FabSwingers.com forum: Rate your received messages 1-10

By *r_reus OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

That being, messages from those who initially contact you.

What's the overall collective quality of them, have your catches been so good that you feel a buzz of excitement each time your open your inbox, or do you just roll your eyes at a net full of old shoes and plastic bags?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The messages I get make me feel any of the following emotions:

-"This is the best copy/paste message you can give?" (80%).

-"What a terrible day to have eyes" (5%).

-"What a terrible day to be literate" (5%).

-"I can't even read what you typed" (9%)

-"Hey that's a nice message, and they're really cute! I'll message back! (0.5%).

-"FUCK ME ANON PLEASE, JUST FUCK ME FUCK ME FUCK ME" (0.5%).

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"That being, messages from those who initially contact you.

Majority are:

"Ur hot"

"Meet now"

"Would love to bend you over and...etc"

"Hey sexy"

Generally pretty trash quality but for guys it's a numbers game so they just spam that to everyone with a pulse. The down side being they're all so generic and attached to generic profiles that they all get ignored in the noise.

Before I read a message I see if the profile pic is anything I'm interested in. I'm more interested in messages from other TV/TS and couples.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

From most men -10

From most couples 7

From most women 6

Mrs

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *r_reus OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

"From most men -10

From most couples 7

From most women 6

Mrs "

What do the couples do better than the women?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You receive messages? 1st messages?? Err

Rare them at a big ol' zero as I don't think it's ever happened haha

Every conversation I've had, I've instigated

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Much better since we put up the shutters to single men.

And with couples you can definitely tell whether it’s the man or woman messaging

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *r_reus OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

"The messages I get make me feel any of the following emotions:

-"This is the best copy/paste message you can give?" (80%).

-"What a terrible day to have eyes" (5%).

-"What a terrible day to be literate" (5%).

-"I can't even read what you typed" (9%)

-"Hey that's a nice message, and they're really cute! I'll message back! (0.5%).

-"FUCK ME ANON PLEASE, JUST FUCK ME FUCK ME FUCK ME" (0.5%)."

Would I be correct in my assumption that most of these mails are from single males?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *xploring girlWoman
over a year ago

mids

Mostly poor along the lines of

Meet now

You free

I’d fuck you

Would say that’s 90% of them of them there

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rStroker69Man
over a year ago

wells

From literally everyone it’s a -10! If you want my attention a hi or otherwise isn’t going to work! Even from couples and women!!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *MCMan
over a year ago

London/EA

I would say a good 75% of the ones I receive clearly shows they haven’t read my profile and I ignore them.

Ironic when half of them have something in their bio about if you don’t read theirs they’ll ignore you.

Thus, I’ll rate them a 5, the few I speak to regularly give me hope.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *r_reus OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

"Mostly poor along the lines of

Meet now

You free

I’d fuck you

Would say that’s 90% of them of them there "

Your profile doesn't give much to work with though, I think of myself as a pretty creative guy, but I'd find it hard to open a conversation with you.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

On average? 1. Maybe 2 if I'm feeling generous.

But for every 300 or so pointless messages, there's one that's at least attempting to engage with me. And maybe one in twenty of those works out

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *urve_your_enthusiasmWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I'd say 1.75 because this is what I get:

- messages from people who didn't read my profile and don't meet my criteria

- copy/paste message. Including the exact same message as so many weeks ago

- requests to meet now

- hi how are you

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"From most men -10

From most couples 7

From most women 6

Mrs

What do the couples do better than the women?"

Use more than 3 words

Mrs

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aurus_09Man
over a year ago

surrey

"Mostly poor along the lines of

Meet now

You free

I’d fuck you

Would say that’s 90% of them of them there "

Well I must be Shakespeare then as the messages I send have a lot more effort than that! And yet still no response to 60% of messages haha. Must be repulsive haha

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"Well I must be Shakespeare then as the messages I send have a lot more effort than that! And yet still no response to 60% of messages haha. Must be repulsive haha"

It's probably just the content bud

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aurus_09Man
over a year ago

surrey

"Well I must be Shakespeare then as the messages I send have a lot more effort than that! And yet still no response to 60% of messages haha. Must be repulsive haha

It's probably just the content bud

You mean my typical Shakespearean pick up lines are not up to scratch? Here’s some examples,

‘I would smash ye into yesteryear’

‘I would wear thee like a fine silk glove’

Come to think of it I can see where I might be going wrong……haha

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *r_reus OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

"From most men -10

From most couples 7

From most women 6

Mrs

What do the couples do better than the women?

Use more than 3 words

Mrs "

Interesting to hear that the women make so little effort on here too, you have to wonder what their excuse is?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"From most men -10

From most couples 7

From most women 6

Mrs

What do the couples do better than the women?

Use more than 3 words

Mrs

Interesting to hear that the women make so little effort on here too, you have to wonder what their excuse is? "

They usually don’t have to.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *urve_your_enthusiasmWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Oh I forgot the messages from manipulative men who don't think you know how this site works. Had one today. A really long essay about how he messaged me not so long ago and I ignored it (first mistake there mate). Then begging me to answer even a NO and that I shouldn't say no as he's a gem bla bla bla. Turned out we never messaged and when I confronted him about it, he was so dismissive.

So many men use this as a chat up line it's scary. Don't they know messages show up if you're a site supporter.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It's mostly the same stuff & I use filters.

U free? Or I'm in a hotel near you later-good for you lol.

What u up 2

Hi babe /Hun/trouble, sometimes with dick pics attached

Or the graphic descriptions of what they'd do if we met.

I only chat to single men on this account, but some messages we get on our couples account, from couplesaren't much better & many don't read what we are looking for.Some.examples "is she bi" - it states I'm straight in our profile.

How's yous?

Hi, from couple profiles that have only pictures of the woman on.

We/I don't meet women so I can't say what their messages are like, but I imagine some of them are pretty dire too.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *r_reus OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

"From most men -10

From most couples 7

From most women 6

Mrs

What do the couples do better than the women?

Use more than 3 words

Mrs

Interesting to hear that the women make so little effort on here too, you have to wonder what their excuse is?

They usually don’t have to."

Fair point...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The messages I get make me feel any of the following emotions:

-"This is the best copy/paste message you can give?" (80%).

-"What a terrible day to have eyes" (5%).

-"What a terrible day to be literate" (5%).

-"I can't even read what you typed" (9%)

-"Hey that's a nice message, and they're really cute! I'll message back! (0.5%).

-"FUCK ME ANON PLEASE, JUST FUCK ME FUCK ME FUCK ME" (0.5%).

Would I be correct in my assumption that most of these mails are from single males?"

You are correct!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Majority are sadly from man just saying things like "want your cock sucked"

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Messages do seem to be getting worse with the latest effort being "ji" which I assume was meant to be hi as j is next to h on the keyboard so a one word, two letter message with a 50% error rate.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve found I could more Lilly get a frilly off silly billy then the old slapped from clapham tbh

Just saying

But on a lightly salted pan with a bit of oil and a bit of butter on top xx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Vast majority are poor and generally get a proportionate response..

We even state "in answer to most messages we get, we're fine thanks"

But still get that exact question..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well can’t dm you so ,,,,,,!!!! Lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Almost exclusively from men when I do get one. My favourite contained the immortal line: "How far do you pull your pants down when you sit on the loo"

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

90%: "let us know if you want help with that bitch next time" every time a guy with a cock in his profile photo

9%: "I like you body, would love to suck your cock" a pre/post-op TV

0.9%: "here's an alphabet puzzle to assemble, if you get it right I might ask you to install yet another obscure messaging app where I will tell you how wrong you are about all things BDSM" a BDSM intellectual

0.09%: "hey, so we are at the Hilton wanna fuck?" an inebriated couple who will forget to tell you that they are in an Ibis on the other side of the country.

0.01%: "so, listen, I want to meet and see if you are real. Really want to have a reliable fwb. Meet me at ...?" an actual lady looking for someone to fuck.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh 99% of mine are utter shit.

They usually consist of a cock or some random action shot, a message that is so sexually graphic that it makes me drier than the Sahara ha.

Sometimes if I'm really lucky I get told that they want to take me out and spoil me buy me lingerie, food etc ffs

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I’d say all he people that have been even halfway nearly real are not even close to being real and that is why I don’t like them either

Be real or fake one or the other

Fake swingers I’d say

Had the best meet of recent am it east on here

Keyboard warriors

I’ll stick to the trick that’s been used for years and I think it’s the best way xx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The messages I get make me feel any of the following emotions:

-"This is the best copy/paste message you can give?" (80%).

-"What a terrible day to have eyes" (5%).

-"What a terrible day to be literate" (5%).

-"I can't even read what you typed" (9%)

-"Hey that's a nice message, and they're really cute! I'll message back! (0.5%).

-"FUCK ME ANON PLEASE, JUST FUCK ME FUCK ME FUCK ME" (0.5%)."

This is a perfect summation

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *adbod75Man
over a year ago

fife

Receiving a message is a very rare thing indeed lol for me anyway I'm sure we are not all the same

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hosetwo200Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

2.7/10

Pretty much the only decent messages we receive are from people we've previously met in clubs. Occasionally we'll get an intriguing and fun message we'll engage with as they've actually read the profile or not made assumptions on the dynamic etc.

In a nutshell (so to speak) you can tell who's typing with their dick in their hand! Lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *r_reus OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

In a nutshell (so to speak) you can tell who's typing with their dick in their hand! Lol"

At first I read that as 'who's typing with their dick', which would actually be quite impressive?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *emptme1993Man
over a year ago

manchester

At best, 2, only not a 1 cos I’ve had some good messages but these are few and far between

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Men 0

Women 7

Couples 5

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *overs4loversCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

From guys 1 out of 10 usually, with the odd exception. Couples 7 out of 10, usually more engaging and wanting to start an actual conversation. Women can be almost as bad as men we’ve found, but not quite so I’ll go 4 out of 10 ish. Maybe we’ve just had the wrong sorts of women message us?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *mpierdoleMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

When I try and make a real effort, I often get laughed at for making such an effort.

It gets quite annoying

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *r_reus OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

All this feedback makes me think swingers sites really need multiple categories for single males, rather than lumping us all together to be defined by the lowest common denominator.

The typical response to this is people saying 'stand out'. Fair enough, but it's awfully difficult to stand out when your 783rd in a queue of 1000, and the recipient of your message, so frustrated by the slew of 'hi/wanna fuck' messages then mass deletes all of you.

And then complains that she can't find a good man on here.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"All this feedback makes me think swingers sites really need multiple categories for single males, rather than lumping us all together to be defined by the lowest common denominator.

And then complains that she can't find a good man on here."

What would the categories be though?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *r_reus OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

"What would the categories be though?"

Give male profiles points for things like having pics on their profiles and the number of fabs they have, the number of words they've written and correct spelling, verifications etc, anything which would be deemed a positive.

The more points a male profile gets, the higher up the categories they go, women and couples can then filter their mailboxes to only allow messages from higher scoring male if they so choose.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *overs4loversCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

"What would the categories be though?

The more points a male profile gets, the higher up the categories they go, women and couples can then filter their mailboxes to only allow messages from higher scoring male if they so choose."

I actually think this is a great idea! Well done you

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *r_reus OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

Whoop!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread