FabSwingers.com forum: Being tied up during sex.. what’s it like for the dom and sub?

By *ikki.newcastle OP TV/TS
over a year ago

NORTH EAST

I’ve never been tied up yet but I’m thinking of doing it for the first time. Just totally give control and possession up to the dom? Leave myself utterly helpless. What did you think of tying up during sex if you’ve tried it? Opinions from doms and subs welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had my first experience of this last night and I loved it. I think there had to be a lot of trust between you and a lot of communication. But being tied and totally reliant on them for your pleasure is exciting if they can get it right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a restraints bar for a while and I have to say I love when I'm in restraints and absolutely have no control. That is one of my biggest kinks relinquishing control

Try it, remember you always have your safe word of you don't like it.....

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By *lutsadieTV/TS
over a year ago

Hinckley

Oh my god its such a wonderfull experience in my opinion. Being tied helpless and someone having the control over you xxx tied teased used etc maybe filmed or pics taken xx bring it on. Even being tied and having to watch others play xxx any local photographers want to take pics at yours xx it's great when a woman as control and can cane me etc

Sadie xx

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Not an actual sub but definitely that way inclined and being tied up or restrained is a major turn on for me. So much so that on one of our last meets I was tied up and blindfolded when the other guy arrived.

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By *erdyCurvyInkedPervyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

It's like nothing else on this earth. When those cufflinks click into place or you feel the rope grow tight around your wrists. The antici....

....pation of what's going to come next.

It's just.... wow.

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By *undayGirl 69Woman
over a year ago

Coalville

With the right partner just that rope being pulled tight is a turn on.

I love to relinquish control… let them be in charge of what’s happening and what goes where…

With a bit of pain involved it’s like a brain reset. All you can think of is breathing through the sensations…nothing else enters your head, then when you’re tired n exhausted n they force you to cum… it’s pretty amazing.

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

It's trepidation, heart beating out of my chest, excitement of about to be spanked and punished. Ecstasy of feeling hands wander all over my body and I can't stop them, same for other body parts. Lustful thoughts of giving my body up to someone else who is going to fuck me senseless. Tasting cock, sucking it and eventually tasting that load of cum mmmmmmmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a friend who loves to be tied up to the bed, on a cross, or to a portable restraining board. I love having total control over her, but always mKe sure to listen and watch for any signs of discomfort for her. There were times in the past when things got too hot for her and I had to quickly release her.

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By *ecky124TV/TS
over a year ago

Middlewich

I find it a big turn on giving complete control over to someone else but I prefer experienced people to do the tying and then it’s all good helpless to what they want to do and when is a great feeling gets me so turned on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't like it. As a submissives point of view I would stay in a position and not move because I wanted to rather than being bound and not being able to move

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"I’ve never been tied up yet but I’m thinking of doing it for the first time. Just totally give control and possession up to the dom? Leave myself utterly helpless. What did you think of tying up during sex if you’ve tried it? Opinions from doms and subs welcome "

Just to say being tied up doesn't mean you are helpless and totally give up control. Perhaps if somebody you really know and trust but even then if getting more extreme you need a safeword or to use traffic lights. And if you are gagged and can't speak you need to figure out a sign to stop or slow down and a dom who is attentive and watching. I've discussed before and kept a keen eye on wiggling fingers. These sorts of things are also helpful as knowing quite how far to go when for example engaging in impact play if you want to go to edge of tolerance.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"I didn't like it. As a submissives point of view I would stay in a position and not move because I wanted to rather than being bound and not being able to move"

That is interesting. Often say that BDSM elements are separate and often get put together and first thing people thing of are the B elements. Must admit I love just the S part with no restraint and purely relying on commands and voice.

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By *tacie-JaneTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

Having an agreed safe word is paramount.

If tied then a shake of the head.

Would only allow myself to be tied and gagged with a dominant I’ve met before and trust.

Yes it’s a massive thrill to be controlled but you have to both agree details beforehand.

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over a year ago

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

I would note that Western Bondage is purely about restraining people. Whereas Japanese rope bondage shibari/ kinbaku in its original form is an erotic form of tying for sadomasochistic purposes and not just a pretty art form. It is the process of tying rather than the result. You tie so that the person being tied wants to be in a rope, and as a by product the person tying can (if negotiated and consented to before the tying) do other things to them. Some people find this more interesting than being tied for impact or being tied and f@cked.

I recommend looking at a video floating around online ichinawa with Esinem and Ilka Noir to understand the difference. There is even a Japanese rope kamasutra book.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree about the giving yourself over it's so very erotic, and obviously the trust has to be there. He is so attentive and reads my responses acting accordingly...huge yes...xxx And trying the blindfold bit next rime ..!!!

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

For me the hottest thing is using restraints to create a space of complete vulnerability, exposure and removal of control. I am sadistic and a lot of what I enjoy involves a lot of immobilisation and the suppression of sensory inputs. I get huge pleasure from the hopelessness of their situation to my whims. I likewise get great pleasure and reward from their reactions and knowing I'm giving them something they desire. It's a great feeling and restraints are an important tool. This side of me however is something very personal and something I take very seriously. Any kind of restraint, impact or other physical/psychological teasing is something I rarely do with anyone other than My Girl. As much as they need to trust me I need to be confident I can trust them and they can confidently communicate honestly to me.

However as I go forward exploring with rope it has started to become more than a tool of my sadism. My Girl really enjoys the act of being tied. My lavishing my undivided methodical attention on her. She's quite happy just to be tied and tied again. Her pleasure with this bring me pleasure and it's become a really beautiful way to bond. I find great peace in my self when we are just together and she gives herself to me to practice rope projects on. It's time I really value together and great for the soul. She loves nothing more than to be tide up, it makes her feel secure and at peace. Plus we both enjoy the visuals of what we create and something else that's just nice about it.

However the boot on the other foot doesn't not work with me. I don't like being restrained myself. It just totally kills my horn and annoys me. I think it's safe to say I know I'm no switch.

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