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By *isfits behaving badly OP   Couple
50 weeks ago

Coventry

Have you ever thought too much conversation with people before hand has killed the prospect of something hot that was developing?

The reason we ask is because we're very social swingers. Often in a club we'll get chatting to a guy, woman or couple that we really fancy. All will be going great, it feels like this could work but as we go on talking to them longer they'll say something or share something that puts us off them and kills our intrest. Has this ever happened to you?

However we've been in situations where we just got it on with people we've found hot, without much (or any) conversation and the sexual chemistry has worked great. Including an encouted with a couple who didn't speak English but just joined us and it really just worked. In fact there's been times we've had great sexual encounters with people we've not talked before hand but then talking to them afterwards they weren't our cup of tea.

So do people think there can sometimes be an inheritant disadvantage to too much conversation?

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By *oxy jWoman
50 weeks ago

taunton somerset

yep op totally agree too much talk kills it ...

especially guys if i cant decied in a few days them im not meeting them for men they stand out or they dont ...to many guys now want all the info like jobs hobbies and everything else that we/i are not willing to give out im a swinger nothing else

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By *hil most chillMan
50 weeks ago

South East & Europe

Just don't talk about your political persuasions unless you're sure it will go down well with them... this has caught me out before, after we'd done the deed so I was left conflicted. On the one hand she was an amazing shag, on the other hand she had some weird views on a lot of things

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
50 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I'd rather not fuck a wanker than fuck one and realise after

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By *entle_lover_xMan
50 weeks ago

Great Dunmow

Yes definitely happened to me in person and online with chat groups. One reason why now don’t join any group social/party chat groups beforehand. Ignorance is bliss and avoid the chance of me putting my foot in it beforehand

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50 weeks ago

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By *entle_lover_xMan
50 weeks ago

Great Dunmow


"I'd rather not fuck a wanker than fuck one and realise after "

As long as the fucking was great I don’t mind what happens afterwards. Could be Nigel Farage’s female reincarnation for all I care. Especially at a party or club it doesn’t matter as quite probably won’t see them again.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
50 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"I'd rather not fuck a wanker than fuck one and realise after

As long as the fucking was great I don’t mind what happens afterwards. Could be Nigel Farage’s female reincarnation for all I care. Especially at a party or club it doesn’t matter as quite probably won’t see them again. "

That's your choice and if that works for you it's all good.

For me, I stand by what I said

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By *entle_lover_xMan
50 weeks ago

Great Dunmow


"I'd rather not fuck a wanker than fuck one and realise after

As long as the fucking was great I don’t mind what happens afterwards. Could be Nigel Farage’s female reincarnation for all I care. Especially at a party or club it doesn’t matter as quite probably won’t see them again.

That's your choice and if that works for you it's all good.

For me, I stand by what I said "

Indeed. I was just sharing an opinion and not trying to change yours

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By *melie LALWoman
50 weeks ago

Peterborough


"Yes definitely happened to me in person and online with chat groups. One reason why now don’t join any group social/party chat groups beforehand. Ignorance is bliss and avoid the chance of me putting my foot in it beforehand "

Best to put fingers in it first, not your foot

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By *entle_lover_xMan
50 weeks ago

Great Dunmow


"Yes definitely happened to me in person and online with chat groups. One reason why now don’t join any group social/party chat groups beforehand. Ignorance is bliss and avoid the chance of me putting my foot in it beforehand

Best to put fingers in it first, not your foot "

Just considering this - think I tend to be a tongue first kind of guy. Funnily enough a lady I know had a random man stick his toe in a private place uninvited in a club. He really did put his foot in it as she wasn’t impressed.

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By *melie LALWoman
50 weeks ago

Peterborough


"Yes definitely happened to me in person and online with chat groups. One reason why now don’t join any group social/party chat groups beforehand. Ignorance is bliss and avoid the chance of me putting my foot in it beforehand

Best to put fingers in it first, not your foot

Just considering this - think I tend to be a tongue first kind of guy. Funnily enough a lady I know had a random man stick his toe in a private place uninvited in a club. He really did put his foot in it as she wasn’t impressed. "

I knew a guy who liked that. The thought of grotty toe nails near my pussy has me running.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
50 weeks ago

Horsham

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
50 weeks ago

Horsham

I have had a few talk themselves our of me wanting to go further with them, derogatory remarks about people, racist comments, that sort of thing.

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By *andb69Couple
50 weeks ago

leeds


"Have you ever thought too much conversation with people before hand has killed the prospect of something hot that was developing?

The reason we ask is because we're very social swingers. Often in a club we'll get chatting to a guy, woman or couple that we really fancy. All will be going great, it feels like this could work but as we go on talking to them longer they'll say something or share something that puts us off them and kills our intrest. Has this ever happened to you?

However we've been in situations where we just got it on with people we've found hot, without much (or any) conversation and the sexual chemistry has worked great. Including an encouted with a couple who didn't speak English but just joined us and it really just worked. In fact there's been times we've had great sexual encounters with people we've not talked before hand but then talking to them afterwards they weren't our cup of tea.

So do people think there can sometimes be an inheritant disadvantage to too much conversation? "

In some cases and situations I agree, but only because I really enjoy anonymous sex with a guy (or guys). I'm not even interested in knowing their names. If we're in a club and there is mutual physical attraction I like to get straight down to playing.

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By *isfits behaving badly OP   Couple
50 weeks ago

Coventry


"I have had a few talk themselves our of me wanting to go further with them, derogatory remarks about people, racist comments, that sort of thing."

I think this is what has happened to us a fair few times. We're not particularly politically correct (infact our dark/sick humour may well be offensive to some) or particularly militant politically (We're respectful that people's opinions and outlooks are a broad church). However some people can just turn out not to be very nice people and it's amazing how many people hold prejudices that you just wouldn't think would be present in this scene. We're herd people express to us some very unsavoury things quite causally and seriously (not in jest or parody). And some people unfortunately just trigger some personal icks.

I suppose its perfectly reasonable to assume maybe we've likewise put some off as they've got to know us. We can't be everones cup of tea.

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By *uri00620Woman
50 weeks ago

Croydon

My preference is always sex then conversation.

All my rships started this way too.

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By *asques and boxersCouple
50 weeks ago

Ashford and dept16

We found a good little saying in France whilst researching single guys and couples for Fun.

Less blah blah more action. Let the chat start after Fun has begun.

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