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"Hello, I'm ... Nice to meet you. How are you? If approaching a couple, chat to them both, if approaching a group, engage with them all. If it's your first time at a club, tell them. " It's not my first time, I'm just terrified after last time - I was really stressed out and still recovering from it mentally days afterwards last time. But what you said is pretty much a "hello", what do you say after that? I have no idea how to even consider approaching a group, I just feel like I can't get a word in anyway in groups. | |||
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"I'm not very confident in social situations, so I just wondered what other people say to open with. " Try pretending you are confident - it sounds like daft advice but it does actually work sometimes. Expect to get rejected at least once on every club visit - if you're expecting it, then it's not as bad. And smile! The exact words don't matter as much. | |||
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"Try pretending you are confident - it sounds like daft advice but it does actually work sometimes. Expect to get rejected at least once on every club visit - if you're expecting it, then it's not as bad. And smile! The exact words don't matter as much." How do you even pretend that you are confident? And how do you even know if someone is interested anyway? | |||
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"How would you start talking to them in a pub or nightclub?" I wouldn't know, that is why I'm asking. | |||
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"How do you even pretend that you are confident? And how do you even know if someone is interested anyway?" A confident person won't worry what to say, a confident person won't worry whether the other person is interested, a confident person won't worry if this is the only chance they'll get this evening. They'll just go and have fun. Practice on the other single guys first. Guys who talk to other guys get more luck! | |||
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"A confident person won't worry what to say, a confident person won't worry whether the other person is interested, a confident person won't worry if this is the only chance they'll get this evening. They'll just go and have fun. Practice on the other single guys first. Guys who talk to other guys get more luck!" That has left me just as clueless as before tbh | |||
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"Hi my name is Michelle, its really nice to meet you. I noticed you and though I would introduce myself then let them respond. You'll know quite quickly of they're intersted or not. I actually hate it if someone just comes up to me and asks me if I'm playing I find it really rude ha. Could at least talk to me for a minute. " How do you know if they're interested or not? | |||
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"A confident person won't worry what to say, a confident person won't worry whether the other person is interested, a confident person won't worry if this is the only chance they'll get this evening. They'll just go and have fun. Practice on the other single guys first. Guys who talk to other guys get more luck! That has left me just as clueless as before tbh" Maybe you need a new hobby. Swinging isn't for everyone and if you don't know how to start a conversation with someone how will you ever progress to getting jiggy with them? | |||
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"Maybe you need a new hobby. Swinging isn't for everyone and if you don't know how to start a conversation with someone how will you ever progress to getting jiggy with them? " I already have too many hobbies. I've been to a club three times and I've been with at least two people every time - but they've all either approached me or someone else set me up with them. | |||
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