FabSwingers.com forum: How to approach fantasies

By *ewportfun123 OP Man
over a year ago

barry

Been with my Mrs over 10 years now and have a very loving relationship with a great sex life but I am looking to add a bit more spice to it. Looking for help on how to approach the subject of fantasies we have not yet shared.

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By *MCMan
over a year ago

London/EA

Some times fantasies are best left as fantasies…

Good luck though OP.

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By *ewportfun123 OP Man
over a year ago

barry

That is true

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

How are you looking to spice things up, Do you want her to join you in meeting others?.

Only you will know what she's likely to be into op.

Have an open chat with her, tell her you have some fantasies and wondered if she has some too and go from there.

Just be aware her fantasy's may not be the same as yours though, most men want to watch their partner with another man or woman.

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By *olfandtazCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Tell her you are on here, see what she thinks about that, maybe she will want to see up a couples account

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By *ewportfun123 OP Man
over a year ago

barry

Thank you for advise. Its more about finding her deepest desires I am very open in what I want she is a little more reserved

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By *urvytreatWoman
over a year ago

somewhere nice

My advice OP would be to very respectful of your relationship and her feelings before you go wading in.

Maybe approach it in a, “are there things I can do to/for/with you to makes things better for you sexually or emotionally”

Good luck

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"Thank you for advise. Its more about finding her deepest desires I am very open in what I want she is a little more reserved"

What is it you're wanting op?

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By *ewportfun123 OP Man
over a year ago

barry

Thank you it is the starting that conversation I'm struggling with she is very closed about things like this

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By *ewportfun123 OP Man
over a year ago

barry

Nothing I really want other than to understand her deepest desires and maybe try them I have always been open about mine with her but she is a little reserved

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Have the conversation as her, however being here I'm assuming without her knowledge isn't the best start, we notice when attention is elsewhere & it definitely doesn't leave me feeling sexy.

Mrs

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By *ewportfun123 OP Man
over a year ago

barry

I use this for forum and chat with mates from my past experiences before we .et

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By *ickingdelightMan
over a year ago

Cotswolds

My wife is more reserved, body confidence, and now post birth recovery etc but we’ve found simple things like purchased 2 items from ‘adventure challenge’

In bed edition and quickies - latter being open probing questions as a couple

It’s helped her open up to talk about her fantasies and conversations to make them a reality

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By *ewportfun123 OP Man
over a year ago

barry

That is her exactly since last baby very reserved thanks for the tip

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Start off with the gentler end of the fantasies, don’t go straight in and ask for a ten man gang bang for example

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By *ewportfun123 OP Man
over a year ago

barry

Hahaha subtlety is key I guess

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By *allandathleticMan
over a year ago

Asgard

So one of my fantasies is to have I suppose you'd call it "roleplay slug sex" basically, I cover myself in butter and slide in to your back door during the night and in the morning I'm on your tiled kitchen floor because your cats killed me.

Take from it the innuendos you wish.

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By *enk15Man
over a year ago

Evesham

You could just ask her?

But you know, choose the right moment. A time when you are both relaxed. After sex talk seems a good time.

Me and the Fiancé watch sex/kink documentaries which seems to get conversations going as well.

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By *ewportfun123 OP Man
over a year ago

barry

Where do I find them

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By *enk15Man
over a year ago

Evesham

"Where do I find them"

The documentaries?

Channel 4 and Netflix is a good place to start.

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By *ewportfun123 OP Man
over a year ago

barry

Cheers have a browse

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Google 'mojo upgrade'. It's an online questionnaire you both fill in. It matches your answers and shows your definites and maybes. A great starting point for discussion

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By *ewportfun123 OP Man
over a year ago

barry

That's great thank you

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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago

Fairytale Wood

"I use this for forum and chat with mates from my past experiences before we .et "

Not looking for an answer, just posing a question for you to ponder. What if her deapest desires don't involve you at all, how would you react or would you not rather know?

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By *ewportfun123 OP Man
over a year ago

barry

I am happy to respond. If her desires were to not include my physical participation I would be OK with that hope this answers

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