FabSwingers.com forum: Rudeness

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am finding it very difficult to remain nice and friendly when some members of the site are so rude.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Just block anyone that rude to you. And concentrate on the ones that aren't!

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By *ilmisseCouple
over a year ago

leicestershire

"I am finding it very difficult to remain nice and friendly when some members of the site are so rude."

i am guessing by rude u mean not replying to messages. as frustrating as it is it is not rude. just take no reply as they are not interested and move onto contact someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with the above..but more annoying is when you get added as a friend..get a few messages going between you.then your messages get deleted without reason...now that is rude!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no it isnt, messages get deleted all the time doesnt make it rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everyone sees the same thing as rude. There maybe things u do and others take it as rude and vice versa..

What's the worry? Doesn't it just show they aren't someone you would get on with and therefore u can filter them out cos who wants to meet someone they wouldn't get on with :/

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Delete with no response I understand-thousands of guys emailing couples.

I do not understand abuse from random couples because you winked at them.

Yes I know some people are very explicit in their profile about who they want to meet etc, I assure you all that I met their criteria and winked at them to look at my profile.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"Delete with no response I understand-thousands of guys emailing couples.

I do not understand abuse from random couples because you winked at them.

Yes I know some people are very explicit in their profile about who they want to meet etc, I assure you all that I met their criteria and winked at them to look at my profile."

if they can be arsed writing to you to abuse you for winking at them they must have too much time on their hands....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agree with the above..but more annoying is when you get added as a friend..get a few messages going between you.then your messages get deleted without reason...now that is rude!!!"

It's not though really is it? For what probably equates to the same as a few minutes talking to someone in a bar. At best it's a touch cowardly... but then are you surprised when some guys can react so badly?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Delete with no response I understand-thousands of guys emailing couples.

I do not understand abuse from random couples because you winked at them.

Yes I know some people are very explicit in their profile about who they want to meet etc, I assure you all that I met their criteria and winked at them to look at my profile."

If that's the case I get your point, but why worry. Just move on, it can't be that common? I've never had abuse for a wink...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No need for abuse. Suggest you report it and block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am finding it very difficult to remain nice and friendly when some members of the site are so rude."

Just because one person is willing to discard their manners, it does not mean that you must too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Delete with no response I understand-thousands of guys emailing couples.

I do not understand abuse from random couples because you winked at them.

Yes I know some people are very explicit in their profile about who they want to meet etc, I assure you all that I met their criteria and winked at them to look at my profile."

Are u sure u didn't miss something in their profile like, don't wink us?

Did u ask them why they were offended and felt the need to send what they did? It can be interesting to find out why they get abusive

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I am finding it very difficult to remain nice and friendly when some members of the site are so rude.

Just because one person is willing to discard their manners, it does not mean that you must too.

Rise above it. Be the cream.....I never wink at people anyway. It can be some sort of 'je nes C'est pas' when you think you meet criteria but still get turned down. Don't let it worry you.

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By *laphe1Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

"Agree with the above..but more annoying is when you get added as a friend..get a few messages going between you.then your messages get deleted without reason...now that is rude!!!"
Even worse when after a few messages they delete you as a friend after half arranging a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Delete with no response I understand-thousands of guys emailing couples.

I do not understand abuse from random couples because you winked at them.

Yes I know some people are very explicit in their profile about who they want to meet etc, I assure you all that I met their criteria and winked at them to look at my profile."

If they're sending abuse for a wink do you really want to meet them anyway?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought Rudeness was acceptable here, it's a swinging site, isn't that naughty an rude in itself

Oh.... You meant offensive lol

Just block and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no it isnt, messages get deleted all the time doesnt make it rude."

I agree but when someone updates saying their fed up and I write to agree with their point then they just delete without a thanks...that's rude

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By *obnessMan
over a year ago

york

I once read a ladymoaning that it was her birthday and nobody had wished her happy birthday. So i did. She deleted it and didnt reply. I thought "perhsps thats why nobody wished you happy birthday"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no it isnt, messages get deleted all the time doesnt make it rude.

I agree but when someone updates saying their fed up and I write to agree with their point then they just delete without a thanks...that's rude

If u pm someone its gonna be taken as trying it on with them.. So if they weren't interested they deleted.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Why do people expend so much energy on those NOT interested in them opposed to those that might be?!!

I honestly don't get it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, nor me.

It doesn't do them any favours whining about it either. They'll learn though given a few weeks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly....just possibly as women know they are outnumbered by guys they feel that they don't have to respond because they can pick from so many guys and they have the final say...or rather Non say

...Don't expect manners..not the site for that!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont worry about it .your confusing the site with normal social behaviour

people are annonymous on here and do things they would never do in a normal situation

a friend of mine once said if he asked 100 women to fuck at least one would say yes lol

keep winking

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

"dont worry about it .your confusing the site with normal social behaviour

people are annonymous on here and do things they would never do in a normal situation

a friend of mine once said if he asked 100 women to fuck at least one would say yes lol

keep winking "
not on here they wouldnt try a 1000 then u may get lucky

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By *hinaManMan
over a year ago

Twickenham

"I am finding it very difficult to remain nice and friendly when some members of the site are so rude."

Stay positive, a good attitude will get you far - trust me on this one. Besides manners cost nothing right? So keep doing your thing and remain friendly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dont worry about it .your confusing the site with normal social behaviour

people are annonymous on here and do things they would never do in a normal situation

a friend of mine once said if he asked 100 women to fuck at least one would say yes lol

keep winking "

True enough...good comment!!

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

"I am finding it very difficult to remain nice and friendly when some members of the site are so rude.

Stay positive, a good attitude will get you far - trust me on this one. Besides manners cost nothing right? So keep doing your thing and remain friendly

My thoughts exactly

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Delete with no response I understand-thousands of guys emailing couples.

I do not understand abuse from random couples because you winked at them.

Yes I know some people are very explicit in their profile about who they want to meet etc, I assure you all that I met their criteria and winked at them to look at my profile.

If that's the case I get your point, but why worry. Just move on, it can't be that common? I've never had abuse for a wink..."

Why waste a second of your life worrying why a stranger did something? Consider it as they 'self filtered' for you and concentrate on finding someone suitable instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The truth is men outnumber women 2 maybe 3 to one, women receive hundreds of mails and winks, they cant possibly read them all and reply, so they delete. Alot of guys who live miles away message or wink, if its not close by I expect the ladies will delete as the chances of getting there when they want you are low.

But I also think the ladies to tend to have this dismissive attitude as well as they have the upper hand, but its no surprise when you see some of the desperate guys attempts to meet them when in the chat rooms.

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