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"Surprised you had no luck at a club, especially a bbw night. But sometimes it's really the luck of the draw. Don't stop at the first hurdle." Thank u so much guys | |||
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"Don’t force it and don’t be disappointed if it doesn’t happen! Just relax and be happy with who you’re with! It’ll all happen with time! " thank u | |||
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"Its hard to find i think am not pretty or sexy enough for a woman Will just leave it i guess " This place can be very fickle sometimes, please don’t let success (or lack thereof) define your own sense of prettiness or sexiness  | |||
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"Its hard to find i think am not pretty or sexy enough for a woman Will just leave it i guess " Not true, this site isnt a real reflection of real life. People on here are fickle since it is behind a screen. In real life you will meet more and more people and make connections. Branch out to different clubs or go to a bi night, you might be surprised. | |||
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"Its hard to find i think am not pretty or sexy enough for a woman Will just leave it i guess Not true, this site isnt a real reflection of real life. People on here are fickle since it is behind a screen. In real life you will meet more and more people and make connections. Branch out to different clubs or go to a bi night, you might be surprised." thank u guys | |||
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"No bi woman want me mrs,tried clubs useless. it feels like bi woman on here dont want any fun with me thinking its a waste of time now. "How many club nights have you been on? The more you go to club's the more experienced you'll be. One thing to realise is don't go with expectations, you've always got each other if you don't hook up with anyone (For about half of our club nights we only play with each other). There's generally plenty of bi fun in club's, maybe try some more nights and the fun may happen. | |||
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"Finding compatible people is a struggle for everyone "this ... people need to be compatible often thats sexual attraction but not just that personality too ... all women are beautiful just not all women are compatible with each other its a tough tough scene finding bi women years ago was easy no its not .... i find it easier away from the swinging scene ie gay bars / clubs and sometimes a swingers club ... swinging as a whole is not ment to be easy its hard to find people you like and then them like you back | |||
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"Unfortunately the ladies on here can afford to be much more picky than in real life" simply not true attraction is attraction i dont use fab for bi fems i use the ''real'' world and its easier actually ... men love to use this quote as a put down just because they are getting nowhere themselves .... liking people is no different online than real life after all swinging is about meeting others in real life | |||
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"Unfortunately the ladies on here can afford to be much more picky than in real life simply not true attraction is attraction i dont use fab for bi fems i use the ''real'' world and its easier actually ... men love to use this quote as a put down just because they are getting nowhere themselves .... liking people is no different online than real life after all swinging is about meeting others in real life " Totally true I’m afraid. 50% of the ladies on here wouldn’t get looked at twice in the real world. Men consider fucking an ugly girl as better than a wank - how many ladies would rather be fucked by an ugly guy rather than grab the vibrator, probably none? It’s true but we generally don’t talk about it on here. That’s why ugly woman with terrible bodies can put things like “big dicks only” “must be gym fit” etc. It’s the way the world is, we men accept that. | |||
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"Unfortunately the ladies on here can afford to be much more picky than in real life simply not true attraction is attraction i dont use fab for bi fems i use the ''real'' world and its easier actually ... men love to use this quote as a put down just because they are getting nowhere themselves .... liking people is no different online than real life after all swinging is about meeting others in real life Totally true I’m afraid. 50% of the ladies on here wouldn’t get looked at twice in the real world. Men consider fucking an ugly girl as better than a wank - how many ladies would rather be fucked by an ugly guy rather than grab the vibrator, probably none? It’s true but we generally don’t talk about it on here. That’s why ugly woman with terrible bodies can put things like “big dicks only” “must be gym fit” etc. It’s the way the world is, we men accept that." the thread is about women meeting women nothing about desperate men? | |||
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"Unfortunately the ladies on here can afford to be much more picky than in real life simply not true attraction is attraction i dont use fab for bi fems i use the ''real'' world and its easier actually ... men love to use this quote as a put down just because they are getting nowhere themselves .... liking people is no different online than real life after all swinging is about meeting others in real life Totally true I’m afraid. 50% of the ladies on here wouldn’t get looked at twice in the real world. Men consider fucking an ugly girl as better than a wank - how many ladies would rather be fucked by an ugly guy rather than grab the vibrator, probably none? It’s true but we generally don’t talk about it on here. That’s why ugly woman with terrible bodies can put things like “big dicks only” “must be gym fit” etc. It’s the way the world is, we men accept that." So "ugly women" have higher standards and know their worth and exercise that to the best of their abilities and that's a problem why? | |||
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"Unfortunately the ladies on here can afford to be much more picky than in real life simply not true attraction is attraction i dont use fab for bi fems i use the ''real'' world and its easier actually ... men love to use this quote as a put down just because they are getting nowhere themselves .... liking people is no different online than real life after all swinging is about meeting others in real life Totally true I’m afraid. 50% of the ladies on here wouldn’t get looked at twice in the real world. Men consider fucking an ugly girl as better than a wank - how many ladies would rather be fucked by an ugly guy rather than grab the vibrator, probably none? It’s true but we generally don’t talk about it on here. That’s why ugly woman with terrible bodies can put things like “big dicks only” “must be gym fit” etc. It’s the way the world is, we men accept that." The forum is a great filter for blocking people! | |||
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"Unfortunately the ladies on here can afford to be much more picky than in real life simply not true attraction is attraction i dont use fab for bi fems i use the ''real'' world and its easier actually ... men love to use this quote as a put down just because they are getting nowhere themselves .... liking people is no different online than real life after all swinging is about meeting others in real life Totally true I’m afraid. 50% of the ladies on here wouldn’t get looked at twice in the real world. Men consider fucking an ugly girl as better than a wank - how many ladies would rather be fucked by an ugly guy rather than grab the vibrator, probably none? It’s true but we generally don’t talk about it on here. That’s why ugly woman with terrible bodies can put things like “big dicks only” “must be gym fit” etc. It’s the way the world is, we men accept that." And yet, here you are. If you find the women here so undesirable, go and pick up “better” women somewhere else. | |||
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"Unfortunately the ladies on here can afford to be much more picky than in real life simply not true attraction is attraction i dont use fab for bi fems i use the ''real'' world and its easier actually ... men love to use this quote as a put down just because they are getting nowhere themselves .... liking people is no different online than real life after all swinging is about meeting others in real life Totally true I’m afraid. 50% of the ladies on here wouldn’t get looked at twice in the real world. Men consider fucking an ugly girl as better than a wank - how many ladies would rather be fucked by an ugly guy rather than grab the vibrator, probably none? It’s true but we generally don’t talk about it on here. That’s why ugly woman with terrible bodies can put things like “big dicks only” “must be gym fit” etc. It’s the way the world is, we men accept that. The forum is a great filter for blocking people!" One of my main uses of the forum! | |||
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"I think I’ve seen a few similar posts from you in the recent past (perhaps I haven’t and have you confused with another couple on the forum). Don’t try too hard and put pressure on yourself as it being your only focus, the lifestyle can be fun if you let it. I’m surprised you haven’t enjoyed clubs, particularly Cupids, I haven’t been for a few years, but it was a great place back in the day socially, I never did really look to play much. Do try again when you feel confident to do so. It can be fun to play with your partner in a club environment and enjoy exhibitionism and that might be a good starting position for you both. Be kind to yourself and remember that fab is just a fun hobby and doesn’t define you. Xxx Thank u " | |||
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"Without meaning to sound like a broken record or like I'm "calling you out", I'm gonna pull focus back to making sure you read people's profiles. Just as, it was noted you've sent us a wink again today, we didn't respond to the first one, we won't respond to this one and that's detailed on our profile. Make sure you're reading profiles before messaging or winking, there's no point you doing that if said couples/single women you're looking for are either going to not respond or if you're not compatible. It's just a waste of your time really when you could be focusing on those who do match up to what you're trying to achieve a little better. There's also, a women only play evening at Xtasia on Wednesdays (not weekly, I think it's bi-monthly but you could message the club and ask). Men are welcome to go too, but will only have access to Flirts bar, only women are invited to play. That could be something worth you looking into " ok no worries | |||
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"Maybe go to a bi night, if you haven't already. Expecting to get action will always lead to disappointment, be glad you are a couple and just have a good night out and whatever happens, happens. " Thank u | |||
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"It's like life, really, isn't it? The difference is, on the site it's easy for people to be "keyboard warriors" and say stuff that they quite possibly wouldn't dream of saying in public, to someone's face. As others have said, for the vast majority of people it will take time to find the right people to connect with and meet. Be clear about what you want or are looking for in a meet. Be relaxed about it and don't pin your hopes on a meeting happening as you may be waiting for a while. I've spoken to several people who have struggled to get meets with bi-ladies and in a lot of cases it's because the bi ladies (sometimes an FF couple) are uncomfortable with a male being part of the equation. Not a judgement on anyone, that's just their preference. In the same way you may have preferences and people whose profiles you look at and think to yourself "nah, not feeling it for these people" it will be exactly the same for everyone else. Some people have pretty broad filters (I know it's a generalisation, but statistically the men will usually have a very much broader filter ie, are happy to meet up with a much wider variety of people) whereas some people have a very specific set of criteria about what they are looking for. And if you are not part of that filter, it's not a judgement about you as a person, it's just that you don't fit their filter. The key, IMHO, is not to take the site too seriously and thus not get offended or upset if you are not finding people for meets. It will happen. Be prepared to post up meets, even if it is only a social to chat and see how things go. Try a few different clubs. Try the chat rooms and maybe cam. All of these create connection potential with others" thank u | |||
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It’s not you, OP, it’s the circumstances, sadly. There are some social/play events that are exclusively for women. Could be an area of exploration perhaps? I’ve never plucked up the courage to go to one though.  maybe I will someday! | |||
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"I think it is quite difficult to meet bi women who are geographically close, with time available to meet, etc. I’ve only managed it twice in 5 years and with one of them the attraction/chemistry was phenomenal but sadly we lived too far away from each other to make it work long term.
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It’s not you, OP, it’s the circumstances, sadly. There are some social/play events that are exclusively for women. Could be an area of exploration perhaps? I’ve never plucked up the courage to go to one though. maybe I will someday! "
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"Am only looking for kind advice i dont what am doing wrong " Have you considered better photos? In all honesty we would pass the two you have by as they arent that different to a 1000 others on the site (look rushed, not well lit, not good angles, mismatched bra and kncikers) Remember its a buyers market so to speak. Very few read profiles so once you get past the bits you are “stuck” with (age, location, preferences etc) your photos will be the only thing that really differentiates you from many others. So they are worth investing in. | |||
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"No bi woman want me mrs,tried clubs useless. it feels like bi woman on here dont want any fun with me thinking its a waste of time now. "Sorry hope don't offend anyone but over the years as a couple and a single, I find clubs overrated so OP please don't feel that way they can be, for many, very disappointing and even demoralising. My only advice can give is have a look in your local area maybe have a look at frequent LBGTQ+ hang outs -firstly there are far fewer actually Bi females on sites like this than are claimed to be, and it is a lot tougher on here than people imagine. Certainly I meet more Bi women away from this site. My FWB I met at the beach. xx | |||
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"Its hard to find i think am not pretty or sexy enough for a woman Will just leave it i guess Not true, this site isnt a real reflection of real life. People on here are fickle since it is behind a screen. In real life you will meet more and more people and make connections. Branch out to different clubs or go to a bi night, you might be surprised."  | |||
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"No bi woman want me mrs,tried clubs useless. it feels like bi woman on here dont want any fun with me thinking its a waste of time now.
Sorry hope don't offend anyone but over the years as a couple and a single, I find clubs overrated so OP please don't feel that way they can be, for many, very disappointing and even demoralising.
My only advice can give is have a look in your local area maybe have a look at frequent LBGTQ+ hang outs -firstly there are far fewer actually Bi females on sites like this than are claimed to be, and it is a lot tougher on here than people imagine. Certainly I meet more Bi women away from this site. My FWB I met at the beach.
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" ... I’ve never plucked up the courage to go to one though. maybe I will someday! "You look like a confident, attractive young woman - I'm sure you have bags enough courage to go to a club / event. Yes, there will always be a bit of trepidation when stepping into something new and a place you have never been before, but I am pretty sure most, if not all, thee events are going to be pretty welcoming for you. Pluck up that courage and step out! | |||
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" ... I’ve never plucked up the courage to go to one though. maybe I will someday!
You look like a confident, attractive young woman - I'm sure you have bags enough courage to go to a club / event. Yes, there will always be a bit of trepidation when stepping into something new and a place you have never been before, but I am pretty sure most, if not all, thee events are going to be pretty welcoming for you. Pluck up that courage and step out! "Thank u | |||
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