FabSwingers.com forum: Ever chickened out on a meet last minute?

By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

Due to nerves?

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By *oxy jWoman
48 weeks ago

taunton somerset

no ... if your a nervous person why bother it just wastes everybody's time n effort

just my opinion

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By *eardyBikerMan
48 weeks ago

nr stonehaven

Not yet ..

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Wish i could even get that far..

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By *im ForbedMan
48 weeks ago

Winchester

Nope, always look forward to them...big part of the fun

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By *parkle1974Woman
48 weeks ago

Leeds

Nope x

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By *riel13Woman
48 weeks ago

Northampton

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By *olfandtazCouple
48 weeks ago

Bristol

Nope, but in the past we have had our time wasted by people!

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By *agnar73Man
48 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

No and I wouldn’t. Would admit to being bloody nervous first time I went to a thing and first time at a club, but need to focus it into a positive and go do what you gotta do

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
48 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Nope. Nerves are natural and part of the experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

No but I been messed about few times

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Never. Nerves are part of life.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
48 weeks ago

wonderland.

"Due to nerves?"

Yes. I was on as a couple about 10 years ago and I got so nervous I threw up. So cancelled

It happens and I had been swinging about 19 years at that point.

It's partly why I always say I'll do club meets

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Wish i could even get that far.."

Likewise

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By *io--Man
48 weeks ago

Near Blackpool

Nah. Always nervous with first time meets but I do my set of precautions I think out logically beforehand with a clear mind, if I ever backed out without a good reason then it just isnt for me

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By *oublesixesMan
48 weeks ago

Corby

Nope not once agreed, had a few bail on me though

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By *arleyQuinnandTheJokerCouple
48 weeks ago

Cumbria

F here, I had paid for hotel, arranged meet, no show. Told me weeks later he had chickened out. Offered to refund, I told him to fuck off

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By *inchyorksMan
48 weeks ago

huddersfield

Never due to nerves, but have politely backed out if there was no spark in person

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By *ig_eric_tionMan
48 weeks ago

IPSWICH

No I haven't. But it's also been a while since I had one.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
48 weeks ago

Stockport

Not actually sure how someone who may be too nervous to go through with a meet , is actually gonna get on ?

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By *inkylipsWoman
48 weeks ago

Debauchery

I always get really nervous but I think that’s part of the fun. Wherever I go to meet them guaranteed I feel like I want to run in the opposite direction or vomit but I put my big girl pants on and go through with it and I always have a great time. The guy that I’ve known for the last 4 and a half years every time we meet we still get extremely nervous with each other and it’s great

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By *hellebelleWoman
48 weeks ago

ashford

Almost… I always have a mass debate with myself in the car before hand and have to give my head a wobble as the older I’m getting the more nervous I get

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By *r_PinkMan
48 weeks ago

london stratford

Many years ago, on another site, I was foolish enough to get a train to Birmingham, then on to Redditch, for a meet and this couple did exactly that to me!

I was EXTREAMLY lucky that time as I got pulled on the train back to Birmingham and ended p having a really nice "vanilla" time with a random pair of girls going out for the night!

But that was besides the point and I was fucking fuming with the couple who I felt took the piss! after all, thy knew I was coming from London and we talked at every journey change! ie, london to brum,. brum to reditch and then once in redditch. phone switched off!!!!!

atfer that experience I vowed NEVER to do that to antone else! ever!

So No, I have never done that

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By *herryEatersCouple
48 weeks ago

East Cheshire

NEVER.... although there was one couple we were supposed to meet in a supermarket costa. We arrived on time but no one there who fit the photos we'd been sent, we waited, we looked around, nothing, no messages on fab and they hadn't logged in. Before giving up we wandered around the store and found them shopping !?!?, they looked NOTHING like their photos, she was HUGE too. We walked out of course and never heard from them again either....

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By *rpeggioCouple
48 weeks ago

Baughurst

No, never last minute and never because of nerves. We have cancelled a couple of times, well in advance (literally weeks in advance) so no one had to lose a valuable swinging evening and hotels/clubs were not yet booked at that stage. Reason was that we were not sure that there was enough attraction overall, but never because of nerves.

We are ok with agreeing to a social+ meet, but we'd never agree with a couple we are meeting for the first time to book a hotel/AirBnB. We want to keep open the option to say thanks but no thanks to play after we meet them socially.

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By *unx2019Couple
48 weeks ago

Moray

We haven't, but had quite a few that have

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By *r_GreyscaleMan
48 weeks ago

North Hertfordshire

Yeah I have in my younger years. Now I just make sure I organise meets I'm definitely up for. Don't like wasting people's time or my own time

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Never! I can’t imagine letting someone down who has taken the time to make time, get ready, arrange with work, childcare etc. Just to be let down by someone who is more concerned about their own nerves.. BS!

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By *azzler2Man
48 weeks ago

halifax

No once it’s been arranged I turn up But I have had meets cancelled be the other party at last minute but that’s the risk we all take when playing at others homes

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By *ouplewithKinks23Couple
48 weeks ago

Walsall

Hell no, definitely not!

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By *ildmanYorksMan
48 weeks ago

Doncaster & Bembridge

No,but I've had a lady (no longer on here) chicken out on me. Meeting arranged a few days before, very hot messages exchanged the night before, then complete silence the day of the meeting. None of my messages read or replied to. She contacted me later to say she got anxious and had a panic attack

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By *ife NinjaMan
48 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Nope. Just rude

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By *eyeYCouple
48 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

No! The nerves are a part of it. Have had past minute cancellations and have not entertained meeting them again. Their loss

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By *cguyMan
48 weeks ago

manchester

NO if I make a date/time then I make the meet.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
48 weeks ago

Sheffield

Nope.

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By *urulovesnylonMan
48 weeks ago

Harrow

Nope, but have been on the receiving end of it.

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
48 weeks ago

west london

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By *inkedKuntsCouple
48 weeks ago

Sheffield

Yep, once, that was 20 years ago though when I was very young and new to the scene. They were very understanding and we did rearrange which happened to be one of the best intros to swinging I could have ever had. Never have done since.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
48 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I haven't, but had it happen to me loads of times, but as is always said, people have the right to change their minds

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I don’t think anyone will admit to that really but the answer is yes from experience. We have been let down many times.

We won’t cancel once arranged and don’t arrange until we are certain we can meet. We always confirm the night before but still get let down on occasion sadly.

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By *rispyDuckMan
48 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Lucky I’ve never had this problem, my body seems to go on autopilot when going to a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Iv been nervous a few times but always turned up and glad I did for most

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By *asques and boxersCouple
48 weeks ago

Ashford and dept16

Nope but pretty sure we have had others do it to us. That said its just part of the de-selection process.

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By *otwife FuntimesCouple
48 weeks ago

Sheffield

Always excitement and nerves, but that’s a big part of the fun, always turn up for a meet ??

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By *ew2it.deCouple
48 weeks ago

Stoke on Trent

No. We have a relaxed social first and if we arrange a meet after that it’s something to look forward to.

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By *adCherriesCouple
48 weeks ago

Cheshire/Northwest

Nah but when we first started out we flicked a coin outside a couples house to decide whether to go in or not. Obviously it was heads and we went in.. the rest is history

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By *hil most chillMan
48 weeks ago

South East & Europe

Nope, that's one thing I pride myself on here

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By *lthomasMan
48 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

No. I’ve had a couple of no show couples and 1 of them blocked me when I asked what happened

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By *ritladMan
48 weeks ago

Taunton

Nope not yet

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By *in and bare itCouple
48 weeks ago

kent

No would never waste peoples times but had it done to us so frustrating

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Not a meet because we don't pre arrange, but we constantly chicken out of going to clubs or nudist spas.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Absolutely not. Have been meets which turned out "thanks, but no thanks", but chicken or no show is just rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Yeah a few times. I’m sure most people do it at some point.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Due to nerves?"

Never. Had to cancel due to "mother nature" but not nerves

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By *RWoodyCouple
48 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

A little bit of fun we had toward the end of last year showed me that I'm probably a more nervous person than I thought I'd be in such a situation.

The good people of Fab gave me some great advice though and basically said "don't worry you're not alone"!

I don't think the nerves would ever get in the way to a point of having to pull out (no puns) though.

J x

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By *ancelot1633Man
48 weeks ago

weybridge

Nope, nothing worse than a no show

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

Think the main thing here is just got get over them nerves and go for it . Everyone's first time once

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

No if we say we gonna meet we meet

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
48 weeks ago

Home

No because it's next to near impossible to get a meet in Ireland as a single fella so why would I fuck up that chance

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By *ain and sortedMan
48 weeks ago

Old Harlow Essex

Definitely not , if you arrange a meet go for it , however I did once decline the offer of fun with them , mainly due to cleanliness and as they were high at 11 am in the morning , not just a bit of to chill def brown , thanked them for inviting me but home was a rubbish tip , much more cautious now who I arrange to meet and when . However life is for learning , this was years ago by the way . Do prefer clubs now no pre arrangements unless I’ve seen the people before , if new contact I always look to see if finger nails are trim and clean , odd I know but a good indicator of self cleanliness

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Never due to nerves, but have politely backed out if there was no spark in person"

I've done this too. There has to be an initial spark of attraction for me to to want to see them again

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By *ain and sortedMan
48 weeks ago

Old Harlow Essex

Nerves certainly have a part to play in any meet be it vanilla date or a swinging one , if u click great if not it’s a tad awkward x

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By *onnyJohnMan
48 weeks ago

Doncaster

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By *our TV fantasyTV/TS
48 weeks ago

Waterloo, Liverpool

Nerves used to be part of my meeting but once I made contact to meet I would meet. I've had countless meets that haven't materialised because I was ghosted once on their road.

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By *wc1978Man
48 weeks ago

Harpenden

Nope but had that happen to me

Chatting for a couple of days and arranged to meet in a hotel. All messages were positive

Messaged on the day and all good, in the evening I sent another message to say I was on the way and when I’d arrive, got the thumbs up and said they were in the bar.

40 mins later told them I was parking up and went to the bar, nobody. Messaged them and left unread for 15 mins. Finally got a message that said they were tired and went to bed

I wasn’t happy. They then admitted they bottled it

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By *ain and sortedMan
48 weeks ago

Old Harlow Essex

"Nope but had that happen to me

Chatting for a couple of days and arranged to meet in a hotel. All messages were positive

Messaged on the day and all good, in the evening I sent another message to say I was on the way and when I’d arrive, got the thumbs up and said they were in the bar.

40 mins later told them I was parking up and went to the bar, nobody. Messaged them and left unread for 15 mins. Finally got a message that said they were tired and went to bed

I wasn’t happy. They then admitted they bottled it "

This examples that not all single guys are a waste of space , I’ve found unrealistic couples can be worse they bottle it have many rules , boundaries we should adhere to I agree , however the demands made sometimes just don’t endure to a relaxed meet

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By *aughty Hubby n Sexy WifeCouple
48 weeks ago

Scarborogh

We’ve never let anyone down.

However, we’ve been let down by a couple we were due to meet. Dressed up, baby sitters organised and taxi into town. Sat in the agreed bar but nobody around looking like them. Logged onto fab to check to see if they were running late and they were on fab still at home 10 miles away. So frustrating! No response to polite messages asking if they were delayed at all so blocked. Mrs SW

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By *oxy jWoman
48 weeks ago

taunton somerset

to add to what ive already said further up ....

nerves are normal in a way nerves are a good thing keeping you alert but being so nervus that you cant get past actually meeting then as i said their zero point in even being on the scene as all it will do is label you a watse of time for being a waste of time ...

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I haven't, but so many people fail to turn up that me and my friends decided to only play with others at clubs. Hotels and travel cost money.

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