyDemandCouple
46 weeks ago

Leicester

Maybe first time, stick to oral only, ask your +1 to watch, lick her pussy, if Miss wants to suck him maybe Mr fucks her at the same time.

If you aren't sure, hold off on full sex till the next time and see how you feel.

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By *isterMrsSCouple
46 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"Thank you for your reply, we have struggled for that elusive guy too, seems most talk through their cock and not with the respect, that they are being par of a couple, we don't want a guy who is only interested in sex and not the connection "

This is true! We’ve had quite a few mfms now, some better than others, our last meet the guy was super respectful and clicked with us both, we all spent hours chatting, having a few drinks before anything happened and it was the best night, it couldn’t of gone any better, I’ve even had a solo meet with him since… they are out there just keep looking for someone that fits in well with you both

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By *ingofswing2000Man
46 weeks ago

birmingham

If its both what you want, then everything should be fine. Having boundaries is important for everyone to be made comfortable. It was my first question when we all got naked.

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By *ellinever70Woman
46 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Realistically, what kind of connection are you alluding to?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
46 weeks ago

99.9% of guys either message (when you free, can I meet ms on my own,) or are generally pushy, we want a guy who we can meet socially and both have a laugh with and feel comfortable around

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By *ev_1Couple
46 weeks ago

Bickliegh

Sorry op no one can advise you what your feelings will be it's down to you both to be comfortable and in the right frame of mind to move to the next step x

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

Convince me your not pushy and we play

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
46 weeks ago

Coventry

"Honestly a club.. Perhaps HWC at Libs, a selection of attractive and very respectful guy's in our experience.

To be fair we generally stick to clubs/parties and let's not forget people we bump into on vanilla nights outs. Likewise because there is less pressure and more freedom (and potentially more selection/options) this way. To be fair we've probably found more potential success out down town than anywhere else.

Personally I like that in this environment you can scope how a guy treats and interacts with other people around the club. This can give you so insight into his nature and character before hand. For example does he treat other people with genuine intrest and respect. There many also be the opportunity to ask others what they know/think of him (especially if he's a regular). If you have/gain a few freinds and/or social group on the scene you may find a good guy either from inside that group or a recommendation from someone in that group. Likewise if you go to private party if the host really knows their guests hopefully they selected people who should get on well including a few well matched guys.

Lots of guys complain a about the lack of action on the club scene. But in our experience there are a few guys who really clean up and continue to take the lions share of the action. And it has little to with being gym fit, having a massive cock or being tall. These guys tend to be really great guys on the personal level. Up beat, repectful, confident (but humble), hold a good conversation, have good humour, smile a lot and just have a great humanity about them. And obviously their success grows as people see how they treat and interact with others and through word of mouth and recommendation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
46 weeks ago

Interesting to hear the club scene is getting mentioned alot so may be our route into this world of fun

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By *verready5000Man
46 weeks ago

mansfield

I’d love to coss threesomes off my bucket list!

Hope it all goes well

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By *otwife and Him 69Couple
46 weeks ago

Preston

It’s always better to regret something you didn’t do rather than something you did, be clear what you both want x

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
46 weeks ago

near you...

"We're looking for our first mmf and what to expect, feelings for Mr afterwards "

My advice:

1. find someone you are both comfortable with.

2. Agree what the limits are between all 3 of you e.g. no kissing.

3. Make time to understand what everyone really likes and doesn't like.

4. Start slowly and don't be scared to stop if it isn't working for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

I was the guy who did this last week & I can safely say it went amazingly well.

I’d never joined a MF couple before. I wasn’t even looking for that.

They’ve been together forever & wanted to invite another guy in. We got on great beforehand, the sex was amazing & we got on great after.

It would be good to meet for a social before so you can gauge how mr is feeling about it.

Honestly though from the single male point of view, it was amazing.

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

"We're looking for our first mmf and what to expect, feelings for Mr afterwards

My advice:

1. find someone you are both comfortable with.

2. Agree what the limits are between all 3 of you e.g. no kissing.

3. Make time to understand what everyone really likes and doesn't like.

4. Start slowly and don't be scared to stop if it isn't working for you."

This 100%

We spent a while chatting with openness and honesty about boundaries & as long as boundaries are adhered to and respect is always there, it should be fun

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

"I was the guy who did this last week & I can safely say it went amazingly well.

I’d never joined a MF couple before. I wasn’t even looking for that.

They’ve been together forever & wanted to invite another guy in. We got on great beforehand, the sex was amazing & we got on great after.

It would be good to meet for a social before so you can gauge how mr is feeling about it.

Honestly though from the single male point of view, it was amazing."

P.S my latest veri will show you how it went for the couple

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By (user no longer on site) OP
46 weeks ago

Thank you for your reply. As said before were finding guys very difficult. I'm sure we will find that guy and until we do we won't be rushing into anything

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By *anJenny 181Couple
46 weeks ago

Preston

"We're looking for our first mmf and what to expect, feelings for Mr afterwards "

Hi we are early on in the lifestyle adding an extra male.

we have a few rules eg we only play when we are together.

Let the fella know it's your first time & ask for a social to make sure you all gel

The first time we was shitting ourselves and could not sleep the night before the meet.

Also just a warning it will probably be nothing like you imagined.

Make sure you have a strong relationship & keep talking to each other, boundaries, likes etc

Re patriation shag is simply the best

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

"It’s always better to regret something you didn’t do rather than something you did, be clear what you both want x "

Best to set boundaries out first you know how you feel and what you want and it makes it more enjoyable if your not worrying about what the other person people are thinking

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By (user no longer on site) OP
46 weeks ago

Thank you for your kind advice we really appreciate it

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

"Thank you for your kind advice we really appreciate it "

I’m happy to help you guys

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By *randMrs397Couple
46 weeks ago

durham

Remember you both call the shots. As a few others have said come up with agreed boundaries before anything. If one of you has any reservations don't do it. Communication is key between you both.

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By *eardAndBoobs69Couple
46 weeks ago

South Yorkshire

Both looking forward to our first mmf meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

Would love to be invited to an mfm meet. Plenty in here I'd love to join

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By *estYorkshireGentMan
46 weeks ago

Leeds

"Discuss your boundaries for it, what you are happy with happening. Plan it out, both of you being a part of the process. That way you both know what to expect when it happens and most importantly, enjoy it "

Exactly this! When I was on here as a couple and we invited people to join us, this was our approach and it worked for us. There was once or twice we tried something and didn’t enjoy it like we thought we would so we brought play to an end and didn’t go down that route again.

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By *KentMan
46 weeks ago

Canterbury

"We're looking for our first mmf and what to expect, feelings for Mr afterwards "

If you’re not 100%, then don’t do it.

You need to both be totally happy, and set whatever boundaries you need.

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By *dventurecouple2000Couple
46 weeks ago

Birmingham

an amazing buzz, jealousy, excitement, makes the heart beat faster, and amazing

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By *nlyessexCouple
46 weeks ago

Hornchurch

"We're looking for our first mmf and what to expect, feelings for Mr afterwards "

We were the same as you wondering how mr would feel but after our first meeting which was only soft swing we both said we want to go further and have done

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By *amesnplanesMan
46 weeks ago

Banbridge

"We're looking for our first mmf and what to expect, feelings for Mr afterwards "

I suspect if you meet a guy with experience, then the two of you will have lots of fun. The biggest thrill is going to be the immediate post play reconnection. You'll both fuck one another like never before.

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By *ouple36DDCouple
46 weeks ago

Manchester

As others have said take it slowly and you might feel more at ease if you build up to it.

The first time we met a guy was at a club. We invited him into a room and I started kissing Sara and then invited him to kiss her. He undressed her and they were in bed touching each other but stopped short of having sex and instead he watched us.

A few months later we met a guy for a drink and then invited over to our flat where we had a theeesome. I watched him have sex with Sara and it was the most amazing thing I’ve seen.

We now regularly meet single guys and I still get the same thrill when I watch them have sex.

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By *ifeTimeCouple
46 weeks ago

Grays

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By *ifeTimeCouple
46 weeks ago

Grays

But we enjoyed it enough that we knew we wanted to do it again but also with the same lad to right some wrongs in our mind, the second time I just chilled

Most important it set your boundaries, stick to them, and discuss together after and try to be really close after just you two, but good luck

Well said by guys

I love pussy

but I don’t wanna break up relationships "

I think we may have to get together!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
46 weeks ago

We seem to have had a few decent guys message so hopefully it's on the cards

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By *ubytuesdaysTV/TS
46 weeks ago

birmingham

Get someone who has the experience not some random person or friend, Trannies are the best Tell them you are new and they can take you through a series of stages that will be useful for you as you follwo th epath of true joy.

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By *m3232Man
46 weeks ago

maidenhead

"We're looking for our first mmf and what to expect, feelings for Mr afterwards "

Sex and love are two different things in my mind so you should be fine.

Find the right guy and explain that it’s the first time and give him the ground rules it should go well.

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By *isterMrsSCouple
46 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"We seem to have had a few decent guys message so hopefully it's on the cards "

That’s really good!!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

Does he like to see you enjoying yourself? Is he or has he been jealous.

Best talk about boundaries first as what might excite in the heat of the moment, when processed can be a different thing... But if strong, it can be a good thing.. Why not try a couple first, then he might not feel left out?

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By *onandCouple
46 weeks ago

Cheadle

Take it slowly but to be honest it’s brought us even closer together and our own sex life has thrived…… no rush …..

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By *t2022Couple
46 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Most important it set your boundaries, stick to them, and discuss together after and try to be really close after just you two, but good luck

This is such a similar experience to our first in many ways although my dick was fine after a bit.

We picked a guy we thought we could pull it off with and we were 100% correct. Also went back several times which was very exciting because of who he was.

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By *inkyRebelMan
46 weeks ago

Swindon

Re claim sex is fantastic after. Makes me cum so much

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By *aughtyThreesomeCouple
46 weeks ago

Kent

Some very helpful advice on here, some we've taken on board for our first MMF when it happens so thanks for thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP
45 weeks ago

Thing seem to be going better and we've found a couple of good guys

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

"Thing seem to be going better and we've found a couple of good guys"

Have fun!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
45 weeks ago

Thank you

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