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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Over the past few months I've had trouble feeling horny, especially in the club environment, no problem at home, just clubs. I never used to have this problem, but now it's getting to me psychologically.

Very recently I have had the pleasure of playing with an incredibly hot and sexy woman a couple of times now with my Mrs watching, what could be better? But on both occasions I haven't been able to perform.

This has happened on several occasions now, and not just with the lady above (it even happens with Mrs M in the clubs), and i have been asked the dreaded question a couple of times "is it me?". It's absolutely not the women I've had the pleasure of playing with, it's definitely me.

Anyone else have the same problem in a club environment?

It would be good to know I'm not alone in this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Over the past few months I've had trouble feeling horny, especially in the club environment, no problem at home, just clubs. I never used to have this problem, but now it's getting to me psychologically.

Very recently I have had the pleasure of playing with an incredibly hot and sexy woman a couple of times now with my Mrs watching, what could be better? But on both occasions I haven't been able to perform.

This has happened on several occasions now, and not just with the lady above (it even happens with Mrs M in the clubs), and i have been asked the dreaded question a couple of times "is it me?". It's absolutely not the women I've had the pleasure of playing with, it's definitely me.

Anyone else have the same problem in a club environment?

It would be good to know I'm not alone in this."

It is 100% psychological mate! As long as you have no underlying medical conditions.. overweight, booze etc. then it’s your worry about it happening that’s making it happen. I had the very same issue a few years ago, the concern of it happening would cause it to happen.. mental right?!

Maybe just take everything right back.. get back to what you and your Mrs used to do when you first met.. dates, meals, cinema. Strip everything back and go back to basics man. And most importantly, please don’t put pressure on yourself. If it happens, so what? Just let it go and try again another time.

Best of luck mate!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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It is 100% psychological mate! As long as you have no underlying medical conditions.. overweight, booze etc. then it’s your worry about it happening that’s making it happen. I had the very same issue a few years ago, the concern of it happening would cause it to happen.. mental right?!

Maybe just take everything right back.. get back to what you and your Mrs used to do when you first met.. dates, meals, cinema. Strip everything back and go back to basics man. And most importantly, please don’t put pressure on yourself. If it happens, so what? Just let it go and try again another time.

Best of luck mate! "

Never have a problem at home, just in clubs, even with the Mrs.

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By *anyasmanMan
over a year ago

Preston

Had the same problem for years - luckily I was going for the wife to have fun and not me. Even with enough viagra in me to pitch tents (normally I use only a tiny nibble) nothing happened. I have a suspicion that it’s to do with standing up for long periods whereas at home am usually lying down before hand for a while. Mental can be an issue but it never felt like one TBH. The other suggestion is to try the sauna (if the club has one) and after a while in there see if your missus can get your engine working.

That is what has been effective for me - it may be the increased body temperature that helps the blood flow.

Good luck and you are definitely not alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex who is a confident chap always took viagra or similar for clubs, just as a precaution so he knew he could perform.

I'm sorry OP, but I'm going to be honest here. It can be really frustrating for fems in clubs with couples swap where the husband can't get it up! It is very common, and selfishly I do wish more men would take the same attitude as my ex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex who is a confident chap always took viagra or similar for clubs, just as a precaution so he knew he could perform.

I'm sorry OP, but I'm going to be honest here. It can be really frustrating for fems in clubs with couples swap where the husband can't get it up! It is very common, and selfishly I do wish more men would take the same attitude as my ex. "

Well said.. and eloquently put x

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By *olfandtazCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

It's something I have been through, especially the taking viagra to help.

I knew it was all down to "performance nerves" rather than anything else... its a vicous cycle.

For me counselling helped, I talked it through with a professional and worked it out.

Try not to let it get you down, you are not alone in it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We have found something (well, recommended really) which worked a treat. Mrs M called in at pulse and cocktails for some sexy lingerie and was telling the lady at the counter my problems, when she recommended some supplements called "Dragon" which worked a treat last night. It was the first time in about 8 months I've been able to perform in a club.

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By *urvykat and JayCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne

Your definitely not alone with this mate x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My ex who is a confident chap always took viagra or similar for clubs, just as a precaution so he knew he could perform.

I'm sorry OP, but I'm going to be honest here. It can be really frustrating for fems in clubs with couples swap where the husband can't get it up! It is very common, and selfishly I do wish more men would take the same attitude as my ex. "

I can imagine how frustrating it can be for the ladies. Fortunately I'm well versed in oral, but none the less, oral is still no substitute.

At times I have felt humiliated at not being able to perform, though the ladies have been very understanding and know I'm trying different solutions.

I have always "prepped" with something prior to going to a club, but until last night I didn't have much success.

Now I have something which I know works until the performance issues subside or disappear completely.

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

As someone who watches from the sidelines or joins in on the big bed at our local club I can assure you it's not just you. It's a super common thing x

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