FabSwingers.com forum: Biggest turn on and turns off about fab profiles.

By *uayside Glory Hole OP Man
over a year ago

Gateshead Quayside

Some profiles are top tier, very horny and the content (text, pics and vids) just hit the mark and get you interested to fab pics, wink or message.

Some profiles are exactly the opposite and have you skipping straight on or blocking.

What does and doesn’t do it for you?

Personally any profile that includes negativity is a big red flag for me. “Full of time wasters this site”, “This site is shit at the minute” etc…

I find profiles with decent pics and clear descriptions of what turns them on much more useful and attractive.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

I’ll be honest, I do like a well written profile that’s easy to ready.

I tend to avoid BLOODY SHOUTY ANGRY profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My biggest turn on is a profile that matches the current status and interests of the author.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately I have a lot of turn offs.

If people write “mmmm” somewhere on their profile it puts me off. If the words “play” or “fun” are there it turns me off. Also if someone writes something along the lines of being “up for everything” or “no limits” or something like that, it also puts me off.

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

Horribly blurry or dark photos.

Photos that have a full girl, body n’ all, but just the top of a cock on a single guy’s profile.

Empty profile text.

Default profile photo and zero other photos, yet a message asking if we wanna meet today. lol.

Just lazy fucking profiles really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just lazy fucking profiles really."

Pretty much this. Low effort is hardly an aphrodisiac.

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By *damxxMan
over a year ago

London

"Just lazy fucking profiles really.

Pretty much this. Low effort is hardly an aphrodisiac. "

Well taken creative / photos are a turn on.

Nice pics hippyflip

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By *ookiewithcreamCouple
over a year ago

London

Bad grammar, pictures of just pussy and cock. Pics of just the woman only and none of the guy suggest he has something to hide. Angry profiles. Negativity. Profile with loads of verifications showing they’ve slept with half the population.

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

"Bad grammar, pictures of just pussy and cock. Pics of just the woman only and none of the guy suggest he has something to hide. Angry profiles. Negativity. Profile with loads of verifications showing they’ve slept with half the population. "

Your opinion about loads of verifications is a little bit odd to us (we have a fair few). It’s not an indication of safety. Many profiles with very few verifications are going to be people playing unsafe, and it is a swinging site, so surely the amount isn’t the issue, but how they go about it. Also, not all verifications will be for people they’ve fucked, but many will be people they’ve met at clubs and had chats with or have seen on cam etc. I understand different people have different opinions, but when you break it down like I just did, there’s obviously a lot more subtlety to the nature of “number of veris”.

But if that’s an issue for you, that’s fair and your own opinion. Just think it’s probably less black and white than bad photos or empty profiles etc.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Blank profiles where there's no pics and not much text are an instant delete from me.

Same if it's just cock pics as it gives me no idea of that person, other than they like their pecker

I like profiles that tell me a bit about them, what they like and offer. With some pics that tease, but leave a bit to the imagination.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turn offs

Shouty

Pity party- no one will want me or negative slant- this site is rubbish but…

Excessive use of hahaha

Poorly written per se

Long list of conditions (send me a face pic immediately, tell me your inside leg measurement etc) yet their profile has bugger all in

“I’ll fill it in later” - if you can’t be bothered writing, why should i mesaage

Turn ons

Tells us something about what you like and who you are

Tasteful photos (not endless cock or gynecology )

Tidy photos (put the bloody washing away at least!)

Clarity around expectations

A sense you wont hook up with the whole site just for the sake of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Food used as dildos or to many graphic pussy pics

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Any mention of the following in the name

Daddy, Dom, Alpha or a mention of genitals

Pictures of the opposite sex on single profiles and extras in couples profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alpha anyone who describes themselves as this is a firm no

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon

"Turn offs

Shouty

Pity party- no one will want me or negative slant- this site is rubbish but…

Excessive use of hahaha

Poorly written per se

Long list of conditions (send me a face pic immediately, tell me your inside leg measurement etc) yet their profile has bugger all in

“I’ll fill it in later” - if you can’t be bothered writing, why should i mesaage" -

Agreed all of these.

Plus vag pictures with close up inserts of veg ect

Anyone who writes 'mmmmmm'

Bull, alpha, dom, daddy/mummy, princess, milf/dilf ect ect

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

When I read a woman’s profile and a male is mentioned that’s a big turn off for me as it feels a lot of the time the male is controlling the account

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples with no men pics on the profile, and men that just have their cock in every pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Couples with no men pics on the profile, and men that just have their cock in every pic."

I mean as a female searching. I like to see both of the couple.

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By *olfandtazCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

A well written profile, actual face pics instead of cock shots! And a half decent opening message will get our attention.

If there's no pics, minimal text and an unimaginative message we just delete and move on

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

Mainly blank profiles for me, no bio no pics, or no bio and one dick pic.

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Smoking..

we check the profile bit first and move along if they smoke..

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By *onderingpurposeMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Any "legal" text at the bottom of a profile. You put the photos on the internet. They are not yours anymore

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Turn on : photos of hot wife flashing their knickers.

Turn offs : Sat on toilet photos, user names with “Gush” or “Gusher”

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By *eGlam11Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Yep that...all this cut and paste about Sydney University and claiming you'll sue people. Absolutely pointless.

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"I don't bite, unless you want me to"

Daddy, Dom, Bull, Viking, BBC, BWC turn me right off

"Will fill in later" when they've been a member for over a year

Whining about how hard it is to get laid

No photos

Blurry/dark photos. I take all my photos myself with my mobile phone, it's easy, so I don't understand how the hell you get photos that dark and blurry and they say it's the best they can do?

Spunk covered dicks and pussies.

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By *heekyCharmMan
over a year ago

Colne

"Food used as dildos or to many graphic pussy pics

Mr "
#SaveTheCucumbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can be the hottest thing here, but your status will probably retract my dick deep inside of me!

Also, Faceache style profiles/writing.

If your home is a shit hole, you don’t need to be rich to clean!

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By *onderingpurposeMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Yep that...all this cut and paste about Sydney University and claiming you'll sue people. Absolutely pointless. "

That deserved a wink

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Love intriguing profiles which is full of sexy pics and a good detailed profile.

Hate profiles with nothing in, blank avatars, dick pics and ones that say I don’t know what to say…if you can’t sell yourself then no one else can!

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By *andaloriansCouple
over a year ago

Malvern

Gotta be family pics in the background! Privacy is key people!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like profiles that tell us a little about themselves and what they're looking for. And have public pics that are not too graphic and leave a little to the imagination.

We don't like profiles who :

State fill in later- especially when they've been on for quite some time. Makes you wonder how much effort they will put into a meet.

Have no public or profile pics - you don't need to show your face if you need to be discreet. We don't show our faces but still have pics.

Who use the words: owned, daddy, slut - each to their own but not our thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""I don't bite, unless you want me to"

Daddy, Dom, Bull, Viking, BBC, BWC turn me right off

"Will fill in later" when they've been a member for over a year

Whining about how hard it is to get laid

No photos

Blurry/dark photos. I take all my photos myself with my mobile phone, it's easy, so I don't understand how the hell you get photos that dark and blurry and they say it's the best they can do?

Spunk covered dicks and pussies.

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like overly negative profiles. Empty profiles I usually don't bother with either.

I like to read about what people are into. If it's a bit funny or quirky, definitely makes me more curious.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

"Personally any profile that includes negativity is a big red flag for me. “Full of time wasters this site”, “This site is shit at the minute” etc…"

Ive just read that and totally changed the profile on account of it... I guess I had let some of the idiots and time wasters influence me more than I should have.

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By *ogan WillowCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Couples with no men pics on the profile, and men that just have their cock in every pic."

This and silhouettes,also profiles with way too much written or no information at all.

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By *J_OuizziCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

We like

Profiles that have had a bit of thought put into them, that say what the person/couple are into and what they are looking for.

Well taken photos highlighting different body parts.

Photos of both the man and woman in a couples profile.

We don't like

Empty profiles

Dick pics

Dick pics over toilets

Couples where it is just the woman

Dishonesty - straight on the profile, bi in the DMs.

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By *owestoft ManMan
over a year ago

Lowestoft

First off, is when they have no Photo's as never been interested in Ghosts. Skipped through many that might have photo's but no Profile photo. Just my thing but no need for not having photo's.

For me, I like to read a little about who they are and what experience in swinging etc they have, even if it's very little. What their interests in the Swinging game they are looking for and they type of people they are looking for. But not pages of information, maybe about 20 lines or so. Definitely avoid any with negative information as that is just a big watch out lol.

Photos. I really find all the posing pics are extremely boring. Photo's should be showing what they are sexually looking for i.e. sexually and with other people if that's what they are looking for.

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By *uitedSuitorMan
over a year ago

Halifax / Leeds

No photos whatsoever is a big one for me.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Photos give away so much about the person. They're the green and red flags I look for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turn off: Will fill later on profiles that have been here for over a year, Meet now status, whiney status

too many cock pics and very graphic pics: too much self praise eg I can go all night.

Turn on: bit of humour in their profile, artistic pics, half clothed pics, open shirt, open jeans, wet shirt, boxers

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By *heekyCharmMan
over a year ago

Colne

"Turn off: Will fill later on profiles that have been here for over a year, Meet now status, whiney status

too many cock pics and very graphic pics: too much self praise eg I can go all night.

Turn on: bit of humour in their profile, artistic pics, half clothed pics, open shirt, open jeans, wet shirt, boxers

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By *uayside Glory Hole OP Man
over a year ago

Gateshead Quayside

Rubbish photos are a puzzle to me. Pics that are blurry or hide more than they show and make it nigh on impossible to form a mental picture of the person (or for my kink their cock) to figure out if they’re your type. Given how easy it is to take a photo I just tend to assume they indicate an insecurity and lack of confidence and ignore as that’s just not attractive to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Turn off: Will fill later on profiles that have been here for over a year, Meet now status, whiney status

too many cock pics and very graphic pics: too much self praise eg I can go all night.

Turn on: bit of humour in their profile, artistic pics, half clothed pics, open shirt, open jeans, wet shirt, boxers

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

The following puts us off

Ones that have the sydney University rubbish (as if anyone on here would really go to court to try and enforce that)

Ones where they SHOUT

Dirty backgrounds or dirty nails in pictures

Ones with lots of text speak

No cock pics

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Turn ons - good pics, polite, friendly profile.

Off's - gaping arseholes, couples I can only see the woman, close up genitals, dirty backgrounds & demanding shouty bios.

Mrs

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By *uthLessKnickersCouple
over a year ago

Cornwall/Devon

Turn offs, those interested in dogging, bi sexual and gay men.

Turn ons, well written and real profiles in proper English

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By *orelloCouple
over a year ago

Hitchin

Starting with profile there are buzz words people use that we find dull. Telling us they're a fun loving couple, happily married, been away for a bit, or that they have sooo many messages

Decent clear photos.

Rather less text, ultimately you can get the gist as soon as we chat

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By *hMeOhMyOhCouple
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"Starting with profile there are buzz words people use that we find dull. Telling us they're a fun loving couple, happily married, been away for a bit, or that they have sooo many messages

Decent clear photos.

Rather less text, ultimately you can get the gist as soon as we chat"

Know what you mean. Naughty, fun and play, too many

and

… but then we’re as guilty as anyone else. They’re not easy to replace without writing reams… and no one wants that!

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By *oupleus30Couple
over a year ago

Minster

But if that’s an issue for you, that’s fair and your own opinion. Just think it’s probably less black and white than bad photos or empty profiles etc.

I agree ?? ?? % we have 4 verifications I think and yet we have touched any of them there just people who verified us from talking to at club !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the ones that have seeked advice via the forums you can tell most are just the same boring crap ...

porn script profiles

sexist / racist profiles

profile who daily statu are constantly moaning

those who name n shames

those who think only their own opinion is correct

bullies

arty n farty pics ..why i just dont get it its like your trying to hide something people just need to see you so they can see if they like you or not...

uniform pics again why work pics gym pics pic where the woman you have your arm around has been blanked out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Turn offs.

Lack of consistency in pics, bio and verifications.

Turn ons.

I've never been turned on by a profile on its own. People turn me on not profiles.

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