FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Swingers Chat

They're not really your friends

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wonder why people seem to get so "knickers in a bunch" about "friending" someone on fab. Unless you've become friends in REAL life, the click of a button only really expresses a general interest, so if they don't speak to you daily, or, don't drop everything to chat to you it's not personal! Stop reading so much into it!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thanks for the invite...but ur too far away x x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester


"thanks for the invite...but ur too far away x x"

Classic!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder why people seem to get so "knickers in a bunch" about "friending" someone on fab. Unless you've become friends in REAL life, the click of a button only really expresses a general interest, so if they don't speak to you daily, or, don't drop everything to chat to you it's not personal! Stop reading so much into it!"

I wouldn't let it wind you up they only want to look at your pictures.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester

And you're so right op!

Although there are other methods of initiating contact

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And you're so right op!

Although there are other methods of initiating contact"

Absolutely but at the end of the day it's an electronic communication not a personal one to start with.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester


"And you're so right op!

Although there are other methods of initiating contact

Absolutely but at the end of the day it's an electronic communication not a personal one to start with."

Yea I see where you're coming from but personally I'd like to chat a get a feel about somebody before I let them see my private friends only pics (not they're anything special).

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only use/invite/accept "Friends Invites" after i have met people; where thats sexual or just as CB's

Cynically; i feel those who hit the "friends invite" button without this are just pic collectors or just wanting to see your full profile pic n veri so they can collect or contact...ok that is cynical view...but im sure some can empathize with that

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder why people seem to get so "knickers in a bunch" about "friending" someone on fab. Unless you've become friends in REAL life, the click of a button only really expresses a general interest, so if they don't speak to you daily, or, don't drop everything to chat to you it's not personal! Stop reading so much into it!"

Oooh can we be friends?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I wonder why people seem to get so "knickers in a bunch" about "friending" someone on fab. Unless you've become friends in REAL life, the click of a button only really expresses a general interest, so if they don't speak to you daily, or, don't drop everything to chat to you it's not personal! Stop reading so much into it!"

everyone uses the tools available on the site differently and understands it differently, why have they got to feel a certain way because you say ao?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"I wonder why people seem to get so "knickers in a bunch" about "friending" someone on fab. Unless you've become friends in REAL life, the click of a button only really expresses a general interest, so if they don't speak to you daily, or, don't drop everything to chat to you it's not personal! Stop reading so much into it!"

^ This (that's twice in 30 seconds now lol). No, I really don't get it either

It's like the 'having a friends list edit' announcement people make on their Fab status or on Facebook - never inderstood it.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wonder why people seem to get so "knickers in a bunch" about "friending" someone on fab. Unless you've become friends in REAL life, the click of a button only really expresses a general interest, so if they don't speak to you daily, or, don't drop everything to chat to you it's not personal! Stop reading so much into it!

everyone uses the tools available on the site differently and understands it differently, why have they got to feel a certain way because you say ao?"

Well that's obvious. It's because I'm brilliant . I'm sure people do use this site differently, but, if you read the sheer amount of whining about blocking/friends/winks/messages etc then sometimes people need a reality check. People on here aren't your friends because they've clicked a button on their pc saying so.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we accept random ones. when they're offline. have a perve at their pics and delete them.

its what they would have done

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I wonder why people seem to get so "knickers in a bunch" about "friending" someone on fab. Unless you've become friends in REAL life, the click of a button only really expresses a general interest, so if they don't speak to you daily, or, don't drop everything to chat to you it's not personal! Stop reading so much into it!

everyone uses the tools available on the site differently and understands it differently, why have they got to feel a certain way because you say ao?

Well that's obvious. It's because I'm brilliant . I'm sure people do use this site differently, but, if you read the sheer amount of whining about blocking/friends/winks/messages etc then sometimes people need a reality check. People on here aren't your friends because they've clicked a button on their pc saying so. "

I fully understand that, which must surely mean that I am almost as brilliant as you are.

I see all the posts that you see too but like death and taxes they will always be with us

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we accept random ones. when they're offline. have a perve at their pics and delete them.

its what they would have done "

Haha what a good idea

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we accept random ones. when they're offline. have a perve at their pics and delete them.

its what they would have done "

Like it

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Thats why I set no importance for being someones 'friend' see no point in it personally. Most guys just want to see the fotos but rarely have anything I want to see.

To me its more important to see on cam if I were interested at all .

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we accept random ones. when they're offline. have a perve at their pics and delete them.

its what they would have done

Like it "

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I wonder why people seem to get so "knickers in a bunch" about "friending" someone on fab. Unless you've become friends in REAL life, the click of a button only really expresses a general interest, so if they don't speak to you daily, or, don't drop everything to chat to you it's not personal! Stop reading so much into it!"

the only people on my friends list are people who i have actually met or are people that i do speak to....

if someone wants to look at my private pics... they have to get to know me first... simple as...

don't like it... tough....

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder why people seem to get so "knickers in a bunch" about "friending" someone on fab. Unless you've become friends in REAL life, the click of a button only really expresses a general interest, so if they don't speak to you daily, or, don't drop everything to chat to you it's not personal! Stop reading so much into it!

the only people on my friends list are people who i have actually met or are people that i do speak to....

if someone wants to look at my private pics... they have to get to know me first... simple as...

don't like it... tough.... "

Our friends list are people we potentially will meet/have met or chat to, we have a private folder for a reason, we don't want the pics on public display, if we did they would be in the public folder lol

Although I do find it funny that its called a friends list ( same as Facebook) a better name would be people we've "spoken to list " ( I guess it's long winded though)

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire


"we accept random ones. when they're offline. have a perve at their pics and delete them.

its what they would have done "

Exactly what we do

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wonder why people seem to get so "knickers in a bunch" about "friending" someone on fab. Unless you've become friends in REAL life, the click of a button only really expresses a general interest, so if they don't speak to you daily, or, don't drop everything to chat to you it's not personal! Stop reading so much into it!

everyone uses the tools available on the site differently and understands it differently, why have they got to feel a certain way because you say ao?

Well that's obvious. It's because I'm brilliant . I'm sure people do use this site differently, but, if you read the sheer amount of whining about blocking/friends/winks/messages etc then sometimes people need a reality check. People on here aren't your friends because they've clicked a button on their pc saying so.

I fully understand that, which must surely mean that I am almost as brilliant as you are.

I see all the posts that you see too but like death and taxes they will always be with us "

Very true (apart from the bit about being nearly as brilliant as me)

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder why people seem to get so "knickers in a bunch" about "friending" someone on fab. Unless you've become friends in REAL life, the click of a button only really expresses a general interest, so if they don't speak to you daily, or, don't drop everything to chat to you it's not personal! Stop reading so much into it!"

I agree why do people get their kickers in a twist (bunch?) over it and post in the forums, its similar to those that go on about webcammers not being real swingers and being timewasters, just a waste of time bringing it up

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing for me us when I have all my pics set to private and none as friends only, I never get friend requests. When there are friend only pics I get inundated with requests, I just like to have exchanged messages with someone before accepting em. I also don't keep anyone I haven't met or talk to regularly on my friends list for more then a week. How I use it is up to me.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing for me us when I have all my pics set to private and none as friends only, I never get friend requests. When there are friend only pics I get inundated with requests, I just like to have exchanged messages with someone before accepting em. I also don't keep anyone I haven't met or talk to regularly on my friends list for more then a week. How I use it is up to me."

Pretty much the same, we won't friend with people who are unverified either.....

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder why people seem to get so "knickers in a bunch" about "friending" someone on fab. Unless you've become friends in REAL life, the click of a button only really expresses a general interest, so if they don't speak to you daily, or, don't drop everything to chat to you it's not personal! Stop reading so much into it!"

its probabley cos they dont want just anyone to see their only friends private pics

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

I think some people take the site far too seriously and see it as an extension to facebook in terms of friends etc.

We just use the friends list for people we ve met or may meet

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I only use/invite/accept "Friends Invites" after i have met people; where thats sexual or just as CB's

Cynically; i feel those who hit the "friends invite" button without this are just pic collectors or just wanting to see your full profile pic n veri so they can collect or contact...ok that is cynical view...but im sure some can empathize with that "

So glad to see somebody else d that. I only accept invites now when I have met people. Works for me.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top