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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi everyone would ypu forgive your partner if you caught him/her cheating

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst

Aye you asking for "a friend"?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Certainly not

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By *astpoetMan
over a year ago

where the world takes me

I’d be more concerned my right hand had become sentient and detachable to be honest

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

No...the trust would be gone.

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By *im to please 73Couple
over a year ago

hucknall

Been there done that then he did it again so NO

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Nope, we have a joint profile here so there would be absolutely no reason or need for him to cheat.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

No, they would soon become an ex partner x

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By *mcheshireMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

I would never forget so wouldn't forgive

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By *ogan WillowCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"No...the trust would be gone."

This. You have nothing without trust.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Nope only certain things are able to be forgiven and cheating isn't one of those

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By *mateur100Man
over a year ago

nr faversham


"Nope only certain things are able to be forgiven and cheating isn't one of those "

Absolutely not

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ryde

Probably not.

My wife can have all the sex with other guys she wants, just as long as I'm kept in the loop.

Trust is almost impossible to restore, and once it's broken, things will never be quite the same again. But trust her, I do - she has often said that the moment this lifestyle starts creating any kind of problem, we're giving it up.

Fucks are fucks, but a relationship is an entirely different matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would sit down and have a heart to heart and ask him why he felt the need to cheat, then base how we move forwards upon what he told me.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
over a year ago

Maidstone

I did. I don't know that i would if it happened again.

I don't understand blanket answers to this question. No situation is black and white.

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By *egs 11Woman
over a year ago

BIDEFORD

No. Once the trust has gone you've lost everything.

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By *reen as JadeCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

My ex boyfriend years ago cheated on me, so I slept with his boss. Then left him. X

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By *rust a TradieMan
over a year ago

staffs

Definitely not. Good riddance to it

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By *ophie199Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Would love it

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By *andC1000Couple
over a year ago

Ashford


"Probably not.

My wife can have all the sex with other guys she wants, just as long as I'm kept in the loop.

Trust is almost impossible to restore, and once it's broken, things will never be quite the same again. But trust her, I do - she has often said that the moment this lifestyle starts creating any kind of problem, we're giving it up.

Fucks are fucks, but a relationship is an entirely different matter."

Being kept in the loop is the important thing for things to work and the trust remain and be rebuilt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone would ypu forgive your partner if you caught him/her cheating "

In a perfect world we would turn cheaters into Servitors from the Warhammer series. Either that or put them in a concentration camp. So no, I wouldn't forgive such sub-human scum.

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By *nselfishpleaserMan
over a year ago

kent

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By *nselfishpleaserMan
over a year ago

kent


"Probably not.

My wife can have all the sex with other guys she wants, just as long as I'm kept in the loop.

Trust is almost impossible to restore, and once it's broken, things will never be quite the same again. But trust her, I do - she has often said that the moment this lifestyle starts creating any kind of problem, we're giving it up.

Fucks are fucks, but a relationship is an entirely different matter.

Being kept in the loop is the important thing for things to work and the trust remain and be rebuilt "

This

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By *orthernJayMan
over a year ago

DXB / SG / Thailand Krabi

Nothing good comes from cheating, this is most people’s experience and as others have said, it’s not a binary answer; the reality is nuanced and entirely dependent upon the complexities of that relationship.

That said, cheating as a swinger or person/s in the lifestyle has always baffled me, I can’t get past it being the ultimate betrayal.

If you’re in the trusting and committed headspace that’s essential for this lifestyle and you’ve found someone who’s also in the same headspace; you’re together in this sphere of trust and one of you cheats on the other!

Unforgivable in one’s humble opinion and I for one never forgave and have never forgotten.

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By *orthernJayMan
over a year ago

DXB / SG / Thailand Krabi


"Probably not.

My wife can have all the sex with other guys she wants, just as long as I'm kept in the loop.

Trust is almost impossible to restore, and once it's broken, things will never be quite the same again. But trust her, I do - she has often said that the moment this lifestyle starts creating any kind of problem, we're giving it up.

Fucks are fucks, but a relationship is an entirely different matter."

Bravo sir, couldn’t have said it better

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By *it corkMan
over a year ago

cork


"Hi everyone would ypu forgive your partner if you caught him/her cheating "

Yes I would

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Probably not, no.

Forgiveness is a difficult concept and I don't think it's always necessary in order to move on with your life or relationship. It doesn't always have to come with bitterness though and sometimes even if you forgive you can't stay together

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

No, I take board games very seriously

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
over a year ago

Cap d'Agde

Nobody's perfect, no relationship is ever perfect, and sometimes you have to put work in to fix things. So it would depend on the circumstances.

The whole "one strike and you're out" thing just sounds like lack of self-confidence to me.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I have in the past, definitely wouldn't in the future.

There's no excusing it.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it's not the sex that bothers me it's the lying, cheating ruins trust no trust then nothing worth saving.

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

My own little world

Have before a few times (diff partners) it's like giving them a pass they just do it again and again also a reason I don't want a relationship these days most people have forgot how to be faithful having there cake just because they can

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
over a year ago

Norwichish

Need to define what cheating is especially in this lifestyle.

I think I could excuse a fumble, a kiss, even a fuck. If that’s all it was, that’s excused by the very nature of being mammals, and as much as we like to think we can control animal instinct we have to admit that it’s there somewhere and it can control us.

If it was more than that, dates, meals, conversations, laughs and jokes, those are the things that make a relationship, those are the things that hurt when it comes to thinking about what goes on when a partner cheats, those are the things that are difficult to forgive.

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By *andC1000Couple
over a year ago

Ashford


"No it's not the sex that bothers me it's the lying, cheating ruins trust no trust then nothing worth saving. "

Exactly this

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