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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

if i delete or choose to ignore or even not reply to a message without answering it,i get told i am rude and ignorant.i am told manners cost nothing.so,i have started to reply to everyone lately,just to see how it works.but other people are doing exactly the same to me

so just what am i supposed to do then.cant win can i?.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

dont worry, guys should realise how many messages you get x

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"if i delete or choose to ignore or even not reply to a message without answering it,i get told i am rude and ignorant.i am told manners cost nothing.so,i have started to reply to everyone lately,just to see how it works.but other people are doing exactly the same to me

so just what am i supposed to do then.cant win can i?. "

Just continue to ignore, it is easier and you'll get less hassle, just grow a thicker skin!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least now nobody can criticise you or call you ignorant. Do you really care?

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I know what you mean. I try to reply to everyone to avoid being rude, even if it is just a polite 'No thanks', but then get abuse for not being interested in people! Don't think there is a way for us to win on this one......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if i delete or choose to ignore or even not reply to a message without answering it,i get told i am rude and ignorant.i am told manners cost nothing.so,i have started to reply to everyone lately,just to see how it works.but other people are doing exactly the same to me

so just what am i supposed to do then.cant win can i?. "

You do what's best for you, I think due to the volume of mail you lovely ladies get its better to just delete and block those that hold no interest did you and reply to the ones you'd like to get to know. Simples

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

think i will learn not to care.pisses me off sometimes tho.

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

I reply to my messages, usually to say 'I dont think you have read my profile have you? ' to the men !

Up to now I have never come across anyone rude or nasty.

Shame a small minority ruin it for so many nice guys on the site.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men have no idea how many messages a woman gets. I have access to a friends profile and she gets 30-40 on quiet day.

Just ignore them, if they grumble block them.

James

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

ignore the grumbles and count your fabs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yes,but dont you get fed up pointing that out to them.they never read it all do they.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Ignore the rubbish. Delete and block xx

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

Message Etiquette by a forum numpty.

Message comes to your inbox...

Step 1 - Read it

Step 2 - If interested look at thier profile

Step 3 - Still interested then reply else delete

If deleted message person messages again asking why you haven't replied...

Step 1 - Read it

Step 2a - If they are rude block them

Step 2b - If they are polite then say not interested and block them.

Now go young maiden & enjoy the site & have great victories against the persistant message numpty brigade

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing you do is use the site as you wish. So what if people call you rude and ignorant. If I don't want to answer a mail I won't, and I wouldn't give a damn what they call me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swellmel, here's the official answer from Admin, to the accusation that it's "rude" not to reply to mails:

"It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?"

This is part of the Frequently Asked Questions on this site, and I admit, I rely on this all the time.

Good luck in finding what you're looking for, and don't worry about the ones you aren't looking for xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks to all.very helpfull lot of replies thyere.xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If that's how they are in their messages it's probably how they are as a person. So it's good you find out early on. They're probably also the type who wouldn't turn up anyway. Don't stress over them, they're simply not worth it x

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Block button. It is super effective.

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