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By *roxhotwifecpl4fun OP   Couple
50 weeks ago

goffs oak

Just a word of caution, we have had our profile and images shared to our vanilla friends by someone that was on our friend list. Disappointed that we have had to hide our face pics and clear our friend list, lesson learned for us.

Kelly x

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By *iker boy 69Man
50 weeks ago

midlands

Absolutely disgusting. Such a shame there are folk like that on here, when its meant to be a community of lije minded people

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By *bhbCouple
50 weeks ago

nottingham

That’s absolutely atrocious.

Hope you are both okay, and your friends were understanding rather than judging.

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By *ikergent50Man
50 weeks ago

bathgate

That’s atrocious.. hope you guys are ok

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

Horrendous that. It happened to a pal of mine and his Mrs. Pics got plastered all over his local estate, round both of their works. People can be genuinely jealous, cruel bastards sometimes

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By *aomilatteCouple
50 weeks ago

Midlands

How did they make contact to your vanilla friends?

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By *entle_lover_xMan
50 weeks ago

Great Dunmow

Sorry this has happened but sadly heard of it before and similar things a few times. One time a lady friend had her pics sent on Facebook to friends and family by another lady after they had fallen out over a man. Guess it always going to be a risk if you share face pics but handing our phone numbers really increases the risk these days given WhatsApp, Facebook, Instagram links.

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By *rpeggioCouple
50 weeks ago

Baughurst


"How did they make contact to your vanilla friends?"
Yes, that was exactly my question. How would this profile know who they are and how to contact them? And ... did you know this person? Also, not that it helps at all, but ... have you reported this profile?

[Sad to hear that has happened to you]

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By *weeny_toddMan
50 weeks ago

kent

Some people just aren’t wired up right?? Like what do they think they’re gaining hope you’ve managed to track down who it was and had a “lil word”

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By *eckard2019Man
50 weeks ago

North West Durham


"How did they make contact to your vanilla friends?Yes, that was exactly my question. How would this profile know who they are and how to contact them? And ... did you know this person? Also, not that it helps at all, but ... have you reported this profile?

[Sad to hear that has happened to you]"

If you share a face pic that is also on a vanilla social media site a reverse image search will probably find it there.

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By *entlemanFoxMan
50 weeks ago

North East / London


"Just a word of caution, we have had our profile and images shared to our vanilla friends by someone that was on our friend list. Disappointed that we have had to hide our face pics and clear our friend list, lesson learned for us.

Kelly x"

Kelly, what you describe it would appear that a revenge porn offense may have been committed and you should report it to the police. While that may be embarrassing it is the right thing to do.

To those that ask how there vanilla friends were found, once you have someone's real identity it takes seconds to find their vanilla life if the have any presence on social media.

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By *aomilatteCouple
50 weeks ago

Midlands


"Just a word of caution, we have had our profile and images shared to our vanilla friends by someone that was on our friend list. Disappointed that we have had to hide our face pics and clear our friend list, lesson learned for us.

Kelly x

Kelly, what you describe it would appear that a revenge porn offense may have been committed and you should report it to the police. While that may be embarrassing it is the right thing to do.

To those that ask how there vanilla friends were found, once you have someone's real identity it takes seconds to find their vanilla life if the have any presence on social media."

Maybe it's best not to give your real identity?

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By *DW1983Man
50 weeks ago

Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield


"Just a word of caution, we have had our profile and images shared to our vanilla friends by someone that was on our friend list. Disappointed that we have had to hide our face pics and clear our friend list, lesson learned for us.

Kelly x

Kelly, what you describe it would appear that a revenge porn offense may have been committed and you should report it to the police. While that may be embarrassing it is the right thing to do.

To those that ask how there vanilla friends were found, once you have someone's real identity it takes seconds to find their vanilla life if the have any presence on social media."

Once I'd fininshed asking "Why? *Why*?! Why on earth...? Why would people do that?!" I was just about to say the same thing. If they've intentionally shared your images to cause you harm or distress (and why else would they have done it?!) then it's probably within the scope of the new revenge porn laws.

I've no idea what goes through people's minds when they do things like that, but they need to know it's not ok.

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By *inge61Couple
50 weeks ago

n/wales

people do it ye and others say things etc we had similar and it takes years for it too die down hence no face pics on here and dont norm meet near where you live best of it is the ones that start it dont like you finishing it as norm they are on site too and have pics etc that can stay on record or in files a couple of ours got posted and once out they are out thats the net ,just dont rise up to it too much as the ones who mention it are poss doing the same but havent been outed so if someone says something just remind them that they must be on looking for you or whoever doing the same good luck with it all and dont rise to stuff

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By *tms1xCouple
50 weeks ago

Chelmsford

So wrong! We got close to this happening to us hence now all our pics are private.

Hope you are both ok

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By *roxhotwifecpl4fun OP   Couple
50 weeks ago

goffs oak

Thanks for your messages and support, I am fine and we have just learned a valuable lesson. I just want others to be aware that this does happen and people we have trusted have let us down.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
50 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Wow, I'm so sorry you had this happen op.

I and most of us genuinely don't understand what someone would get from this.

I'm glad you're ok

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
50 weeks ago

wonderland.


"Just a word of caution, we have had our profile and images shared to our vanilla friends by someone that was on our friend list. Disappointed that we have had to hide our face pics and clear our friend list, lesson learned for us.

Kelly x"
terrible behaviour... had it myself in the past... thankfully I'm now open with those in my life... but it should be up to you..

Hope your vanilla friends are understanding

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By *ister_EMan
50 weeks ago

Hayling Island

Had someone try to extort me a few years ago. Threatening to spread my pics. Police were very helpful and very discrete. Didn't have to press charges and go to court fortunately. But don't post face pics anymore and very careful who I share with....

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
50 weeks ago

Lingfield

You need to be so careful, I've chatted to a few people on Kik who unbelievably have their real names and pics as their username and profile.

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By *sj75Couple
50 weeks ago

castleford

Happened to us too

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
50 weeks ago

Leeds

That's awful op, I hope you've reported them.

Mrs

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
50 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

True friends will just think, good on you, living life and having fun

Also, there's a case for revenge porn here.

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By *orny-DJMan
50 weeks ago

Leigh-on-Sea

Hope you reported them to site admin.

Essentially they have shared your images without your consent and there are now laws against that

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

A horrible thing to do but risky too as they are on the site as well.

Hope you are taking it further OP.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
50 weeks ago

Calderdale innit


"You need to be so careful, I've chatted to a few people on Kik who unbelievably have their real names and pics as their username and profile."

Same, I've warned men before that using their full name or kik or snap and putting on their profile is a bad idea.

This prooved why.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
50 weeks ago

Great Dunmow


"Had someone try to extort me a few years ago. Threatening to spread my pics. Police were very helpful and very discrete. Didn't have to press charges and go to court fortunately. But don't post face pics anymore and very careful who I share with...."

I had similar from a lady I met a few years ago who I had rather stupidly let have my number. She was a lot younger and it was case of too good to be true - we did meet and have fun but then the problems started. She didn't know my address but lived a couple of villages away and pretended that she had found out my address, knew some neighbours etc.. She threatened all sorts unless I gave her money including telling her dad and brother that I had abused her so they would pay me a visit, putting up my pics on village notice board, etc. Blocked her numbers and she continued to contact on friend's phone. Eventually she got bored and gave up but it was horrific for a while. I panic closed my Fab account that I had had for maybe 10 years with lots of veris. Now much more careful.....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
50 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Hope you reported them to site admin.

Essentially they have shared your images without your consent and there are now laws against that"

If someone is threatening to out people actually on fab admin have said they will take action however outside of fab they have no jurisdiction.

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
50 weeks ago

Somewhere near

Oh wow that's just unreal.. how the hell would a fellow fabber call out someone else on here without putting themselves in the loop.

Wrong on so many levels

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
50 weeks ago

Glasgow

Quite ironic that you ask for face pics while warning people about sending face pics

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
50 weeks ago

Somewhere near


"Just a word of caution, we have had our profile and images shared to our vanilla friends by someone that was on our friend list. Disappointed that we have had to hide our face pics and clear our friend list, lesson learned for us.

Kelly x"

When ypu say friends list. What that.. do you mean the verifications

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
50 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Oh wow that's just unreal.. how the hell would a fellow fabber call out someone else on here without putting themselves in the loop.

Wrong on so many levels

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It's nasty and designed to cause upset.

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
50 weeks ago

Somewhere near


"Had someone try to extort me a few years ago. Threatening to spread my pics. Police were very helpful and very discrete. Didn't have to press charges and go to court fortunately. But don't post face pics anymore and very careful who I share with....

I had similar from a lady I met a few years ago who I had rather stupidly let have my number. She was a lot younger and it was case of too good to be true - we did meet and have fun but then the problems started. She didn't know my address but lived a couple of villages away and pretended that she had found out my address, knew some neighbours etc.. She threatened all sorts unless I gave her money including telling her dad and brother that I had abused her so they would pay me a visit, putting up my pics on village notice board, etc. Blocked her numbers and she continued to contact on friend's phone. Eventually she got bored and gave up but it was horrific for a while. I panic closed my Fab account that I had had for maybe 10 years with lots of veris. Now much more careful....."

Narcissistic traits

Good to hear there's no more issue s

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By *roxhotwifecpl4fun OP   Couple
50 weeks ago

goffs oak


"Just a word of caution, we have had our profile and images shared to our vanilla friends by someone that was on our friend list. Disappointed that we have had to hide our face pics and clear our friend list, lesson learned for us.

Kelly x

When ypu say friends list. What that.. do you mean the verifications "

No, just people who we had sent friends requests or accepted a friend request from. We didn’t have hundreds added just people who we were interested in talking to/meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago


"Oh wow that's just unreal.. how the hell would a fellow fabber call out someone else on here without putting themselves in the loop.

Wrong on so many levels

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Exactly. That’s the bit I can’t understand.

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By *ackformore100Man
50 weeks ago

Tin town


"Absolutely disgusting. Such a shame there are folk like that on here, when its meant to be a community of lije minded people"

This is true and it's sad but, seems actually few on here have that notion. Trust nobody until it's proven otherwise.

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By *agnar73Man
50 weeks ago

glasgow-ish


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If you share a face pic that is also on a vanilla social media site a reverse image search will probably find it there. "

This. Keep pics separated so they can’t be searched. Even if it’s not as good, not worth the risk. Loads of people go Miss Marple on dating sites and do those searches. Lock up your FB and don’t do face pics on open forums like X/twitter

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By *hawn ScottMan
50 weeks ago

london Brixton

My alternative lifestyle has never been secret.

However many years ago I was a victim of revenge porn. I was embarrassed about it so didn't do anything and it just blew over.

However revenge porn is a crime now and subject to prosecution.

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By *oxy jWoman
50 weeks ago

taunton somerset

there are plenty who would do this its not as rare as one thinks ive had guys threaten when ive said no thanks i think for most its just a reaction threat for rejection ..

a family member (no they do not know) was on here he got outed by a woman so its not all guys

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By *atureandhornyCouple
50 weeks ago

Liverpool


"Just a word of caution, we have had our profile and images shared to our vanilla friends by someone that was on our friend list. Disappointed that we have had to hide our face pics and clear our friend list, lesson learned for us.

Kelly x"

Sorry to hear about what happened. I'm so wary about showing face pics because of what happened to you.

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By *hawn ScottMan
50 weeks ago

london Brixton

I once had an email calling me by my real name saying he'd found pics of me on various sites. Said if I didn't send them 2k they would send them to my friends and family

Told them to go ahead! Never heard from them again. Could have been bluffing however by quickly taking away a blckmailers power leaves them with no leverage

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

If you don't want people to know. Don't put it on line.

It'd be nice of the world wasn't like that but it is

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

Amazing people don't get found out more often...

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By *andkaCouple
50 weeks ago

Swansea

Something similar happened to us once in our early days of swinging. We met a couple who didn’t know much about us, ie professions, where we lived etc. so we thought!!! They had met a couple who we had chatted to at a house party, supposedly in confidence, who had told this couple all about us!! We were shocked, angry and disappointed that they gave out our personal info. Much more careful and wiser now in what we say and who we chat to.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
50 weeks ago

chichester

do you know who did it .. if so i hope you give them a good punch in face at some point

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By *rouble81Couple
50 weeks ago

Bolton

That’s awful!

I’ve come across two people on here I know in real life. I’ve just blocked them and moved on! Only blocked because I don’t want them looking at my boobs!

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By *he KinkysCouple
50 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Oh wow that is disgusting, people can be very cruel! Sorry this has happened to you xxx

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
50 weeks ago

Somewhere near


"Just a word of caution, we have had our profile and images shared to our vanilla friends by someone that was on our friend list. Disappointed that we have had to hide our face pics and clear our friend list, lesson learned for us.

Kelly x

When ypu say friends list. What that.. do you mean the verifications

No, just people who we had sent friends requests or accepted a friend request from. We didn’t have hundreds added just people who we were interested in talking to/meeting."

Ah I didn't know we can choose to show friends lists .

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago


"Just a word of caution, we have had our profile and images shared to our vanilla friends by someone that was on our friend list. Disappointed that we have had to hide our face pics and clear our friend list, lesson learned for us.

Kelly x"

Absolutely outrageous. Sorry to hear this and hope all is ok

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

So sorry to hear this! Disgusting behavior, sending hugs xx

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By *eltic connectionCouple
50 weeks ago

Manningtree

Op please report this to the police. They will be very supportive and discreet with you but the rat will be prosecuted under the new laws around just this sort of thing. Even just sharing your photos is now illegal!

We would have no hesitation in doing so!

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By *tlanshiaWoman
50 weeks ago

Chatham

I'm sorry that's happened to you. I never understand why some people are so insecure they have to attack others.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
50 weeks ago

Great Dunmow


"I once had an email calling me by my real name saying he'd found pics of me on various sites. Said if I didn't send them 2k they would send them to my friends and family

Told them to go ahead! Never heard from them again. Could have been bluffing however by quickly taking away a blckmailers power leaves them with no leverage "

That is a well-known scam email. They buy email mailing list and send out the same messages to thousands or even hundreds of thousands of people automatically. Most ignore or reply like you but it only takes a few to be shit scared and send some money. I've had variations on that maybe 10 times. One similar one is that they've hacked the camera on your computer and have pics of you doing umm male things while watching [insert random famous porn site}

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By *aturefunswTV/TS
50 weeks ago

bristol

That’s disgusting . That is just so low x I’ve got to be honest I’d struggle to control myself .

I would have thought that comes under the new “ revenge porn , pic sharing , upskirting “ laws ? X

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By *aturefunswTV/TS
50 weeks ago

bristol

I had my on business whilst on here as o couple . But when CoVid deleted it so none could suggest we were breaking rules of CoVid and get fined x

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By *r99mr99Man
50 weeks ago

Ealing

Sorry this happened to you. Not being in control is a horrible feeling in this world.

I was outed for being kinky on a national radio show. To 1.3 million listeners. Changed a lot of relationships that day including th person that 'thought it was a bit of fun'to use my private life as a punchline.

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By *aturefunswTV/TS
50 weeks ago

bristol

Bloody hell ! What’s wrong with people x

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By *histle do nicelyMan
50 weeks ago

Glasgow South


"Just a word of caution, we have had our profile and images shared to our vanilla friends by someone that was on our friend list. Disappointed that we have had to hide our face pics and clear our friend list, lesson learned for us.

Kelly x"
school yard

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By *dinburghWomanWoman
50 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I too had an email, on an old unused address, saying they had pictures and would send them to my family/friends if I didn’t pay them. I said go ahead then I don’t have any one to hide from, never heard of them again and family/friends never said anything to me

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By *hawn ScottMan
50 weeks ago

london Brixton


"I once had an email calling me by my real name saying he'd found pics of me on various sites. Said if I didn't send them 2k they would send them to my friends and family

Told them to go ahead! Never heard from them again. Could have been bluffing however by quickly taking away a blckmailers power leaves them with no leverage

That is a well-known scam email. They buy email mailing list and send out the same messages to thousands or even hundreds of thousands of people automatically. Most ignore or reply like you but it only takes a few to be shit scared and send some money. I've had variations on that maybe 10 times. One similar one is that they've hacked the camera on your computer and have pics of you doing umm male things while watching [insert random famous porn site}"

Yeah had the we've recorded you cracking one off to porn one as well. Lol find me a man who hasn't done this and I'll call them.i liar

My job is cyber security sometimes I play them for while and using free downloadable tools and a little patience hack them and then give them their location and ip address and vsrious aliases. Sometimes you can even get a picture which is gold when you get a response!

Lol the last dating scam I got! Hot Latin American woman 2 miles away wanted nsa fun. Picture was hot, however it was a picture of pablo esobars daughter! Come on at least try

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By *r99mr99Man
50 weeks ago

Ealing


"I once had an email calling me by my real name saying he'd found pics of me on various sites. Said if I didn't send them 2k they would send them to my friends and family

Told them to go ahead! Never heard from them again. Could have been bluffing however by quickly taking away a blckmailers power leaves them with no leverage

That is a well-known scam email. They buy email mailing list and send out the same messages to thousands or even hundreds of thousands of people automatically. Most ignore or reply like you but it only takes a few to be shit scared and send some money. I've had variations on that maybe 10 times. One similar one is that they've hacked the camera on your computer and have pics of you doing umm male things while watching [insert random famous porn site}

Yeah had the we've recorded you cracking one off to porn one as well. Lol find me a man who hasn't done this and I'll call them.i liar

My job is cyber security sometimes I play them for while and using free downloadable tools and a little patience hack them and then give them their location and ip address and vsrious aliases. Sometimes you can even get a picture which is gold when you get a response!

Lol the last dating scam I got! Hot Latin American woman 2 miles away wanted nsa fun. Picture was hot, however it was a picture of pablo esobars daughter! Come on at least try "

Reverse image searches have saved me a lot of bother.

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