FabSwingers.com forum: How many messages do females get?

By *r. Nice-Guy OP Man
49 weeks ago

Cannock

Just wondering, how many messages do females actually get?

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
49 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

It depends if they use filters I think op.

I use quite a few filters so I don't get that many.

I'd imagine more popular women with no filters get lots a day.

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By *naswingdressWoman
49 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

How long is a piece of string?

More if they're in a desirable demographic

More if they're online or have evidence of recent activity (uploading pictures, status, forum posts)

Way more if they get into hot pics

Less if they use filters

Generally less if they've been around more than a few months.

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
49 weeks ago

Worcester

So ignoring the first two weeks which is just mayhem...

After three weeks back on the site I get probably ten messages a day from new contacts if I'm working from home and checking in regularly. I expect that to go down a bit more over the coming weeks.

9/10 are people I basically would not meet.

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By *nlyfunsMan
49 weeks ago

It’s ridiculous, when we had a couples page it was not manageable!

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

I get hundreds a day.

But as the lovely lady above me mentions, its all subject to posts, uploads, hot pics/vids.

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By *naswingdressWoman
49 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've been here over five years now.

When I first started... countless. In the two minutes it took me to write my first bio, dozens of messages. Certainly hundreds in my first 24 hours. That gradually calmed down over months.

When I had my filters open to my preferences after I'd been here a few years, I'd say 30 a day, maybe 50 if I uploaded a new picture.

My filters are locked down hard now, and I get none.

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By *ornycougaWoman
49 weeks ago

Wherever I lay my hat

"I get hundreds a day.

But as the lovely lady above me mentions, its all subject to posts, uploads, hot pics/vids. "

This. When I'm inactive and don't log on for multiple days it can get down to single figures but when I have posted media it is triple figures even with filters

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

I've some filters set but right now I've exactly 600 unread dms here....& Lots have been automatically deleted....if I blocked all men that figure would greatly reduce....but I don't want to block men....But if I could block cheating men I sure would....

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
49 weeks ago

tf1

I had filters on so you can only message if you are age between 34 and 47.

If I put new pics up or meet up then I’ll get about 30 new messages within the hour.

On a normal day maybe 50 messages. I dread to think how many if I had no filters.

But most of those messages consist of hi, wuu2, wanna fuck now, or they send me cock pics and haven’t read profile. Or they lives miles and miles away.

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By *naswingdressWoman
49 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I get hundreds a day.

But as the lovely lady above me mentions, its all subject to posts, uploads, hot pics/vids.

This. When I'm inactive and don't log on for multiple days it can get down to single figures but when I have posted media it is triple figures even with filters"

Yes, I should say, when I say "filters locked down hard" and "I get no messages", my filters are set to "no men, no women, no couples of any kind, no TV/S". Getting no messages, as a woman, is a choice you make

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Well so far today I’ve had 80 xx

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

I’ve blocked men with no public pics from messaging but they still get through

strangely.

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By *naswingdressWoman
49 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I’ve blocked men with no public pics from messaging but they still get through

strangely. "

They make a picture public, message you, then take the picture away. Well known problem, unfortunately.

(If I were in charge - I'm not - I'd make it something like "must have a picture public for 24 hours before messaging")

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By *eductiveEncountersWoman
49 weeks ago

South West

It can vary but mostly 1 or 2 a day

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Depends.

I have filters on and regularly hide my profile but if I leave it unhidden all day, it can be hundreds.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"I get hundreds a day.

But as the lovely lady above me mentions, its all subject to posts, uploads, hot pics/vids.

This. When I'm inactive and don't log on for multiple days it can get down to single figures but when I have posted media it is triple figures even with filters"

Same for me.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
49 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I don't use filters because then I could miss the good event invites.

A quiet day is 30 to 50. New picture days are well into triple figures.

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By *erdyCurvyInkedPervyWoman
49 weeks ago

West Yorkshire

I tend to get around 50 a day.

Most of them either dick pics, wanna fuck, Hi etc, though a surprising number into Skat and asking me to... well, you get the idea.

At the moment I'm having entertaining conversations with about a dozen people who have taken the time to read my profile and actually be articulate when messaging me.

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By *dswingersCouple
49 weeks ago

chelmsford

50+ mostly single meet asking to meet now with a dick pic attached like really!

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"I’ve blocked men with no public pics from messaging but they still get through

strangely.

They make a picture public, message you, then take the picture away. Well known problem, unfortunately.

(If I were in charge - I'm not - I'd make it something like "must have a picture public for 24 hours before messaging")"

Ah ok. Thanks. Someone else suggested that too

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

At least three I reckon.

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By *andPextraCouple
49 weeks ago

North West

Post a pic in lingerie- more

Post s pic with boobs out- more plus

Post a pic with strap on- more plus plus

Having said that seem to get lots more winks than ever did before and more very obvious cut and paste mesaages.

Guess people who mail EVERYONE

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Why I don’t message

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By *RWoodyCouple
49 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Just to show the other side of things, I'd say we have a handful at most. I think the range across Fab will be huge!

J x

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By *eliWoman
49 weeks ago

.5 a day.

Normally the ? is followed up by a hi the next day so it kind of evens out.

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By *andy CanesWoman
49 weeks ago

candy cane lane

91 most are from the lurkers of the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

I have filters on and still get a lot of messages daily.

That’s at my age so goodness only knows how many younger women get.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
49 weeks ago

North Shields

With filters relaxed and a status on, easily hundreds a day, but sometimes just a handful a day.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"91 most are from the lurkers of the forums

Yes, if I post on the forums my inbox increases, mostly from those I never see posting.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"At the moment I'm having entertaining conversations with about a dozen people who have taken the time to read my profile and actually be articulate when messaging me. "

Oh you lucky girl! I wish I could have a conversation with a dozen (actually one or two will do) who have taken the time to read my profile!

This is why I go looking myself sometimes.

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By *ouise 555Woman
49 weeks ago

Dorchester

Okay, so I'm going to look at filters! Far too many msges obviously not read my profile it's hard sifting though and then some get funny, when i put a picture on sometimes 80 odd msges x

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
49 weeks ago

wonderland.

"Just wondering, how many messages do females actually get?

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on my singles its probably 4 to 10 a day x

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By *entle_lover_xMan
49 weeks ago

Great Dunmow

"91 most are from the lurkers of the forums

Yes, if I post on the forums my inbox increases, mostly from those I never see posting."

That's a bit creepy - shy forum lurkers.

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By *orl1971Couple
49 weeks ago

Glasgow

We probably get maybe one a day on average

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By *attooguy97Man
49 weeks ago

Hyde

"I get hundreds a day.

But as the lovely lady above me mentions, its all subject to posts, uploads, hot pics/vids. "

Not surprised

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By *andy CanesWoman
49 weeks ago

candy cane lane

"91 most are from the lurkers of the forums

Yes, if I post on the forums my inbox increases, mostly from those I never see posting.

That's a bit creepy - shy forum lurkers. "
it really is

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

I block men from messaging first now, before I did, I'd easily get 200+ a day

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By *ouise 555Woman
49 weeks ago

Dorchester

"I block men from messaging first now, before I did, I'd easily get 200+ a day"
can i ask how you do this please x same with posting in forums it goes crazy! X

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
49 weeks ago

All over the place

I know many women from this site in the real world and cannot believe some of those shit they get sent.

And abuse etc

Some guys really should be named and shamed

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
49 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"I block men from messaging first now, before I did, I'd easily get 200+ a day can i ask how you do this please x same with posting in forums it goes crazy! X"

Messages, menu, message filters. Untick the ones you don't want to be able to contact you

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By *entle_lover_xMan
49 weeks ago

Great Dunmow

"I know many women from this site in the real world and cannot believe some of those shit they get sent.

And abuse etc

Some guys really should be named and shamed "

Only is the ladies can be named and shamed as well

. Got a few I would like to name

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By *ouise 555Woman
49 weeks ago

Dorchester

"I block men from messaging first now, before I did, I'd easily get 200+ a day can i ask how you do this please x same with posting in forums it goes crazy! X

Messages, menu, message filters. Untick the ones you don't want to be able to contact you

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thank you I've done that but just had a msg from someone from the forum x

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By *aizyWoman
49 weeks ago

west midlands

"I block men from messaging first now, before I did, I'd easily get 200+ a day can i ask how you do this please x same with posting in forums it goes crazy! X

Messages, menu, message filters. Untick the ones you don't want to be able to contact you

thank you I've done that but just had a msg from someone from the forum x

Have you spoken to them before? If you've msged someone in the past they can get past filters.

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By *ouise 555Woman
49 weeks ago

Dorchester

"I block men from messaging first now, before I did, I'd easily get 200+ a day can i ask how you do this please x same with posting in forums it goes crazy! X

Messages, menu, message filters. Untick the ones you don't want to be able to contact you

thank you I've done that but just had a msg from someone from the forum x

Have you spoken to them before? If you've msged someone in the past they can get past filters."
not this one

Ah might be in age range thank you x

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By *hloe_TTV/TS
49 weeks ago

Nottingham

Id like a distance filter x i dont get a huge amount, and if i put up a status like now saying not looking for any new chats most people seem to respect it x

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By *ouise 555Woman
49 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Id like a distance filter x i dont get a huge amount, and if i put up a status like now saying not looking for any new chats most people seem to respect it x "
oh yes same as you im looking for local but often get messages from quite far away x

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By *r. Nice-Guy OP Man
49 weeks ago

Cannock

"50+ mostly single meet asking to meet now with a dick pic attached like really!

delete...delete... delete

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By *oxy jWoman
49 weeks ago

taunton somerset

i get loads but it can change to silly once the meet sign goes up .....

i dont filter guys as i only meet guys via fab i choose just to block whom im not interested in and thats alot of blocking i do also seek rather than just be seeked theirs not a day that goes by with blocking loads and you can only see the last 250 youve blocked but i know for a fact im in the high 1,000s of men blocked works for me ....

couples women tv/ts all filtered as i wont meet any of them via the interenet most are fake anyway or dreamers or male led /male bullied

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Even as my profile is a couple run profile I get loads of messages targeting just me

Some realise and respect my Mr, but to be fair most pics are of me

Anything better 20 to over 100 a day and I will try my best to answer

Often wondered if I had a single profile with a face pic and no filters what would happen

As Iv said before and I have to say it again 99% of messages are very polite and full of compliments about my figure,hair and pussy so more then welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

That's a bit creepy - shy forum lurkers. "

Lurkers yes. Shy? Going by the content of said messages far from it

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By *andPextraCouple
49 weeks ago

North West

The worst aspect for us is the messages are directed at the male.

Our profile is clearly written by a female, from a female’s perspective.

Yet messages are mainly directed at hubby, like I’m a possession he loans out

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
49 weeks ago

Around the Midlands

As others have said it varies depending on new pics, forum posts etc, otherwise it's thankfully just a handful plus the odd few who bombard every now and then!

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By *ak4uMan
49 weeks ago

chelmsford

Judging from what I’m reading above I should feel quite privileged to get any sort of reply from women or couples

Btw, how many of your messages are tributes?

Do you really get inundated with cock-pics?

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
49 weeks ago

Newcastle

Hundreds a day when I first joined but I soon got my filters tightened up. I also think I blocked most of the repeat messagers (no idea how many hundreds are on my block list). Now I have my filters set so I don’t accept messages from single men at all.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
49 weeks ago

Wherever

I only ever get a few messages a day, mostly from friends.

The fact women get hundreds messages a day is an urban myth.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Yes I get alot but only end speaking to one or two of the men

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Most don't read profile and most generic messages hi how are you what you up to

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By *ighland couple 99Couple
49 weeks ago

Inverness

We get around 20/30 a day and 100s if we post something new x

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By *orny-DJMan
49 weeks ago

Leigh-on-Sea

Loads

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By *ornyhappyCouple
49 weeks ago

perth

None.

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
49 weeks ago

Worcester

I got one overnight and I basically don't have filters on. New record!

Curious to see how some women, as on this thread, get a small handful of messages each day. Whereas others get dozens and dozens.

More popular areas maybe? Although where I’ve moved to now seems to have way, way more activity than where I was before.

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By *ealitybitesMan
49 weeks ago

Belfast

"I got one overnight and I basically don't have filters on. New record!

Curious to see how some women, as on this thread, get a small handful of messages each day. Whereas others get dozens and dozens.

More popular areas maybe? Although where I’ve moved to now seems to have way, way more activity than where I was before."

I get the impression from reading similar threads that women who only get a few messages keep their filters tight and don't want lots of messages.

I've never understood the thought process behind not using filters at all and then complaining about the number of messages received.

There have been previous discussions over the years about screenshots showing the number of unread messages being thrown into private messages or forum comments used as a humble brag to highlight how popular an individual is.

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
49 weeks ago

Worcester

"I got one overnight and I basically don't have filters on. New record!

Curious to see how some women, as on this thread, get a small handful of messages each day. Whereas others get dozens and dozens.

More popular areas maybe? Although where I’ve moved to now seems to have way, way more activity than where I was before.

I get the impression from reading similar threads that women who only get a few messages keep their filters tight and don't want lots of messages.

I've never understood the thought process behind not using filters at all and then complaining about the number of messages received.

I don’t have filters and I’m already down to pretty low numbers of messages after the original deluge.

Maybe it really is just mostly about if you post explicit/face pictures on your profile.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
49 weeks ago

Wherever

"I got one overnight and I basically don't have filters on. New record!

Curious to see how some women, as on this thread, get a small handful of messages each day. Whereas others get dozens and dozens.

More popular areas maybe? Although where I’ve moved to now seems to have way, way more activity than where I was before.

I get the impression from reading similar threads that women who only get a few messages keep their filters tight and don't want lots of messages.

I've never understood the thought process behind not using filters at all and then complaining about the number of messages received.

I don’t have filters and I’m already down to pretty low numbers of messages after the original deluge.

Maybe it really is just mostly about if you post explicit/face pictures on your profile."

I only have one filter atm so I guess it’s down to the pictures,/statuses as you said, and probably the profile text as well, at least in my case.

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49 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

I use filters, but when i first rejoined it was crazy numbers

At the moment it's a few a day as I haven't uploaded anything for ages - I had around 900 unread messages, but these are gradually auto deleting- down to 350 now

Adding a regular status, posting new photos or videos and posting threads adds around 100 messages a day - but as others have said mostly 'hi', 'can I ask you a question', 'wuu2d' 'meet now? '

I've found the more you interact with fab, the worse the message content gets lol !

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
49 weeks ago

tf1

"I got one overnight and I basically don't have filters on. New record!

Curious to see how some women, as on this thread, get a small handful of messages each day. Whereas others get dozens and dozens.

More popular areas maybe? Although where I’ve moved to now seems to have way, way more activity than where I was before.

I get the impression from reading similar threads that women who only get a few messages keep their filters tight and don't want lots of messages.

I've never understood the thought process behind not using filters at all and then complaining about the number of messages received.

I don’t have filters and I’m already down to pretty low numbers of messages after the original deluge.

Maybe it really is just mostly about if you post explicit/face pictures on your profile."

I don’t have explicit images r face pics and filters are quite tight. I still get lots messages.

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
49 weeks ago

tf1

"Judging from what I’m reading above I should feel quite privileged to get any sort of reply from women or couples

Btw, how many of your messages are tributes?

Do you really get inundated with cock-pics?"

My profile specifically says don’t send me cock pics unless I ask you to (which I won’t)

I still get loads of cock pics in the first message. I’m not sure if men think they women look at a penis and think omg I can’t resist because they really don’t.

We often screenshot the weird or funny looking ones and send to our friends.

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By *hil most chillMan
49 weeks ago

South East & Europe

I honestly think it's easier for guys here. We don't have to wade through hundreds of braindead messages just to find one worth replying to. We just have to send them

But seriously, I'm happy with my few messages per week. It's manageable and I feel I've earned them. Hats off to you ladies who get hundreds of messages and actually find someone worth chatting to

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