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By *egabristols OP   Couple
51 weeks ago

penarth

Ok… we’re currently chatting to 2 blokes that are on our ‘favourites’ list… we don’t expect blokes to jump through hoops, but we insist upon them making effort. Any ideas, requests, questions, preferences, no-no’s, fetishes or preferred logistics?

Any Input….

Ps, men saying “when are you free?” After 4 or 5 messages Is a massive turn off.

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By *rpeggioCouple
51 weeks ago

Baughurst


"Ok… we’re currently chatting to 2 blokes that are on our ‘favourites’ list… we don’t expect blokes to jump through hoops, but we insist upon them making effort. Any ideas, requests, questions, preferences, no-no’s, fetishes or preferred logistics?

Any Input….

Ps, men saying “when are you free?” After 4 or 5 messages Is a massive turn off. "

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What? What's wrong with asking about a meet? Don't you want to meet? They are among your favourites. Aye you asking what to ask to them? Seems a bit strange you expect them to make some effort while you can't make an effort to think about questions to ask them.

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By *rpeggioCouple
51 weeks ago

Baughurst

Your profile has literally 6 words and 2 pics, and you are expecting effort from them? I think their level of interaction is par for the course.

And you literally say... "Keep it simple"... Then you complain when they take your hint and they ask for a meet after 4-5 messages. No wonder the poor 2 chaps are confused.

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By *aizyWoman
51 weeks ago

west midlands

I'm a bit confused by this OP, are you asking what to ask them? Surely if you are chatting to them and you are all putting effort in what to chat about just happens naturally?

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By *wistedTooCouple
51 weeks ago

Frimley


"Ok… we’re currently chatting to 2 blokes that are on our ‘favourites’ list… we don’t expect blokes to jump through hoops, but we insist upon them making effort. Any ideas, requests, questions, preferences, no-no’s, fetishes or preferred logistics?

Any Input….

Ps, men saying “when are you free?” After 4 or 5 messages Is a massive turn off. "

We’ve had 5 intro messages today that say “you’re hot when are you free?”

It’s irrelevant when we are free, because that opening message makes assumptions about meeting with zero effort. lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago

Women and couples get lots of messages. If you don't close quickly you run the risk of them getting board or you getting lost in the hundreds of messages a day.

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By *rpeggioCouple
51 weeks ago

Baughurst


"Ok… we’re currently chatting to 2 blokes that are on our ‘favourites’ list… we don’t expect blokes to jump through hoops, but we insist upon them making effort. Any ideas, requests, questions, preferences, no-no’s, fetishes or preferred logistics?

Any Input….

Ps, men saying “when are you free?” After 4 or 5 messages Is a massive turn off.

We’ve had 5 intro messages today that say “you’re hot when are you free?”

It’s irrelevant when we are free, because that opening message makes assumptions about meeting with zero effort. lol."

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As an intro message it seems lazy, considering you two have a detailed profile (and well written, by the way). Not the case of the OP where the request to meet has been after 4 or 5 back and forth messages, and there's virtually nothing in the OP profile to discuss about.

I suggest to the OP to respond that they are of course willing to meet, but after ensuring first that it is with the right person, and so they'd prefer to chat more to see if that's the case.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
51 weeks ago

North West

I expect effort because I’ve put in effort.

1 line bio wouldn’t get effort from me.

Everyone has different standards and expectations

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago


"Ok… we’re currently chatting to 2 blokes that are on our ‘favourites’ list… we don’t expect blokes to jump through hoops, but we insist upon them making effort. Any ideas, requests, questions, preferences, no-no’s, fetishes or preferred logistics?

Any Input….

Ps, men saying “when are you free?” After 4 or 5 messages Is a massive turn off. "

Your profile is somewhat brief.

Perhaps explain what you seek from a potential friends. Reliance on a smashing pair of buzzers is somewhat old hat?

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago


"Ok… we’re currently chatting to 2 blokes that are on our ‘favourites’ list… we don’t expect blokes to jump through hoops, but we insist upon them making effort. Any ideas, requests, questions, preferences, no-no’s, fetishes or preferred logistics?

Any Input….

Ps, men saying “when are you free?” After 4 or 5 messages Is a massive turn off.

We’ve had 5 intro messages today that say “you’re hot when are you free?”

It’s irrelevant when we are free, because that opening message makes assumptions about meeting with zero effort. lol."

Unfortunately there are those who still have recent links to the Neanderthal age!

You are explicit in your intentions to the extent of advising on a hit of peritone before arrival.......

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
51 weeks ago

Where ever I lay my hat


"Ok… we’re currently chatting to 2 blokes that are on our ‘favourites’ list… we don’t expect blokes to jump through hoops, but we insist upon them making effort. Any ideas, requests, questions, preferences, no-no’s, fetishes or preferred logistics?

Any Input….

Ps, men saying “when are you free?” After 4 or 5 messages Is a massive turn off.

We’ve had 5 intro messages today that say “you’re hot when are you free?”

It’s irrelevant when we are free, because that opening message makes assumptions about meeting with zero effort. lol."

You might think people would look at your profile and recognise you can literally have your pick of anyone on the site and therefore might make an effort.

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By *asques and boxersCouple
51 weeks ago

Ashford and dept16

Hi OP firstly your profile is well balanced the photos are delicious.

The question probably leaves a few questions marks. When are contacted then we are agree is nice to flirted with a little but nicer to feel there a genuine desire to appeal to you. Perhaps a question to them regarding how they see their preferences interacting withyours?

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By *wistedTooCouple
51 weeks ago

Frimley


"Ok… we’re currently chatting to 2 blokes that are on our ‘favourites’ list… we don’t expect blokes to jump through hoops, but we insist upon them making effort. Any ideas, requests, questions, preferences, no-no’s, fetishes or preferred logistics?

Any Input….

Ps, men saying “when are you free?” After 4 or 5 messages Is a massive turn off.

We’ve had 5 intro messages today that say “you’re hot when are you free?”

It’s irrelevant when we are free, because that opening message makes assumptions about meeting with zero effort. lol.

You might think people would look at your profile and recognise you can literally have your pick of anyone on the site and therefore might make an effort. "

Very kind of you to say. We don’t know about that but we do know that a bit of effort goes a long way. And we don’t mean an essay about massaging and pussy worship and whatever else. We mean treat us like a couple, react directly to what our profile says and along with detailing what they’re interested in, acknowledge what you believe may interest us

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By *ackformore100Man
51 weeks ago

Tin town


"Ok… we’re currently chatting to 2 blokes that are on our ‘favourites’ list… we don’t expect blokes to jump through hoops, but we insist upon them making effort. Any ideas, requests, questions, preferences, no-no’s, fetishes or preferred logistics?

Any Input….

Ps, men saying “when are you free?” After 4 or 5 messages Is a massive turn off. "

After how many messages are they safe to ask when you are free without turning you off?

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By *tlanshiaWoman
51 weeks ago

Chatham

I think guys that ask when are you free for a meet, are the ones who will shag anything. Personality doesn't matter etc.

I prefer a connection, I'm not talking wedding bells and a mortgage but someone I can have a laugh with and get on with. That takes time and conversation. Which takes more than 5 messages.

I get first messages, from profiles that have no info, no pictures "wanna meet" like what do you think I'm gonna say

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By *wistedTooCouple
51 weeks ago

Frimley


"Ok… we’re currently chatting to 2 blokes that are on our ‘favourites’ list… we don’t expect blokes to jump through hoops, but we insist upon them making effort. Any ideas, requests, questions, preferences, no-no’s, fetishes or preferred logistics?

Any Input….

Ps, men saying “when are you free?” After 4 or 5 messages Is a massive turn off.

After how many messages are they safe to ask when you are free without turning you off? "

Here’s some advice from our perspective… don’t ask.

Explain your availability. Then they’ll say theirs if they are interested in you in that way. Then you’ll both have offered up interim information, which means either of you can suggest some times or dates.

“When are you free?” is excruciatingly presumptuous. But it can be eliminated as that by merely making the other statements.

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago

Are you messaging blokes looking to chat or messaging them to have sex with? A bit rhetorical question there but if you're worried about them asking to meet it sounds like you don't actually want to meet anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago

Just to add, we like to be 'to the point'.

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By *moothdickMan
51 weeks ago

stoke

If genuine guys, ladies or couple then an effort from both sides is a must… it’s all down to the fakes ..

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