FabSwingers.com forum: Wasted weekend again

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Arranged to meet someone twice now on a Saturday, first time got a very short message an hour before we were due to meet, today not a word. Bearing in mind it's an hour and a half drive and we did chat on Thurs to confirm.

The woman in question is verified and had been on fab since the time of our arranged meet.

Am I wrong to feel annoyed? I work hard and my spare time is precious and has to be planned!

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Arranged to meet someone twice now on a Saturday, first time got a very short message an hour before we were due to meet, today not a word. Bearing in mind it's an hour and a half drive and we did chat on Thurs to confirm.

The woman in question is verified and had been on fab since the time of our arranged meet.

Am I wrong to feel annoyed? I work hard and my spare time is precious and has to be planned! "

I don't think you are wrong to be annoyed. I too have little time and hate getting those last minute cancellations, or no response. Often it is too late to arrange another meet. I have had it the last three Saturdays - tonight was the first one to turn up in a month!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Certainly not , Manners are free after all

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not like it's 2 people either, same one. Don't think I will be falling for it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should report them for time wasting. I had that happen to me. I didn't know you could report them at the time. He's since been in touch (months after) begging to see him, saying he deserves a 2nd chance. 3rd chance he should have said. I just politely said fcuk and then off. He now has the message loud and clear...

Time wasters are nothin but a pain in the ass!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Not like it's 2 people either, same one. Don't think I will be falling for it again."

Quite. I use the James Bond/Goldfinger routine: once is happenstance, twice is coincidence, third time is enemy action.

Don't get to number 3.

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By *ouple_SpondonCouple
over a year ago

Spondon

Sadly we're quite the pessimists and suspect this would happen to us too. This is partially why we insist, even for first meets, that said people come to our house. If they fail to arrive we're not wasting any of our time, even though it remains sincerely frustrating. Of course, it's not our only reason for choosing to host rather than meet somewhere neutral.

Not sure what reporting this woman would do. Would FAB be able to block them from the site? Perhaps that would be suitable.

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By *ouple_SpondonCouple
over a year ago

Spondon

"You should report them for time wasting. I had that happen to me. I didn't know you could report them at the time. He's since been in touch (months after) begging to see him, saying he deserves a 2nd chance. 3rd chance he should have said. I just politely said fcuk and then off. He now has the message loud and clear...

Time wasters are nothin but a pain in the ass!

got to be said hun, his loss for sure. Wish we had a fit bi fem keen to meet with us. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The woman in question is verified and had been on fab since the time of our arranged meet.

Am I wrong to feel annoyed? I work hard and my spare time is precious and has to be planned! "

No I know exactly how you feel. iWork shifts so arranging meets can be like a military operation & to be messed around like this is crap. Been there got the tshirt & wrote the book!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Know exactly how you feel. I had a meet arranged for tonight, was chatting to her all week. When i came onearlier to message her and confirm, her profile was hiddem. And she hasn't bothered her arse to msg and give an excuse.

So sitting watching skyline, lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Won't be getting a 3rd chance... No fear! Onwards and upwards me thinks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Know exactly how you feel. I had a meet arranged for tonight, was chatting to her all week. When i came onearlier to message her and confirm, her profile was hiddem. And she hasn't bothered her arse to msg and give an excuse.

So sitting watching skyline, lol."

Poor you

skyline is an awful film lol

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Won't be getting a 3rd chance... No fear! Onwards and upwards me thinks.

I've had that many recently that, once they let me down, they don't even get a second chance. I have also started to use the notes facility so that I can keep a track of who has let me down, who has arranged a meet, who can't meet when, who is worth meeting again, etc. Very useful if you have the kind of memory I have!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sitting watching skyline, lol.

Poor you

skyline is an awful film lol "

Lol, ye, i've just spent the last hour n a half finding that out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The woman in question is verified and had been on fab since the time of our arranged meet.

Am I wrong to feel annoyed? I work hard and my spare time is precious and has to be planned! "

Ive had to separate cancellations this week so I know how you feel.But mine were only coffee meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Won't be getting a 3rd chance... No fear! Onwards and upwards me thinks.

I like the idea of that. I'm going to start doing that cos my memory is terrible!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sitting watching skyline, lol.

Poor you

skyline is an awful film lol

Lol, ye, i've just spent the last hour n a half finding that out. "

You'll never get that time back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I half planned to meet a guy for a coffe this afternoon said I would message to confirm it today,so my little one gets ill, I promptly sent a message saying I couldn't make it and why, and said we would arrange it asap. And do u know what? The bloke hasn't even been on line today so my message is still sitting in his inbox

irritated much? He won't get another chance

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Personally, I don't give second chances so I don't get annoyed or stressed.

My time is also limited, and regardless of how some people appear confident, nerves do kick in, even with the verified. That's why I always have a social meet. If they cancel a coffee meet it suggests to me they'd cancel a play meet too, so I cut them loose.

If you give people two, three chances and they continue to let you down you have to shoulder some of the responsibility.

That said op, I'd be annoyed in your shoes!

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By *aggiebabeWoman
over a year ago

redditch

I had the same thing happen to me. We had a social meet with a couple on Monday chatted via txt throughout the wk then yesterday not a word. It's so frustrating. But I've just blocked them and moved on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never understood why anyone would take the time to contact someone and get to the point where a meet is arranged and then offer some lame excuse or none at all. From personal experience it's difficult enough to get meets, particularly as a married guy, so when the opportunity arises the last thing on my mind is to let them down.

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By *lderguy4funMan
over a year ago

ROTHERHAM

wow how can a guy let JANGELS down you look gorgeous and i have never let anyone down there are a few nice gen guys on here so please dont put us all in the same boat but bet you bi ladys must get let down by women as well as guys boohoo that must be hurt xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sound a bit thick can't seem to find the note facility can anyone help me... as it sounds such a useful tool thank you xxx

MissD x

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Above block user in the menu on the left

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

You have to look at a profile first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you so much have been looking everywhere didn't realise it was there lol having a moment.

MissD

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Thank you so much have been looking everywhere didn't realise it was there lol having a moment.

MissD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know how u feel.they leave u high and DRY.next thing u know,they r beggin to see u again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i know how u feel.they leave u high and DRY.next thing u know,they r beggin to see u again."

No one ever begs to see me lol. I know what op is saying, I`ve been let down so many times now, I can't even be bothered to arrange to meet sometimes now, if I do, I expect a text cancelling at the last minute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...at least people let you down. That means you got some response. We put out genuine meet requests, we dont even get any responses (but god loves a tryer lol).

The joys of being a young single male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

New in here and can sympathise I've been lucky never been let down yet ( maybe cursed myself now lol) but had to let a couple down few weeks ago got called in work last minute, messaged to say was awfully sorry but got blocked, shame as never been blocked before and hate letting people down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have had to cancel a meet twice due to work commitments and did get blocked, which was a shame, but Always let the person know i had to cancel and with at least 24hrs notice.

Have also had meets cancelled for family, ilness and work reasons.

But no communication is just rude, or they are a timewaster!

Unfortunately there are some on here that enjoy playing games with people and have no intention of meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few people not show up for meets. Had one last week. Asked her to ring me, said she would but never did (probably a bloke pretending to be a woman!

I have been honest on my profile and always tell people the truth before a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is very, very bad on this site lately for fakes and time-wasters. Not sure why.

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By *r and mrs bangerboobsCouple
over a year ago

Bridgend

It's the nature of the game that there are time wasters on sites like these and sometimes someone is let down.

Block...delete...move on....simples!

Mrs BB x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I wrong to feel annoyed? I work hard and my spare time is precious and has to be planned! "

We have the same trouble we do actually meet people and usually arrange a social drink with couples within a few mails.

Usually we get from couples

I will get back to you

I have to check our diary

We will message and confirm on the day

My wife is busy can I come for a threesome

At the meet my wife couldn't make it

Then we either get no reply

Stood up

Blocked

We gave up on single guys too unreliable,

And theybcame up with the following excsues which are surprisingly simulair to the ones couples use

My wife found. Out I was on a swingers site so now have to lay low

Have a headache

My cat / family member / or random starnger who I have never met is in hospital

My car has no mot.

Can I just come to yours for 30 minutes in my lunch break instead

Seriously I reckon if people don't want to meet and have no intention of meeting just say so we don't care, we will still chat to you and in fact we both text single people who have no intention of meeting us but at least they are honest and say that at the beginning.

I always report no shows, last minute cancellations or random time wasters.

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

I've been lucky as not been let down. However I've had to cancel at times due to work. Have always been able to re-arrange hence if a meet cancelled as long as they contacted me I would be fine. But looks like some of you have had real timewasters. Those I would block.

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