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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why bother contacting me if you dont meet what Im looking for in anyway shape or form and even in the message to me it states you arent?

What is wrong with some guys???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get it all the time, simply think that they are so much better than anyone else and I will change my mind for them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Waste of time!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because you are female and on a swinging site which means you are gagging for it with anyone and everyone 24/7.

Some people really do think that. And it will never change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cos ur female and the writing on your profile must surely say your gagging for it.. So why bother to read it

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Erotic: where's your sexy avatar pic gone?!

From mr not local and not meeting criteria

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Erotic: where's your sexy avatar pic gone?!

From mr not local and not meeting criteria "

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

No. 3 ...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Why bother contacting me if you dont meet what Im looking for in anyway shape or form and even in the message to me it states you arent?

What is wrong with some guys??? "

I'm not being funny but it's par for the course. If we all started threads everytime a chancer contacted us the servers would crash!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Why bother contacting me if you dont meet what Im looking for in anyway shape or form and even in the message to me it states you arent?

What is wrong with some guys???

I'm not being funny but it's par for the course. If we all started threads everytime a chancer contacted us the servers would crash! "

Par for the course? They're looking for a hole in one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People will chance their arm - just the same way as a random bloke may start taking to you in a pub or club.

Just move on, don't let it get to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why bother contacting me if you dont meet what Im looking for in anyway shape or form and even in the message to me it states you arent?

What is wrong with some guys???

I'm not being funny but it's par for the course. If we all started threads everytime a chancer contacted us the servers would crash!

Par for the course? They're looking for a hole in one. "

maybe a hole in 3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why bother contacting me if you dont meet what Im looking for in anyway shape or form and even in the message to me it states you arent?

What is wrong with some guys???

I'm not being funny but it's par for the course. If we all started threads everytime a chancer contacted us the servers would crash!

Par for the course? They're looking for a hole in one.

maybe a hole in 3 "

Or 3 in a hole!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

No. 3 is;

3. Because they can, it's just one of those things. Move on and forget it.

This has been an Invictus 'merely my opinion' information post.

Have a nice day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say it depends how clear you are in the profile. If you write in the written profile that there is no way you would meet a certain type of person then most sensible men that fall under that category wouldnt bother sending a message. However, if its something like age preference, and you don't clearly state it in the written profile, people will still contact you.

This is because, in my experience, age preferences can tend to be quite flexible for some people. I've had numerous messages from women and couples when my age is well below what the profile says they are after. Even when they have filters up against single men my age. So, unless a profile makes it very clear that there is no chance, i will still often send a message and face pic. And often, women and couples are prepared to be flexible with this preference.

My advice would be to use message filters as much as you can, and make it very, very clear that there will be no exceptions. Maybe even block all messages from single men, and only message profiles that you find and are interested in. I've been contacted a few times by women who do this and they have a lot of success doing so.

Another problem is a lack of pics on your public profile. Although pics will increase the volume of messages you get which you may want to avoid, having no pics means the only people contacting you will be the deperate ones.

Hope this helps

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Why bother contacting me if you dont meet what Im looking for in anyway shape or form and even in the message to me it states you arent?

What is wrong with some guys???

I'm not being funny but it's par for the course. If we all started threads everytime a chancer contacted us the servers would crash!

Par for the course? They're looking for a hole in one.

maybe a hole in 3 "

Or any hole a goal!

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By *drenaline rushMan
over a year ago

Burnley

Not all blokes are knob heads and I sure aint gonna try defend the ones that are they give the rest of us a bad name there really should be a way of naming and shaming on this site x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'd say it depends how clear you are in the profile. If you write in the written profile that there is no way you would meet a certain type of person then most sensible men that fall under that category wouldnt bother sending a message. However, if its something like age preference, and you don't clearly state it in the written profile, people will still contact you.

This is because, in my experience, age preferences can tend to be quite flexible for some people. I've had numerous messages from women and couples when my age is well below what the profile says they are after. Even when they have filters up against single men my age. So, unless a profile makes it very clear that there is no chance, i will still often send a message and face pic. And often, women and couples are prepared to be flexible with this preference.

My advice would be to use message filters as much as you can, and make it very, very clear that there will be no exceptions. Maybe even block all messages from single men, and only message profiles that you find and are interested in. I've been contacted a few times by women who do this and they have a lot of success doing so.

Another problem is a lack of pics on your public profile. Although pics will increase the volume of messages you get which you may want to avoid, having no pics means the only people contacting you will be the deperate ones.

Hope this helps

"

You'd think so wouldn't you, but some men are something else.

There's nothing ambiguous about my profile: it has all the filters set. Some men even contact other men asking them to contact me on their behalf to get around my filters!

I even put the London boroughs I'll travel to accept meets from, yet I receive messages from men who are: short, married, bi, Dom, non-white, unable to accommodate who live all over the country, who when I delete without reading their message accuse me of being up my own arse: original!

Good luck to them wasting time on me when I'm not interested instead of women who might be!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Not all blokes are knob heads and I sure aint gonna try defend the ones that are they give the rest of us a bad name there really should be a way of naming and shaming on this site x"

Why do people always call for name and shame?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not all blokes are knob heads and I sure aint gonna try defend the ones that are they give the rest of us a bad name there really should be a way of naming and shaming on this site x"

there is.. its called the report button..

naming and shaming will only lead to trouble as people will name and shame lies..

also it doesnt give the rest of u a bad name.. otheriwse people wouldnt carry on meeting would they

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"I'd say it depends how clear you are in the profile. If you write in the written profile that there is no way you would meet a certain type of person then most sensible men that fall under that category wouldnt bother sending a message. However, if its something like age preference, and you don't clearly state it in the written profile, people will still contact you.

This is because, in my experience, age preferences can tend to be quite flexible for some people. I've had numerous messages from women and couples when my age is well below what the profile says they are after. Even when they have filters up against single men my age. So, unless a profile makes it very clear that there is no chance, i will still often send a message and face pic. And often, women and couples are prepared to be flexible with this preference.

My advice would be to use message filters as much as you can, and make it very, very clear that there will be no exceptions. Maybe even block all messages from single men, and only message profiles that you find and are interested in. I've been contacted a few times by women who do this and they have a lot of success doing so.

Another problem is a lack of pics on your public profile. Although pics will increase the volume of messages you get which you may want to avoid, having no pics means the only people contacting you will be the deperate ones.

Hope this helps

"

sorry but it makes not one jot of difference how clear you are on profile !

firstly alot of guys just dont read profiles .secondly alot of guys just dont give a damn what the woman is looking for ! i have lost count of the mails get from guys requesting a hotel meet tomorrow while they happen to be up here on business ! then when its pointed out its clearly not what iwant you get the immortal replie " well it was worth a try " . " its a machine gun approach to swinging .they fire out mails to any and every woman they can in hope of someone taking the bait .

i will say all this is not just guys ive had mails from women and cpls exactly the same . being as its very obvious they havent read or just dont care what im looking for just saves my time as i know straight off they arent for me . leaves me then time to speak the the meny lovely folks who had made the effort and meet what im looking for . so back to ops post, why worry about the ppl who you wont meet concentrate on the ones who do !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't mind any messages from anyone, if it isn't right for us we just say so. No harm done.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'd say it depends how clear you are in the profile. If you write in the written profile that there is no way you would meet a certain type of person then most sensible men that fall under that category wouldnt bother sending a message. However, if its something like age preference, and you don't clearly state it in the written profile, people will still contact you.

This is because, in my experience, age preferences can tend to be quite flexible for some people. I've had numerous messages from women and couples when my age is well below what the profile says they are after. Even when they have filters up against single men my age. So, unless a profile makes it very clear that there is no chance, i will still often send a message and face pic. And often, women and couples are prepared to be flexible with this preference.

My advice would be to use message filters as much as you can, and make it very, very clear that there will be no exceptions. Maybe even block all messages from single men, and only message profiles that you find and are interested in. I've been contacted a few times by women who do this and they have a lot of success doing so.

Another problem is a lack of pics on your public profile. Although pics will increase the volume of messages you get which you may want to avoid, having no pics means the only people contacting you will be the deperate ones.

Hope this helps

sorry but it makes not one jot of difference how clear you are on profile !

firstly alot of guys just dont read profiles .secondly alot of guys just dont give a damn what the woman is looking for ! i have lost count of the mails get from guys requesting a hotel meet tomorrow while they happen to be up here on business ! then when its pointed out its clearly not what iwant you get the immortal replie " well it was worth a try " . " its a machine gun approach to swinging .they fire out mails to any and every woman they can in hope of someone taking the bait .

i will say all this is not just guys ive had mails from women and cpls exactly the same . being as its very obvious they havent read or just dont care what im looking for just saves my time as i know straight off they arent for me . leaves me then time to speak the the meny lovely folks who had made the effort and meet what im looking for . so back to ops post, why worry about the ppl who you wont meet concentrate on the ones who do ! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say it depends how clear you are in the profile. If you write in the written profile that there is no way you would meet a certain type of person then most sensible men that fall under that category wouldnt bother sending a message. However, if its something like age preference, and you don't clearly state it in the written profile, people will still contact you.

This is because, in my experience, age preferences can tend to be quite flexible for some people. I've had numerous messages from women and couples when my age is well below what the profile says they are after. Even when they have filters up against single men my age. So, unless a profile makes it very clear that there is no chance, i will still often send a message and face pic. And often, women and couples are prepared to be flexible with this preference.

My advice would be to use message filters as much as you can, and make it very, very clear that there will be no exceptions. Maybe even block all messages from single men, and only message profiles that you find and are interested in. I've been contacted a few times by women who do this and they have a lot of success doing so.

Another problem is a lack of pics on your public profile. Although pics will increase the volume of messages you get which you may want to avoid, having no pics means the only people contacting you will be the deperate ones.

Hope this helps

You'd think so wouldn't you, but some men are something else.

There's nothing ambiguous about my profile: it has all the filters set. Some men even contact other men asking them to contact me on their behalf to get around my filters!

I even put the London boroughs I'll travel to accept meets from, yet I receive messages from men who are: short, married, bi, Dom, non-white, unable to accommodate who live all over the country, who when I delete without reading their message accuse me of being up my own arse: original!

Good luck to them wasting time on me when I'm not interested instead of women who might be! "

You don't mention shortish Switch white middle aged women from oop norf.... I'm in!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'd say it depends how clear you are in the profile. If you write in the written profile that there is no way you would meet a certain type of person then most sensible men that fall under that category wouldnt bother sending a message. However, if its something like age preference, and you don't clearly state it in the written profile, people will still contact you.

This is because, in my experience, age preferences can tend to be quite flexible for some people. I've had numerous messages from women and couples when my age is well below what the profile says they are after. Even when they have filters up against single men my age. So, unless a profile makes it very clear that there is no chance, i will still often send a message and face pic. And often, women and couples are prepared to be flexible with this preference.

My advice would be to use message filters as much as you can, and make it very, very clear that there will be no exceptions. Maybe even block all messages from single men, and only message profiles that you find and are interested in. I've been contacted a few times by women who do this and they have a lot of success doing so.

Another problem is a lack of pics on your public profile. Although pics will increase the volume of messages you get which you may want to avoid, having no pics means the only people contacting you will be the deperate ones.

Hope this helps

You'd think so wouldn't you, but some men are something else.

There's nothing ambiguous about my profile: it has all the filters set. Some men even contact other men asking them to contact me on their behalf to get around my filters!

I even put the London boroughs I'll travel to accept meets from, yet I receive messages from men who are: short, married, bi, Dom, non-white, unable to accommodate who live all over the country, who when I delete without reading their message accuse me of being up my own arse: original!

Good luck to them wasting time on me when I'm not interested instead of women who might be!

You don't mention shortish Switch white middle aged women from oop norf.... I'm in!! "

Women manage to read and recognise I'm not looking for them, but there's always one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

You'd think so wouldn't you, but some men are something else.

There's nothing ambiguous about my profile: it has all the filters set. Some men even contact other men asking them to contact me on their behalf to get around my filters!

I even put the London boroughs I'll travel to accept meets from, yet I receive messages from men who are: short, married, bi, Dom, non-white, unable to accommodate who live all over the country, who when I delete without reading their message accuse me of being up my own arse: original!

Good luck to them wasting time on me when I'm not interested instead of women who might be!

You don't mention shortish Switch white middle aged women from oop norf.... I'm in!!

Women manage to read and recognise I'm not looking for them, but there's always one! "

So it's a yes! I'll be there in 5 hours....

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

I get it from gay and bi guys on a daily basis. Delete, block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why bother contacting me if you dont meet what Im looking for in anyway shape or form and even in the message to me it states you arent?

What is wrong with some guys??? "

Your profile is a very long and detailed diatribe on what you want from any man having the temerity to contact you.

I defy any mere mortal to meet all your needs lady, so of course they will try it on.

May I suggest you try a dating site?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Not all blokes are knob heads and I sure aint gonna try defend the ones that are they give the rest of us a bad name there really should be a way of naming and shaming on this site x"

You couldn't name and shame every man/woman/couple that sent you a daft message or didn't meet your criteria but messages anyway.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Why bother contacting me if you dont meet what Im looking for in anyway shape or form and even in the message to me it states you arent?

What is wrong with some guys???

Your profile is a very long and detailed diatribe on what you want from any man having the temerity to contact you.

I defy any mere mortal to meet all your needs lady, so of course they will try it on.

May I suggest you try a dating site? "

Zeus himself would quake reading that, haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why bother contacting me if you dont meet what Im looking for in anyway shape or form and even in the message to me it states you arent?

What is wrong with some guys???

Your profile is a very long and detailed diatribe on what you want from any man having the temerity to contact you.

I defy any mere mortal to meet all your needs lady, so of course they will try it on.

May I suggest you try a dating site?

Zeus himself would quake reading that, haha"

Well said! Please folks - read her profile and see if it is reasonable.

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Why bother contacting me if you dont meet what Im looking for in anyway shape or form and even in the message to me it states you arent?

What is wrong with some guys???

Your profile is a very long and detailed diatribe on what you want from any man having the temerity to contact you.

I defy any mere mortal to meet all your needs lady, so of course they will try it on.

May I suggest you try a dating site?

Zeus himself would quake reading that, haha

Well said! Please folks - read her profile and see if it is reasonable."

Nothing wrong with knowing exactly what you want! And she's had meets so she obviously gets it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly, the OP didn't ask for a profile critique directly so I shall not offer any feedback.

Which is a good thing, having read it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why bother contacting me if you dont meet what Im looking for in anyway shape or form and even in the message to me it states you arent?

What is wrong with some guys???

Your profile is a very long and detailed diatribe on what you want from any man having the temerity to contact you.

I defy any mere mortal to meet all your needs lady, so of course they will try it on.

May I suggest you try a dating site?

Zeus himself would quake reading that, haha

Well said! Please folks - read her profile and see if it is reasonable.

Nothing wrong with knowing exactly what you want! And she's had meets so she obviously gets it

"

Were the meets before or after the profile? If after - there are Gods amongst us!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why bother contacting me if you dont meet what Im looking for in anyway shape or form and even in the message to me it states you arent?

What is wrong with some guys???

Your profile is a very long and detailed diatribe on what you want from any man having the temerity to contact you.

I defy any mere mortal to meet all your needs lady, so of course they will try it on.

May I suggest you try a dating site?

Zeus himself would quake reading that, haha

Well said! Please folks - read her profile and see if it is reasonable."

She clearly states what's she wants and she is verified so she clearly gets what she wants. Do you suggest she just meets anyone who contacts her or isn't she allowed to have preferences ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read a womans profile, I can't see the point of wasting my time in writing to a woman who's not going to be interested or reply anyhow.

Remember, name & shame goes both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why bother contacting me if you dont meet what Im looking for in anyway shape or form and even in the message to me it states you arent?

What is wrong with some guys???

Your profile is a very long and detailed diatribe on what you want from any man having the temerity to contact you.

I defy any mere mortal to meet all your needs lady, so of course they will try it on.

May I suggest you try a dating site?

Zeus himself would quake reading that, haha

Well said! Please folks - read her profile and see if it is reasonable.

She clearly states what's she wants and she is verified so she clearly gets what she wants. Do you suggest she just meets anyone who contacts her or isn't she allowed to have preferences ?

"

She has an absolute right to meet only those that meet her needs.

It is just that her needs are described in a long and detailed list that few would be able to match and remember by the end of the profile.

She was the OP and wondered why she gets try-outs on spec. I just pointed a potential reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it because I am a masochist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do it because I am a masochist "

lol - then message Erotic Charlotte - I am SURE you will appreciate it.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Why has this turned into a veiled attack on the op?

If her profile puts certain people off those are not the ones she's interested in, so job done! Her opening sentence sets the tone so can't see a problem.

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Why has this turned into a veiled attack on the op?

If her profile puts certain people off those are not the ones she's interested in, so job done! Her opening sentence sets the tone so can't see a problem.

Because the OP makes the same deluded mistake as many women on here-men will fuck anything, no matter how flea bitten and mangy, so they can be ultra picky and hate filled, and still get plenty of cock"

And many bitter men think that women should have no standards and shag anyone that asks.......

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I don't think it should matter if the OP has movie star good looks or looks like the back end of a camel... It's her profile and she can write whatever she likes in it. She didn't ask for profile critique anyway.

OP... People will always message even if they don't fit criteria. I often get a lot of men/couples way over my age range message me, I could set filters but I often recieve messages from forum users about topics which I enjoy so I can't do that. Just ignore or block them. There's not much else that you can do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why has this turned into a veiled attack on the op?

If her profile puts certain people off those are not the ones she's interested in, so job done! Her opening sentence sets the tone so can't see a problem.

Because the OP makes the same deluded mistake as many women on here-men will fuck anything, no matter how flea bitten and mangy, so they can be ultra picky and hate filled, and still get plenty of cock

And many bitter men think that women should have no standards and shag anyone that asks....... "

Please folks! peace!

The OP started it by being critical and being belittling about men who contact her so, if she is criticised, surely it is quid pro quo? we mean no harm and she is a big girl and will no doubt respond in kind.

Let us focus on swinging; where I have my own perfectly reasonable standards. So, if you look like Kelly Brook, are as funny as Miranda Hart, as intelligent as Carol Vordeman, live in a 6 bedroomed manshion within 2 miles of my house, up for it 24/7, like gangbangs then please form an orderly queue and I will get back to you after the game. The rest can get lost.

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