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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Whats the point (other than possibly financial) why not be single ?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because we are happy together and an open arrangement works for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it being able to have sex with others or have other relationships?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i couldnt do it personaly...but i admire those who actually do!

i know some couples who are in open relationships and its honest and both agree.

Surely thats way better than all those out there who are being unfaithful but have partners who love them to bits and faithful to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its what were all here for?

try something new? its not cheating everything is agreed by both, its a fantasy fun, aslong as its safe, then its fun and enjoyable,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We're NOT against people who like an open relationship.

There's definitely no appeal for us though, as we do like to play together and the thought of cheating doesn't even enter into the equation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm new to this; up until a few months ago the idea was bedroom talk of me being with another man, that has now moved on to reality. My hubby knows. Although would love to try something where hubby can be involved in too! But family life at the moment doesn't give us the opportunity.

I could never do this behind his back, it would be awful for me. So I'm very luckily that I have been given 'permission'.

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By *lade19752Man
over a year ago

London


"Its what were all here for?

try something new? its not cheating everything is agreed by both, its a fantasy fun, aslong as its safe, then its fun and enjoyable,"

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


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Surely thats way better than all those out there who are being unfaithful but have partners who love them to bits and faithful to them "

Both partners have to want to be in an open relationship... being unfaithful is like opening out the relationship 'without consent'.

The difference between doing that and being single (question mentioned further back) is that you get to live with someone who actually gives a shit.

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we couldn't do it either we enjoy watching each other have fun to much lol plus zoe would get way more action the me as the demand for a female is way more than the demand for another guy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're NOT against people who like an open relationship.

There's definitely no appeal for us though, as we do like to play together and the thought of cheating doesn't even enter into the equation."

If a relationship is truly open, cheating does not even remotely enter the equation.

Playing together also doesn't mean that one or both partners won't cheat at some point.

My experience on here has proven that point totally, because i have been asked for mm fun on umpteen occasions by the male of a couple whose spouse or partner doesnt know about their bi side.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Playing separately is just sex with someone else, in the long run it means nothing, apart from some horny chat when the other one gets home but the best part of the relationship is kept between the 2 of you, the cuddles in front of the telly, the evenings out at dinner or the cinema, the caring for each other, the private jokes, the tenderness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Playing separately is just sex with someone else, in the long run it means nothing, apart from some horny chat when the other one gets home but the best part of the relationship is kept between the 2 of you, the cuddles in front of the telly, the evenings out at dinner or the cinema, the caring for each other, the private jokes, the tenderness "

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Relationships arnt all based around sex, well mine isnt. Sex with others is recreational fun. You dont get every othe aspect of a relationship by having sex with other people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Playing separately is just sex with someone else, in the long run it means nothing, apart from some horny chat when the other one gets home [ but the best part of the relationship is kept between the 2 of you, the cuddles in front of the telly, the evenings out at dinner or the cinema, the caring for each other, the private jokes, the tenderness] "

Good point well presented

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're NOT against people who like an open relationship.

There's definitely no appeal for us though, as we do like to play together and the thought of cheating doesn't even enter into the equation."

I'm a bit confused here, (maybe niave even), but, as you are on a swingers site, you are in an open relationship also! I.E. Inviting people to join you in that relationship for sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting debate.

For me it would depend on how the relationship starts off. If it starts off swinging then I could be in an open relationship maybe, but I probably couldn't go from a straight m/f to an open relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We're NOT against people who like an open relationship.

There's definitely no appeal for us though, as we do like to play together and the thought of cheating doesn't even enter into the equation.

I'm a bit confused here, (maybe niave even), but, as you are on a swingers site, you are in an open relationship also! I.E. Inviting people to join you in that relationship for sex!"

Open to us means the relevant partners going and playing by themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're NOT against people who like an open relationship.

There's definitely no appeal for us though, as we do like to play together and the thought of cheating doesn't even enter into the equation.

I'm a bit confused here, (maybe niave even), but, as you are on a swingers site, you are in an open relationship also! I.E. Inviting people to join you in that relationship for sex!

Open to us means the relevant partners going and playing by themselves."

Oh. And heres me thinking I was the niave one!

By definition, your openly inviting people to join you for the purpose of having sex. A 'closed' relationship doesn't. Therefore your in an open relationship. Oh, and being in an 'open' relationship isn't cheating on your partner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We're NOT against people who like an open relationship.

There's definitely no appeal for us though, as we do like to play together and the thought of cheating doesn't even enter into the equation.

I'm a bit confused here, (maybe niave even), but, as you are on a swingers site, you are in an open relationship also! I.E. Inviting people to join you in that relationship for sex!

Open to us means the relevant partners going and playing by themselves.

Oh. And heres me thinking I was the niave one!

By definition, your openly inviting people to join you for the purpose of having sex. A 'closed' relationship doesn't. Therefore your in an open relationship. Oh, and being in an 'open' relationship isn't cheating on your partner."

I appreciate we're open as we're inviting other people to have sex with us....We're not Naive. Obviously an open relationship means something different to you than it does to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Playing separately is just sex with someone else, in the long run it means nothing, apart from some horny chat when the other one gets home but the best part of the relationship is kept between the 2 of you, the cuddles in front of the telly, the evenings out at dinner or the cinema, the caring for each other, the private jokes, the tenderness "

This. To be fair I would find a poly relationship worked better for me. But open is best for me if I can't get that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're NOT against people who like an open relationship.

There's definitely no appeal for us though, as we do like to play together and the thought of cheating doesn't even enter into the equation.

I'm a bit confused here, (maybe niave even), but, as you are on a swingers site, you are in an open relationship also! I.E. Inviting people to join you in that relationship for sex!

Open to us means the relevant partners going and playing by themselves.

Oh. And heres me thinking I was the niave one!

By definition, your openly inviting people to join you for the purpose of having sex. A 'closed' relationship doesn't. Therefore your in an open relationship. Oh, and being in an 'open' relationship isn't cheating on your partner.

I appreciate we're open as we're inviting other people to have sex with us....We're not Naive. Obviously an open relationship means something different to you than it does to us. "

Exactly, so we will just agree to disagree then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tried it but wasn't for me. Happy swinging, happy doing separate rooms and we've gone our separate ways in clubs. But at the moment I would not want to play alone.

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