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"I've recently had the same.. One minute she's telling me that she's really into me and the next minute all messages have vanished and I can't find her anymore. A simple I've changed my mind would do, we're all grown ups.... Clearly some more than others. This site is absolutely bonkers at times. " Sorry to hear that mate. I get that women have their choice of the litter but some common courtesy is easy enough and free. | |||
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"So, I've been messaging a female. She actually messaged first. Got on well, she wanted to come over and I was polite, made sure she was comfortable etc. this was over a few days. Woke up this morning to message and I've been blocked. Does this happen a lot i.e. getting blocked out the blue? I realize some people may think they've done nothing wrong but obviously have but honestly, I can't see anything that would have made her done this. It's a bit confusing and frustrating but accepted it'll happen." I think sometimes the straightforward 'normal' men suffer the consequences of the actions of the abusive or nasty ones. It's easier to just block the bad ones if someone changes their mind so they do that with everyone. I'm not excusing it or downplaying the confusing effect it has on you but that could be an explanation. Another theory I have when this happens is that an actual meet might reveal that the person isn't who they've been claiming to be. | |||
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"I've recently had the same.. One minute she's telling me that she's really into me and the next minute all messages have vanished and I can't find her anymore. A simple I've changed my mind would do, we're all grown ups.... Clearly some more than others. This site is absolutely bonkers at times. " This happens when someone has deleted their account | |||
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"Seems strange they do it so suddenly. Makes me wonder how often they do it and whether they get a kick out of it. As I said, being able to block them in return would be good." As I i replied on your other thread this facility is already there | |||
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"Thanks, that does make sense. They've got 70+ verifications and have sent private photos so I'm leaning towards them being legit but very true, you just never know. The ability to block someone that has blocked you would be so useful in this situation, for privacy and security. I don't want them to unblock me, send anything or see what I'm up to and then block again, I find that a little worrying." You can block them either from s message or by replacing your name with theirs in your profile URL then using the block option on their profile. | |||
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"Thanks, that does make sense. They've got 70+ verifications and have sent private photos so I'm leaning towards them being legit but very true, you just never know. The ability to block someone that has blocked you would be so useful in this situation, for privacy and security. I don't want them to unblock me, send anything or see what I'm up to and then block again, I find that a little worrying. You can block them either from s message or by replacing your name with theirs in your profile URL then using the block option on their profile. " ah yes, I can do it from messages, thank you | |||
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"Who knows what motivation that person had at the time they were messaging... And are they actually a female... Is it a different account to catfish /stalk... Are they just gathering information... Be careful with info you are sharing. Some people are most definitely not what they seem " This. Probably blocked after they extracted all the info they needed, or blocked out of frustration that they couldn't extract that information. | |||
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"I block in the middle of a conversation if someone has said anything that has made me feel really uncomfortable, maybe it's the cowards way out,but it is what it is." last thing I said was "Have a pleasant evening, speak soon"  | |||
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"Common courtesy can be hard to come by." It can indeed...on both sides of the conversation. Let's not forget there are two versions (at least) of every event | |||
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"Common courtesy can be hard to come by." do you answer all your junk mail that fills your letterbox or email accounts if not why no ?? Common courtesy?? the problem is people expect / entitled and if that you then you really are on the wrong scene ...your owed nothing | |||
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"Thanks, that does make sense. They've got 70+ verifications and have sent private photos so I'm leaning towards them being legit but very true, you just never know. The ability to block someone that has blocked you would be so useful in this situation, for privacy and security. I don't want them to unblock me, send anything or see what I'm up to and then block again, I find that a little worrying." You can as long as you still have the messages in your inbox. I do the same. I've noticed some people can be fickle and want to message again at another time. It doesn't interest me. I've certainly blocked people when the conversation hasn't been going well and they've ignored what I've said. Not saying that's the case here just providing a viewpoint. | |||
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"On this theme I got a quite venomous message telling me to get off her cam feed and that I'm blocked, no message or contact sent by me just clicked on it to see feed then distracted by something else. Tbh if you don't like folks watching don't open a public feed "no but its also there rights to block if they dont want you to see thats the whole point of the block button its a very useful tool | |||
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"On this theme I got a quite venomous message telling me to get off her cam feed and that I'm blocked, no message or contact sent by me just clicked on it to see feed then distracted by something else. Tbh if you don't like folks watching don't open a public feed
no but its also there rights to block if they dont want you to see thats the whole point of the block button its a very useful tool"I see yiuve blocked me after a polite message so I can see why touve took that view. I disagree but we're not going to get anywhere with arguing about it. I just don't think it's very nice as echoed by others. | |||
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"I answer correspondence I've been engaged with, politely, over a few days, sure, especially when they're the ones to have reached out. I'm in my house not expecting junk mail. I'm on Fab expecting mail. The comparison makes little to no sense unfortunately." there youve just said it ''your on fab expecting mail'' why do you expect it ? again nobody owes you or anybody else anything its that plain and simple | |||
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"Assuming it was a genuine woman, she owes you nothing. Not a sorry, not an explanation, NOTHING!!" Not one man has ever said a woman owes him anything. What has been said is that it would be nice if we had a message. The same happens to *all* genders, couples. There's posts about it right now in the support section. | |||
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"I answer correspondence I've been engaged with, politely, over a few days, sure, especially when they're the ones to have reached out. I'm in my house not expecting junk mail. I'm on Fab expecting mail. The comparison makes little to no sense unfortunately. there youve just said it ''your on fab expecting mail'' why do you expect it ? again nobody owes you or anybody else anything its that plain and simple" I think the point being made is that by being on fab with filters down you're inviting mail. Just by having a letterbox doesn't really mean you're inviting junk mail. | |||
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"On this theme I got a quite venomous message telling me to get off her cam feed and that I'm blocked, no message or contact sent by me just clicked on it to see feed then distracted by something else. Tbh if you don't like folks watching don't open a public feed
no but its also there rights to block if they dont want you to see thats the whole point of the block button its a very useful toolI see yiuve blocked me after a polite message so I can see why touve took that view. I disagree but we're not going to get anywhere with arguing about it.
I just don't think it's very nice as echoed by others."i blocked you because im not interested i use the tools of fab to suit me and why im here ..for me the block button is by far the best tool on fab ... also i only block for a reason so as someone else said theres 2 sides to every story you say it was a polite but was it only me and you will ever know ... | |||
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"I think the point being made is that by being on fab with filters down you're inviting mail. Just by having a letterbox doesn't really mean you're inviting junk mail. " Thank you | |||
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"On this theme I got a quite venomous message telling me to get off her cam feed and that I'm blocked, no message or contact sent by me just clicked on it to see feed then distracted by something else. Tbh if you don't like folks watching don't open a public feed
no but its also there rights to block if they dont want you to see thats the whole point of the block button its a very useful toolI see yiuve blocked me after a polite message so I can see why touve took that view. I disagree but we're not going to get anywhere with arguing about it.
I just don't think it's very nice as echoed by others.
i blocked you because im not interested i use the tools of fab to suit me and why im here ..for me the block button is by far the best tool on fab ... also i only block for a reason so as someone else said theres 2 sides to every story you say it was a polite but was it only me and you will ever know ... "I was polite  but you do you. I find it hard to believe that you don't think saying "no thanks" would have been a nice thing to do.
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"Looks like it was a “nice” conversation to you but the possibility is she might find it boring and not wanting to go anywhere further. I’m not saying that is the case, but the possibility so she blocked instead of getting into the whole discussion of “why? what have I done? give me the chance and I’ll convince you otherwise” etc. because it can turn nasty very quickly. I’ve probably done it too. You will never know OP, I suggest you move on. Happened to most of us." Normally, I'd agree but she instigated it and, well, it doesn't really matter now. I'm over that particular conversation but this post was about why it happens and how often to others, not about poor little old me  | |||
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"I block in the middle of a conversation if someone has said anything that has made me feel really uncomfortable, maybe it's the cowards way out,but it is what it is. last thing I said was "Have a pleasant evening, speak soon" "You nasty bastard, imagine being so mean to a delicate princess. No wonder they blocked you. Be careful what you say in future…… lol  | |||
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"On this theme I got a quite venomous message telling me to get off her cam feed and that I'm blocked, no message or contact sent by me just clicked on it to see feed then distracted by something else. Tbh if you don't like folks watching don't open a public feed
no but its also there rights to block if they dont want you to see thats the whole point of the block button its a very useful tool"No problem with being blocked it's the venomous message that was uncalled for. Folks are weird. | |||
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"I block in the middle of a conversation if someone has said anything that has made me feel really uncomfortable, maybe it's the cowards way out,but it is what it is." How does after reply to this post and let you know how it makes the person at the other end feel you come on this site when you get the chance to talk to a woman you treat her respectfully you don't call or be crude with her you talk to her as if she would want a bit of spoken to there is it elements of excitement on my part that shopkeepers a woman would actually want to chat with me on the range of meat then comes the block why can't you if you change your mind and it is the woman's prerogative I know just leave a little message like I have a second thoughts and don't want to proceed with this thank you for your time I am sorry just a few little words that go a long way you I've ended the conversation in a good way I'm not upset the person that spent time talking to you and got all worked up into his perspective meet that will never happen it's all about a bit of mutual respect I guess the same offenders . | |||
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"Common courtesy can be hard to come by. do you answer all your junk mail that fills your letterbox or email accounts if not why no ?? Common courtesy?? the problem is people expect / entitled and if that you then you really are on the wrong scene ...your owed nothing " What a very odd comparison. OP said they had been talking, if I have been talking to someone and wanted to stop, then yes I would let them know. That may be your view of the scene, But I do not believe that everyone here is rude enough to ghost someone. | |||
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"I block in the middle of a conversation if someone has said anything that has made me feel really uncomfortable, maybe it's the cowards way out,but it is what it is. last thing I said was "Have a pleasant evening, speak soon"
You nasty bastard, imagine being so mean to a delicate princess. No wonder they blocked you.
Be careful what you say in future…… lol "Yes I understand that but a simple thanks for the time but it's not for me please don't message me again wouldn't that be much better it's called conversation and ending a conversation correctly and not be a smack in the face with the block | |||
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"Why do people think they’re entitled to anything from random strangers on the internet; if you tried chatting to someone in public and they chose to ignore you would you stand there demanding to know why?" If you had been having a nice chat with a stranger in public for a little while and wanted to leave, would you just walk away, or would you say something like "Nice to meet you" or "bye"? | |||
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"Why do people think they’re entitled to anything from random strangers on the internet; if you tried chatting to someone in public and they chose to ignore you would you stand there demanding to know why? If you had been having a nice chat with a stranger in public for a little while and wanted to leave, would you just walk away, or would you say something like "Nice to meet you" or "bye"? " What constitutes a nice chat though? It’s all subjective If getting upset by being blocked by a random stranger online is so upsetting maybe the internet isn’t for you. | |||
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"Why do people think they’re entitled to anything from random strangers on the internet; if you tried chatting to someone in public and they chose to ignore you would you stand there demanding to know why? If you had been having a nice chat with a stranger in public for a little while and wanted to leave, would you just walk away, or would you say something like "Nice to meet you" or "bye"? " For some of the users in Fab, they'll probably slap you as well. | |||
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"I can't see anyone upset. I can't see anything saying they are entitled to anything. All I can see, are adults discussing a situation that seems to happen to singles, couples and all genders. Some people get very righteous very quickly about stuff that hasn't been said." _ancs29 posts say otherwise… | |||
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"It happens, had someone chat to me asked for session or telegram ID and then blocked me. Just move on." I think we can see that people, and I especially have moved on from that one specific incident I was interested in having a conversation about it. Why it happens, what could I do to prevent it, is it just me etc I think it's healthy | |||
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"I can't see anyone upset. I can't see anything saying they are entitled to anything. All I can see, are adults discussing a situation that seems to happen to singles, couples and all genders. Some people get very righteous very quickly about stuff that hasn't been said. _ancs29 posts say otherwise…" That's him judged | |||
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"It happens, had someone chat to me asked for session or telegram ID and then blocked me. Just move on.I think we can see that people, and I especially have moved on from that one specific incident I was interested in having a conversation about it. Why it happens, what could I do to prevent it, is it just me etc I think it's healthy " You can’t do anything about it, no one can, just move on and forget about it  | |||
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"I can't see anyone upset. I can't see anything saying they are entitled to anything. All I can see, are adults discussing a situation that seems to happen to singles, couples and all genders. Some people get very righteous very quickly about stuff that hasn't been said. _ancs29 posts say otherwise…That's him judged "If you say so | |||
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So do you think we shouldn't talk about anything we can't control? Seems a little sad. | |||
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"Point totally missed
So do you think we shouldn't talk about anything we can't control? Seems a little sad."You’ve answered you own question - you can’t control other peoples actions so why worry about it. | |||
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"Why do people think they’re entitled to anything from random strangers on the internet; if you tried chatting to someone in public and they chose to ignore you would you stand there demanding to know why? If you had been having a nice chat with a stranger in public for a little while and wanted to leave, would you just walk away, or would you say something like "Nice to meet you" or "bye"? " but your not in the public are you your on the internet ... look its hard for guys very hard i dont deny that id hate to be a man but the simple fact is its a tool provided to do a job for us women its easier to block than suffer the oh why not or angry backlash it simply does not matter if youve spoke for a while or not what matters is that person who blocked you wanted nothing more to do with the convo /.. person block does not always mean a bad thing its not about being rude or polite its about being on a scene looking for what you want from it and accepting not all will like you / agree with you ...we are all different.. im here for guys only so that filter is open my choice because the block button makes it so much easier i can sort thing out faster and better it states clearly on my profile im not here to chit chat to people 100s of miles away or those i just have no interest in its clear so if people do message that are 100s of miles away wanting to chat/wank i block its the best filter for me if that upsets them then thats not my problem.. like i said i know being a guy is a bum deal on this scene for many many reasons from prick teasers to fakes but dont question why youve been blocked all you need to know is there a reason good or bad hence thick skin needed ... i can see why more and more are going back to the old ways lots more couples and women doing private meets / parties / club meets where the only men invited are those who are well kinown on the swcene ... the hassle of the internet is getting bigger and bigger this is why so many say nobody owes you nothing thats not a @ guys quote thats at everyone #justmyopinion happy xmas to all | |||
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"Point totally missed
So do you think we shouldn't talk about anything we can't control? Seems a little sad.
You’ve answered you own question - you can’t control other peoples actions so why worry about it. "No one is worrying. I can't control the sun, the moon, gravity or death but they're all interesting topics of xonvey | |||
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" but your not in the public are you your on the internet ... " I was simply carrying on the analogy from the previous poster. | |||
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"So, I've been messaging a female. She actually messaged first. Got on well, she wanted to come over and I was polite, made sure she was comfortable etc. this was over a few days. Woke up this morning to message and I've been blocked. Does this happen a lot i.e. getting blocked out the blue? I realize some people may think they've done nothing wrong but obviously have but honestly, I can't see anything that would have made her done this. It's a bit confusing and frustrating but accepted it'll happen." Sorry to hear fella , this happens a lot unfortunately. Sometime you’re just being used as ‘a pass time’ their bored & need company. Sometimes you’re just used for validation & to stroke their ego. All the best going forward & now you can proceed with experience & hopefully able to spot red flags quicker | |||
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"I block in the middle of a conversation if someone has said anything that has made me feel really uncomfortable, maybe it's the cowards way out,but it is what it is. last thing I said was "Have a pleasant evening, speak soon"
You nasty bastard, imagine being so mean to a delicate princess. No wonder they blocked you.
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Yes I understand that but a simple thanks for the time but it's not for me please don't message me again wouldn't that be much better it's called conversation and ending a conversation correctly and not be a smack in the face with the block"What you want and what you’ll get are two different things. You may not like it, but it happens and it’ll continue happening regardless. Too many on here are far too quick to be abusive, stalk or use another profile to continue to be abusive so sometimes a block is best. You’ll know where you stand because you won’t be able to contact them again. | |||
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"So, I've been messaging a female. She actually messaged first. Got on well, she wanted to come over and I was polite, made sure she was comfortable etc. this was over a few days. Woke up this morning to message and I've been blocked. Does this happen a lot i.e. getting blocked out the blue? I realize some people may think they've done nothing wrong but obviously have but honestly, I can't see anything that would have made her done this. It's a bit confusing and frustrating but accepted it'll happen." This is normal behaviour on here I'm afraid. Fabswingers is not normal society. She'll likely have taken a reality check or chickened out and instead of fessing up just blocked you so she doesn't have to deal with it sensibly or politely. Yet it's us guys that get harranged for being rude. Don't forget the fab rules, ignorance is allowed and rejection that no reasonable person should ever have to endure is commonplace and the accepted norm on here particularly pedalled and extolled by the womenfolk of fab. Best just to leave a private note on her profile as to the circumstances so you don't forget or get invoiced again a year later and leave it and move on. | |||
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"Thanks Crispy. The verifications I have speak for themselves I hope and I'm doing ok, it's just a "WTF" moment I'd like to know it was me or them. If it's them and it happens a lot, maybe Fab should do more about it? Meh. Have a good one mate." What can Fab do? They’re not breaking any rules, it’s inconvenient and annoying no doubt, but there’s nothing Fab could do about someone exercising their right to block you or about someone sadly wasting someone’s time. Comes with the territory. | |||
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"Have it as an option when reporting so if one user does it all the time, maybe have a look? Not an answer, just a suggestion " I can’t see how that would be of any use, they’re not breaking the rules and having your time wasted is simply an inconvenience, nothing to do with admin really. | |||
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"It’s how the perfect amongst us remind us mere mortals that we are not worthy. " No it's people who aren't interested in continuing any conversation or interaction. No more no less. I don't see why anyone takes the hump over getting blocked,just block back and move on. | |||
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"I could ask why did you OP why you have blocked someone ? " I have blocked someone if they were abusive or replied saying "no thanks" in which case I know there's no chance of chatting or anything else. | |||
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"People block for various reasons. She probably just decided she wasn't interested, but something in a forum post could have put her off... your reference to the lady in question as a female, is the sort of thing that would put me off. Nita" Sorry, I'm not sure I understand. Are you saying I can't call a lady a female? | |||
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" entitlement is a massive turn off " Yet no one has said they are entitled haha. You clearly have an issue that's not going to be resolved in this thread. | |||
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"It’s how the perfect amongst us remind us mere mortals that we are not worthy. No it's people who aren't interested in continuing any conversation or interaction. No more no less. I don't see why anyone takes the hump over getting blocked,just block back and move on. " As a single male, some may take it badly, demoralizing maybe to the point where they could be a decent addition to the community but the acts of a few could very well stop it from happening. It seems it happens a lot and there are clearly multiple sides to all this which is great for discussion. Some replies do border on the imaginary though. | |||
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"It’s how the perfect amongst us remind us mere mortals that we are not worthy. No it's people who aren't interested in continuing any conversation or interaction. No more no less. I don't see why anyone takes the hump over getting blocked,just block back and move on. As a single male, some may take it badly, demoralizing maybe to the point where they could be a decent addition to the community but the acts of a few could very well stop it from happening. It seems it happens a lot and there are clearly multiple sides to all this which is great for discussion. Some replies do border on the imaginary though." But everyone gets blocked at some point by others. I have been does it bother me no. I just block them back and forget about them. They obviously don't want to chat or meet and everyone is entitled to change their mind and no one has to explain why either. Yes it's probably nice to get an explanation if you have chatted for a bit ,but that is not always going to happen. And anyone who is a 'decent addition to this community' will still find a way and won't stop because of being blocked by some on here. The issue is a lot on here and that includes women,couples and everyone else think they are the ones in the right a lot of the times and everyone else is wrong,when in fact sometimes if they look closely at their own behaviour they would see where the issues are. And no op that is not directed at you in particular as I don't know you at all apart from this thread. It's just an observation I've seen on here over the time I've being on here. | |||
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"People block for various reasons. She probably just decided she wasn't interested, but something in a forum post could have put her off... your reference to the lady in question as a female, is the sort of thing that would put me off. NitaSorry, I'm not sure I understand. Are you saying I can't call a lady a female?" You can refer to us however you like, but certain terminology is less well received than others. Not all will care, but to me the word female is used when referring to animals and types connection and it therefore feels dehumanising. As a bit of a Star Trek fan, it also makes me think Ferengi... not exactly positive connotations 
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"On this theme I got a quite venomous message telling me to get off her cam feed and that I'm blocked, no message or contact sent by me just clicked on it to see feed then distracted by something else. Tbh if you don't like folks watching don't open a public feed "It's not a public feed. It's a private feed (someone's camera and sound) on a public platform. The owner controls the feed (what. When and for how long) and so they can choose who watches and who doesn't. It's open to anyone by default but you have no right to watch without the feed owner consent just because you are a Fab user. | |||
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"People block for various reasons. She probably just decided she wasn't interested, but something in a forum post could have put her off... your reference to the lady in question as a female, is the sort of thing that would put me off. NitaSorry, I'm not sure I understand. Are you saying I can't call a lady a female? You can refer to us however you like, but certain terminology is less well received than others. Not all will care, but to me the word female is used when referring to animals and types connection and it therefore feels dehumanising. As a bit of a Star Trek fan, it also makes me think Ferengi... not exactly positive connotations
Nita"__ Totally get it and I agree with your reasoning, I think I have said so in another thread where you mentioned it, I remember because of the Ferengi reference, which made me laugh cause I used to watch Star Trek. Do you think Fab is partially to blame about it? Profiles of couples that are a woman and a man are referred to here as M/F, not M/W. And most people here will talk about MFM threesome, etc. Never seen anyone saying MWM threesome. Is it possible that people use "female" here more often than they would outside Fab? | |||
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"Is that in the rules? That kinda seems made to me. The block button is there for the cam user or they can be blocked from the channel. Anyone is allowed to watch any cam. Surely?" Allowed, yes. Entitled? No. It's up to the person who owns the cam to block any twat saying stupid things. Fab also intervenes and blocks if people try to direct the feed in the rooms where directing is not allowed. | |||
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"Have it as an option when reporting so if one user does it all the time, maybe have a look? Not an answer, just a suggestion " You want women to be reported for blocking people? Heard it all now. | |||
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"So, I've been messaging a female. She actually messaged first. Got on well, she wanted to come over and I was polite, made sure she was comfortable etc. this was over a few days. Woke up this morning to message and I've been blocked. Does this happen a lot i.e. getting blocked out the blue? I realize some people may think they've done nothing wrong but obviously have but honestly, I can't see anything that would have made her done this. It's a bit confusing and frustrating but accepted it'll happen." Did you do sex chat? Likely it was a male wanking. | |||
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"Is that in the rules? That kinda seems made to me. The block button is there for the cam user or they can be blocked from the channel. Anyone is allowed to watch any cam. Surely? Allowed, yes. Entitled? No. It's up to the person who owns the cam to block any twat saying stupid things. Fab also intervenes and blocks if people try to direct the feed in the rooms where directing is not allowed." Oh, yeah, I'm 100% with that | |||
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"Did you do sex chat? Likely it was a male wanking. " That's me judged hahaha. No, no it was not. | |||
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"Have it as an option when reporting so if one user does it all the time, maybe have a look? Not an answer, just a suggestion You want women to be reported for blocking people? Heard it all now. "I said user, not woman, don't make stuff up to suit your agenda. | |||
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"Did you do sex chat? Likely it was a male wanking. That's me judged hahaha. No, no it was not." Not judging you at all, I was judging the other person... if it was a man... wanking. | |||
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"Did you do sex chat? Likely it was a male wanking. That's me judged hahaha. No, no it was not. Not judging you at all, I was judging the other person... if it was a man... wanking." Huge apologies - my bad. They had 70 verifications which seemed legit. It just seemed odd is all. | |||
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"Did you do sex chat? Likely it was a male wanking. That's me judged hahaha. No, no it was not. Not judging you at all, I was judging the other person... if it was a man... wanking. Huge apologies - my bad. They had 70 verifications which seemed legit. It just seemed odd is all." Fair enough. She may have hit the block button by accident when going to reply. Not sure if it asks 'are you sure'. Not worth letting it bother you. Unfortunate if you were getting on.  | |||
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"Did you do sex chat? Likely it was a male wanking. That's me judged hahaha. No, no it was not. Not judging you at all, I was judging the other person... if it was a man... wanking. Huge apologies - my bad. They had 70 verifications which seemed legit. It just seemed odd is all. Fair enough. She may have hit the block button by accident when going to reply. Not sure if it asks 'are you sure'. Not worth letting it bother you. Unfortunate if you were getting on. "I spoke to a few friends on here and she's done the same. All genders/relationships. We had planned to meet tonight after she instigated it. It is what it is. | |||
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"I block in the middle of a conversation if someone has said anything that has made me feel really uncomfortable, maybe it's the cowards way out,but it is what it is. How does after reply to this post and let you know how it makes the person at the other end feel you come on this site when you get the chance to talk to a woman you treat her respectfully you don't call or be crude with her you talk to her as if she would want a bit of spoken to there is it elements of excitement on my part that shopkeepers a woman would actually want to chat with me on the range of meat then comes the block why can't you if you change your mind and it is the woman's prerogative I know just leave a little message like I have a second thoughts and don't want to proceed with this thank you for your time I am sorry just a few little words that go a long way you I've ended the conversation in a good way I'm not upset the person that spent time talking to you and got all worked up into his perspective meet that will never happen it's all about a bit of mutual respect I guess the same offenders ." Well from experience sorry but no can often open you up to a lot of abuse even from people who like to protest about how nice and genuine they are | |||
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"I've recently had the same.. One minute she's telling me that she's really into me and the next minute all messages have vanished and I can't find her anymore. A simple I've changed my mind would do, we're all grown ups.... Clearly some more than others. This site is absolutely bonkers at times. " i get this all the time the chat goes really well then never to be seen again or you just get a block that is like getting slapped in the face people need to grow up we all have feelings | |||
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"Fabswingers .. a site where people go to ignore and block each other .. Who's block list is longer than their hotlist ?? I wonder .. ... " Mine is. I block anyone who deletes my messages without replying. Not out of spite, purely so I don’t end up messaging again. I’m happy to accept if somebody isn’t interested in me. | |||
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"That’s not to say I EXPECT response. But I take it that if somebody deletes without a reply then it’s a no thank you. " no they bulk deleet when theuy log in and see a 100 messages that 100 people have taken the trouble to write them a message and 100 are block deleeted in seconds this site is shite | |||
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"i think blocking without a good reason is like a slap in the face to the other person" I got blocked today by someone who wanted me to fuck their wife. I said no thanks and they blocked me. Not a slap in the face, just a time efficient way of excluding some people.  | |||
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"i think blocking without a good reason is like a slap in the face to the other person I got blocked today by someone who wanted me to fuck their wife. I said no thanks and they blocked me. Not a slap in the face, just a time efficient way of excluding some people. "god i would have said yes but prob still got blocked then | |||
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"Most of the time, nice guys don't get a look in, ive had a few convos with the women, and I too get blocked or they vanish. They always say honesty is best policy, sometimes that honesty can get you blocked, who knows why" yes i find i talk to then honestly with respect they dont want that so the next person i change my approach and they dont want that both block how the fuck you supposed to chat to them . | |||
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"I've recently had the same.. One minute she's telling me that she's really into me and the next minute all messages have vanished and I can't find her anymore. A simple I've changed my mind would do, we're all grown ups.... Clearly some more than others. This site is absolutely bonkers at times. " Had the same issue too where Im talking to a woman, conversation is flowing and everything but out the blue she stops responding and blocks you without explaination. Very frustrating | |||
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"i think blocking without a good reason is like a slap in the face to the other person" __ There's always a good reason but you are not owed any explanation, blocking is simply a way of filtering. And if you need a reason after someone has blocked you, most likely you would not agree with the reason, or understand it anyway because the reason is personal to the blocker. | |||
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"Who knows what motivation that person had at the time they were messaging... And are they actually a female... Is it a different account to catfish /stalk... Are they just gathering information... Be careful with info you are sharing. Some people are most definitely not what they seem " This a hundred times over  | |||
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