FabSwingers.com forum: Men pretending to be a couple.

By *eelsandsuits OP Couple
52 weeks ago

stirling

Hey folks,

We’ve only been on the site now for maybe a couple of years but the amount of couple profiles that are getting in touch full of promise then slowly but surely it’s pretty obvious it’s a single man seems to be way higher? All the excuses or ‘how about you just meet me for the first time?’

Anyone else? How do you guys spot this? Such a waste of time and it’s getting tedious!!

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By *olfandtazCouple
52 weeks ago

Bristol

Single men make themselves obvious after a while, if it's not obvious from the start.

Unverified, no pics, no verifications for over a year... the list is quite big when you know what to look for

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By *ighland couple 99Couple
52 weeks ago

Inverness

It’s actually putting us off the site now to be honest, it’s constant.

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By *ongandharderMan
52 weeks ago

Rotherham

"Hey folks,

Anyone else? How do you guys spot this? Such a waste of time and it’s getting tedious!!

I'm surprised verifications aren't more stringent on couples now

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By *oft_SensualTV/TS
52 weeks ago

Yorkshire

Ask for a video call or cam session together early on. It usually sorts out guys playing at it from genuine couples.

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By *eelsandsuits OP Couple
52 weeks ago

stirling

Not so sore about that. We’ve now had a lot of interaction with profiles that have pics, vids, verifications then when it comes down to it there is always an issue or excuse. Maybe these are men that once did have a partner, either way it’s annoying and massively off putting.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
52 weeks ago

If its happening a lot for you, Just explain in the first few messages with a "couple" that you have been messed about by single Men pretending to be a couple to many times so how about jumping into the chat room for a minutes with both on cam, Just find a empty room or Skype if you have it

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By *anPsurreycoupleCouple
52 weeks ago

Surrey

"Ask for a video call or cam session together early on. It usually sorts out guys playing at it from genuine couples."
agree with this

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By *eelsandsuits OP Couple
52 weeks ago

stirling

"Hey folks,

Anyone else? How do you guys spot this? Such a waste of time and it’s getting tedious!!

I'm surprised verifications aren't more stringent on couples now "

Be great if somehow this could happen.

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By *essaMayWoman
52 weeks ago

Fairytale Wood

Subject comes up quite often, from my own experiences there are two types, ones that set up a couples profile but is clearly just a guy, get round filters maybe thinks it will improve his chances making a contact, maybe get some friends only pics for his next profile

The ones that were a couple and she was coerced into swinging or doesn't want to anymore or nolonger around, the latter being more likely. Guys trying to carry on the pretence.

Easy to spot, within a few words of a message

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By *bi HaiveMan
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52 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Hey folks,

Anyone else? How do you guys spot this? Such a waste of time and it’s getting tedious!!

An early phone call/quick video chat solves this.

Simples.

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By *ongandharderMan
52 weeks ago

Rotherham

"Hey folks,

Anyone else? How do you guys spot this? Such a waste of time and it’s getting tedious!!

I'm surprised verifications aren't more stringent on couples now

Be great if somehow this could happen. "

But yeah very easy to spot main one is oh can I chat to you both

Or if you get to know them would you want a group chat us 3 on cam

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By *eelsandsuits OP Couple
52 weeks ago

stirling

Think we just need to be a bit better and unfortunately more suspicious. Point about a quick online chat is good. We’ll take that on board.

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By *orl1971Couple
52 weeks ago

Glasgow

Simple check would be to say you have been messed around a lot so would they mind sending a picture of a note saying ‘Hello -profile name- from FabSwingers’ with a female and male hand visible. That’s simple, takes two minutes and anonymous early on without revealing faces.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"Hey folks,

Anyone else? How do you guys spot this? Such a waste of time and it’s getting tedious!!

Have you tried asking couples tk recommend other couples? Also, meeting in clubs is probably your best bet.

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By *ongandharderMan
52 weeks ago

Rotherham

"Think we just need to be a bit better and unfortunately more suspicious. Point about a quick online chat is good. We’ll take that on board. "

And it sucks because couples are who I want to meet have met

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By *ellhungvweMan
52 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I just get a feeling from the style of interaction - people pretending to be something they are not just have a tell/feel that is off.

Asking for a phone chat usually flushes them out.

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By *damxxMan
52 weeks ago

London

"Simple check would be to say you have been messed around a lot so would they mind sending a picture of a note saying ‘Hello -profile name- from FabSwingers’ with a female and male hand visible. That’s simple, takes two minutes and anonymous early on without revealing faces.

This is a good idea. Come across alot of fake couples and singles in the chat recently and quite a few with fake profile pics ripped off porn sites.

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By *eelsandsuits OP Couple
52 weeks ago

stirling

This is a good idea. Come across alot of fake couples and singles in the chat recently and quite a few with fake profile pics ripped off porn sites."

Yeah, this is good!

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By *enfella4uMan
52 weeks ago

staffs

I have also been jumped into these full of promises of a meet and gets things all heated up then says sorry but just me the fella can meet now are u still up for it, absolutely annoying as hell as I get all sorted get ready and on way to them what I thought was them I get that reply great time to turn back round then. If anyone genuine female or couple out there fancies a meet I’d love to hear from u xx I’m from Staffordshire

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By *andG2018Couple (MM)
52 weeks ago

Nottingham

In our experience this problem is just as bad in reverse with women who state they are single then after a read of their profile or chatting turn out to be a couple , it does your head in grr

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By *leasure82Man
52 weeks ago

portsmouth

I agree with the guys in this forum I quite regularly start chatting to a couple on chat and it becomes quite apparent that is just a single guy. I quite like doing the odd tribute here and there, and the last time I went to do one this couple was really pushy about doing it and I’ve got a feeling that was another guy.

It’s a shame because it was a real damper on things I like to meet couples singles it’s fun. We are all here for the same reason, but unfortunately guys are making it really hard for couples and single ladies to trust single men

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By *omCoyoteMan
52 weeks ago

Northern England

I've had some absolute belters over the years:

"She's at work / ill / asleep / at her mother's"

How about:

"She's a figment of my imagination"!

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By *aomilatteCouple
52 weeks ago

Midlands

"Hey folks,

Anyone else? How do you guys spot this? Such a waste of time and it’s getting tedious!!

Personally we only interact with couples that show genuine verifications. Through experience you'll be able to tell which verifications are real and which are likely to be fake.

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By *d4fun73Man
52 weeks ago

Shipley

"Hey folks,

Anyone else? How do you guys spot this? Such a waste of time and it’s getting tedious!!

It's getting tedious the number of threads on it as well.

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By *eelsandsuits OP Couple
52 weeks ago

stirling

"I've had some absolute belters over the years:

"She's at work / ill / asleep / at her mother's"

How about:

"She's a figment of my imagination"! "

Haha.

Yeah we’ve had all of these now. For one guy whose wife has been ill now for about 2 years. (Blocked now)

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By *eelsandsuits OP Couple
52 weeks ago

stirling

"Hey folks,

Anyone else? How do you guys spot this? Such a waste of time and it’s getting tedious!!

It's getting tedious the number of threads on it as well."

Then skip it and move on. Simple.

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By *d4fun73Man
52 weeks ago

Shipley

"Hey folks,

Anyone else? How do you guys spot this? Such a waste of time and it’s getting tedious!!

It's getting tedious the number of threads on it as well.

Then skip it and move on. Simple. "

Yes exactly that's what you should do

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
52 weeks ago

chichester

Yes it’s pretty rife but easy to call out

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
52 weeks ago

Leeds

Can't say I've ever had a guy pretending to be a couple on here.

Mrs

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By *oft_SensualTV/TS
52 weeks ago

Yorkshire

You're lucky then, I had one about an hour ago..

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By *erry bull1Man
52 weeks ago

doncaster

I started wearing ladies underwear but they still saw through my guide

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By *issmorganWoman
52 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

On my couple account we haven't encountered it yet.

However there are some Red flags that i'd say are good indicators, it's a man.

If it's all pics of the male,

If they push for sex chat early on or asking for pics.

The Mrs is always at work/in bed/not well.

Status updates like just Mr meeting, looking for a couple or woman for my Mr.

If it has veries from a godi whole ago, it could be they've split up and he's still using the profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

We get them fron time to time.

It starts fine but then goes straight into getting sexual and their wife is always "busy".

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By *aomilatteCouple
52 weeks ago

Midlands

As if by magic a flurry of fake profiles view our profile! They see the thread then have a nosey

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By *achel SmythTV/TS
52 weeks ago

Farnborough

It happens regularly … I can think of one now, that appears a genuine couple, but it is soooo obvious it’s a man on his own now.. his profile indicates it, and the meets his lists are all just him!!

I treat everyone I interact with, with the same suspicion, until I have reason to believe them!

R xx

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By *he MuffinmanMan
52 weeks ago

West Gloucestershire

I’ve found it a lot but from a different perspective….. I’ve contacted some couples as they want an extra guy to play with their wife (which is fine and have gone many times in the past).

However, there does seem a lot at the mo that it’s just the husband or something wishful thinking.

Easy to spot the moment they start talking about what they would like me to do to their ‘wife’.

“So, does your wife know/happy with this”

“Umm …. Yeah”

Or the woman starts talking dirty

“What you going to do to me, then”?

“How you going to fuck me”?

“Ummmmm….. I’m not because you’re a bloke. Come back to me when your wife knows or is keen” Lol

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
52 weeks ago

So many Men join fab and start off sending as many messages as they can, when that fails they start the abuse until blocked/banned, New profile they try again usually with a couple of cock pics and random Women sucking their cock, still no luck so start a couples profile armed with the knowledge from previous profiles, profiles they have viewed and threads they read

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By *MattyMan
52 weeks ago

Naked coffee house near you - Wiltshire - Swindon

I have enough issues just being me never mind having to make a fake other half up just for the fun of it

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By *asygoingcouple1000Couple
52 weeks ago

all over

Recently and well verified only

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By *eelsandsuits OP Couple
52 weeks ago

stirling

"As if by magic a flurry of fake profiles view our profile! They see the thread then have a nosey

Same!!

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By *orl1971Couple
52 weeks ago

Glasgow

"As if by magic a flurry of fake profiles view our profile! They see the thread then have a nosey

Same!!

We can’t even get fake couples interested in our profile. lol

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By *andPextraCouple
52 weeks ago

North West

We ask for a face to face video call between ladies early doors.

Amazing how many you never hear from again

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By *ausageandbeansMan
52 weeks ago

south west

It's common and happens with approaching men too (from my experience). Female always happens to be out and they have been left to do as they please etc etc.

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By *ice_couple2012Couple
52 weeks ago

Leicester

We've become quite suspicious of couple profiles with a sparse number of old veris and only old pics. These often seem to be guys that were part of a couple and the Mrs is no longer active while Mr carries on as if she was still around

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I'm chatting with a couple and I have my doubts if it is a real couple

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By *essaMayWoman
52 weeks ago

Fairytale Wood

"We've become quite suspicious of couple profiles with a sparse number of old veris and only old pics. These often seem to be guys that were part of a couple and the Mrs is no longer active while Mr carries on as if she was still around"

As had commented above ^^^, my experiences as a once couple and single female have been with the couples where the female is no longer either interested or around.

Rather than guys specifically setting up couples profiles although it does happen

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