FabSwingers.com forum: Does any actually like being referred to as “slut”…

By *andPextra OP Couple
52 weeks ago

North West

Staggers me how often I read this in messages, usually addressed to the male half (i.e nice slut you have there etc) despite the profile being written by and from a female perspective.

Is it just me? I’m not expecting shakespeare on here but its an instant turn off for me.

How do others feel?

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I personally love it but certainly not as an opening message or in conversation with someone I don’t know. It’s always at my own request and that’s how it should be. Calling someone derogatory terms in the gamble that they’ll find it a turn on is disrespectful and frankly very stupid.

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By *inkedKuntsCouple
52 weeks ago

Sheffield

From a stranger, no chance. From him or a friend/play mate, adore it x

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By *andPextra OP Couple
52 weeks ago

North West

"I personally love it but certainly not as an opening message or in conversation with someone I don’t know. It’s always at my own request and that’s how it should be. Calling someone derogatory terms in the gamble that they’ll find it a turn on is disrespectful and frankly very stupid. "

Agreed wholeheartedly; 100% of the time for us its in an introductory message

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

In a message from someone we don't know it would be a block from us.

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By *andPextra OP Couple
52 weeks ago

North West

"In a message from someone we don't know it would be a block from us."

The process we have adopted now. To think, when i first started I thought it was a bit harsh blocking people… but now I do dozens a day

If you cant be polite and respectful, or say something charming or descriptive rather than graphic detail of what YOU would like to do to me I’m ruthless now

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Totally unacceptable, you are right to block and move on. If that’s what they consider to be a good opener imagine what they’d be like to spend any time with

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By *moothdickMan
52 weeks ago

stoke

Said in the right context, with someone you know intermittently and they like, then sweet, but to just say it has a passing phrase, totally inappropriate..

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By *andPextra OP Couple
52 weeks ago

North West

"Totally unacceptable, you are right to block and move on. If that’s what they consider to be a good opener imagine what they’d be like to spend any time with

As welcome and enjoyable as a smear test I’d imagine

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By *eethehotwifeCouple
52 weeks ago

North london

I love it haha but I enjoy being abit degraded! It’s bang out of order to approach most people this way especially if you’re unaware of their kinks x

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Instant turn off.

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By *oxy jWoman
52 weeks ago

somerset

in normal talk or with people i dont know then a big fat no...

however in bed with a guy who can really take me places then hell yeah a regular guy whom ive met loads of times hell yeah

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By *andPextra OP Couple
52 weeks ago

North West

"in normal talk or with people i dont know then a big fat no...

however in bed with a guy who can really take me places then hell yeah a regular guy whom ive met loads of times hell yeah

Which is fine if its on your terms. I never thought I’d be called something that I dislike more than “babe”. How wrongwas I

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By *race in LaceWoman
52 weeks ago

Preston

For me, it depends who is saying it and how they say it. It's all about context.

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By *ayd100Man
52 weeks ago

clitheroe

Can't help being a slut for the bulls

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By *issmorganWoman
52 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

It's an instant block when someone I don't know says this or similar in a message.

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By *evebal12Man
52 weeks ago

Canary Wharf

I have never and personally,could never say that to someone.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
52 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Saying it cold in a message is completely a no no.

In the heat of the moment and in the right context then it’s hot AF

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By *andPextra OP Couple
52 weeks ago

North West

Fab should have the ability to block phrases you don’t want.

Ive just been called “gawjus”

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
52 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

From friends and partners, all of the yes.

From some random fucknugget on here? Block

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"Staggers me how often I read this in messages, usually addressed to the male half (i.e nice slut you have there etc) despite the profile being written by and from a female perspective.

Is it just me? I’m not expecting shakespeare on here but its an instant turn off for me.

How do others feel? "

Wow never really had a message like that

Maybe not the best way to start a conversation

But in the right circumstances I don’t mind being called it

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
52 weeks ago

Leeds

Some do some don't.

Some call themselves it proudly on their profile & others dislike it.

Each to their own.

It's not for me, I'm not a slut.

Mrs

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
52 weeks ago

Next Door

Not for me.

each to there own

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Yes but only when having sex.

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By *hilledguy2020Man
52 weeks ago

Gateshead

Each to their own but certainly not in a 1st message....or 2nd. You have to get to know people and their kinks/ likes/ dislikes before gping anywhere in a sexual conversation.

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By *andPextra OP Couple
52 weeks ago

North West

"Not for me.

each to there own "

In the right context, if its something you like, then I can see its appropriate.

I cant help but think though more people would get action on here if they tempered their messages.

I often think there’s a business opportunity here; writing mens messages for them

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By *ogan WillowCouple
52 weeks ago

Leeds

I'm happy to be Logan's slut but that's as far as it goes

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By *oxy jWoman
52 weeks ago

somerset

i have to say i have to be really into the guy he has to be puching all the right buttons otherwise its just an insult that wont go down well /... i meet one guy once a week no fail and he gets me to a point that he can call me as he wishes ..

being called a slut via message is a instant block calling me a slut on first or second meet will mean we wont meet again .... it has to be right in the right way and by the right person ...

i hate any false flattery makes me wanna puke .. babe hun sexy all of it yuk but if i know you and our sexual fun is regular then its different

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By *sj75Couple
52 weeks ago

castleford

Love it x

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By *eeper ThanMan
52 weeks ago

Dartford

As a male I don’t really like saying it to a women don’t feel comfortable I know that makes me sound very vanilla, maybe in the right situation and throws of passion

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By *wistedTooCouple
52 weeks ago

Frimley

Some love it, some don’t.

Sammi loves it. But maybe not in the first message guys

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

My play partner, or dominant yes. It makes me a pile of girl goo.

From random men online, it gives me the creeps.

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By *avexxMan
52 weeks ago

cheshire

its not a word i would use in a message thats for sure,,

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By *iHungMikeMan
52 weeks ago

Shaw

If you know them I don't mind being called one and I will only say it if the lady wants me to and doesn't mind

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By *he KinkysCouple
52 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Yes I do love it from the other half but not in a message or conversation with a complete stranger x

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"Staggers me how often I read this in messages, usually addressed to the male half (i.e nice slut you have there etc) despite the profile being written by and from a female perspective.

Is it just me? I’m not expecting shakespeare on here but its an instant turn off for me.

How do others feel? "

Not sure slut!

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By *lutsadieTV/TS
52 weeks ago

Hinckley

Yes I love being called a Slut. Especially when bound up to be used as one

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By *rgasmicChemistryCouple
52 weeks ago

east coast

We remember the first time I called H it and that was the last time to haha she wasn't happy

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By *ieandteaseMan
52 weeks ago

Wiltshire

Always depends on the situation but often a very welcome word here

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Instant conversion stopper for us. We love talking dirty but that's just disrespectful

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By *ucklingMan
52 weeks ago

Sleaford

I would never call a lady a slut unless she specifically asked me to. I think it's disrespectful unless definitely asked for.

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By *hiny-SinnersCouple
52 weeks ago

Vale of Glamorgan

There seems to be a consensus on here, namely fine in the right context by the right people, but not by random strangers, especially all those blokes who don’t seem able to string a sentence together.

I proudly call myself a PVC Hotwife Slut, but guys need to earn the right to call me a slut through, at the very least, getting to know us and then checking it is ok to use such language.

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By *he ass man 666Man
52 weeks ago

paradise city

Call me anything you like lol

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By *loria JamesTV/TS
52 weeks ago

Durham

Its no wonder some guys can't get a meet. If thats how they introduce themselves it probably means they'd be clueless if you met them x

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By *andPextra OP Couple
52 weeks ago

North West

"Its no wonder some guys can't get a meet. If thats how they introduce themselves it probably means they'd be clueless if you met them x"
or why many of them have the words “single” in their profile…

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
52 weeks ago

Southampton

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By *entle_lover_xMan
52 weeks ago

Great Dunmow

I’m sometimes call a tart but wouldn’t object to slut I the right context.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Depends on the situation.. in bed with someone i know yes can be a turn on, having a message off some random adressing me as Hey Slut no, block list

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
52 weeks ago

Gloucester

Only person who gets to call me a slut it the Mr. It’s an instant turn off from anyone else and I will tell them so.

Kink

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"I love it haha but I enjoy being abit degraded! It’s bang out of order to approach most people this way especially if you’re unaware of their kinks x "

Totally agree. I love it if I get called a slut, but I see it that you only call someone that word or others when you know they are okay with it. If you don't know, just be respectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Never been called it but I think it's just one of those things that is down to personal preference. So many women describe themselves as a slut which gets the attention of many guys (including me) but would take offense to being called slut.

Another woman that includes slut in her profile name would like it and if you spoke to her with respect and didn't call her a degrading name might block you because a polite guy is boring to her.

If a woman doesn't indicate she considers herself a slut there is no way you should approach her by calling her one.

The thing about a man describing his partner as a slut, I wouldn't like but another might.

That kind of thing is risky territory when you want to get somewhere with a lass, cuz ofc you don't know her to gauge if its something she would like or even get away with.

Worst case scenario you get blocked. Probably a tactic that will go wrong more than the reaction you are hoping for

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"Staggers me how often I read this in messages, usually addressed to the male half (i.e nice slut you have there etc) despite the profile being written by and from a female perspective.

Is it just me? I’m not expecting shakespeare on here but its an instant turn off for me.

How do others feel? "

Shakespeare,, hahaha amusing that as the majority of people on here can’t string a decent sentence together

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By *anzer FernandoMan
52 weeks ago

Over the seas and far away

It's never the opening greeting in the first message, but once the clothes start coming off the desires of those involved determine the language used. I've had some very hot sex where 'slut' has been liberally used, and some equally hot sex where it just wasn't appropriate.

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By *armandwet50Couple
52 weeks ago

Far far away

It works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Works for me and wife

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I personally like hearing her called that. J likes it in the right moments

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By *ewsexycplCouple
52 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Mrs likes being called that but I'm the heat of sex, asking with hair pulling, hand round neck etc!

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By *ndianLuxCouple
52 weeks ago

West midlands

Yes but not by others. We talk dirty in Hindi while we fuck and calling names like Randi (slut) in the heat of the moment.

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By *ndianLuxCouple
52 weeks ago

West midlands

"Only person who gets to call me a slut it the Mr. It’s an instant turn off from anyone else and I will tell them so.

Kink "

Same here too.

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By *asmintvTV/TS
52 weeks ago

Heswall

I love being called a slut, even more when I'm being one x

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By *inkywife1981Couple
52 weeks ago

A town near you

"Staggers me how often I read this in messages, usually addressed to the male half (i.e nice slut you have there etc) despite the profile being written by and from a female perspective.

Is it just me? I’m not expecting shakespeare on here but its an instant turn off for me.

How do others feel? "

During play I enjoy dirty talk and name calling !

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By *penbicoupleCouple
52 weeks ago

Northampton

Alice refers to herself as my slut. On a night out, she might wear a t-shirt that says slut. But it's a self-identifier. I imagine anyone else calling her that would get a slap.

I delete and block any messages calling her that.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I used to prior to having a LOT of therapy…

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By *umbriaman1962Man
52 weeks ago

outside of penrith

Not in normal talk but I a partner that when very near coming loves dirty talk it just takes her over the edge

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"Staggers me how often I read this in messages, usually addressed to the male half (i.e nice slut you have there etc) despite the profile being written by and from a female perspective.

Is it just me? I’m not expecting shakespeare on here but its an instant turn off for me.

How do others feel? "

Personally I find that extremely disrespectful and completely understand why it would turn you off, it’s always about understanding the people / person you are interacting with.

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By *ister_EMan
52 weeks ago

Hayling Island

Context and timing are everything

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
52 weeks ago

Norwichish

Hate anyone referring to M as a slut.

Probably the worst was when her ex messaged us but addressed to me from an old profile he ran with her on it. He referred to her in that profile as a slut. Took a lot of self control not to react and just block

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
52 weeks ago

Ryde

It all depends on the context.

Whilst having sex, feel free to do so! The Missus likes being called such things during it.

Otherwise, it just seems disrespectful.

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By *ade crossTV/TS
52 weeks ago

chiselhurst

As a cd i love the term when applied to me.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
52 weeks ago

London

Context matters. In the right circumstances with the right person, absolutely. Some random messaging for the first time, no.

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By *interflingMan
52 weeks ago

london

"Staggers me how often I read this in messages, usually addressed to the male half (i.e nice slut you have there etc) despite the profile being written by and from a female perspective.

Is it just me? I’m not expecting shakespeare on here but its an instant turn off for me.

How do others feel? "

I was once in a club where a couple were using it non-stop to the point of it becoming a bit uncomfortable. Just felt slightly off that he only referred to his partner that way…but I guess each to their own and it was clearly working for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

"From friends and partners, all of the yes.

From some random fucknugget on here? Block

This

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By *ikki.newcastleTV/TS
50 weeks ago

NORTH EAST

Yes me I love it!

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By *ddfellowMan
50 weeks ago

Newferry, wirral

If I am being one at the time then Yes

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By *tagmeupMan
50 weeks ago

wirral

If you do and are single and would be interested in a slutty stag vixen fwb or more relationship give me a shout x

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By *hemissingpiecesCouple
50 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Faith loves to be called and used like a slut. We love the primal sex, we don't want a connection we just want some filthy sex, less you speak and interact the better as far as we are concerned!

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50 weeks ago

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
50 weeks ago

Weymouth

Love it once a connection has been established!

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By *lotjockeyMan
50 weeks ago

Wellington

"Love it once a connection has been established!"

agreed, once the connection is there, and everone is on the same page, i love my wife being returned to as a slut

Slag and Whore seem a step too far in my head, therefore a turn off

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By *uffhandymanMan
50 weeks ago

selby/peterborough

I wouldn’t call someone a slut unless they have made it obvious they want to be called one! Then it’s fine and I’ll happily use the term towards them

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By *im ForbedMan
50 weeks ago

Winchester

"I wouldn’t call someone a slut unless they have made it obvious they want to be called one! Then it’s fine and I’ll happily use the term towards them "

^^^^

What he said - spot on

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By *dtvfanTV/TS
50 weeks ago

Carnforth

Really can't say I like any derogatory term in general. However, when all involved appreciate the context, then fuck me too, and all who sail in her.

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