FabSwingers.com forum: Newby dom

Cotswolds

There is a well known bdsm site more suited for you.

Number 1 piece of advice is communication, communication, communication.

The sub is typically the one who is actually giving you their permission and overview of what the scenario will be, from giving you their likes, interests, hard limits, and ones to maybe explore. Always play with a safe word or traffic light process ‘red’ you instantly stop ‘amber’ they’re close to limit etc.

Also don’t try and use porn as your learning material, that’s furthest from the truth!

As a typical bdsm experience there are 3 parts, this varies if regular but as a good start.

1st communication between dom and sub discussing about what to explore, limits etc

2nd the actual play scene

3rd post play support almost debrief

Enjoy from an experienced switch

By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
52 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Get to munches. Talk to people in the community and attend workshops on the bits you want to learn about properly. Communicate the shit out of everything always

By *phialtesMan
52 weeks ago

Beyond the Wall

Get to munches

Meet and talk to people who are into the scene.

Figure out what the BDSM scene means to you. Why do you want to be Dominant? What is it about that role that interests you?

Make use of online resources, there are several sites, blogs and books, and even a few youtube channels that are useful to educate yourself.

Always do your own research, and never take what one person says as gospel.

By *rhugesMan
52 weeks ago

Cardiff

I remember when I first got into the BDSM scene, looking back I was dreadful, but with experience and meeting and chatting to other Dom's and dommes you get better at it.

It's definitely a skill set that you have to learn.