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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So what do you consider to be too many verifications

I've just been told that someone won't meet me as I have too many. I have 9 on my profile! I didn't think this was a problem but apparently it is!

Are we here to judge or to swing? Can you really do both?

My reply was that maybe this lady should look on a dating site rather than a swingers site if people having sex with multiple partners is an issue lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think having verifications In those numbers show you are genuine and obviously good In the sack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been turned down for a meet, because I'd met someone they didn't like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been turned down for a meet, because I'd met someone they didn't like "

Us too.

We didn't let it bother us, our choice who we meet x

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

you will find that anything about another swinger/s will be an irritation to 'someone' on here and all sites.

just show what you are comfortable showing.

enjoy

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

actually irritation is not the right word a way to deselect may be better

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I have quite a few veris and to be honest if someone told me that there were too many, or they didn't like what was written on them, or they didn't like who I'd met, I would have to say that they weren't the sort of people I want to meet.

I use this site the way I want to so ignore people who are essentially telling me how they want me to behave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been turned down for having a TV on my verification list

The mind boggles on here sometimes

Its not like we're bringing past meets with us is it

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By *acciWoman
over a year ago

leeds

Your profile your choice what you have on it,if people dnt like it then tough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I avoid meets with those that have several verifications from the same person as I've had past experience of jealous clingy woman who seem to think that if you meet someone more than once you have a claim to them

I'm here for fun not drama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm veris are all you have thats independant of your sales pitch, sorry profile! Lol. Yes its true that we can choose to post or not but the commpliments are still independant. More recent veris are the best we feel as this site is in effect a journey of exploration of our sexual boundaries, and along the way we change our thoughts. And most of usget better as we learn a new trick or two! Lol

That said people should just say no thanks not my type after all. If you arent ging to meet does it really matter why when there are so many nice people still waiting to meet us all! Lol have fun people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have veris, but i met same people, so to me it shows a progression on here from social to playing

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It depends, we have been contacted by people who say "we see you have met with x and y, we have met them too, when do you want to meet us?" .

Otherwise as others have said its entirely up to the individual how many verifications they post or how they interpret the amount people have on their profile.

We only show a couple to indicate that we are genuine and will turn up.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I avoid meets with those that have several verifications from the same person as I've had past experience of jealous clingy woman who seem to think that if you meet someone more than once you have a claim to them

I'm here for fun not drama"

I've had veris from the same person 3 times. She's not the slightest bit clingy and we both encourage each other to have sex with others. I've seen a profile with 70+ veris and a lot were from clubs where lots of people had met them. I was v impressed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what do you consider to be too many verifications

I've just been told that someone won't meet me as I have too many. I have 9 on my profile! I didn't think this was a problem but apparently it is!

Are we here to judge or to swing? Can you really do both?

My reply was that maybe this lady should look on a dating site rather than a swingers site if people having sex with multiple partners is an issue lol"

I dont have many veris either, perhaps that is why I dont get many messages. Im obviously not prolific enough with dishing out the sex. Luckily ive got my reg chatbuddy back and I know we are definately going to meet up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to let people go if they say no for any reason. I have friends with veris going into the 70s and they are still my friends. I do wonder sometimes why people show so many because at the end of the day you only really need one to show you are real but each to his own. Be true to yourself and sod anyone else.

The only offputting thing is going to be from an sti point of _iew, the more people you meet the more at risk you are, but you could get one of those from a single meet (just from oral, even with safe sex) so...

Be who you are and do what makes you happy. Just be safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have quite a few veris and to be honest if someone told me that there were too many, or they didn't like what was written on them, or they didn't like who I'd met, I would have to say that they weren't the sort of people I want to meet.

I use this site the way I want to so ignore people who are essentially telling me how they want me to behave."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I avoid meets with those that have several verifications from the same person as I've had past experience of jealous clingy woman who seem to think that if you meet someone more than once you have a claim to them

I'm here for fun not drama

I've had veris from the same person 3 times. She's not the slightest bit clingy and we both encourage each other to have sex with others. I've seen a profile with 70+ veris and a lot were from clubs where lots of people had met them. I was v impressed "

ive got to be honest, I find that a weird ting to say, why would you encourage someone you lay no claim to to have sex with others?

If I guy I met tried to encourage me to meet others id tell him ive been doing very well so far with him thank you very much and mind your own business lol

To me the fact you show a 'interest' in who each other meets makes it seem more than just swinging to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep saying people read far too much into veris, and the veri system itself sometimes creates more problems than it attempts to solve or prevent.

If anyone has a problem with how many you have, who they are from, what they say etc etc, then maybe you're the winner in as much as you were probably saved from a problem somewhere down the line with that person/couple.

Personally, I'm only interested what myself and the other person can offer each other, not what they did or did not do with or for anyone else. Their veris (by meeting) just prove that they are a real person and not potentially a fake, as do mine..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have also been told i have to many veris, even though some are from men i have met when i first joined Fab 2 years ago and met again when i came back. For me if anyone has an issue with anything on my profile, whether it be verifs, pics, the wording on my profile, there is a simple remedy, don't message me or ask to meet. It's no great loss after all there are thousands of very sexy men on here for me to choose from.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"So what do you consider to be too many verifications

I've just been told that someone won't meet me as I have too many. I have 9 on my profile! I didn't think this was a problem but apparently it is!

Are we here to judge or to swing? Can you really do both?

My reply was that maybe this lady should look on a dating site rather than a swingers site if people having sex with multiple partners is an issue lol"

No matter what you do with your profile you are going to get some people who will not like it. I do agree though that somebody would not want to meet you because you had meet a few people already is a bit strange considering this is a swingers website.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I am not put off by lots of verifications, and, if someone is put off by mine, then they are not the type of person I am willing to meet. I do not change my profile based on any stranger's point of _iew. They do not know me and have no say in what I do.

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By *eet_the_spartanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I don't display all my veri's either on this account or on our couples account, but the only ones we hide are due to explicit details; probably not of interest to others reading it; accidental double submissions; very bad grammar/spelling :P

All in all, we put up what looks good and what keeps tone with our profiles. There's no such thing as 'too verified' to us, especially to club goers who can 'meet' twenty people in a night without even getting their kit off.

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

9 verifications for more than a year on here???? That person should say no to meet for the little number of displayed verifications and not the other way round

Whoever that person is, just tell her or him to get lost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Keep saying people read far too much into veris, and the veri system itself sometimes creates more problems than it attempts to solve or prevent.

If anyone has a problem with how many you have, who they are from, what they say etc etc, then maybe you're the winner in as much as you were probably saved from a problem somewhere down the line with that person/couple.

Personally, I'm only interested what myself and the other person can offer each other, not what they did or did not do with or for anyone else. Their veris (by meeting) just prove that they are a real person and not potentially a fake, as do mine.."

100% agree

Only interested in what we can do for eachother, not what they have accomplished with others!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have we got too many now? Was wondering this the other day.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

When someone has been on the site for a rather long time e.g. since 2009, would it not be best to choose out of those 'older' veri one or two that you feel are the best ones to show the progression mentioned earlier rather than keep all of them? I have been 'put off' by the amount that was displayed, and I am an avid reader of profiles and veri. It is everyone's choice after all but from a newbie's point of _iew, it made me a little uncomfortable as my immediate reaction was - I do not want to be another 'notch' on the bedpost.

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By *ikkiBWoman
over a year ago

Falkirk

The amount of veris doesn't bother me too much but who has verified them does.

It stems back to when I was talking to a guy verified as nice, friendly, respectful, genuine, non pushy etc only to find out it was bollocks and the guy was a sick psycho

Since then I'll look at the veries and see if its a small group of friends, or if they had verified the nutter I steered cleared of them.

Goes back to everyones different though, some want veris shown, some don't, some want loads, some don't etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When someone has been on the site for a rather long time e.g. since 2009, would it not be best to choose out of those 'older' veri one or two that you feel are the best ones to show the progression mentioned earlier rather than keep all of them? I have been 'put off' by the amount that was displayed, and I am an avid reader of profiles and veri. It is everyone's choice after all but from a newbie's point of _iew, it made me a little uncomfortable as my immediate reaction was - I do not want to be another 'notch' on the bedpost. "

Isn't this and sex and swinging site not a dating site?

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"So what do you consider to be too many verifications

I've just been told that someone won't meet me as I have too many. I have 9 on my profile! I didn't think this was a problem but apparently it is!

Are we here to judge or to swing? Can you really do both?

My reply was that maybe this lady should look on a dating site rather than a swingers site if people having sex with multiple partners is an issue lol"

9 veris? Bloody sexual deviant, pervert and serial bed-notcher!

Your profile mate, up to you what you show...I've no doubt some folk may think I've too many veris, to which my answer would be fair enough, move onto the next person(s) you fancy meeting. I show all mine, and I've met folk who don't leave verificatiions, those who I repeat meet sometimes do and sometimes don't and there's several I did have that have since left the site...in the words of Catherine Tate - Am I bovvered? Nah, not in the least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would rather meet the same person more than once and actually get to know the person and what they like and don't like, I would rather not just meet someone and "shag", too impersonal for me. I have people that I have been meeting for years. I have no claim to them, nor do I want to. I have a partner that I live with so I do not want another. Problem I have sometimes is that on occassions the people I meet eventually think they have a claim to me and my time. That is when Ahabs has to step it and say something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been turned down for a meet, because I'd met someone they didn't like "

Yeah me too. All got a bit bitchy at one point. As if the person turning me down was some kind of untouchable goddess. Very bemusing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a girl that added up all the verifications that my verification had got. And sed that means you had. Xamount. That's a lot of truble to go to. Lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a girl that added up all the verifications that my verification had got. And sed that means you had. Xamount. That's a lot of truble to go to. Lol x "

a bit sad too really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. I met her to lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we are flucked then as we have 20 showing and a few others hidden!!

Who cares how many verifications anyone has? It just proves that you do actually meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been turned down for a meet, because I'd met someone they didn't like

Yeah me too. All got a bit bitchy at one point. As if the person turning me down was some kind of untouchable goddess. Very bemusing"

I suspect there have been people on this site who use "you're not what I'm looking for" as an excuse for never meeting.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"When someone has been on the site for a rather long time e.g. since 2009, would it not be best to choose out of those 'older' veri one or two that you feel are the best ones to show the progression mentioned earlier rather than keep all of them? I have been 'put off' by the amount that was displayed, and I am an avid reader of profiles and veri. It is everyone's choice after all but from a newbie's point of _iew, it made me a little uncomfortable as my immediate reaction was - I do not want to be another 'notch' on the bedpost.

Isn't this and sex and swinging site not a dating site? "

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool


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It stems back to when I was talking to a guy verified as nice, friendly, respectful, genuine, non pushy etc only to find out it was bollocks and the guy was a sick psycho

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Scary stuff .

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

The only verifications i dont like are really graffic ones, thats cause i get the impression they are more than happy to tell the world about the intimate parts of there meet blow by blow, so they may feel it appropriate to discuss me with others. This stems from a guy that messaged me to give me blow by blow account of his last meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have to let people go if they say no for any reason. I have friends with veris going into the 70s and they are still my friends. I do wonder sometimes why people show so many because at the end of the day you only really need one to show you are real but each to his own. Be true to yourself and sod anyone else.

The only offputting thing is going to be from an sti point of _iew, the more people you meet the more at risk you are, but you could get one of those from a single meet (just from oral, even with safe sex) so...

Be who you are and do what makes you happy. Just be safe."

The more veris people have the more im put off, like you said the sti thing it bothers me. specially if they dont have safe sex

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"When someone has been on the site for a rather long time e.g. since 2009, would it not be best to choose out of those 'older' veri one or two that you feel are the best ones to show the progression mentioned earlier rather than keep all of them? I have been 'put off' by the amount that was displayed, and I am an avid reader of profiles and veri. It is everyone's choice after all but from a newbie's point of _iew, it made me a little uncomfortable as my immediate reaction was - I do not want to be another 'notch' on the bedpost. "

But even if they only show a limited few how do you know they havent got a couple of hundred they are not showing.

People are here to meet people, its a swinging site

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"You have to let people go if they say no for any reason. I have friends with veris going into the 70s and they are still my friends. I do wonder sometimes why people show so many because at the end of the day you only really need one to show you are real but each to his own. Be true to yourself and sod anyone else.

The only offputting thing is going to be from an sti point of _iew, the more people you meet the more at risk you are, but you could get one of those from a single meet (just from oral, even with safe sex) so...

Be who you are and do what makes you happy. Just be safe.

The more veris people have the more im put off, like you said the sti thing it bothers me. specially if they dont have safe sex"

As ive just said, how do you know how many verifications someone has? Just because they may only display a few doesnt mean the rest are not hidden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would rather meet the same person more than once and actually get to know the person and what they like and don't like, I would rather not just meet someone and "shag", too impersonal for me. I have people that I have been meeting for years. I have no claim to them, nor do I want to. I have a partner that I live with so I do not want another. Problem I have sometimes is that on occassions the people I meet eventually think they have a claim to me and my time. That is when Ahabs has to step it and say something. "

I feel the same way you do. But im on my own if I get any trouble, thank god none yet. Nice that you have someone to step in for you. I have got a guy I reg chat to and we are hoping to meet, he is married like me, if it works out id quite like to meet him regularly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 11 and if people are put off by them, tough titty!! I like them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have to let people go if they say no for any reason. I have friends with veris going into the 70s and they are still my friends. I do wonder sometimes why people show so many because at the end of the day you only really need one to show you are real but each to his own. Be true to yourself and sod anyone else.

The only offputting thing is going to be from an sti point of _iew, the more people you meet the more at risk you are, but you could get one of those from a single meet (just from oral, even with safe sex) so...

Be who you are and do what makes you happy. Just be safe.

The more veris people have the more im put off, like you said the sti thing it bothers me. specially if they dont have safe sex"

So if you have lots of meets you are not having safe sex? I would say exactly the opposite as the most experienced are the most careful.

And you can catch an STI from one sexual encounter!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been turned down for a meet, because I'd met someone they didn't like "

Thier loss x

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"Well we are flucked then as we have 20 showing and a few others hidden!!

Who cares how many verifications anyone has? It just proves that you do actually meet! "

NOw you know why i keep turning you down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what do you consider to be too many verifications

I've just been told that someone won't meet me as I have too many. I have 9 on my profile! I didn't think this was a problem but apparently it is!

Are we here to judge or to swing? Can you really do both?

My reply was that maybe this lady should look on a dating site rather than a swingers site if people

having sex with multiple partners is an issue

lol"
fuck we have 88 that are still going .guess we are fucked then.bad poppyxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have to let people go if they say no for any reason. I have friends with veris going into the 70s and they are still my friends. I do wonder sometimes why people show so many because at the end of the day you only really need one to show you are real but each to his own. Be true to yourself and sod anyone else.

The only offputting thing is going to be from an sti point of _iew, the more people you meet the more at risk you are, but you could get one of those from a single meet (just from oral, even with safe sex) so...

Be who you are and do what makes you happy. Just be safe.

The more veris people have the more im put off, like you said the sti thing it bothers me. specially if they dont have safe sex

As ive just said, how do you know how many verifications someone has? Just because they may only display a few doesnt mean the rest are not hidden"

This!

Plus - don't forget you can't account for any of the following:

People who play with multiple partners at clubs/parties that don't leave veri's or are on other sites,

Repeat meets that don't leave repeat veri's.

People who have profiles on other sites and meet through those and other means - including random meets in pubs/clubs.

People who meet from here and don't leave veri's for whatever reason.

There's endless variables that will affect the ratio of visible veri's to actual meets and activity! So the arguement of more = negative is one you have no full data to back up.

Personally I do have a peek through others veri's prior to meeting them/contacting them - I doubt anyone honestly doesn't. And yes i've chosen not to message some because of people they've met and 'inconsistencies' between their profile content, pictures and the wording in veri's. I find them a useful tool - one of many the site has - to aid me making my own decisions.

And if anything in mine causes people to decide not to get in touch - I won't lose a seconds sleep over it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have to let people go if they say no for any reason. I have friends with veris going into the 70s and they are still my friends. I do wonder sometimes why people show so many because at the end of the day you only really need one to show you are real but each to his own. Be true to yourself and sod anyone else.

The only offputting thing is going to be from an sti point of _iew, the more people you meet the more

at risk you are, but you could get one of those from a single meet (just from oral, even with safe sex) so...

Be who you are and do what makes you happy.

Just be safe.

The more veris people have the more im put off, like you said the sti thing it bothers me. specially if they dont have safe sex

As ive just said, how do you know how many verifications someone has? Just because they

may only display a few doesnt mean the rest are not hidden

This!

Plus - don't forget you can't account for any of the following:

People who play with multiple partners at clubs/parties that don't leave veri's or are on other sites,

Repeat meets that don't leave repeat veri's.

People who have profiles on other sites and meet through those and other means - including random meets in pubs/clubs.

People who meet from here and don't leave veri's for whatever reason.

There's endless variables that will affect the ratio of visible veri's to actual meets and activity! So

the arguement of more = negative is one you have no full data to back up.

Personally I do have a peek through others veri's

prior to meeting them/contacting them - I doubt anyone honestly doesn't. And yes i've chosen not to message some because of people they've met and 'inconsistencies' between their profile content,

pictures and the wording in veri's. I find them a useful tool - one of many the site has - to aid me making my own decisions.

And if anything in mine causes people to decide not to get in touch - I won't lose a seconds sleep over it!

"
me neither we are here to have sex.not date.we have made friendships but its cos we honest who we are.lots of people who have three veries on here we know habpbe got four or five times more if not ten times.at least i show the veries and leave it up to the members if they want to meet or not.poppyxx

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Well we are flucked then as we have 20 showing and a few others hidden!!

Who cares how many verifications anyone has? It just proves that you do actually meet! "

Fuck, we are double fucked then lol!

We have had this, but the bottom line is, we are having fun, we don't play with everyone that verifies us, and if others don't like it, jog on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't show my verifications now, can't e believe the amount of trouble showing them can cause, but if someone asks to see them to prove to them I am who I say I am I tell them I will show them for 5 mins. This week after putting my veris on, a massive total of 5 I was branded a tart slut player and all sorts lol, I wish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well we are flucked then as we have 20 showing and a few others hidden!!

Who cares how many verifications anyone has? It just proves that you do actually meet!

NOw you know why i keep turning you down "

Oh bugger lol.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well we are flucked then as we have 20 showing and a few others hidden!!

Who cares how many verifications anyone has? It just proves that you do actually meet!

Fuck, we are double fucked then lol!

We have had this, but the bottom line is, we are having fun, we don't play with everyone that verifies us, and if others don't like it, jog on! "

Not all our verifications are play ones, some are just social meet up verifications!

Damned if you don't have veris!!!!

Damned if you do have veris !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been thinking about this recently do we show too many of ours, not all of our are play verifications some are just social but I think it shows we are genuine and both still playing as I know profiles change and people split up. If are verification put people off they are probably not for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't really matter how many verifications people show as long as they show some to prove they are genuine. A profile that only shows one may have another 50 hidden.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veri's show that your genuine someone who will meet/show etc - but they can also show your good at interaction with other people....if i accepted all veri's that where one sex session after another, then i am likley to get some bad press; but by acknowledging that you meet someone only shows your good at communication - be that physical or verbal....im sure some of that made sense lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually managed to DOUBLE my veris yesterday!

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By *lifelessvanillaCouple
over a year ago

Queens Park, London

Personally we are a little bit put off by couples who have validations every single weekend. There is more to life than swinging and we like to play with people who have well rounded interests inside and outside the bedroom.

But overall number of validations isn't really a concern to us.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

If you've been on site for longer than 6 months then any less than 42 veris and I wont meet you...

...if you're a newbie and want to meet I need written verifications from at least 12 previous lovers...

...if any of your veris mention football or politics I will meet you - but I'll bring my axe and you will hol a special place in my chest freezer for several months...

...if any of your veris say you suck like a Dyson, you're in... that's a Dyson, not a bloody Henry, a Dyson...

That will do for now. I'm trying to be more relaxed on the whole thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well we are flucked then as we have 20 showing and a few others hidden!!

Who cares how many verifications anyone has? It just proves that you do actually meet!

Fuck, we are double fucked then lol!

We have had this, but the bottom line is, we are having fun, we don't play with everyone that verifies us, and if others don't like it, jog on! "
here here us too.i don't mind being the site bike .lol.i like the variety thats why we are here .ithe amount of people who told me i should have less veris up take photos down its too scary for people .yet they arranged to meet so how can it be that scary?poppyxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally we are a little bit put off by couples who have validations every single weekend. There is more to life than swinging and we like to play with people who have well rounded interests inside and outside the bedroom.

But overall number of validations isn't really a concern to us."

I would say the same if swinging is someone's whole life its off putting but numbers over all can be down to parties or socials too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally we are a little bit put off by couples who have validations every single weekend. There is more to life than swinging and we like to play with people who have well rounded interests inside and outside the bedroom.

But overall number of validations isn't really a concern to us.

I would say the same if swinging is someone' whole life its off putting but numbers over all canbe down to parties or socials too."
you can have lots of verifications and swing still hold down a job,have kids and a very active social life without just swinging.its possible to have your cake and eat it with lots of planning .we have a very full life with work business and friends that don't swing too.poppyx

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Well we are flucked then as we have 20 showing and a few others hidden!!

Who cares how many verifications anyone has? It just proves that you do actually meet!

Fuck, we are double fucked then lol!

We have had this, but the bottom line is, we are having fun, we don't play with everyone that verifies us, and if others don't like it, jog on! here here us too.i don't mind being the site bike .lol.i like the variety thats why we are here .ithe amount of people who told me i should have less veris up take photos down its too scary for people .yet they arranged to meet so how can it be that scary?poppyxx "

We don't mind how many verifs people have, this is, after all, a swinging site!

Ours show us in both a social and a play environment, and we think it demonstrates that we are well-rounded people who like to have fun if the opportunity arises!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well we are flucked then as we have 20 showing and a few others hidden!!

Who cares how many verifications anyone has? It just proves that you do actually meet!

Fuck, we are double fucked then lol!

We have had this, but the bottom line is, we are having fun, we don't play with everyone that verifies us, and if others don't like it, jog on! here here us too.i don't mind being the site bike.lol.i like the variety thats why we are here.ithe

amount of people who told me i should have less veris up take photos down its too scary for people .yet they arranged to meet so how can it be that scary?poppyxx

We don't mind how many verifs people have, this

is, after all, a swinging site!

Ours show us in both a social and a play environment, and we think it demonstrates that we are well-rounded people who like to have fun if the opportunity arises! "
well i don't fuck everyone i meet lol.honest .i never have enough time to do everyone .lolwe have fun with like minded people who share our common interest of sex or kink.we do do socials too.and I am good at them so far.poppyxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have quite a few veris and to be honest if someone told me that there were too many, or they didn't like what was written on them, or they didn't like who I'd met, I would have to say that they weren't the sort of people I want to meet.

I use this site the way I want to so ignore people who are essentially telling me how they want me to behave."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have quite a few veris and to be honest if someone told me that there were too many, or they didn't like what was written on them, or they didn't like who I'd met, I would have to say that they weren't the sort of people I want to meet.

I use this site the way I want to so ignore people who are essentially telling me how they want me to behave."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have quite a few veris and to be honest if someone told me that there were too many, or they didn't like what was written on them, or they didn't like who I'd met, I would have to say that they weren't the sort of people I want to meet.

I use this site the way I want to so ignore people who are essentially telling me how they want me to behave. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I avoid meets with those that have several verifications from the same person as I've had past experience of jealous clingy woman who seem to think that if you meet someone more than once you have a claim to them

I'm here for fun not drama"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have quite a few veris and to be honest if someone told me that there were too many, or they didn't like what was written on them, or they didn't like who I'd met, I would have to say that they weren't the sort of people I want to meet.

I use this site the way I want to so ignore people who are essentially telling me how they want me to behave."

Also, people must realise that some profiles don't show all of their verifications? They might have 5 showing but may have had 500 veris!

crystal

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By *TUDLY_GOOD_FUCKMan
over a year ago

mansfield

You can't please everyone so please your self

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you've been on site for longer than 6 months then any less than 42 veris and I wont meet you...

...if you're a newbie and want to meet I need written verifications from at least 12 previous lovers...

...if any of your veris mention football or politics I will meet you - but I'll bring my axe and you will hol a special place in my chest freezer for several months...

...if any of your veris say you suck like a Dyson, you're in... that's a Dyson, not a bloody Henry, a Dyson...

That will do for now. I'm trying to be more relaxed on the whole thing.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

8 of mine are from Social meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of veries not a problem to us... a good mix shows your reliable and progressing .. am sure each veri would be different, veries show others there could be something there that maybe the profile doesnt show ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The amount of veries not a problem to us... a good mix shows your reliable and progressing .. am sure each veri would be different, veries show others there could be something there that maybe the profile doesnt show .. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you've been on site for longer than 6 months then any less than 42 veris and I wont meet you...

...if you're a newbie and want to meet I need written verifications from at least 12 previous lovers...

...if any of your veris mention football or politics I will meet you - but I'll bring my axe and you will

hol a special place in my chest freezer for several months...

...if any of your veris say you suck like a Dyson, you're in... that's a Dyson, not a bloody Henry, a

Dyson...

That will do for now. I'm trying to be more relaxed on the whole thing.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I avoid meets with those that have several verifications from the same person as I've had past experience of jealous clingy woman who seem to think that if you meet someone more than once you have a claim to them

I'm here for fun not drama"

Same here!

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

You can never tell who is meeting who it however many people they display. I've met couples that say they will verify me would only show a few verifications by guys as it will look like they don't meet them often.

More recently though I was at a party, one of the women hadn't been on here for 3 Weeks, but was still shagging very freely, another couple weren't verified since September yet they were well in the think of it and are still not verified from it nearly a week later.

I don't think anybody can tell how active someone is just by their profile at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An interesting topic...

Verifications are worthy however, I do appreciate one persons opinion does not always give a true accurate account of person/persons personality and sexual experience as I'm sure we've all discovered for ourselves..

In the main if a profile has a high quantity of veris that are consistent it gives you a good idea of what to expect if your going to meet the person/persons..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Very good discussion

I think I will not worry about what the minority think and be proud of my positive verifications

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"An interesting topic...

Verifications are worthy however, I do appreciate one persons opinion does not always give a true accurate account of person/persons personality and sexual experience as I'm sure we've all discovered for ourselves..

In the main if a profile has a high quantity of veris that are consistent it gives you a good idea of what to expect if your going to meet the person/persons..

"

This is what I look for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very good discussion

I think I will not worry about what the minority think and be proud of my positive verifications"
i personally am aiming for a hundred .lol.pmsl.that will have people throwing popcorn now.lol.bad pervy slutty .poppyxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have to let people go if they say no for any reason. I have friends with veris going into the 70s and they are still my friends. I do wonder sometimes why people show so many because at the end of the day you only really need one to show you are real but each to his own. Be true to yourself and sod anyone else.

The only offputting thing is going to be from an sti point of _iew, the more people you meet the more at risk you are, but you could get one of those from a single meet (just from oral, even with safe sex) so...

Be who you are and do what makes you happy. Just be safe.

The more veris people have the more im put off, like you said the sti thing it bothers me. specially if they dont have safe sex

As ive just said, how do you know how many verifications someone has? Just because they may only display a few doesnt mean the rest are not hidden

This!

Plus - don't forget you can't account for any of the following:

People who play with multiple partners at clubs/parties that don't leave veri's or are on other sites,

Repeat meets that don't leave repeat veri's.

People who have profiles on other sites and meet through those and other means - including random meets in pubs/clubs.

People who meet from here and don't leave veri's for whatever reason.

There's endless variables that will affect the ratio of visible veri's to actual meets and activity! So the arguement of more = negative is one you have no full data to back up.

Personally I do have a peek through others veri's prior to meeting them/contacting them - I doubt anyone honestly doesn't. And yes i've chosen not to message some because of people they've met and 'inconsistencies' between their profile content, pictures and the wording in veri's. I find them a useful tool - one of many the site has - to aid me making my own decisions.

And if anything in mine causes people to decide not to get in touch - I won't lose a seconds sleep over it!

"

good to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't pay that much attention to veris as I want to make up my own mind about the person. It tells that they meet but that doesn't mean they'll meet me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't pay that much attention to veris as I want to make up my own mind about the person. It tells that they meet but that doesn't mean they'll meet me! "
i been told i come across to easy to meet cos i got so many.wtf we are on a swinging site not a dating site .lol.poppyxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our two cents:

This is a two edged sword. For every forum bitch - sorry, post - about too many veris, there are two complaining about fakers without any.

So, we took the _iew that as relative new comers to this - one year coming up - we wanted to be sure we displayed a variety of people we had met. We decided too that we did not want them to be mini pornos either, its our business after all.

What becomes increasingly obvious as we find our feet with this site is this:

Only your own judegment really counts. No amount of spoon feeding and filtering will replace that.

Getting hung up on who said what, when and how many times is a red herring.

In our opinion x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im sure i live in a different world to others. Ive never had anyone comment on my verifications and certainly not in a negative way. I i had verifications from everyon id met and club meets i guess they would be double

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Im sure i live in a different world to others. Ive never had anyone comment on my verifications and certainly not in a negative way. I i had verifications from everyon id met and club meets i guess they would be double"

I've only had positive feedback on mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are paranoid about our verifications now! We don't even display them all.

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By *yggeCouple
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"I've been turned down for a meet, because I'd met someone they didn't like "

We did too... Turned out to be an excuse because the lady wasn't meeting . The bloke has tried twice since to meet on his own on couples and singles profiles but once bitten ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not the number of verifications that put me off but often the content. prefer people to leave a little to the imagination as dont really need or want to know what someones spunk tasted like etc. But i like discretion. Others obviously dont. Each to their own as usual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not the number of verifications that put me off but often the content. prefer people to leave a little to the imagination as dont really need or want to know what someones spunk tasted like etc. But i like discretion. Others obviously dont. Each to their own as usual "

We never put those up. Only had a few like that but they lack class.

Mind if you read our verifications most are actually from not playing. Time wasters that we must clearly be lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does not bother us how many people have. Sod anyone that wont meet if you have to many!!!

We have a few but who cares,we visit clubs alot and meet lots of new people,some of our veri`s we have played with,some we have not and never will.

I like to show them all as think it gives a sense of how we like to play as well as socialise.xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh no!!! too many verifications. We had better stop trying to find anyone on here then lol

I would rather know someone is genuine than arrange to meet an unverified couple who never show up.

We love collecting ours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"oh no!!! too many verifications. We had better stop trying to find anyone on here then lol

I would rather know someone is genuine than arrange to meet an unverified couple who never show up.

We love collecting ours. "
same here i want a 100 .lol.poppyxx

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