FabSwingers.com forum: Play on first meet, yes or no?

By *allwelshcouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Cwmbran

We will very rarely, if ever play with a guy we have met that day. Does this put us in the minority? We like to have a social meeting first and actually find out if we like the guy. For us there has to be attraction and some sort of social aspect. We have had social meetings previously where we have walked away in a hurry. Can't imagine what it would be like if sex was arranged then guy turned up and our reactions were omg get him out of here.

We would prefer a long fwb than several one off wham bams, so a social aspect is important to us.

Understand some people do like sex with anyone that's fine and each to their own, we aren't judging just curious as to other people's opinions.

Happy fabbing all.

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By *bwwifesharerCouple
over a year ago

coventry

Always a social meet first for us

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

We have never played on a 1st meet.

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By *andPextraCouple
over a year ago

North West

Never play without a social meet first

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I always meet socially first, in the past, when single I have played after a social.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

That would depend upon how well I know them.

There are folk I’ve known for years online who I know if we ever sorted it out and stopped being crap it would be instant fireworks.

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By *inchyorksMan
over a year ago

huddersfield

I have had more play on the first meet meets than social meets.

Don't mind either, a good social to see if we click and build sexual tension is great, but then so can be a dive straight in kinda meet, or a combination of the two!

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By *dc1Man
over a year ago

essex and all over the south

I like a social first. But i have had a few socials that ended up with a play latter on. One that springs to mind was when i met a couple in a pub. We was in there for 2 hrs. He had to go but his wife stayed and i took her home. But he did admit he came along to check his wife was safe before going to work.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Mr would happily play on a first meet but apart from once I can't do it. It's odd because when I was younger I'd happily have one night stands.

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Our dynamic means we have no time for socials and just get done to the meet.

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By *elboy1957Man
over a year ago

Weston-super-Mare

Just a social meet first is always best, bit of flirting and chatting without the pressure to preform later makes the meeting more enjoyable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All depends on if you feel comfortable enough…. This can be built from getting to know each other well through messaging and chatting in the phone ..if you feel you could have sex from there then go with your gut…. But if there’s doubts …. Meet socially and see…. There’s no stopping a play after the social

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon

Not a fan of socials, if I'm meeting I'd rather just crack on.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Chichester

Depends sometimes I meet social and that’s it. Other times I meet for a fast fuck and fuck off so to speak

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By *olfandtazCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We try to do a social meet first to suss each other out, not afraid to invite them back to play if things go well.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
over a year ago

Trowbridge

If there was a spark, for sure

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

As I say on my profile I insist on a social meet.

That's a dealbreaker as far as I'm concerned.

I have been pressured by a few couples over the years to meet without one or insisting that I book an hotel close to the coffee shop so we could play immediately after.

I don't do that and that has annoyed some people.

I'm extremely fussy who I choose to get naked with and anyone suggesting playing on a first meet will just bring the conversation to a swift conclusion.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
over a year ago

wonderland.

We tend to play at clubs. So yes we would mostly play on first meets

Although not playing at all just now

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
over a year ago

west london

Depends on the chemistry xx

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By *ourisfunCouple
over a year ago

Central

We tend to do most of our meets at clubs, so there is always that social aspect of the evening before any potential play anyway, but we normally wouldn't bother with just a social on it's own x

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

We always insist on a social first meet as we're not going to b3d anyone we dont know or someone who we Don't get on with

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

We insist on a social meets 1st as she does like to get to know the person or people before anything sexual happens but there has been afew times in the past where we've met and played on a 1st meet all depends of the chemistry ?? but each to their own and we don't do clubs either and so our options are now very limited nowadays so cuts down on us meeting anyone as we won't ever promise sex nor do we think people should feel under any pressure to do so ! and all down top being respectful to everyone though ! aslong as everyone is happy and having fun ....xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends on the type of meet, depends if things feel right.

each to there own

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By *dswingersCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

we always prefer a social first just in case there’s no chemistry x

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

I've had plenty of first meets where we got straight down to it. If you're both willing, then why not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do social meets, when I meet it for playing.

After all what does having a drink have to do with how good they are in the bedroom.

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By *ue and robCouple
over a year ago

ware

We arrange meets when we're in the mood can't say we will be in the mood Thursday week etc so we meet have fun 1st time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont do socials so if im meeting its for fun.

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By *att71Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I have done both, really depends on the chemistry you have before hand, is it lets over coffee or is it i know and lets not mess about.

Sometimes the social element is meeting on here and sorting the meet is it not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done both in the past. Living where I do, it's not always possible to have a social first as I'm miles from a lot of people. I would have chatted quite a while before travelling to meet them though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes every time - life is too short and hard to organise to drive for 1-2 hours for a coffee and natter - I'm not looking for a friend.. Just a great fuck

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

Never had a social that hasn't ended in play

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By *ister_EMan
over a year ago

Hayling Island

Most of my socials have ended up with us engaging in some form of play if not turning into a full blown meet.... But it's never expected or taken for granted and o lying viewed a a lovely bonus!

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By *od ThrusterMan
over a year ago

Newport Pagnell

I have absolutely no problem playing on the first meet, but equally have absolutely no problem with a social only if that is what is wanted.

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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago

Wolves

Most of my meets have a social aspect to them.

Couples who I meet for a drink tend to be people I’ve chatted to & become personal with before actually meeting, so there is already something there, and most times the social is so we all have the chance to say thanks but no thanks luckily I’ve never had that happen and has resulted in same day / evening play.

Socials aren’t for everyone, as we’re all looking for something slightly different from this adventure

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

We never do social meets with single guys and the ones we organise are always meet to fuck. But, we do meet guys in clubs and don’t play so those could be considered social. That said; we don’t don’t organise that way and never will.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We usually don’t but we have done. But we’ll have chatted quite a bit beforehand too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t usually do socials , prefer to chat for a while then if all keen arrange a meet for some fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and no depends on how I am feeling

Like sometimes we don’t connect kink wise and looking for different things in that department

But why say no to some vinnla sex so off to the hotel room for a couple off hours one time deal

Sometimes no if say we connect on all levels and I know we see each other again

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By *uthLessKnickersCouple
over a year ago

Cornwall/Devon

We have a social first but if that social goes well we do like to go on to play straight away. We always tell our prospective guests to leave the afternoon clear just in case. And as we live only 5 mins from our social venue we can continue the flirting on route

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely depends on the mood and how horny I am

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By *ussraneCouple
over a year ago

Romford

Social always first and if the stars are right we can go on to play the same day, happened a couple of times but generally doesn’t.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

It’s each to their own.

I think you’ll find a good mix of both.

I don’t do regular, or socials.

So for me, as long as we are into the same things and find each other ridiculously attractive looks/ body wise then that’s all I’m here for.

Just stick to your boundaries. If you want socials first make sure you do.

There’s something for everyone on here

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

Habe some various different experiences here...

Met at hers with no social and she turned out to be nothing at all like she was in the pictures. Awkward as fuck.

Met and had a social and we got on so well, it progressed to carnal activity once the s were downed.

Met for a social and we both didn't click at all and it was really awkward. Both probably playing it too safe.

Social, got on really well but not taken any further.

Lesson learned...have a social.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Never meet and play. Social first for us. We got bitten a few times on quick meet ups.

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
over a year ago

Worcester

Never on the first meet for me, unless it’s a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're not fans of socials we much prefer just straight to sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're not fans of socials we much prefer just straight to sex"

Having said that we rarely meet outside of a club setting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're not fans of socials we much prefer just straight to sex"

This

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
over a year ago

Warwick and Coventry

Now Monopoly and Twister are perquisites on a first meet we're deviants....

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By *ady7Woman
over a year ago

Hereford

I played on a 1st meet with a bloke , 7 yrs later I married him . We've been together 10yrs . We normally have social first nowadays

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Have always done some sort of a social first either drinks at a bar or at a swingers club. We’ve never got straight down to action though

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By *izzyrascalsCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

If everyone is comfortable and happy we will

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We only meet in club's. Sometimes it's a 10/15 minute chat then into a room

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By *en ukMan
over a year ago

harrow London

Yes

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By *ilk_TrayMan
over a year ago

South

Sometimes you can meet someone at a club/party, I don't play with them but it could lead to something at a later date.

Other than that it's rare for me to have a social then, have a play date later.

But I have had socials which turn into play dates.

If I'm communicating consistently and leaving a good impression, it usually turns into a play on the first meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only play in clubs. We have played with people we haven't spoken a word to before.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I prefer to meet for a social first. No expectations for either side, and if there's no spark, just go our separate ways. I'd rather 'lose' 30 minutes in a coffee shop, than waste an entire evening.

A high percentage of my first meets have ended with play though, as I've generally built a rapport through messaging beforehand....

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Depends on the dynamic really. I generally prefer a social first, but I have played on a first meet.

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By *oveToPlay.Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Meeting someone from fab - we generally message quite a lot first so get a good idea of each other. When we do meet it's always for drinks first but with the intention to play also. If ever we didn't feel a spark we would just say so and not take it any further- luckily not happened as of yet

S xxxx

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By *attiB87Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yes

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
over a year ago

Maidstone

Absolutely

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

"Not a fan of socials, if I'm meeting I'd rather just crack on. "

And also, if the chemistry is there, why not go with the flow

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

My first meet with someone is always just a social x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I don't play on first meet I don't play at all

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By *helseaJimmy1975Couple
over a year ago

Yes we have played in 1st meet.

As someone has previously said we don’t really have the time for socials beforehand

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By *oots11Couple
over a year ago

wirral

We have had a social and it went amazingly well so we ended up having some amazing fun x

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent

We always meet people for a drink and chat first to make sure the vibe is right and we all click. Once we’ve established that we’re all happy and comfortable, play is definitely the next step for us. We do spend a long time chatting before we even arrange to meet though and then we’ll be chatting over drinks for a couple of hours or more before we head to a bed room together. Saying that, one of the very best meets we have had was with a guy we started chatting to and then met the next day. We spent a while in the bar and then headed up to our hotel room and it was such a fantastic experience. Some times you can talk to people for months and then when you actually meet, there’s no chemistry. Other times you can have a day of messaging, meet in person and instantly feel comfortable.

C x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just a social meet first is always best, bit of flirting and chatting without the pressure to preform later makes the meeting more enjoyable. "

This is my style. I like to enjoy the coffee, and the person without pressure.

If we walk away desiring devouring one another, let’s plan for that to take place another time.

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By *23RouteCouple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Yes !

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By *isaSlutFaceCouple
over a year ago

Solihull

Never do socials. If I'm talking to people on here I want them to use me not buy me coffee lol

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

For me it depends

I rarely meet 121 now, but sometimes the chemistry is so strong that it does happen first time we meet.

That’s why I now prefer to meet in clubs. We have a drink, socialise and what happens next depends on the vibe.

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By *olarbear73Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

In my experience, when planning a meet with a woman I’ve always ensured that we both understand the nature of the meet. Meet location goes a long way to determine the outcome.

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By *OYFBWoman
over a year ago

Jersey (sometimes Notts)

Usually a quick hello somewhere safe first and play if it feels right on a first meet

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Some people like to play on the first meet and others don’t. In my experiencel, the more experienced the couple the more likely they are to play on a first meet.

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Social first, but often with an opportunity to move to play if it's right.

No expectation, or obligation.

It's meet as a social, but be within a reasonable distance of somewhere we can play, or meet on a club night.

We've found that finding dates for Fab fun is difficult enough, without needing several free dates to progress to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social first, but often with an opportunity to move to play if it's right.

No expectation, or obligation.

It's meet as a social, but be within a reasonable distance of somewhere we can play, or meet on a club night.

We've found that finding dates for Fab fun is difficult enough, without needing several free dates to progress to play."

A pragmatic approach. I tend to aim for a social with an opportunity to play, but with no obligation.

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By *r K and Mrs LCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

If we got on well enough then we wouldn’t say no, but wouldn’t expect it.

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By *eandher4and9Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Social meet but if happy then will probably play x

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By *avenjane7Couple
over a year ago

colne

Yes it has been known for us to play on the first meet, if we all get on OK.

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By *eliciouslyKinky41Man
over a year ago

Beccles

If there's a decent connection there then I would play on first meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I drop my knickers on the first meet because I'm a symptom of the decline of Western Civilisation

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By *neakypeaky30Man
over a year ago

Midlands

I feel like if it was arranged to be purely a social then it would be. If we're meeting in a private setting and there's great chemistry then sure. There's no guarantee either way though

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By *hiversMan
over a year ago

Dinas Powys

"If there's a decent connection there then I would play on first meet "

This. If it was strictly a social only that's cool, but otherwise if both (or all) parties are up for it then yeah, I would and have played on a first meet.

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By *leasureseekers123Couple
over a year ago

Heathrow

We always play on a first meet. Gave up on pure socials years ago. We like the spontaneity but of course we have a quick chat and a drink first.

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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

It all depends on the environment for us. There needs to be some degree of connection for us to play. We've played on our first meets, but that has usually been preceded by either a lengthy group chat via text or a social setting, like in a club.

We aren't interested in a "wham bam" type meet where we know nothing about the person etc.

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By *ndianLuxCouple
over a year ago

West midlands

Possible , can’t rule out

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By *luefire2Couple
over a year ago

just somewhere around here

We prefer a social first, we have learnt the hard way about going straight in. We need to like them and we need to be attracted to them.

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
over a year ago

Bedale

This has been something of a point of confusion and frustration for us at times, albeit we respect everyone's right to make these decisions for themselves.

The short answer is yes, we do play on the first meet, if the feeling is right.

We make it clear before every first encounter that nothing is promised; but nothing is barred either when it comes to it. If the mood is right we will proposition, if it's not we will thank them for a lovely evening and that will be that.

For us a meet is effectively a date; and I suspect there are very few of us who can honestly say we have never fucked on a first date or had a one night stand. At the end of the day we're all swingers and we have never understood why as swingers we would place a higher bar to sex than we would do in the dating scene.

Its also for us a practical question - We have limited and fairly rigid time availability away from the family. If we arrange something and there's good chemistry the odds are decent that there won't be a month or two onwards by the time the next opportunity arises.

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By *eviant TogMan
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Let's just get straight to the point! We can all usually tell if we vibe together online, the biggest buzz is just getting straight to the action with someone you've just met.

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By *inkyAddamsCouple
over a year ago

dereham

If the vibe is right then why not?

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By *angOnBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

Depends. We meet as a social first and have been know to take them home

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

Yes, if everyone is comfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely especially if the attraction is there

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London

"If the vibe is right then why not? "

I agree this is important as need to ask what like or not. As a generalisation my best meets did not happen when sleep with straight away. I have however had a lot of fun sleeping on first meet when it suited all of us. Most of my meets on here have been like that and enjoyed

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

"I played on a 1st meet with a bloke , 7 yrs later I married him . We've been together 10yrs . We normally have social first nowadays "

Same as Sammi and I. We met, fucked 15 minutes later (for much longer than 15 minutes to clarify…!) and 6 years later, married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anonymity is HWs kink so a social is not usually required. Having said that Master knows exactly what she likes and doesn’t like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I play on the first meet it saves time, why get to know a person only to find out they are no good in the bedroom.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

It would be good just to get a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the connection with the person.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

This can be a very sexy thing to do, especially when the meet is a social and the chemistry is instant so you just go for the it; obviously not in public.

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

Depends on if anyone wants to play, we have done on occasions

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

I’ve definitely played on a first meet before, but it has coincided with a social in a pub first though

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