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By *arkandjane OP   Couple
over a year ago

Lancaster

We had a wink from a lady last night, so we replied with a thank you and usual chit chat, exchanged a couple of polite messages,then she sent us her face pic, we didn't ask for it but all very polite, so we returned ours, just logged on again to see the response and we have been blocked.

Very strange, could it be it another fake or just a time waster, i would rather they said we were ugly and weren't their type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Considering the level of prior communication I think they were rude to block you without any explanation. I doubt it was because you do not look nice.

The number of people on here that get cold feet about meetings would make arctic explorers feel right at home.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Possibly she isn't that confident about telling people they aren't her type, and finds it easier to block. Saves the sometimes inevitable responses of why, what can I do to change your mind kind of thing.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's the way some people operate. It doesn't mean you're ugly but might mean you aren't her type physically it could mean you're too good looking even.

It's puzzling when things like this happen but best to accept that everyone had their own way of doing things.

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By *adu12Woman
over a year ago

Newton Abbot

I've been accused of being rude because I don't reply to messages etc.

To be fair, I use this site for my own reasons, as does everyone else I'm assuming.

I can't be bothered to reply to everyone who mails me, I'd be sat no here all day every day if I did that.

So what if you get blocked, so what if you don't get a reply.

I've asked men out in real life, they've knocked me back, I didn't sulk in the corner wondering why, thinking how rude they were. I simply moved on. They obviously weren't interested. It's their prerogative

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why fret about it move on its part and parcel of being on here plenty of good bits but they for me outweigh the negative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who knows but if its after sending face pictures that is the most likley reason. Far better being blocked than a message saying you are not attractive enough to play with. Delete, move on dwelling over it will do no good.

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester

Well that sounds very similar to a cpl that was chatting to on Sunday. I fab'd a couple of pics of theirs, they reciprocated and then sent me some mail and we chatted. All seemed to be going well with the mention of a drink etc. I then logged in last night to find that they had blocked me, now they seek to have unblocked me but they have hidden their profile. Confused.com!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There and again they could have hit the block button instead of private notes or report user by accident.

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester


"There and again they could have hit the block button instead of private notes or report user by accident. "

True true, they seemed a genuine pair but hey life goes on. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they recognised you so blocked you to prevent further embarrassment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just a block, nothing more nothing less. Don't read anything into it and move on. Most importantly don't judge the reasons why they blocked you based on why you would block someone. At the end of the day it doesn't actually doesn't make any difference to your life.

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By *arkandjane OP   Couple
over a year ago

Lancaster

i know its just a block, i just find it very strange.

she wouldnt know us because we saw her first and certainly didnt know her.

Oh well onwards and upwards.

Always interesting to see others views on the subject

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i know its just a block, i just find it very strange.

she wouldnt know us because we saw her first and certainly didnt know her.

Oh well onwards and upwards.

Always interesting to see others views on the subject"

My opinion would be that everyone here is here for what they personally want and therefore there's no point worrying if someone falls off the radar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its hard to know what goes on in peoples minds sometimes...you both look nice - you read well and as you say you communicated etc...

It frustrating when you do things right and get blocked...it happens to singles far more; when all is required is a simple "thanks but not for us" message back

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"It's just a block, nothing more nothing less. Don't read anything into it and move on. Most importantly don't judge the reasons why they blocked you based on why you would block someone. At the end of the day it doesn't actually doesn't make any difference to your life."

^ Just this, saved me typing anything

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By *icechap50Man
over a year ago

Dudley

Hate the blockers just tried to message a lady and

She's put the block on me

So unkind I was only going to be nice to her

Now I've gotta get me rod out again

Gone fishing!!!

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possibly she isn't that confident about telling people they aren't her type, and finds it easier to block. Saves the sometimes inevitable responses of why, what can I do to change your mind kind of thing. "

Thats my theory too. We never used to like using the block button but iuse it a lot more now as t is a very handy way of filtering out contact from people we have no interest in and vice versa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really wouldn't lose any sleep over it if I was you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hate the blockers just tried to message a lady and

She's put the block on me

So unkind I was only going to be nice to her

Now I've gotta get me rod out again

Gone fishing!!!

Lol "

Good that you were going to be nice but sadly so many aren't and the abuse can be very.unpleasant hence using the block button rather than risk getting an abusive reply or a negotiation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have used the Block button a few times now after being constantly worn down by unwanted repeat messages.

When I checked the block list though there was someone on there who I had inadvertently blocked so it is easy to do by mistake.

Get back on the horse and carry on regardless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your not on your own i have had the same did to me i am very polite not rude unless asked i just put it down to their are so many funny people out their it do make me chuckle sometimes we just have to find good people they are out their

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possibly she isn't that confident about telling people they aren't her type, and finds it easier to block. Saves the sometimes inevitable responses of why, what can I do to change your mind kind of thing. "

Then why not tell them and then block them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possibly she isn't that confident about telling people they aren't her type, and finds it easier to block. Saves the sometimes inevitable responses of why, what can I do to change your mind kind of thing.

Then why not tell them and then block them? "

Because some people prefer to spend their time replying to messages from people they're interested in rather than replying to those that they are not. Ladies can easily get 60 plus messages a day. If each reply takes 1 minute thats an hour gone and no action.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I've been accused of being rude because I don't reply to messages etc.

To be fair, I use this site for my own reasons, as does everyone else I'm assuming.

I can't be bothered to reply to everyone who mails me, I'd be sat no here all day every day if I did that.

So what if you get blocked, so what if you don't get a reply.

I've asked men out in real life, they've knocked me back, I didn't sulk in the corner wondering why, thinking how rude they were. I simply moved on. They obviously weren't interested. It's their prerogative "

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"We had a wink from a lady last night, so we replied with a thank you and usual chit chat, exchanged a couple of polite messages,then she sent us her face pic, we didn't ask for it but all very polite, so we returned ours, just logged on again to see the response and we have been blocked.

Very strange, could it be it another fake or just a time waster, i would rather they said we were ugly and weren't their type"
where do thease people hide out, ive never had any of this stuff happen nasty messages blocking at pics maybe ive been lucky so far

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Possibly she isn't that confident about telling people they aren't her type, and finds it easier to block. Saves the sometimes inevitable responses of why, what can I do to change your mind kind of thing.

Then why not tell them and then block them?

Because some people prefer to spend their time replying to messages from people they're interested in rather than replying to those that they are not. Ladies can easily get 60 plus messages a day. If each reply takes 1 minute thats an hour gone and no action."

That's the point some people seem to miss: we're here for our own individual hedonistic pleasure, using the site how we see fit.

Some people choose to spend time saying thanks no thanks to people they DON'T wish to meet, whilst some of us are answering messages and arranging meets with those we DO!

Imagine that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"your not on your own i have had the same did to me i am very polite not rude unless asked i just put it down to their are so many funny people out their it do make me chuckle sometimes we just have to find good people they are out their "

So those who block are not good people?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I communicated with a nice couple and sent a pic. The lady did not fancy me, which is her absolute right, so we agreed not to meet and we had polite communications afterwards.

I subsequently noticed that their preferences were stating men up to 55 and their profile text said men up to 50. I pointed this out in what i thought was a polite and friendly manner because men up to 55 may think they are welcome.

I was surprised to see their response was to tell me that my comment was because the wife did not fancy me and they blocked me. Surely, if I felt like that, I would have stayed silent and left all the 51 to 55 year old men to contact them.

By hey ho, this is Fabswingers ...... onward and upwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why did you feel the need to continue communication with people who had already said they weren't interested? what does it matter if their profile is slightly inconsistent? We'd have done the same in their shoes tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why did you feel the need to continue communication with people who had already said they weren't interested? what does it matter if their profile is slightly inconsistent? We'd have done the same in their shoes tbh. "

Quite simply because they seemed nice people and said they wanted to respond. I actually do communicate with people I am not going to have sex with. Its refreshing you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But they didn't want to respond because they blocked you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But they didn't want to respond because they blocked you! "

they were fine until I said their preference and text were incompatible. Then they blocked. Aw never mind I am in another place now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I communicated with a nice couple and sent a pic. The lady did not fancy me, which is her absolute right, so we agreed not to meet and we had polite communications afterwards.

I subsequently noticed that their preferences were stating men up to 55 and their profile text said men up to 50. I pointed this out in what i thought was a polite and friendly manner because men up to 55 may think they are welcome.

I was surprised to see their response was to tell me that my comment was because the wife did not fancy me and they blocked me. Surely, if I felt like that, I would have stayed silent and left all the 51 to 55 year old men to contact them.

By hey ho, this is Fabswingers ...... onward and upwards "

Maybe.. Here's a thought.. They don't like men over 50 but leave it open for guys up to 55 cos not everyone looks there age and they will stretch it for the right guy...

Not really ur place to worry about their profile..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I communicated with a nice couple and sent a pic. The lady did not fancy me, which is her absolute right, so we agreed not to meet and we had polite communications afterwards.

I subsequently noticed that their preferences were stating men up to 55 and their profile text said men up to 50. I pointed this out in what i thought was a polite and friendly manner because men up to 55 may think they are welcome.

I was surprised to see their response was to tell me that my comment was because the wife did not fancy me and they blocked me. Surely, if I felt like that, I would have stayed silent and left all the 51 to 55 year old men to contact them.

By hey ho, this is Fabswingers ...... onward and upwards

Maybe.. Here's a thought.. They don't like men over 50 but leave it open for guys up to 55 cos not everyone looks there age and they will stretch it for the right guy...

Not really ur place to worry about their profile.."

OK. I thought it was being helpful but i can understand it may not have looked that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well that sounds very similar to a cpl that was chatting to on Sunday. I fab'd a couple of pics of theirs, they reciprocated and then sent me some mail and we chatted. All seemed to be going well with the mention of a drink etc. I then logged in last night to find that they had blocked me, now they seek to have unblocked me but they have hidden their profile. Confused.com! "

Exactly same as me on two occasions recently, conversation flowing nothing pushy was even complimented in last message for not being "like all the others" and then wam blocked?? Totally out of the blue??

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Why did you feel the need to continue communication with people who had already said they weren't interested? what does it matter if their profile is slightly inconsistent? We'd have done the same in their shoes tbh. "

^^^This! I wouldn't have wanted further contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive just had someone try to carry on too after me saying "sorry not for me thanks"

Male from the couple asked would i go to a club on Saturday, i said no as im working.

He asked for my number, i said i dont give it out straight away.

He asked would i go to a different club next Wednesday, i asked for face pics of both of them. He sent 1of him and said its just him at the minute as mrs is working away. I replied sorry not for me thanks

He then replied he only wanted to take me to a club. I deleted without replying

He then sent further message saying i was going to be deleted because i wasnt what they were looking for !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well that sounds very similar to a cpl that was chatting to on Sunday. I fab'd a couple of pics of theirs, they reciprocated and then sent me some mail and we chatted. All seemed to be going well with the mention of a drink etc. I then logged in last night to find that they had blocked me, now they seek to have unblocked me but they have hidden their profile. Confused.com!

Exactly same as me on two occasions recently, conversation flowing nothing pushy was even complimented in last message for not being "like all the others" and then wam blocked?? Totally out of the blue??"

Unless they blocked you by accident then you will have inadvertently said or done something that meant they didn't want to pursue meeting you or they took a closer look at your profile or pics and saw something that put them off. If someone is interested then they don't tend to block and everyone has their reasons for hitting the block button.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Well that sounds very similar to a cpl that was chatting to on Sunday. I fab'd a couple of pics of theirs, they reciprocated and then sent me some mail and we chatted. All seemed to be going well with the mention of a drink etc. I then logged in last night to find that they had blocked me, now they seek to have unblocked me but they have hidden their profile. Confused.com!

Exactly same as me on two occasions recently, conversation flowing nothing pushy was even complimented in last message for not being "like all the others" and then wam blocked?? Totally out of the blue??

Unless they blocked you by accident then you will have inadvertently said or done something that meant they didn't want to pursue meeting you or they took a closer look at your profile or pics and saw something that put them off. If someone is interested then they don't tend to block and everyone has their reasons for hitting the block button."

So true!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I think you should shoot them with my new Acme 42-Watt Timewaster Annihilator Las... *Sigh*

oh whats the point?

No ones going to ask me about it are they?

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By *corcherMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

It is frustrating when you get blocked because it's so final. There's no way to ask why or make an appeal. But then it's the nature of the beast. Just move on to someone else.

I think it's that feeling of impotence that causes so many questions on blocking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is frustrating when you get blocked because it's so final. There's no way to ask why or make an appeal. But then it's the nature of the beast. Just move on to someone else.

I think it's that feeling of impotence that causes so many questions on blocking. "

Asking why or making an appeal is exactly why so many people use the block button!! If someone isn't attracted to you then they are not attracted. End.of story. No amount of appealing or negotiating will change that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why get het up about being blocked what do you do if you try chat up a bird in pub and you get ignored do you then hound her asking why she ignoring you.

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