FabSwingers.com forum: Size

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There is some confusion as to the way men and women describe themselves ie curvy, average, fabulous etc.

From a guys point of view there are a lot of women who describe themselves as curvy, average, who are definitely obese.

Anyone else find the same?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would agree with you, but you have probably stirred up a hornets nest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who cares... If they have pictures then its easy to see if they're for you or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who cares... If they have pictures then its easy to see if they're for you or not. "

no its not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It isn't easy to tell from pictures if you're attracted to someone or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It isn't easy to tell from pictures if you're attracted to someone or not?

no its not!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It isn't easy to tell from pictures if you're attracted to someone or not?

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Thats why we tend to meet socially first.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

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"There is some confusion as to the way men and women describe themselves ie curvy, average, fabulous etc.

From a guys point of view there are a lot of women who describe themselves as curvy, average, who are definitely obese.

Anyone else find the same?"

Strictly speaking, this is very true. However, it usually comes down to interpretation and grey areas. Some people definitely straddle the boundaries between one classification and another.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would agree with you, but you have probably stirred up a hornets nest."
Hopefully not a hornets nest but a debate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to meet socially first as well, but I don't look to the label they give their body type to see if I think there might be an attraction. Pictures usually work better

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just wish people would be honest with themselves...It stops a lot of aggravation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There isn't really a debate to be had... Everyone has their own idea what's average, what's curvy, ample, "fabulous" etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I tend to meet socially first as well, but I don't look to the label they give their body type to see if I think there might be an attraction. Pictures usually work better

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I understand what you're saying but sometimes with cleverly taken pics and covering/clothing the build of a person can be well hidden.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just wish people would be honest with themselves...It stops a lot of aggravation"

If a label someone you don't know affixes to themselves on a swinging website causes you a lot of aggravation I'd recommend a chill pill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what u`ll find with most is pictures that equate to a few pieces of a 1000 piece jigsaw puzzle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to meet socially first as well, but I don't look to the label they give their body type to see if I think there might be an attraction. Pictures usually work better

I understand what you're saying but sometimes with cleverly taken pics and covering/clothing the build of a person can be well hidden."

That's a different issue to the OP. if you hate fat chicks just make sure it's clear on your profile and they'll give you a wide berth!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see why people just can't be honest, if it's age, size, or whatever else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There isn't really a debate to be had... Everyone has their own idea what's average, what's curvy, ample, "fabulous" etc."
A point in question...After taking a peek at your profile pics there is no way that I'd say you were a size 18. You look very attractive to me in your pics. But in your defence you do actually state your size in your profile.

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

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There seems to be some confusion as to how the filters work on here , if you are a slim couple and large peeps don't float yer boat, then surely you should be searching for slim people to match your preference. Although it would seem to be the norm now for people to come and right fat bash threads instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There isn't really a debate to be had... Everyone has their own idea what's average, what's curvy, ample, "fabulous" etc. A point in question...After taking a peek at your profile pics there is no way that I'd say you were a size 18. You look very attractive to me in your pics. But in your defence you do actually state your size in your profile."

Haha thanks. I am 5ft 11 so maybe it is masked somewhat but I am definitely a fat chick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is some confusion as to the way men and women describe themselves ie curvy, average, fabulous etc.

From a guys point of view there are a lot of women who describe themselves as curvy, average, who are definitely obese.

Anyone else find the same?"

Owhh at the end of the day it's just labels!!

Who cares about how someone else would describe themselves?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I tend to meet socially first as well, but I don't look to the label they give their body type to see if I think there might be an attraction. Pictures usually work better

I understand what you're saying but sometimes with cleverly taken pics and covering/clothing the build of a person can be well hidden.

[That's a different issue to the OP. if you hate fat chicks just make sure it's clear on your profile and they'll give you a wide berth!]

It is clear on our profile and as for taking a chill pill....I'm very chilled thank you very much, unlike someone on here obviously. It wasn't meant to get into a slagging match....sorry if I've touched a nerve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a size 12/14 with hips and a bum and tits.. I go in and out . Can be a size 6/8 be still curvy .. Its a shape not a size.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There seems to be some confusion as to how the filters work on here , if you are a slim couple and large peeps don't float yer boat, then surely you should be searching for slim people to match your preference. Although it would seem to be the norm now for people to come and right fat bash threads instead."

It wasn't intended to be a bash any one thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to meet socially first as well, but I don't look to the label they give their body type to see if I think there might be an attraction. Pictures usually work better

I understand what you're saying but sometimes with cleverly taken pics and covering/clothing the build of a person can be well hidden.

[That's a different issue to the OP. if you hate fat chicks just make sure it's clear on your profile and they'll give you a wide berth!]

Not at all, it's all meant in a light hearted way on my part.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I tend to meet socially first as well, but I don't look to the label they give their body type to see if I think there might be an attraction. Pictures usually work better

I understand what you're saying but sometimes with cleverly taken pics and covering/clothing the build of a person can be well hidden.

[That's a different issue to the OP. if you hate fat chicks just make sure it's clear on your profile and they'll give you a wide berth!]

[Not at all, it's all meant in a light hearted way on my part.]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whilst we all have a slightly distorted self image we are who we are so just be yourself and be as giving to those you choose as playmates and all should go well after all they are just descriptive words open to interpratation lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to meet socially first as well, but I don't look to the label they give their body type to see if I think there might be an attraction. Pictures usually work better

I understand what you're saying but sometimes with cleverly taken pics and covering/clothing the build of a person can be well hidden.

[That's a different issue to the OP. if you hate fat chicks just make sure it's clear on your profile and they'll give you a wide berth!]

[Not at all, it's all meant in a light hearted way on my part.]

If anything I'm glad you aren't into the more curvaceous lady - less competition for old Kit

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am a size 12/14 with hips and a bum and tits.. I go in and out . Can be a size 6/8 be still curvy .. Its a shape not a size.

You sound idyllic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if they think they are too big and not for them...don't message them or agree to meet people without seeing their build...simple really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a lot of curvy people i would describe as large.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah i agree with what you're saying-im a size 16 and am most definately over-weight but i prefer to call myself curvy because describing myself as "large" kind of makes it sound like i have no self-confidence, when im perfectly happy with the way i look, although i have no problem with others calling me that as it's a fair description.

As long as you are open and honest with yourself and your meets, i don't think its a problem.

I think curvy can be used to describe lots of different dress sizes, its more about body shape and attitude, dont you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think when your curves have turned into rolls your fat

If you have a over hang on you belly, creases in your back and you nipples point to the floor your fat not curvy

I see curvy as slim with shape not over weight

That's only my interpretation of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are a lot of estate agents on this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think when your curves have turned into rolls your fat

If you have a over hang on you belly, creases in your back and you nipples point to the floor your fat not curvy

I see curvy as slim with shape not over weight

That's only my interpretation of course "

I think thats fair enough, although if someone who is fat wants to call themselves curvy and it makes them feel better in themselves then its not hurting anyone, confidence is sexy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My view on this is that people can classify themselves exact how they like, it isn't down to others to decide.

Everything is subjective. I've seen many profiles that state people are attractive and good looking, or people are easy going and fun. I might not agree with them, I may think they are ugly miserable gits. The same as VWE, to one guy it will be 6 inches to another it will be 10.

The profile is merely a vague overview, it is not a contract set in stone. You just have to do your own groundwork to figure out if people are for you, by reviewing messages and looking at pictures. If in the flesh people are not what's expected then walk away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think when your curves have turned into rolls your fat

If you have a over hang on you belly, creases in your back and you nipples point to the floor your fat not curvy

I see curvy as slim with shape not over weight

That's only my interpretation of course

I think thats fair enough, although if someone who is fat wants to call themselves curvy and it makes them feel better in themselves then its not hurting anyone, confidence is sexy.

Agree

I have no problem with anyone calling themselves anything

We all have different views on what is curvy and what isn't, just because that's how I se it that does not mean its right its just my opinion

For me attraction comes in all forms and if I found someone attractive it wouldn't matter to me if they classed themselves as curvy or large I would still view them the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to meet socially first as well, but I don't look to the label they give their body type to see if I think there might be an attraction. Pictures usually work better

I understand what you're saying but sometimes with cleverly taken pics and covering/clothing the build of a person can be well hidden.

That's a different issue to the OP. if you hate fat chicks just make sure it's clear on your profile and they'll give you a wide berth!

I don't mind the larger ladies at all but I'm not a fan of the very large BBW and said so in my profile. I then got a message from a larger lady who was miffed and gave me a bit of a hard time about it. Each to their own I say! But I understand when you say some people are a bit confused or misleading with their size.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i saw on a mans profile.

Likes a lady with curves in all the wrong places.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to meet socially first as well, but I don't look to the label they give their body type to see if I think there might be an attraction. Pictures usually work better

I understand what you're saying but sometimes with cleverly taken pics and covering/clothing the build of a person can be well hidden.

That's a different issue to the OP. if you hate fat chicks just make sure it's clear on your profile and they'll give you a wide berth!

But BBW is subjective to what you like, saying your a BBW does not mean a great deal to me, if I read your profile (or anyone elses that said no BBWs) I wouldn't mail you because I class myself as a BBW where as there are women on here bigger than me who see themselves as curvy not BBW so they may mail you, some see a BBW as a size 16, some see a size 16 as curvy some don't see a woman as a BBW till they are a size 20+, that's the problem, theres no set size on whats curvy and fat, everyone will have their own opinion

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Yes people lie on here but people lie in real life to. If curvy is how they see themselves then so be it. This is why you should look at pics and insist on social meets or at least canning with them.

If they are not for you politely make your excuses and don't meet them for sex. It's not illegal to claim you are curvy when you are just fat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes people lie on here but people lie in real life to. If curvy is how they see themselves then so be it. This is why you should look at pics and insist on social meets or at least canning with them.

If they are not for you politely make your excuses and don't meet them for sex. It's not illegal to claim you are curvy when you are just fat

I don't even see it as a case of lying, someone who you see as fat genuinely may see themselves as curvy, and they may think they are giving a honest description of themselves, all because peoples perception of fat is different to yours that don't make them a liar

And by you I don't mean YOU

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I know you dont

They might not think they are lyricallyby but it's how other people will see it

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Lying

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