FabSwingers.com forum: What’s more important

By *histler OP Man
51 weeks ago

Guildford

When you receive a message (or hundreds if you’re a couple or lady), what’s more important - the message itself or the pics attached.

Do you forgive a mediocre message if you like the pics, or if you don’t like the pics I’d there simply no point in chatting?

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By *eelsandsuitsCouple
51 weeks ago

stirling

For us it’s important that the message is firstly written in a way that makes sense! Isn’t just ‘wanna fuck?’ Something that makes a person come across as well mannered and able to hold a conversation. We never reply if there isn’t a pic on a profile.

Each to their own but we want to meet nice, considerate and polite folk. Which we have already. It is a minefield however!!

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By *histler OP Man
51 weeks ago

Guildford

Yep - tread lightly

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By *uffin and JamCouple
51 weeks ago

Ayrshire

We still get a lot of ‘Hi, how are you doing?’ type messages.

If we do answer it will be short and along the lines of ‘We are fine.’ (Meaning, have you read our profile at all?)

No chance of a conversion starting that way, the best messages are well thought out telling us about yourselves. Giving us open questions that start a good conversation about both couples.

We have a lot of pictures on our profile and find most people who message us are the same, if not, then yes, we do like to see pictures of you in your message.

If you message us first, we assume you liked what you saw in our deliberately brief profile (again it helps to start a conversation, we feel) then we expect a face pic of both together from you first and quickly, after all if you are a genuine couple this is very easy to do.

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By *histler OP Man
51 weeks ago

Guildford

And I assume you want more than “what are you looking for?” as a question too

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
51 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

The message.

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By *uffin and JamCouple
51 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"And I assume you want more than “what are you looking for?” as a question too"

That question tell us nothing at all about you, need to give some information to work with.

Why are you messaging, what you like, what you are hoping for? Are all good starting points.

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago

It’s all fair n well putting effort into a message (making it conversational and relating to their profile) BUT that is often a wasted effort as will

more often than not result in ‘no reply’ or a quick dismissal.

Defo can’t please everyone so whilst a message is important I think pictures get better /more responses

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By *hare2CareCouple
51 weeks ago

Shepshed

A well written message will do far more to grab our attention than any number of pictures. A message that makes it obvious someone's taken the time to read our profile fully, and isn't an obvious copy/paste job goes a long way towards getting a reply.

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By *winging_couple300Couple
51 weeks ago

Doncaster

A well written message will usually get a response even if it’s a no thank you

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By *inkedKuntsCouple
51 weeks ago

Sheffield

Both.

But for us the pics slightly shade it (not now, or ever will that be a dick pic or close up pussy pic though). We know how nervy it can be to start a conversation, we also know not everyone has that ability so sometimes a one line message is fine and we can generally work with that if the profile is decent. But if we don't find mutual attraction no matter how good the message is we won't be meeting them.

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By *histler OP Man
51 weeks ago

Guildford

I guess this is my frustration being released (woe is me and all that). I do take my time to write a different message every time but rarely get a response so I might fall into the category of boring message and average pics lol.

Hence why I was interested to see if one trumps the other.

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By *ootyfruityCouple
51 weeks ago

andover

I think a good combination of both

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By *empest2KMan
51 weeks ago

Derby

"A well written message will do far more to grab our attention than any number of pictures. A message that makes it obvious someone's taken the time to read our profile fully, and isn't an obvious copy/paste job goes a long way towards getting a reply."

^ This is the same for me. Someone who has taken a bit of care and attention will usually get a positive response from me, especially as that trait is also more likely to be present when it comes to having some fun together, in my humble experience

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By *eethehotwifeCouple
51 weeks ago

North london

I’d forgive a mediocre message for an amazing profile with good verifications x

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By *oxy jWoman
51 weeks ago

somerset

nothing clicks until the pics all messages should be polite and nice but at the end of the day im here to meet so until ive seen the face/body & cock pics ill just be polite back no pics within the first 2 or 3 messages then move one no point in wasting time ...

basically ill only carry on chatting if attraction is there and that is not the only thing needed to meet most let themselves down after the pics...

i think it also depends on time some have loads of time to chat willy nilly and some dont my day average work hours is 12/14 hours monday to friday with plenty of daily paperwork to do whiles home to as well as being on call so my free time is limited so chatting for the sake of chatting is not going to happen..

so for me pics are more important as nothing is going anywhere till at the very least im sexually attracted

but also im here to meet and play only really but alot of others are here as social media / or more so everyone whill be different for sure no ones right or wrong

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