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By *hesadistbull OP   Man
over a year ago

India(bengaluru)

I have always enjoyed spanking my fellow hotwives/submissive partners, how do you usually find out limits for them if it's a one night stand ?

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By *erdyCurvyInkedPervyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Ask them?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Ask them, agree a way of letting you know when things are getting near it and respect that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Communication

Build up the intensity gently

Have a safe word ( or use something like the traffic light system)

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By *hesadistbull OP   Man
over a year ago

India(bengaluru)


"Ask them?"

There are a lot of variables and plus there is pressure on the impact being applied

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Start off light, work your way up. You’ll know if you’ve gone too far when she stands up and kicks you in the nuts

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By *hesadistbull OP   Man
over a year ago

India(bengaluru)


"Start off light, work your way up. You’ll know if you’ve gone too far when she stands up and kicks you in the nuts "

Seems like tried and tested incident, we need more deatils

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By *hesadistbull OP   Man
over a year ago

India(bengaluru)


"Ask them, agree a way of letting you know when things are getting near it and respect that. "

Always full of insights, thanks guys

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By *irmhandmancMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Always, always communicate. Talk it through, expectations, likes, must haves, would likes......talk it all out.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
over a year ago

wonderland.


"I have always enjoyed spanking my fellow hotwives/submissive partners, how do you usually find out limits for them if it's a one night stand ?"
I would not be doing anything like that with a one night stand

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By *arried West End CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I have always enjoyed spanking my fellow hotwives/submissive partners, how do you usually find out limits for them if it's a one night stand ?"

Hotwife gets spanked when she’s been a naughty wife

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I have always enjoyed spanking my fellow hotwives/submissive partners, how do you usually find out limits for them if it's a one night stand ?"

Would that make it 'A One Hand Stand'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who is submissive and loves a spanking, I'd not trust a one night stand or randomers to do that. I'm not one for the more extreme flogging, whippings or canings where there are whelts or breaking the skin. So I would find it hard to trust that they didn't take it too far despite safe words etc, if I don't know them, I can't trust them after one conversation.

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By *hesadistbull OP   Man
52 weeks ago

India(bengaluru)


"I have always enjoyed spanking my fellow hotwives/submissive partners, how do you usually find out limits for them if it's a one night stand ? I would not be doing anything like that with a one night stand "

I understand, it's for people who specially want it for a day

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By *panksspankedMan
52 weeks ago

Edinburgh

The key word is trust and that comes from communication. You can tell a lot from exchanging messages beforehand. Always trust your instincts and don't do anything that simply doesn't feel right.

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By *ensualMan
52 weeks ago

Sutton

TBH I try to be positive and judgment free and give constructive and helpful advice.

First I am unusual and I don't value words such as "trust" and "communication" by themselves. Anyone can say those words and many people do without knowing what underpins those words.

The point is to break the procesx into the concrete steps that can be acted upon. If asked how to drive a car, you don't say get in the car, use the steering wheel and pedals. There is a huge amount to establishing trust and carrying out effective communication.

But when it comes to a one night stand the type of trust and communication is different.

I have been there many times.

My advice to OP is don't take shortcuts by asking people. If you are serious about being a sadist and a Dominant do the research there is lot of information out there, do the research and or get mentoring.

I am seriously worried thst you are putting yourself forward as s sadist and a Dom and you have to ask such a basic question.

At the very most I would describe what you do as Topping but you don't seem to understand that as Topping is bottom lead. However, you give me the vibe of a hedonist swinger masquerading as a Dominant. I say this as someone who plays in both the sensual space and the sadistic space.

Clearly,there may be more to you than this thread or profile. If I am being unfair I am happy to unreservedly apologise. But no experienced sadist or impact Dominant that I know would have asked your question.

Good luck.

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By *hesadistbull OP   Man
52 weeks ago

India(bengaluru)


"TBH I try to be positive and judgment free and give constructive and helpful advice.

First I am unusual and I don't value words such as "trust" and "communication" by themselves. Anyone can say those words and many people do without knowing what underpins those words.

The point is to break the procesx into the concrete steps that can be acted upon. If asked how to drive a car, you don't say get in the car, use the steering wheel and pedals. There is a huge amount to establishing trust and carrying out effective communication.

But when it comes to a one night stand the type of trust and communication is different.

I have been there many times.

My advice to OP is don't take shortcuts by asking people. If you are serious about being a sadist and a Dominant do the research there is lot of information out there, do the research and or get mentoring.

I am seriously worried thst you are putting yourself forward as s sadist and a Dom and you have to ask such a basic question.

At the very most I would describe what you do as Topping but you don't seem to understand that as Topping is bottom lead. However, you give me the vibe of a hedonist swinger masquerading as a Dominant. I say this as someone who plays in both the sensual space and the sadistic space.

Clearly,there may be more to you than this thread or profile. If I am being unfair I am happy to unreservedly apologise. But no experienced sadist or impact Dominant that I know would have asked your question.

Good luck.

"

Cool

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