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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sick of men time wasting. we set dates and then when it come close it's a sorry they can't make it. we find it easier to find a female and couples than a male whats going on guys we have booked 6 men every single one when it came near the date has had a sisters party or going out witt there perants they booked the date so we stop looking we are really thinking that this site is just full of married time wasting men and are thinking about leaving and funding a diffrent site rant over

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

totally different experience .. found loads of guys who are great

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

You need a better process of screening potential playmates, because guess what? There are men (and couples, and females) who actually turn up to arranged meets. Funny that!

Besides, we (mostly) all deal with timewasters at some point. We don't feel the need to make another clone thread moaning about it. Block, report to admin, chalk it up to experience and move on.

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester

I'm surprised to be fair, your profile is very likable. All I can say is more fool those ppl!

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

You have only been here a week? How many of the 970,000 have let you down?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you're saying there are some dishonest people on here?

Just deleted our couples account due to the timewasters on here. Our lass got sick of the no shows and those that just wanted a quick grope under the table. Her patience just ran out.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope you don't mind an old Swinging sage giving his twopennyworth...? Well, I'm going to anyway..

Here's an inescapable fact - you are in an age range AND advertising for an age range in which most guys are.. getting married, having kids, having the wife withdrawing the weekly roll-on, roll-off fuck cos 'she's tired'... but who still think they are 21 and can pull anything with a pussy.

So, what do they do..? They come on a site like this and try to find that which validated their manhood only a few short years before. And then the reality for THEM kicks in... they find an attractive couple in, say, 'Lincolnshire', get all horny chatting about what they could do with you, they then make 'arrangements' to come and meet you and then.... the wife at home reminds them that they can't 'go out with their mates' as she has already committed them to going to such-and-such's party instead.

So the next thing YOU get is the message saying 'sorry, can't come now'.

At my ripe old age, I can sit back and smile, as I NOW realise that was what was going on when I was at that stage in my life and it is, regrettably, something that will continue until both you and they move on to the next stage in your lives.

This is why guys my age sit back smugly, getting meets left right and centre, and fucking ourselves stupid. We don't have all the crap back at home anymore which causes us to cancel meets - with a bit of luck, we divorced one of those things and sent the other to Uni a good few years ago!!

It's the way it is. Sorry an' all that, but it's a fact you will have to deal with.

PS. feckin great photos!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sick of men time wasting. we set dates and then when it come close it's a sorry they can't make it. we find it easier to find a female and couples than a male whats going on guys we have booked 6 men every single one when it came near the date has had a sisters party or going out witt there perants they booked the date so we stop looking we are really thinking that this site is just full of married time wasting men and are thinking about leaving and funding a diffrent site rant over

Funnily enough I have just answered another thread about this.

Are you by any chance speaking to the men when they are horny? Do they want to talk about what you will get up to on a meet?"

Yep, there is a mass of it. There are many who are lucky to get people who will turn up. But for the majority of men who don't post in forums, use chat etc - are most likely to be cracking one off instead when making contact as it's fantasy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sick of men time wasting. we set dates and then when it come close it's a sorry they can't make it. we find it easier to find a female and couples than a male whats going on guys we have booked 6 men every single one when it came near the date has had a sisters party or going out witt there perants they booked the date so we stop looking we are really thinking that this site is just full of married time wasting men and are thinking about leaving and funding a diffrent site rant over "

Sadly, every site is the same. Even the paid ones. And for every guy who didn't turn up - then they are losing out. You both look hot from the pics! Rant over and

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funnily enough. Single women are like finding a needle in a haystack. Then when you find them they quickly loose interest.

Single men show interest, then drop of planet or as you said come up with excuses.

Hope to find better luck at a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we are really thinking that this site is just full of married time wasting men and are thinking about leaving and funding a diffrent site rant over "

And you think any other site is any different..??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame some guys are like this and spoil it for the rest, so many women are not into meeting single guys probably a lot down to guys letting them down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sick of men time wasting. we set dates and then when it come close it's a sorry they can't make it. we find it easier to find a female and couples than a male whats going on guys we have booked 6 men every single one when it came near the date has had a sisters party or going out witt there perants they booked the date so we stop looking we are really thinking that this site is just full of married time wasting men and are thinking about leaving and funding a diffrent site rant over "

Sorry you are having such a bad experience on here. Keep at it though because in amongst all the coal you will find a diamond or two.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Funnily enough. Single women are like finding a needle in a haystack. Then when you find them they quickly loose interest.

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That's cos quite a few (not all, i'm not a fan of sweeping generalisations) of them are either married and playing without hubby's knowledge, or are guys pretending to be women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sick of men time wasting. we set dates and then when it come close it's a sorry they can't make it. we find it easier to find a female and couples than a male whats going on guys we have booked 6 men every single one when it came near the date has had a sisters party or going out witt there perants they booked the date so we stop looking we are really thinking that this site is just full of married time wasting men and are thinking about leaving and funding a diffrent site rant over "

try a club over a site. Weeds out the real people from the fantasists. I go to Chams and when me and my play partner went - we always met people there. If they didn't turn up - there would be an ample amount of people who may have taken their place if they met to our standards. And furthermore, "No means No" in clubs. try Chameleons in Darlaston. A bit of a trek, but the best one I can recommend!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No probem with guys...LOTS of problems with couples and single women.

In fact only this week we have had two 'couples' disappear off the site when we had potentially arranged a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different experiences for everyone. We find single guys and girls have never let us down so far, the couples however have been a right nightmare

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

its not a single man issue... its being an arse issue..

the "arse" gene isn't just that of single men... single women and god forbid couples have it on here as well....

for every complaint about man.. i'd say have a look on page 1.. and i'd bet you'd find one about single women... or couples...

like others have said.. if this is a common occurance then the issue isn't just them... its on you as well..

after all, you are the one picking them... you are the common demoninator..

so maybe its time to take a few steps back and work out what you are doing to attract them, and change it up a bit..

and no... this isn't a "knights move"....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shame some guys are like this and spoil it for the rest, so many women are not into meeting single guys probably a lot down to guys letting them down "

Thing is, as a single girl that is looking for single guys, in my experience 80% of the guys I chat to are genuine & reliable and the ones that aren't you can spot a mile away. If you take a little (and I mean a couple of days) chatting to someone you get a good feel for if they are genuine, I've learnt not to rush things. Single guys do get tarred with the same brush, it's not fair and in my experience (over 3 years on site, 10 years swinging) most are okay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sick of men time wasting. we set dates and then when it come close it's a sorry they can't make it. we find it easier to find a female and couples than a male whats going on guys we have booked 6 men every single one when it came near the date has had a sisters party or going out witt there perants they booked the date so we stop looking we are really thinking that this site is just full of married time wasting men and are thinking about leaving and funding a diffrent site rant over "

Unbelievable.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

All single men are all vermin and should be shot for the dogs they are!!

...oh, hang on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sick of men time wasting. we set dates and then when it come close it's a sorry they can't make it. we find it easier to find a female and couples than a male whats going on guys we have booked 6 men every single one when it came near the date has had a sisters party or going out witt there perants they booked the date so we stop looking we are really thinking that this site is just full of married time wasting men and are thinking about leaving and funding a diffrent site rant over "

The golden question is - did you find these men and they knew you were meeting as a couple. Some people may read this and think it's bullsh*t from what i'm about to put. But there are a lot of guys who see the woman and then realise a guy is involved. They will be put off. In that case then make sure that all of the participants know who is going to be there.

And if your man is Bi *insert applause here*, it'll scare the life out of most who just see a woman and never read into the male partner and respectful wishes and boundaries. Whether they are curious themselves, but too scared to try it or just too closed minded when they are on a site for sex. Sad muppets!

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"All single men are all vermin and should be shot for the dogs they are!!

...oh, hang on "

All single women looking to meet men are actually figments of your imagination.

Wait........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All single men are all vermin and should be shot for the dogs they are!!

...oh, hang on

All single women looking to meet men are actually figments of your imagination.

Wait........"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All single men are all vermin and should be shot for the dogs they are!!

...oh, hang on "

LOLOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its not a single man issue... its being an arse issue..

the "arse" gene isn't just that of single men... single women and god forbid couples have it on here as well....

for every complaint about man.. i'd say have a look on page 1.. and i'd bet you'd find one about single women... or couples...

like others have said.. if this is a common occurance then the issue isn't just them... its on you as well..

after all, you are the one picking them... you are the common demoninator..

so maybe its time to take a few steps back and work out what you are doing to attract them, and change it up a bit..

and no... this isn't a "knights move"...."

This!!

Selection criteria should be the thing to keep as tight a control on as you can. You'll soon learn to spot the warning signs early on which should reduce your drop out rate.

Either that or move down south!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The swinging community is no different to the vanilla community. Some people lie,cheat,exaggerate and ultimately let you down.

It has nothing to do with their gender,sexual orientation or living arrangements.

Don't get bitter,get wiser is my advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hope you don't mind an old Swinging sage giving his twopennyworth...? Well, I'm going to anyway..

Here's an inescapable fact - you are in an age range AND advertising for an age range in which most guys are.. getting married, having kids, having the wife withdrawing the weekly roll-on, roll-off fuck cos 'she's tired'... but who still think they are 21 and can pull anything with a pussy.

So, what do they do..? They come on a site like this and try to find that which validated their manhood only a few short years before. And then the reality for THEM kicks in... they find an attractive couple in, say, 'Lincolnshire', get all horny chatting about what they could do with you, they then make 'arrangements' to come and meet you and then.... the wife at home reminds them that they can't 'go out with their mates' as she has already committed them to going to such-and-such's party instead.

So the next thing YOU get is the message saying 'sorry, can't come now'.

At my ripe old age, I can sit back and smile, as I NOW realise that was what was going on when I was at that stage in my life and it is, regrettably, something that will continue until both you and they move on to the next stage in your lives.

This is why guys my age sit back smugly, getting meets left right and centre, and fucking ourselves stupid. We don't have all the crap back at home anymore which causes us to cancel meets - with a bit of luck, we divorced one of those things and sent the other to Uni a good few years ago!!

It's the way it is. Sorry an' all that, but it's a fact you will have to deal with.

PS. feckin great photos!!!!

"

pretty spot on!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol @ booked 6 men

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"lol @ booked 6 men "

Wonder what rates they charged?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol @ booked 6 men

Wonder what rates they charged? "

Oops I didn't realise that's how it works!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - there are a number of issues connected with your original post which should be addressed to give you a constructive answer, BUT... forum rules dictate that YOU must ask for the contributors to offer such criticism - or we'll be on the naughty step PDQ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the way it is. Sorry an' all that, but it's a fact you will have to deal with.

PS. feckin great photos!!!!

pretty spot on!!! "

MancMale - can you PM me. Can't Pm you due to filters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that in any world you get knobheads, swinging is no different in my experience. You tend to learn from mistakes and move on.

Certainly don't rush meets on here, even if they do show up the likely hood is there will be no form of common ground ect and essentially its gonna be a crap meet.

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

I read messages like the OP and my mind boggles; given the sheer number of guys complaining that they can't get a meet, I'm astounded that so many then fail to follow through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sick of men time wasting. we set dates and then when it come close it's a sorry they can't make it. we find it easier to find a female and couples than a male whats going on guys we have booked 6 men every single one when it came near the date has had a sisters party or going out witt there perants they booked the date so we stop looking we are really thinking that this site is just full of married time wasting men and are thinking about leaving and funding a diffrent site rant over "

You have only been here a week and have arranged meets with 6 different men!

We always do social meets first so that we know everyone is happy!

Why do you think another site would be better? Owhh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sick of men time wasting. we set dates and then when it come close it's a sorry they can't make it. we find it easier to find a female and couples than a male whats going on guys we have booked 6 men every single one when it came near the date has had a sisters party or going out witt there perants they booked the date so we stop looking we are really thinking that this site is just full of married time wasting men and are thinking about leaving and funding a diffrent site rant over

You have only been here a week and have arranged meets with 6 different men!

We always do social meets first so that we know everyone is happy!

Why do you think another site would be better? Owhh "

No we been on the site for 10 weeks new profile we do socail first every time lol and the 6 men have not all been the same weekend xxx we reset are message filter to only verified people so I think that will help we have also meet a single fem from this site we find them to be pretty easy and also couples two everyone that said they will meet do its just the men that let us down xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We generally meet single guys... And we haven't been stood up once....

Maybe change your selection process?

Do you plan your meets? Or are they'd at minute ones?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just posted on another thread about timewasters and fakes..

please dont label the whole site based around 6 men ffs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

stick to mingers they are guaranteed to show

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"I just posted on another thread about timewasters and fakes..

please dont label the whole site based around 6 men ffs lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"stick to mingers they are guaranteed to show "

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