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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Has anyone ever developed feelings for a regular meet? Did it end well? Is it best just to not meet?

Id love to know what you think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes i have and it was cause for leaving my wife - in that when i developed these loving/caring feelings it was then i realised i had fallen out of love with my wife....i left here - not for the other women; but for sanity.....

So yes is the answer you can;how far you both take then is under your control

I have true friendship/caring and supportive feelings for lots of my friends off here and it feels good

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the reply I too am thinking of leaving the site as I'm sure he likes me but that's all. Don't want it to become a problem for him.

I knew all he was looking for was fun which is all I wanted. But now I'm thinking about him a bit too often

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Thanks for the reply I too am thinking of leaving the site as I'm sure he likes me but that's all. Don't want it to become a problem for him.

I knew all he was looking for was fun which is all I wanted. But now I'm thinking about him a bit too often "

Meet more men but keep him as a regular. Gets things into perspective. Don't spoil a good thing. My opinion anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've developed feelings for a couple of ladies through Fab, but don't plan on moving in with either of them and I'm sure they wouldn't want me to! Lol that said if they are having a rough ride I'm happy to call with sticky buns and a hug.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the reply I too am thinking of leaving the site as I'm sure he likes me but that's all. Don't want it to become a problem for him.

I knew all he was looking for was fun which is all I wanted. But now I'm thinking about him a bit too often "

what would leaving achieve?- or are u trying to get a msg through???

there is a hide profile button u are using..I'd suggest u just keep using that..think things through more clearly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the reply I too am thinking of leaving the site as I'm sure he likes me but that's all. Don't want it to become a problem for him.

I knew all he was looking for was fun which is all I wanted. But now I'm thinking about him a bit too often "

some of this comes down to what you was looking for originally was not what you found ie; there is a vast majority here for sex, but its not great shame if romance comes along nor love for tht matter...go with whats in your heart you be fine

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol


"Thanks for the reply I too am thinking of leaving the site as I'm sure he likes me but that's all. Don't want it to become a problem for him.

I knew all he was looking for was fun which is all I wanted. But now I'm thinking about him a bit too often "

maybe just stop seeing him and meet other guys rather than leave the site .. hope things work out for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the reply I too am thinking of leaving the site as I'm sure he likes me but that's all. Don't want it to become a problem for him.

I knew all he was looking for was fun which is all I wanted. But now I'm thinking about him a bit too often "

If i was in your position i would sit and have a long chat with the guy, if he only likes you and dosn't want to move on as much as you do. Then i would seriously think about not meeting him anymore and move on.

I think also think about someone a lot who is on here, but leaving the site for him is not something i really want to do.

Take care and i hope you find what you want really soon xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've developed feelings for a couple of ladies through Fab, but don't plan on moving in with either of them and I'm sure they wouldn't want me to! Lol that said if they are having a rough ride I'm happy to call with sticky buns and a hug. "

Problem is I don't want to move in with him but just wish I didn't feel like this. Ps I love sticky buns and hugs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for the reply I too am thinking of leaving the site as I'm sure he likes me but that's all. Don't want it to become a problem for him.

I knew all he was looking for was fun which is all I wanted. But now I'm thinking about him a bit too often

Meet more men but keep him as a regular. Gets things into perspective. Don't spoil a good thing. My opinion anyway "

Your opinion is most welcome and this is what I'm trying to do. Even met someone else today but its just not the same. Bloody emotions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup but its best not discussing in here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I've a several lovely meets on here with a smashing guy, could I see myself just seeing him, we'll never say never but at the moment I'm happy as I am

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yup but its best not discussing in here lol"

Your probably right. I'll shut up now. Can't get anything right at mo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've developed feelings for a couple of ladies through Fab, but don't plan on moving in with either of them and I'm sure they wouldn't want me to! Lol that said if they are having a rough ride I'm happy to call with sticky buns and a hug.

Problem is I don't want to move in with him but just wish I didn't feel like this. Ps I love sticky buns and hugs "

If I wasn't in bed ill I would pop over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this has happened to me before, it all got very intense and all I could think of was this 1 person and how he said he wish he wasn't married etc...so all was a bit full on in the end we both decided it be best not to meet again was hard but for the best , over him now and try not to get to closely involved with people I'm just meeting for sex or keep it to one offs ... odd one or two regulars but try to keep it nsa xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yup but its best not discussing in here lol

Your probably right. I'll shut up now. Can't get anything right at mo "

No no i meant my situation lol not yours...you can discuss what ever you like and feel right to

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No no i meant my situation lol not yours...you can discuss what ever you like and feel right to "

Sorry having a blonde moment...I hope all turned out well for you x

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"Has anyone ever developed feelings for a regular meet? Did it end well? Is it best just to not meet?

Id love to know what you think "

I did when I was fairly new to Fab and wasn't long out of my marraige, as did the lady concerned... I still regret hurting her like that, but I had to be honest and tell her I wasn't ready and still had feelings for my ex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I can suggest (from recent experience!) is to tell him how you feel and see if he feels the same. If he does then talk about what you both want to happen next and if he doesn't then stop meeting him. If you both want something 'real' then maybe step away from the site whilst you figure out exactly what you want, but the cynic in me would suggest hiding your profile rather than deleting it until your absolutely sure.

Mine didn't want anything more, and I was fine with that once I knew where I stood. Took a couple of weeks out (planned for longer but seems I was less bothered than I thought I'd be!) and now I'm back and having fun again x

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"Yup but its best not discussing in here lol"

...know that feeling xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone ever developed feelings for a regular meet? Did it end well? Is it best just to not meet?

Id love to know what you think "

You can fall for someone off Fab as easy as you can for someone at a bus stop. The only difference is you get intimate first and get to know them afterwards. There is however an inherrent danger with injecting emption into a relationship based on casual sex. The only way to deal with it is, as others have suggested, sit down and talk it through. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, as the majority of my meets ended up as one-offs.

I have only met 2 gents whom I thought I would and could go further with if asked.

However, the lack of messages let alone request for repeat meets soon brought me back to reality.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know how he feels now. He's blocked me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"I know how he feels now. He's blocked me "

Ouch! But at least now you know. Move on with head held high, get your killer heels on and go get yourself some sexy therapy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did once, ive been meeting for 12 years and in all that time ive only ever met one guy I started getting feelings for, im usually quite a level headed person so it really took me by surprise as I had no idea why I was feeling this way about someone I met thro swinging

Anyway I told him I couldn't meet him anymore, I knew the way I was feeling was wrong so I knew it had to end as I knew if I carried on seeing him I would just end up getting even more hurt when it ended, so I mailed him telling him I thought our time have run its course and it was time to move on, I am quite ashamed to say I almost had a tear in my eye as I hit the send button but I knew it was the right thing to do

He did text me and call me a few times after asking if he had done anything wrong but i said no and that it was just swinging and nothing forever on here, after a while he stopped when i started ignoring his calls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did once, ive been meeting for 12 years and in all that time ive only ever met one guy I started getting feelings for, im usually quite a level headed person so it really took me by surprise as I had no idea why I was feeling this way about someone I met thro swinging

Anyway I told him I couldn't meet him anymore, I knew the way I was feeling was wrong so I knew it had to end as I knew if I carried on seeing him I would just end up getting even more hurt when it ended, so I mailed him telling him I thought our time have run its course and it was time to move on, I am quite ashamed to say I almost had a tear in my eye as I hit the send button but I knew it was the right thing to do

He did text me and call me a few times after asking if he had done anything wrong but i said no and that it was just swinging and nothing forever on here, after a while he stopped when i started ignoring his calls "

the above lady now sits in her lonely den with her 60 cats for company...poor woman..shes still hot too...whatta waste

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the above lady now sits in her lonely den with her 60 cats for company...poor woman..shes still hot too...whatta waste "

I've only got 3 cats

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know how he feels now. He's blocked me

Ouch! But at least now you know. Move on with head held high, get your killer heels on and go get yourself some sexy therapy x"

Thank you. I'm already planning my next adventure

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I did once, ive been meeting for 12 years and in all that time ive only ever met one guy I started getting feelings for, im usually quite a level headed person so it really took me by surprise as I had no idea why I was feeling this way about someone I met thro swinging

Anyway I told him I couldn't meet him anymore, I knew the way I was feeling was wrong so I knew it had to end as I knew if I carried on seeing him I would just end up getting even more hurt when it ended, so I mailed him telling him I thought our time have run its course and it was time to move on, I am quite ashamed to say I almost had a tear in my eye as I hit the send button but I knew it was the right thing to do

He did text me and call me a few times after asking if he had done anything wrong but i said no and that it was just swinging and nothing forever on here, after a while he stopped when i started ignoring his calls "

Swinging is hard to hack I need to get tougher or meet ugly guys

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By *eet_the_spartanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Don't let other people tell you how to act on your feelings. Feelings can't be controlled and shouldn't be restrained unless they'd cause real damage. Enjoy what you have, set boundaries if necessary but just enjoy the moment

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"Don't let other people tell you how to act on your feelings. Feelings can't be controlled and shouldn't be restrained unless they'd cause real damage. Enjoy what you have, set boundaries if necessary but just enjoy the moment "

.....because you never know when it will end xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't let other people tell you how to act on your feelings. Feelings can't be controlled and shouldn't be restrained unless they'd cause real damage. Enjoy what you have, set boundaries if necessary but just enjoy the moment

.....because you never know when it will end xx"

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By *herry n JonesyCouple
over a year ago

Oxfordshire / Leicester

Yes it happened to me and I spent a couple of months trying to deny that I had feelings for the guy in question. Little did I know that he was thinking the same thing.

We've been officially together for 4 months now and are very happy

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"Yes it happened to me and I spent a couple of months trying to deny that I had feelings for the guy in question. Little did I know that he was thinking the same thing.

We've been officially together for 4 months now and are very happy "

Awww xxx how lovely. Glad it all worked out for you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes it happened to me and I spent a couple of months trying to deny that I had feelings for the guy in question. Little did I know that he was thinking the same thing.

We've been officially together for 4 months now and are very happy "

I'm glad it worked out for you.

For me I'm dumped, blocked and he's meeting someone else today. At least I know how he feels now

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