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By *sleWightCouple OP   Couple
49 weeks ago

Ryde

Well, we've decided to take a bullet for thrifty BDSM enthusiasts everywhere.

After looking at various spanking benches on Etsy, we decided to throw caution to the wind and order one. It's well known that there are a lot of twisters and con-artists selling non-existent fetish gear on there, and we have certainly been stung once before, but we were able to get the money back easily enough, so it was more frustration than any monetary loss.

Deciding to give it one last chance, we picked out a spanking-bench from a seller who had a degree of history on there, and - most importantly - completed the transaction by PayPal.

Last time, we were messaged by Etsy an hour after purchasing, telling us it was a scam. But on this purchase, we had a message from the seller herself giving a decent amount of information - certainly seeming much more positive than before.

We are essentially writing it off as something which isn't going to materialise, but it'll be a bonus if it does.

Anyone else had experiences with buying such stuff from Etsy - for good or for bad?

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By *inkandchainCouple
49 weeks ago

Droitwich

Is there a real market for stuff ? Benches , St Andrews crosses etc. skilled maker so I may start making some !

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By *almprintsWoman
49 weeks ago

deepest, darkest West


"Is there a real market for stuff ? Benches , St Andrews crosses etc. skilled maker so I may start making some !"

Absolutely theres a market for this. Have you heard of the London Alternative Market? Loads of fetish and kink independent sellers. Have a Google.

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By *acavityMan
49 weeks ago

Redditch

Also the Birmingham bizarre bazaar.

Normally the 3rd Sunday of the month.

(This weekend)

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By *ensualMan
49 weeks ago

Sutton

There is a market but there is also a lot of competition. Additionally good quality equipment if new rarely comes cheap.

There is an argument that I have read that (with the exception of pervertibles) BDSM is elitist as the toys could be considered expensive,e.g outfits, clubs, play equipment.

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By *ensualMan
49 weeks ago

Sutton

I have not attended but Southampton now has a market from time to time called the Southampton Fetish Emporium.

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By *sleWightCouple OP   Couple
49 weeks ago

Ryde

Well, we're on the Isle of Wight, so might have to pop across and have a butchers sometime.

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By *ensualMan
49 weeks ago

Sutton


"Well, we're on the Isle of Wight, so might have to pop across and have a butchers sometime. "

Google and the site that can't be mentioned may be of help.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
49 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"There is a market but there is also a lot of competition. Additionally good quality equipment if new rarely comes cheap.

There is an argument that I have read that (with the exception of pervertibles) BDSM is elitist as the toys could be considered expensive,e.g outfits, clubs, play equipment."

Wait.

It's elitist because good quality items cost money?

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
49 weeks ago

Worcester

Why wouldn’t they send your item? Etsy is a marketplace full of sellers like me who are fulfilling orders regularly.

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By *sleWightCouple OP   Couple
49 weeks ago

Ryde

For all the genuine sellers (like yourself) there are a lot of unscrupulous ones on it. It's the same as Ebay, with many joining up to effectively 'smash and grab' before their account is reported and shut down.

Things like cheaper BDSM furniture is desirable, as going through the usual channels makes it much more expensive - and easy pickings for those with the balls to turn people over.

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By *hawn ScottMan
49 weeks ago

london Brixton

Any bdsm furniture I've seen 2nd hand isn't much cheaper than buying new. As mentioned above try lam or various shops in soho/vauxhall

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
49 weeks ago

Bristol

I did find someone on etsy at one point who makes spanking benches which can be taken down and become a footstool. Secret Spanks. Bit more than I could justify spending at the time but custom made and you could pick your colours etc.

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By *avid 50Man
49 weeks ago

kendal

In the past, we have bought furniture from secondhand shops and adapted it to what we wanted, the only thing we bought were the masks and cuffs, we bought two identical oak coffee tables one is in the lounge. The other is in the bedroom both adapted to satisfy our needs. we have a vaulting horse and a set of stocks that I made in the garage. BDSM doesn’t need to be expensive. You just have to be creative

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By *adgerMan
49 weeks ago

york


"There is a market but there is also a lot of competition. Additionally good quality equipment if new rarely comes cheap.

There is an argument that I have read that (with the exception of pervertibles) BDSM is elitist as the toys could be considered expensive,e.g outfits, clubs, play equipment."

BDSM starts with the mind and that’s free!

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By *ensualMan
49 weeks ago

Sutton


"There is a market but there is also a lot of competition. Additionally good quality equipment if new rarely comes cheap.

There is an argument that I have read that (with the exception of pervertibles) BDSM is elitist as the toys could be considered expensive,e.g outfits, clubs, play equipment.

BDSM starts with the mind and that’s free!"

Let's just agree to disagree!

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By *sleWightCouple OP   Couple
49 weeks ago

Ryde

Update to original post.

Just received a dispatch notification from the seller, along with a personal message thanking me for the order.

Certainly no guarantee, but a lot further than the last one got.

Still expecting it to be a gift-wrapped cat.

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By *ensualMan
49 weeks ago

Sutton


"Update to original post.

Just received a dispatch notification from the seller, along with a personal message thanking me for the order.

Certainly no guarantee, but a lot further than the last one got.

Still expecting it to be a gift-wrapped cat. "
Unfortunately there is no fingers crossed for you emoji!

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By *sleWightCouple OP   Couple
49 weeks ago

Ryde


" Unfortunately there is no fingers crossed for you emoji!"

Thanks!

We now have a tracking number, and the messages have been quite free-flowing. It's using a shipping option which is dirt-cheap, and only slightly faster than the "Swedish Post" variety.

Time will tell, and will duly report back. If it's all kosher, then we'll praise them to the rafters and plug the hell out of their company.

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By *ecky and justCouple
49 weeks ago

Godalming

When you get a chance, get to the LAM.

Great place and lots of fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

We have bought various kink furniture of that site and can only say good things, most top quality british handmade

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
49 weeks ago

My boudoir - S Wales

Bookmarking this thread for market locations. I need some furniture!

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By *entle_lover_xMan
49 weeks ago

Great Dunmow


"There is a market but there is also a lot of competition. Additionally good quality equipment if new rarely comes cheap.

There is an argument that I have read that (with the exception of pervertibles) BDSM is elitist as the toys could be considered expensive,e.g outfits, clubs, play equipment."

Sorry but that is complete bollocks on the elitist point unless perhaps focused on clubs which I admit can be expensive but that is just one avenue and so much of BDSM is private away from clubs.

Yes there are expensive things but most aspects can be experienced pretty cheaply. DS can be practiced with no equipment at all. It's a mindset and way of behaving. SM can be experienced with nothing, things around the house, belt, or pretty cheap pieces of equipment etc. Bondage yes of course can spend a fortune on restraints etc. but a few bits of rope from B&Q is just as effective. As for furniture side yes some great expensive stuff but you can improvise very easily with the right bed, staircase, over the door hooks, etc or even strong hooks and bolts through a joist for rope suspension - all cheap.

I think some rope, a basic blindfold and a belt go a long way in right hands. Nothing else needed. And look around the house and grab a wooden spoon, clothes pegs, rubber bands, etc....

Actually got quite a bit of expensive stuff but it is far necessary.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
49 weeks ago

Great Dunmow

Interested to hear how it works out OP. Sounds like you will be in luck. I've bought a day collar from there and it worked out very well - came pretty quickly and good quality.

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By *sleWightCouple OP   Couple
49 weeks ago

Ryde


"Interested to hear how it works out OP. Sounds like you will be in luck. I've bought a day collar from there and it worked out very well - came pretty quickly and good quality. "

Will report back when it arrives. Due to the size of it (and that it's going via the slowest post to keep costs down) it's estimated to turn up early-mid February.

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By *ensualMan
49 weeks ago

Sutton


"There is a market but there is also a lot of competition. Additionally good quality equipment if new rarely comes cheap.

There is an argument that I have read that (with the exception of pervertibles) BDSM is elitist as the toys could be considered expensive,e.g outfits, clubs, play equipment.

Sorry but that is complete bollocks on the elitist point unless perhaps focused on clubs which I admit can be expensive but that is just one avenue and so much of BDSM is private away from clubs.

Yes there are expensive things but most aspects can be experienced pretty cheaply. DS can be practiced with no equipment at all. It's a mindset and way of behaving. SM can be experienced with nothing, things around the house, belt, or pretty cheap pieces of equipment etc. Bondage yes of course can spend a fortune on restraints etc. but a few bits of rope from B&Q is just as effective. As for furniture side yes some great expensive stuff but you can improvise very easily with the right bed, staircase, over the door hooks, etc or even strong hooks and bolts through a joist for rope suspension - all cheap.

I think some rope, a basic blindfold and a belt go a long way in right hands. Nothing else needed. And look around the house and grab a wooden spoon, clothes pegs, rubber bands, etc....

Actually got quite a bit of expensive stuff but it is far necessary. "

First I would say I am into ipponawa which is the Japanese term for tying with one rope incredibly cheap. So I regularly tie with one rope. Following your argument, if you can tie with one rope why have six ropes which becomes costly. Throw in carabiners, a suspension ring and suspension frame it becomes expensive, but the point is it creates a richer experience for the rope partner.

Each persons requirement of BDSM is different, some people are happy just to submit, some people are happy to blindfolded and beaten.

But my view is most people want a richer experience and this adds up in costs.

My kit runs from paintbrushes, spatulas, belts, blindfolds, floggers, dragontails, batons to expensive kit. Each creates a different effect. As a whole it creates a richer experience as does attending workshops, events, buying outfits and toys.

My view is (and I could be wrong) most people want more than minimalist experience and this adds up in cost.

Finally, as mentioned earlier, I am into shibari, so wash your mouth out with soap in regard to using store rope for bondage.

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By *ankman69Man
49 weeks ago

WILLENHALL

I once bought a cat collar from a jewelers, i was just looking at them and the lady asked if i was ok.

Yes was my answer, she said lots of people by them for themselves

I was joking when i asked if she could model it, she did and as soon as she put it on asked if i wanted anything else.

Closed sign went up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago


"Well, we've decided to take a bullet for thrifty BDSM enthusiasts everywhere.

After looking at various spanking benches on Etsy, we decided to throw caution to the wind and order one. It's well known that there are a lot of twisters and con-artists selling non-existent fetish gear on there, and we have certainly been stung once before, but we were able to get the money back easily enough, so it was more frustration than any monetary loss.

Deciding to give it one last chance, we picked out a spanking-bench from a seller who had a degree of history on there, and - most importantly - completed the transaction by PayPal.

Last time, we were messaged by Etsy an hour after purchasing, telling us it was a scam. But on this purchase, we had a message from the seller herself giving a decent amount of information - certainly seeming much more positive than before.

We are essentially writing it off as something which isn't going to materialise, but it'll be a bonus if it does.

Anyone else had experiences with buying such stuff from Etsy - for good or for bad?"

Have you tried Ali express i buy all my bdsm gear toys clothes from the site good quality at a fraction of the price

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49 weeks ago

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By *entle_lover_xMan
49 weeks ago

Great Dunmow


"There is a market but there is also a lot of competition. Additionally good quality equipment if new rarely comes cheap.

There is an argument that I have read that (with the exception of pervertibles) BDSM is elitist as the toys could be considered expensive,e.g outfits, clubs, play equipment.

Sorry but that is complete bollocks on the elitist point unless perhaps focused on clubs which I admit can be expensive but that is just one avenue and so much of BDSM is private away from clubs.

Yes there are expensive things but most aspects can be experienced pretty cheaply. DS can be practiced with no equipment at all. It's a mindset and way of behaving. SM can be experienced with nothing, things around the house, belt, or pretty cheap pieces of equipment etc. Bondage yes of course can spend a fortune on restraints etc. but a few bits of rope from B&Q is just as effective. As for furniture side yes some great expensive stuff but you can improvise very easily with the right bed, staircase, over the door hooks, etc or even strong hooks and bolts through a joist for rope suspension - all cheap.

I think some rope, a basic blindfold and a belt go a long way in right hands. Nothing else needed. And look around the house and grab a wooden spoon, clothes pegs, rubber bands, etc....

Actually got quite a bit of expensive stuff but it is far necessary.

First I would say I am into ipponawa which is the Japanese term for tying with one rope incredibly cheap. So I regularly tie with one rope. Following your argument, if you can tie with one rope why have six ropes which becomes costly. Throw in carabiners, a suspension ring and suspension frame it becomes expensive, but the point is it creates a richer experience for the rope partner.

Each persons requirement of BDSM is different, some people are happy just to submit, some people are happy to blindfolded and beaten.

But my view is most people want a richer experience and this adds up in costs.

My kit runs from paintbrushes, spatulas, belts, blindfolds, floggers, dragontails, batons to expensive kit. Each creates a different effect. As a whole it creates a richer experience as does attending workshops, events, buying outfits and toys.

My view is (and I could be wrong) most people want more than minimalist experience and this adds up in cost.

Finally, as mentioned earlier, I am into shibari, so wash your mouth out with soap in regard to using store rope for bondage.

"

I didn't say don't have the more expensive things. I was saying they are not needed to experience BDSM and hence not elitist although sometimes it is elitist in the sense of people a bit snobbish about there own equipment and knowledge (not you but in general) .I was giving cheap examples and of course there is a middle ground. It's like saying driving is elitist because a sports car is expensive. You can do just find with a cheap car or a middling one. Also as you say the experience is different for all and lots of what people thing of BDSM equipment is more for the B. DS doesn't of itself require anything.

Don't be so dismissive on some of the store rope. I have various other kinds but some of the store is fantastic, great value and perfecg for those starting out and even more advanced, especially if going for more natural look and not pretty colours. Then of course many use rope for things other than shibari/kinbaku and B and Q works fine - actually some of it is not even that cheap really.

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By *sleWightCouple OP   Couple
49 weeks ago

Ryde


"Have you tried Ali express i buy all my bdsm gear toys clothes from the site good quality at a fraction of the price "

Thanks!

We use Temu quite a bit for the smaller stuff, but give your recommendation a go!

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By *uliette500Woman
49 weeks ago

Hull

Not bought any furniture from etsy but have bought a few impact play items from various different sellers and always received what I ordered.

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By *ldbutable1Man
49 weeks ago

hewish

some sites ban personal stuff that isnt new , i tried to sell a swing and stand on ebay but it wouldnt let me post it as not new

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By *sleWightCouple OP   Couple
48 weeks ago

Ryde

UPDATE:

As predicted, it WAS a con. Had a message from Etsy saying that the seller was no longer registered with them. We were hedging our bets anyway, and knew it wasn't likely not to materialise. The order reached the stage where it supposedly posted, and a matter days later, the seller closed up shop on Etsy.

Both Etsy and PayPal have offered refunds, which is par for the course. Apparently, this kind of thing is on the rise, especially with items a little over £100, as it means the shysters clear an even ton before any fees come out. Set up an account, offer luxury goods at great prices: get ten punters on the hook, and you've made £1000 with no effort at all.

The seller was in the Ukraine, and we figured that the war had sent the economy crashing, leaving a favourable exchange rate. Clearly, it was just coincidence.

We were expecting it, but figured it was worth a risk-free punt.

In the words of Shaw Taylor (for those who actually remember Police 5...)

"Keep 'em peeled!"

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By *hemissingpiecesCouple
48 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Sorry tpo hear you have had a bad experience. I have bought a spanking bench from Etsy, cross, which I found on Etsy then bought directly via their website (£50 cheaper) and a frame system which I found on Fet then paid using paypal but with the goods n services option.

It's a shame Etsy has now become easy pickins for the scamsters. I do tend to go by word of mouth, see who has bought what and be sure there is a reference customer and good communication.

At the end of the day it's all down to trust, which is unfortunately abused.

Bobby

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By *hemissingpiecesCouple
48 weeks ago

Basingstoke

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By *sleWightCouple OP   Couple
48 weeks ago

Ryde


"At the end of the day it's all down to trust, which is unfortunately abused."

It's just annoying, and the pessimist in me says it's only going to get worse. If you could private message me that company....

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By *ensualMan
48 weeks ago

Sutton

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By *ensualMan
48 weeks ago

Sutton


"

Sorry tpo hear you have had a bad experience. I have bought a spanking bench from Etsy, cross, which I found on Etsy then bought directly via their website (£50 cheaper) and a frame system which I found on Fet then paid using paypal but with the goods n services option.

It's a shame Etsy has now become easy pickins for the scamsters. I do tend to go by word of mouth, see who has bought what and be sure there is a reference customer and good communication.

At the end of the day it's all down to trust, which is unfortunately abused.

Bobby"

Sorry to hear this.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
48 weeks ago

SW Scotland

We buy all of our fantasy style dildos (tentacles etc) from Etsy and have never had any issue

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By *sleWightCouple OP   Couple
48 weeks ago

Ryde


"We buy all of our fantasy style dildos (tentacles etc) from Etsy and have never had any issue"

Cool! It's the bigger, more valuable things which attract the opportunists.

We get our dildos and bondage stuff from Temu, and - like yourselves - haven't had a problem with them.

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By *issalignedTV/TS
48 weeks ago

London

Have a look at squirt by design. You get what you pay for and some of their products are very good. They do collapsible furniture which is good if you don’t have space or can’t have stuff on display all the time

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By *sleWightCouple OP   Couple
48 weeks ago

Ryde


"Have a look at squirt by design. You get what you pay for and some of their products are very good. They do collapsible furniture which is good if you don’t have space or can’t have stuff on display all the time "

Thanks!

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By *sleWightCouple OP   Couple
48 weeks ago

Ryde

Curiouser and curiouser.

Just had a message from the suspect seller, and she is full of tales about her account being targeted by Etsy and having it forcibly closed down.

She now says that she can complete the order (which has supposedly shipped...) but I will have to use her payment details directly to get the money to her.

Almost as good as that African prince who needs money to access their vast riches...

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