FabSwingers.com forum: Experienced Women: Would you tell a non-swinging partner the actual number of men you've been with?

By *osephSamuel90 OP Man
50 weeks ago

Warfield

I personally find a woman with a lot of sexual experience a turn on and as long as they're willing to have sex with me I don't really give a monkeys as long as its all been consensual. However a lot of men seem to be obsessed with a woman's 'body count' and say they wouldn't be with a woman who's had a lot of partners.

Obviously a lot of women on here have quite a high body count, which as I say in my view is great, but if you were dating a non swinging guy you really liked and he asked you would you tell him your actual number and face potentially being rejected or lie?

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By *erdyCurvyInkedPervyWoman
50 weeks ago

West Yorkshire

I'd be honest - I don't remember exactly how many people I've had sex with.

If they don't like that they're very welcome to fuck off.

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By *osephSamuel90 OP Man
50 weeks ago

Warfield

"I'd be honest - I don't remember exactly how many people I've had sex with.

If they don't like that they're very welcome to fuck off. "

Fair play

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

I would say is actually none of their business who or how many people I’ve slept with before meeting them

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
50 weeks ago

Next Door

No, I wouldn't as its my past. And some blokes would say call us names if we've had sex with lots of guys.

Turn the question around and a lot of blokes would tell you how many they have been with and they wouldn't be called names.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
50 weeks ago

Wherever

I can’t see myself going into any kind of relationship ever so I wouldn’t as it’s nobody’s business but I also wouldn’t ask.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
50 weeks ago

wonderland.

I'd say if that was a situation I was in.. wouldn't be.

However me being a greedy girl is partly why Mr liked me in the first place x

Cali

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
50 weeks ago

Aberdeen

It's weird how often men ask this actually. What difference does it make?

MrsAbz

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By *ormalcouple1974Couple
50 weeks ago

plymouth

Yes I have nothing to hide

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By *weetsmellingtreatsWoman
50 weeks ago

Gloucester

Can’t remember now.

But deffo wouldn’t care what theirs was and if mine bothers them then they aren’t the one for me.

However as I’m not likely so have relationship again probably doesn’t matter!

My count is high as the last few years have all been group/gangbang scenarios.

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By *uriousBeastMan
50 weeks ago

London

Swingers keep count ?

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By *iss DevilWoman
50 weeks ago

Bedford

Nope, thank you. Also, I doubt I'd be in a position of meeting a non-swinging man for potential relationship as I am not interested in non-swinging, monogamous relationship.

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By *iss DevilWoman
50 weeks ago

Bedford

What if the tables were turned around, OP, and you met a non-swinging woman. Would you tell her? Though I guess even in 21st century it is still different for men and women.

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By *osephSamuel90 OP Man
50 weeks ago

Warfield

"It's weird how often men ask this actually. What difference does it make?

MrsAbz "

Ye its odd. Swear the younger generation is even more obsessed with it as well. The amount of youtube clips I see of guys asking random strangers or it being discussed on podcasts. And if a woman says anything above 10 all the comments are like 'shes ruined'or 'shes for the streets'. Its like what happened to just getting with people youre attracted to and not caring about their past. Unless they're an actual murderer or nonce or something

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
50 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

Yeah it is an issue when you’re dating, how much do you share. I wanna be honest but I also don’t wanna scare him. And like others have said, I don’t know how many men I’ve slept with - once you’ve lost count the figure never comes back

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

"I would say is actually none of their business who or how many people I’ve slept with before meeting them

I honestly wouldn't care I'd just be happy I'm getting a turn lol

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By *osephSamuel90 OP Man
50 weeks ago

Warfield

"What if the tables were turned around, OP, and you met a non-swinging woman. Would you tell her? Though I guess even in 21st century it is still different for men and women. "

Tbf my body count is a lot lower than I like due to me not being much of a looker and having shit social skills. And like I say if anything I prefer a woman whos got a lot of experience and really don't get guys who demand girls are virgins or have only been with 1 or 2 guys.

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By *osephSamuel90 OP Man
50 weeks ago

Warfield

Like I say I dont care and if anything find a higher body count and experience sexier. I'd less insecure about dating a woman thats slept with 50+ guys than a woman whos only slept with 1 long term boyfriend because it's more like shes still got a strong emotional bond with them

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By *icecouple561Couple
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50 weeks ago

East Sussex

If I was dating someone who asked me how many men I'd had sex with I'd probably start thinking about whether I wanted to carry on dating him. If he referred to it as a 'body count' I'd definitely stop dating him.

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By *osephSamuel90 OP Man
50 weeks ago

Warfield

"If I was dating someone who asked me how many men I'd had sex with I'd probably start thinking about whether I wanted to carry on dating him. If he referred to it as a 'body count' I'd definitely stop dating him.

You'd hate mainstream modern day dating culture then. So many videos and articles discussing 'body counts' etc

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By *aughtbynauture9Man
50 weeks ago

kent

"I'd be honest - I don't remember exactly how many people I've had sex with.

If they don't like that they're very welcome to fuck off. "

That would be Such a turn on hearing that lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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50 weeks ago

East Sussex

You'd hate mainstream modern day dating culture then. So many videos and articles discussing 'body counts' etc"

I probably would but no mainstream, modern person would be likely to date me

I know it's the current way of referring to previous lovers but it feels very dehumanising and dismissive of people to me.

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By *osephSamuel90 OP Man
50 weeks ago

Warfield

You'd hate mainstream modern day dating culture then. So many videos and articles discussing 'body counts' etc

I probably would but no mainstream, modern person would be likely to date me

I know it's the current way of referring to previous lovers but it feels very dehumanising and dismissive of people to me.

I agree. Sounds more like asking a soldier how many people they've killed.

Id much rather have a fun relationship like you and your partner seem to have

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By *icecouple561Couple
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50 weeks ago

East Sussex

You'd hate mainstream modern day dating culture then. So many videos and articles discussing 'body counts' etc

I probably would but no mainstream, modern person would be likely to date me

I know it's the current way of referring to previous lovers but it feels very dehumanising and dismissive of people to me.

I agree. Sounds more like asking a soldier how many people they've killed.

Id much rather have a fun relationship like you and your partner seem to have"

It does sound like that...maybe it's deliberate.

My partner and I don't know how many previous lovers we've each had but we do know it's a lot

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By *osephSamuel90 OP Man
50 weeks ago

Warfield

You'd hate mainstream modern day dating culture then. So many videos and articles discussing 'body counts' etc

I probably would but no mainstream, modern person would be likely to date me

I know it's the current way of referring to previous lovers but it feels very dehumanising and dismissive of people to me.

I agree. Sounds more like asking a soldier how many people they've killed.

Id much rather have a fun relationship like you and your partner seem to have

It does sound like that...maybe it's deliberate.

My partner and I don't know how many previous lovers we've each had but we do know it's a lot

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Not gonna lie, I find that hot

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By *hippy200Woman
50 weeks ago

leeds

I never knew I had to keep count

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
50 weeks ago

Middle England

In a new relationship does it matter how many men/women you've slept with? But OP if you meet someone would you tell them you'd been a member of a swinging site; surely that would be just as pertinent.

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By *unmatt888Man
50 weeks ago

Duns

You'd hate mainstream modern day dating culture then. So many videos and articles discussing 'body counts' etc"

Is that really “mainstream dating culture”; or just a bunch of sad incels on Twitter making a lot of noise?

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

"I'd be honest - I don't remember exactly how many people I've had sex with.

If they don't like that they're very welcome to fuck off. "

this

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
50 weeks ago

London

A few of my long term partners have had a lot of sexual partners. I just don't care. I would always prefer someone is honest too.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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50 weeks ago

East Sussex

You'd hate mainstream modern day dating culture then. So many videos and articles discussing 'body counts' etc

Is that really “mainstream dating culture”; or just a bunch of sad incels on Twitter making a lot of noise?"

I've seen the term used on here by men and women.

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
50 weeks ago

tf1

"I'd be honest - I don't remember exactly how many people I've had sex with.

If they don't like that they're very welcome to fuck off. "

This.

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By *ottodot123Couple
50 weeks ago

Gillingham

The notion that fucking different 100 different cocks somehow 'ruins' a woman compared to fucking the same cock 100 times is just stupidity.

I don't know a number to tell someone so I wouldn't tell them and would be judging them for asking and if they pushed the subject the date would end.

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By *eeper ThanMan
50 weeks ago

Dartford

I don’t get why people get sooo obsessed with people’s body count, it doesn’t change the person your attracted to we’ve all got pasts

I’d never ask it’s a number nothing more in my eyes

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By *implynaughty1Couple
50 weeks ago

stockport

We all have a colourful past so let them get to know me first but I've got no plans of separating from Mr s

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By *alandNitaCouple
50 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

"I'd be honest - I don't remember exactly how many people I've had sex with.

If they don't like that they're very welcome to fuck off. "

Absolutely this.

I'm not one for keeping count.

Nita

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By *ittle. BeaverWoman
50 weeks ago

Launceston

I have experience of this, I was asked my number, then had it constantly used against me.

So if I was ever in that situation again, absolutely no way would I give my number! And if that became an issue a swift 'go fuck yourself would be issued'!

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By *rispyDuckMan
50 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

I honestly don't get why just people in general are still bothered with this ‘body count’ (both men & women). I was asked on 2 previous vanilla dates & ofcourse I lied

haha.

1)Like what you gonna do then with this data?

2)if you really liked this person do you really wanna know how many people they really been with?

3) you gonna ask what position you fucked in aswell?

Hahaha

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By *icecouple561Couple
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50 weeks ago

East Sussex

If someone asked me I think I'd say something like 1,000 and if you want a chance at being 1,001 don't ask me again.

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By *osephSamuel90 OP Man
50 weeks ago

Warfield

"I honestly don't get why just people in general are still bothered with this ‘body count’ (both men & women). I was asked on 2 previous vanilla dates & ofcourse I lied

haha.

1)Like what you gonna do then with this data?

2)if you really liked this person do you really wanna know how many people they really been with?

3) you gonna ask what position you fucked in aswell?

Hahaha

Yeh is strange. Like you say you can just lie. You could say Im a virgin or Ive slept with a million people. Theres no way it could be proved either way (although shagging a million people would get you some sort of notiriety I imagine)

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By *tsJustKateWoman
50 weeks ago

London

I would tell them, and if they didn't like it then they can sod off!

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

I can’t imagine myself ever in a relationship with someone who isn’t part of this lifestyle.

Also couldn’t imagine at this stage of my life ever being with someone who’d even think of asking that question.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
50 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

If my body count is an issue for them, we're not compatible anyway, so why bother dragging it out by hiding it?

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By *igPantsMan
50 weeks ago

Kings Lynn

Just be honest. They may embrace it and want to share the life style with you. If they don't, ask yourself what you really want and if your a true match!

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By *riental_brit_studMan
50 weeks ago

London

I have to say that it turns me turn if a woman has fucked around a lot the more cock she's had the more she's is to me.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
50 weeks ago

Sheffield

I wouldn’t say I’m experienced. But for me it’s not something that I’d find the need to discuss, and I wouldn’t expect them to tell me either.

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