FabSwingers.com forum: No sex for a long period of time… What happens?

By *anuelMassageDelight OP Man
50 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I met last night how much your man who said to me that he has been with no sex for about more than eight years. I said to him that I deeply believe that this is not healthy at all. What do you think?

He got angry at me by the way…

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
50 weeks ago

East Sussex

I think if people don't have the pleasure of human touch for a long time they feel the loneliness very keenly and that is unhealthy . I don't think going without sex is particularly bad for a person physically although it might be psychologically

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By *erdyCurvyInkedPervyWoman
50 weeks ago

West Yorkshire

It's been about eighteen months here, for one reason or another and I'm finding that difficult. I can't imagine eight years.

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By *moothdickMan
50 weeks ago

stoke

Eight years sounds like a nightmare, it’s the company and touch that we miss, yes the sex is important but loneliness is the main struggle

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

I've heard that you're willy just falls off!

And a vagina can LITERALLY close up!

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

You get a Popeye arm. It's a serious disfigurement.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
50 weeks ago

Aberdeen

I did 14 months of no sex once.

It didn't hurt me or do anything bad to me.

Prehaps it was because it was a choice I made to do that? Plus I still had physical affection in the form of hugs, bosies and kisses from my friends and kids.

MrsAbz

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By *naswingdressWoman
50 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

If it's just sex, it's manageable. Not ideal, but manageable.

If it's any affectionate touch, I think that would be damaging and difficult to counteract.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
50 weeks ago

wonderland.

My little sister has not been with anyone at all for 21 years. Her husband passed away and she doesn't ever want anyone else.

She says she doesn't miss it now but at first it was very hard.

She always says I get enough for both of us.

Cali

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By *9 kisses.Man
50 weeks ago

clacton on sea

Being married like a lot on here, we are hardly intimate sadly, but the day to day conversations don't happen like, how was your day where were you working day, things like that, going without sex I'm use to, that's why I'm on here, not just the sex, but flirting and messaging chatting to couples and women, I do have breaks from this site bur it's to addictive

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By *alleyDaveMan
50 weeks ago

Sheffield

It's the lack of a human touch, the lack of intimacy,the kisses and the loneliness that is the worst.

You sort of get used to not having sex after three and a half years years, but the lack of intimacy is the hardest to cope with.

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By *alleyDaveMan
50 weeks ago

Sheffield

"Eight years sounds like a nightmare, it’s the company and touch that we miss, yes the sex is important but loneliness is the main struggle "

The Loneliness is Horrendous, and puts a severe strain on day to day life.

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By *ealitybitesMan
50 weeks ago

Belfast

I've gone for 10 years with no sexual contact or intimacy at all.

That in itself wasn't unhealthy but it did leave a mark.

I tend to roll my eyes when people start complaining about dry spells measured in days, weeks or even months.

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By *fnmdudeMan
50 weeks ago

St.Helier

I lost my wife 5 years ago and for the previous 4 years she wasn't well so been 9 years for me. I'm at the stage where the offer of a handjob would be a godsend.

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By *amRod64Man
50 weeks ago

Gravesend

Think I went 12 years.....thats life!

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By *eedsortingMan
50 weeks ago

Radley

"You get a Popeye arm. It's a serious disfigurement. "

Ahhh. So THAT's what Raffa Nadal has been doing all these years!

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By *otsossieMan
50 weeks ago

Chesterfield

"No sex for a long period of time… What happens?"

For ladies it heals over, and for men they get light-headed whenever they go near anyone even remotely attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

4 years for me.

Looking forward to breaking it but honestly it was needed and as I’ve lost weight since I last had sex my body confidence has increased!

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

It’s not always unhealthy for everyone.

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By *agnar73Man
50 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Two and a bit year drought for me until last year.

I don’t know, it’s not feeling any less of a man.

I’d read definition of celibate and involuntary and obviously was a bit of a downer after that and I was in a complex situation after a life event and there were bigger priorities than me alone.

I guess I got on with things, stayed positive and did what I could to earn a veri and tried my best not to pester woman in my area for chat. If it’s no or not a reply I leave it be.

Trying to work up confidence is hard and hoping someone gives you a chance means patience too.

Everyone’s situation is different and there’s no right answer I guess.

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By *otinalongtimeWoman
50 weeks ago

Gosport

I was the same almost 11 years . My choice after 2 disastrous relationships. I'm sure having fun here though

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

I and my mrs have not had sex in over 17 years no physical contact apart from the odd midnight grope by me which was swiftly rebuffed, so it been difficult to say the least.

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By *ldbutnice2Man
50 weeks ago

durham

Been almost 3 year for me wife went off sex the best I get is she lets touch her pussy occasionally while I play with myself

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By *londebiguyMan
50 weeks ago

Southport

2 to 3 days for me.

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By *our TV fantasyTV/TS
50 weeks ago

Waterloo, Liverpool

Your virginity grows back.

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By *agnar73Man
50 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"Your virginity grows back."

I know you might think that funny but have a think after reading above

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By *eddfmyd11Man
50 weeks ago

Towcester

I haven't had a long gap, but I went a lot longer than most before first being intimate with someone - it made me feel like I must be so ugly and no woman could ever possibly like me. After several years I just thought I'd never get to have sex.

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
50 weeks ago

outside belfast x

Was said fella in a relationship or single and no interest... different story altogether....

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
50 weeks ago

Bradford

"I think if people don't have the pleasure of human touch for a long time they feel the loneliness very keenly and that is unhealthy . I don't think going without sex is particularly bad for a person physically although it might be psychologically "

I've had through out my life had periods of going without sex .most of the time never bothered me I've always worked on the famine and feast principle and make hay when the sunshine .with Maya I'll health no sex became the norm hence needing a sex partner .but been such long time and as I'm getting older you worry do you still have it. With my new found love I'm happy to report yes I've still very much got it .thanks god.lol.

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By *ld_dogMan
50 weeks ago

coleford

My wife lost interest in sex really since the menopause.

I think what u miss more is the intimate touch. The kissing and cuddling

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
50 weeks ago

Bradford

"My wife lost interest in sex really since the menopause.

I think what u miss more is the intimate touch. The kissing and cuddling "

That doesn't have to stop

Sadly to many cpls don't have that itimate conection

There very important so if sex goes out the window you still have I've very much got that with maya.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

I had an enforced long period of celibacy. My ex partner had no sexual interest in me whatsoever despite us having a profile on here.

Physically you can satisfy yourself. Mentally it’s far harder to deal with. Your self confidence becomes non existent and you question why they don’t want you.

It’s pretty soul destroying.

Onwards and upwards on my own terms now but I’m dipping my toes in slowly and it will take a long time to feel desirable again.

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